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The Science of Positivity With Marsha and the Positrons

We are now back in school, and this week’s guest is going to be everyone’s favorite science teacher! In this episode, host Paula Felps talks with Marsha Goodman, a cognitive neuroscientist turned popular children’s singer, songwriter and recording artist who performs under the name Marsha and the Positrons. As the name implies, her music is imbued with positivity and teaches listeners about things like kindness, friendship, and taking care of the planet and the people who live on it. She also throws some science in there and makes learning as fun and easy as listening to a song. In this episode, you'll learn: How she went from being a cognitive neuroscientist to becoming a popular children’s artist. Why she wanted to use her music to spread positive social messages. What to expect from her new album, “Energetic.” Links and Resources Instagram: @marshaandthepositrons  Facebook: Marsha and the Positrons Watch music videos, interviews and live performances on their YouTube channel. Discover the Marsha and the Positrons Spotify playlist here. Check out merch including t-shirts and music here. Win Free Music!! Enter to win our back-to-school prize pack that includes all three Marsha and the Positrons CDs, signed and personalized by Marsha herself, plus some other Marsha and the Positrons swag and a few gifts from Live Happy. Enter on our Instagram page, @mylivehappy Follow along with this episode's transcript by clicking here. Don't miss an episode! Live Happy Now is available at the following places:           
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Transcript – The Science of Positivity With Marsha and the Positrons

Follow along with the transcript below for episode: The Science of Positivity With Marsha and the Positrons [INTRODUCTION] [0:00:05] PF: What's up, everybody? This is Paula Felps, and you're listening to On a Positive Note. As we head back to school, there's no better time to talk to Marsha Goodman, a cognitive neuroscientist turned popular children's singer, songwriter, and recording artist, who performs under the name Marsha and the Positrons. As the name implies, her music is imbued with positivity and teaches listeners about things like kindness, friendship, and taking care of the planet, as well as the people who live on it. She also throws in some science and makes learning as fun and easy as listening to a song. Her third album, Energetic, is being released September 1st, and she's here today to talk about her music and what she hopes we all can learn from it. [INTERVIEW] [0:00:49] PF: Marsha, thank you for being with me here today. [0:00:51] MG: Thanks for having me. It's nice to chat with you. [0:00:54] PF: Well, you're the perfect guest to have on for back to school, because I think you might be the first artist I've seen that combines science and positive social messaging and music. [0:01:04] MG: Yay. [0:01:05] PF: Tell me how you draw all three of those things together to create Marsha and the Positrons. [0:01:12] MG: Yeah. I'm actually a former scientist, so I find science really fun and interesting. My goal is to make science fun for other people, make science fun for kids and families. I write for all ages, so all of my stuff is kid-appropriate and aimed at kids, but it’s also aimed – there's different levels. It’s also aimed at older kids, or grown-ups. I think that anybody can listen and find something fun in the music. That's a key goal for me and my songwriting, too, is making it fun. I don't want people to come to my music to learn a lesson, even though there's facts in there, but I want them to come in and have fun with science. Then I think it's really important to connect it to our humanity. Science is about learning about the world, learning about ourselves, learning about others, learning about other creatures, learning about the environment. I think it's important to bring that big picture in and think about what's important to our humanity, what makes us humans, and so it's kindness and friendship and things like that. I feel like that's important to put in there, because I want to say something in my songs and not just let it be a lesson, which has its own value, but I feel like, science is a vehicle for sharing other messages, too. [0:02:28] PF: You need to talk about the musicality, because you use a lot of different styles. It really is a fun, fun joyride through a lot of different topics. Talk about the different styles of music that you're using. [0:02:40] MG: Yeah. My musical influences are pretty varied. I grew up listening first to radio and pop. Then once I was a little bit older, I started picking my own music and was into different kinds of indie rock, and then started exploring jazz and blues and started singing jazz and blues. I feel like, all of those influences pop in there. When I'm writing a song, usually the melody and lyrics come together for me in my head. The songs have their own style already when they come to me. [0:03:12] PF: Oh, what a great gift. Thanks, universe. [0:03:15] MG: Yeah, right? It might be a little song snippet, but for me, I’ll have a phrase, or something that runs through my head with some music attached to it. I think just all those different influences that are there in my brain, sometimes pop out is a different kinds of musical styles. I run with that and let it go wherever the universe is leading me, I guess. [0:03:35] PF: That's great. It makes for a really fun variety of sounds. You don't get locked into any one sound as you're going through the music. Then also, with Energetic, it also really gave you the opportunity to bring in some really interesting guest players from different genres. That's what I found interesting, too. [0:03:54] MG: I feel like, one of the fun things about this genre of candy, kids indie music is that there's a lot of different people doing different things and have all kinds of different friends. Sometimes I'll write a song and I think, I hear something else in it and I bring in some other people. Also, my bandmates are really super talented and my producer is super talented. Sometimes they'll have an idea. One of my favorite things is going to the studio and recording and then seeing what other ideas come to the table based on everybody else's influences and ideas. I like to bring in all those ideas. Whatever someone has to add, I think it's just fun to add that to whatever we've got going on. [0:04:33] PF: Yeah, I think it's always interesting to see a song grow up in the studio. It comes in, it’s like this – [0:04:37] MG: A 100%. [0:04:38] PF: - as this infant and you think this is what it's going to be like, and then it evolves into something much different than you originally thought it would. [0:04:45] MG: Absolutely. My producer, I've worked with the same producer for all of my record so far. His name is TJ Lipple. He's super talented. Sometimes I'll bring a song to him and usually, when I send him a demo, it's just voice and acoustic guitar, but there's a rhythm to it. He'll hear that in there and then he'll add something. By the time we get to the mixing stage, he usually brings in other ideas as well. I'm like, I’m all for it. My bandmates, my piano player, David Durst is super talented and he's got a whole range of musical history as well. He’s done classical stuff and different kinds of chamber music writing, all kinds of different stuff. A pop background and then playing all these bands. I feel like, each of us has our own influences that have come in. I love exploring all that. [0:05:34] PF: That's wonderful. Because it definitely works in the finished product. It is very fun. I cannot be the only person with this question. I cannot be the first person who's asked you. You probably know what it is. How does one go from being a cognitive neuroscientist to being a children's music performer? And a successful one. It's not like you're doing this as a side gig. [0:05:57] MG: Right, right. Well, I mean, I've always been musical. I've been singing as long as I can remember and played different instruments all along and did musical theater and different things through school. Then also, really liked school and liked science, especially once I discovered science and was in full-on in a PhD program doing cognitive neuroscience, doing research about the visual system and developing this brain imaging technique in this lab with others. We moved and I had decided to leave my PhD program with my masters and wanted to take a little break from science and make sure that I finished my master's degree. The day that I sent my masters, I bought a guitar. I had already been writing some songs in my head. At that time, I was living in Boston in the guitar shop, was one of the teachers there, and he was a Berkeley grad. When I was younger, I used to play violin and cello, so I already had that string background and doing bowing and fingering. It was like, you flip it on a side for a guitar, right. Then it came to me pretty quickly. Like I said, it was already writing some songs in my head. I wanted to be able to accompany myself and thought I would follow that path for a little bit and see where it led. It's led me here. [0:07:10] PF: Wow. That’s amazing. [0:07:10] MG: Then, also, once I had kids, at the time when I was learning guitar, I was also singing around Boston and exploring the music scene a little bit. I would sing it like blues jams and jazz open mics and this piano bar. I frequented those places. I had the jazz and blues stuff happening. Then also, I would be learning indie rock songs, or pop songs on guitar at the same time. Then once I had my children, my daughter, I was singing to her all the time and was mostly singing jazz standards. Then I would start to entertain her and sing, makeup something while I was cooking dinner, whatever. One of the first kids’ songs I wrote was from my first album, it's called Spinach and Carrots. It was influenced by making dinner for my daughter. Then another, I think one of the next ones I wrote might have been The Penguin Song, which was by that time I had two kids, and my middle one was in preschool, and one of his friends was really interested in penguins. He came, they were doing a penguin unit to honor that. He would come home and tell me these penguin facts. A lot of those facts made it into the song. Different conversations with my kids inspired songs, and run with it from there. [0:08:24] PF: Well, so what had driven you to be a neuroscientist, because there's something that made you want to do that? Then how is that similar to your music? What is that driving force that connects those two? [0:08:37] MG: Yeah. I mean, I find the brain really fascinating. I think, it amazes me how flexible our brains are and how we can recover from brain injuries and how the brain works. I just find the brain to be super interesting. One of the ways that it connects for me with what I'm doing, working with music for kids, especially, is that with young children, music and movement is really tightly connected to language development in the brain. The more music and movement that you do with children, the more you're helping to develop all of these important systems. Music also ties together a lot of different areas of the brain. You're counting by tapping the beat, or keeping the beat with your body. You're involving your motor system and your sensory system and your vestibular system when you're moving to the music, but then you're also connecting social, emotional and memory and you're creating memories and you're connecting with others, whether it's a caregiver, or a friend, or a sibling, or even the emotions that the music drives and brings out in you. It's creating these physical pathways in the brain and these connections. The more that kids are doing that in that critical language development and brain development stage from birth to five, it sets them up for life in these cool ways. I think about that kind of someone, I might be throwing out a dance move and inviting people to clap along and sing along, but they're doing all these other things and their brains are putting it all together for them, right? [0:10:15] PF: That's fantastic. Because you probably think that through more than the average musician does. I'm just guessing. [0:10:20] MG: I may. I think that's a fair accusation, or fair observation. [0:10:28] PF: At what point did you realize like, this is really working? This is something. I can record albums. I can do live performances. How far into your journey were you when you're like, “Wow, this is really resonating with people”? [0:10:39] MG: Well, when I first started going out in Boston and singing at open mics and blues jams, it was the first time of doing that solo. I had done more group stuff before that and just see how people reacted to my singing was eye-opening for me, that just you could see the joy and people are like, “Come back. Come back again and sing again.” That was very encouraging. Then after, aside from singing for my children, I also, when my daughter turned three, I was invited to help celebrate her birthday at the preschool. She was my first, I didn't really know what you were supposed to do. I said, “Oh, shall I bring my guitar?” The teacher said, “Yeah, that'd be great.” I wrote her a little birthday song. I did like, three is a magic number. One other, I don't remember what the other song was that I did. It was interactive and fun. They ended up recruiting me to teach, and I did this training program. [0:11:33] PF: Oh, my gosh. [0:11:35] MG: And started teaching music at the preschool. That evolved. Went from teaching music classes to teaching also the drama classes there. I wrote a musical for the graduating five-year-olds. They added two-year-old classrooms, I started working with the two-year-olds. Then people said, “Oh, are you available for this to play at this birthday party, or this event?” I started playing out. Then at the time, I was also writing songs. Eventually, started doing covers, but then added in my own songs. But when I was pregnant with my third, I realized, if I don't record these songs now, it's going to be another five years before I can do anything – [0:12:17] PF: You’re going to be busy. [0:12:18] MG: Yeah. At that point, I had enough for an album, so I decided to make an album and I recorded my first record when I was nine months pregnant. I was two weeks away from delivery. Spent this long day in the studio and recorded all of my parts in that one day. That was how it all happened. [0:12:35] PF: It really feels like every step of your journey, you were getting a lot of confirmation that you needed to be doing this. It just sounds like it was so – it was so purposeful, and just every sign was pointing you, yeah, keep going down that road. [0:12:47] MG: Yeah. I think that the more that I performed, the more I saw. I see the joy in the audiences and I would get stories back. My first record is called Gravity Vacation. At this one show, this mom came up to me and said, “My three-year-old dropped her sippy cup and she said, “That's because of gravity.” She knew that because of your song. I was blown away by that, and just how really young kids can pick up these messages and that's just the coolest thing that kids are like sponges, and so they're absorbing all of this information. Let's put out these positive messages. Let me throw out some science facts and they'll pick it up at their own at their own pace, whatever makes sense for them. I think just putting that out there and letting that ripple out into the world is like, it's really cool. Then just seeing people having fun, having families dancing together and singing together and enjoying music and doing things together in the real world, that's really cool. [0:13:47] PF: Well, and I think too, that parents appreciate that it's easy on their ears, too. When I was growing up, kids’ music was not palatable for adults. It just wasn't. That's one thing that has really changed, I think, and your music is so inviting. You can't help, but sing along, hum along, start going with it. I think that's huge. [0:14:09] MG: Yeah. I would love to take credit for that. But I'm not the only one who's doing that. I think that the whole genre has really grown. I think there's an appreciation for children's musicians being solid musicians and bringing interesting perspectives to the table. The goal is to elevate that, whatever topic that you're singing about, and making it accessible to the kids, but interesting for anybody. I think that that's a cool thing. As a parent, I definitely appreciate that myself that if I'm listening to somebody else's music, it's something that I'm enjoying. I'm going to want to keep it on. Then it also inspires conversations and it brings you to different places, depending on how old your kids are and what they're interested in and stuff. I think, fueling that connection is important. [0:14:57] PF: Yeah, definitely. Yeah, because I grew up with schoolhouse rock. I feel like, that was broke the door open for this to, I'm going to learn and I'm going to learn with music and it's going to be cool. It’s so awesome to look back and see how it has just grown on the shoulders of that and continue to develop as a genre. [0:15:16] MG: Cool. Yeah. Also, Sesame Street. I think about it. If you think about Sesame Street, and I was a Sesame Street kid when I was little, and Mr. Rogers. You think about how there were always different levels there. There were lines in the songs that were meant for the – jokes for the grown-ups. I like throwing that in there. A kid might not get the joke, or they might think it's funny and not appreciate it until later and that's okay. That's cool that they may listen to something and realize something about it later, but also that the grown-ups have something for them in the songs. Also, all those, you know, if you think about how wonderful Mr. Rogers was with all of those important emotional messages. I think that those influences are somewhere in my brain as well. [0:16:02] PF: One of the things I really did want to talk about is positive messages that you bring into it. There's two components to this one. I want to ask about how it is in a post-pandemic world and how that might have changed some of your messaging. Talk about how you go about working that positive messaging into your songs. [0:16:23] MG: Yeah, that's a really great question. I think that when I'm writing a song, like I said, the song ideas come from different places. Sometimes it comes from a snippet of something somebody said, or an idea, or what have you. Then when I'm sitting down to write it, I think about, okay, how is this fun? What is the overall message that – what's the connection here to our humanity? Or, how does this make sense in the big picture? I think, those ideas just come to me. For example, in the new album, there's a song called Starlings. That was inspired by seeing a flock of Starlings. They have these really cool formations. I looked at the word for what those are called. It's called murmuration, so I put that word in the song. Explain about that. I was also just thinking about how it's just such a cool thing that they're so unified. They fly together. I thought about just how – what that means for us, and how we can accomplish more when we're unified and I was thinking about the Black Lives Matter Movement, and how as communities, we can help each other and lift each other up in different ways, so that is in the song as well and that idea of we can accomplish more when we're unified and working together. For me, that flowed. [0:17:47] PF: One of your songs is called New Leaf. That happens to be my favorite song on the album. Talk about that. I think that's a great one for back to school, because it's really about dealing with anxiety. Can you talk about that song? I want to hear, too, the story of how that came about. [0:18:02] MG: Yeah. I think that that concept of every day can be a new day and that I like that idea of you can wake up and start fresh every day. We focus on the new year sometimes. When we hit that new year mark, we think about New Year's resolutions and starting fresh and starting new. Any day can be the beginning of the next year. Every day is a new day. [0:18:26] PF: Exactly. [0:18:28] MG: That idea of that, okay, whatever happened before, whether if you think about the pandemic, or other things, other negative things that happen, everybody goes through stuff. You can choose how your day is going to be. You can choose what's happening, and so you can try to turn over a new leaf, start fresh and just how the idea that it's better with friends and better together. So, that if we can connect with others, that that helps us bring ourselves into a new space and with positivity. [0:19:00] PF: I love it. Because we have a back-to-school playlist, the Live Happy back-to-school playlist. [0:19:03] MG: Oh, cool. [0:19:03] PF: I'm going to add that to the playlist – [0:19:05] MG: Sweet. [0:19:06] PF: - this week, because it just fits right in. It's off at home. It’s a lot of fun. [0:19:11] MG: I mean, that song came to me around the Jewish New Year, Rosh Hashanah. I was thinking about, there's apples and honey are bringing sweetness into the new year, the concept there. I think that idea of turning over a new leaf is also, it's part of that tradition. That was, I think, was running around in my head when that song came to me. [0:19:33] PF: That's so fun. You've got the new album coming out September 1st. We're going to tell our listeners how they can find it. We're going to include some things about it on our page. I think we're doing a little giveaway. [0:19:42] MG: Oh, yay. [0:19:43] PF: Yeah, it's going to be a lot of fun. As this comes out, what do you hope that people take away from it? Not just kids, but their parents as well. [0:19:51] MG: I hope that when people listen, that it makes them wonder about something, find something interesting to think about that maybe they hadn't been thinking about before. Maybe spark a conversation, or an exploration of some kind and just keep people having fun with science and being interested in science. I think that it can also help people to connect with each other, and whether it's a conversation, or just some ideas, I feel like, that would be my goal for people while they're listening. [0:20:23] PF: What a wonderful accomplishment for music to make. This is fun. Marsha, I appreciate you coming on the show. It really is a fun album. I'm excited to share it with our listeners and I'm excited to let them meet you and some of the work that you're doing. Thank you for sitting down and talking with me today. [0:20:38] MG: Thank you so much for having me. It's been a pleasure chatting with you. I really thank you for sharing my music with your listeners. [END OF INTERVIEW] [0:20:50] PF: That was Marsha Goodman of Marsha and the Positrons. If you'd like to learn more about Marsha, listen to her music, or follow her on social media, just visit livehappy.com and click on the podcast tab. You can also enter to win our back-to-school prize pack that includes all three Marsha and the Positrons CDs, signed and personalized by Marsha herself. You'll also win some other Marsha and the Positrons swag and a few gifts from Live Happy. Check out our landing page for this episode, or follow us on social media to find out how to enter. While you're on our site, shop our selection of teacher gifts and get 10% off with the code Live Happy Now. I hope you've enjoyed this episode of On a Positive Note. I look forward to joining you again next time. Until then, this is Paula Felps, reminding you to make every day a happy one. [END]
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The Science of Savoring

Sariah Daine has mastered the art of savoring everyday moments. “I’m looking at the clouds hanging delightfully in this beautiful, blue sky,” noted the artist and grandmother from Madison, Wisconsin, one recent morning. “The air is crisp and smells fresh.” It hasn’t always been this way for Sariah, who has had more than her fair share of life challenges. In recent years she lost her parents, suffered repeated heart issues and had to adjust to living alone on a fixed income. But it is her grandchildren and their health problems that affect her most deeply. “I could spend my entire day worried and depressed over my grandson’s lingering medical issues,” Sariah says about her youngest grandson, who was injured while deployed overseas in the military. “But I’ve learned that I need to be at my best to be able to care for my family and friends.” Now Sariah makes a conscious choice each day to savor good things as a way to balance out life’s difficulties. She’s a good example of what many scientists are now documenting—that savoring our positive experiences is a key to a happy life. Coping and Savoring Savoring is the capacity to notice, appreciate and intensify the positive aspects of our lives. Knowing how to cope with negative events and savor positive ones are two sides of the coin of life experiences. Coping skills help diminish the effects of painful moments, while savoring helps amplify the beauty of joyful ones. Both are essential to living a happy life. While coping strategies have been studied for decades, positive psychologists and scientists who study happiness are now exploring techniques that allow us to linger and luxuriate in positive experiences. When we savor good times, we allow ourselves to sink into the sweet feeling of positive emotions like joy, love, gratitude and serenity. Positive emotions have been shown to, among other things, increase creativity, improve our sleep and even strengthen our immune systems. “Savoring can help us counteract the natural human tendency to focus more of our attention on negative things in our lives than on positive things,” says Fred Bryant, Ph.D., of Loyola University, who co-authored Savoring: A New Model of Positive Experience with Joseph Veroff, Ph.D. Savoring the good times multiplies the joy in our lives in two ways: by diminishing the space in our minds devoted to negative thoughts and by amplifying the effects of positive thoughts and feelings. With practice, we can become better at savoring, immersing ourselves ever more deeply in the sunshine of positive experiences. We can create what might be called a savoring mindset. “The key is to not miss the opportunities to savor when they arise,” Fred says. Savoring Everyday Moments “We must not make the mistake of waiting until we have no negative experience in our lives to begin savoring,” Fred says. “In this world, and in our daily lives, we will have tribulation, and it will not disappear. Our challenge is to prioritize savoring, even in the face of adversity—indeed especially in the face of adversity—for that is when we need it most, to help counterbalance the negative effects of stress and suffering.” Sariah is a good example of doing just that. This means we don’t need to wait for the next big thing to amplify our positive emotions. We can linger in the happiness associated with being in nature, watching our children play or eating a favorite meal. That’s something we can do at any time, any place. Fully experiencing our positive emotions can have far-reaching and long-lasting benefits. Positive emotions are more than simply feel-good moments, according to Barbara Fredrickson, Ph.D., a psychologist who studies emotions at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. She considers each positive emotion a contribution to a positivity savings account.   “Positive emotions, although fleeting, accumulate and compound over time in ways that incrementally build people’s enduring resources,” she writes in “The Role of Positive Emotions in Positive Psychology: The Broaden and Build Theory of Positive Emotions,” which was published in the journal American Psychologist. Savoring helps intensify and expand our connection to positive emotions. People who frequently experience positive emotions are more resilient, resourceful and more likely to form close ties with other people. In addition, they are more likely to function at optimal levels in their lives, no matter how they choose to spend their time.  We build up resources by savoring good times, and we can draw upon these resources when we encounter difficulties in the days ahead. The Social Side of Savoring When we communicate and celebrate our positive experience with others, we are using a social savoring strategy that psychologists call capitalizing. After we’ve enjoyed an experience, we can capitalize on it by reliving the positive emotions as we share details with others. Of course, we can share the joy with others in the moment, too. Research from Shelly Gable, Ph.D., at the University of California, Santa Barbara, found that asking others about their good news and listening closely as they retell stories allow them to bask in the glow of that positive experience. It helps them reconnect with the experience and the uplifting emotions that went with it, and it also helps people asking questions experience positive emotions as they help others savor memories. And, if you savor together regularly, Shelly found, it strengthens the relationship. Savoring the Past, Present and Future As it turns out, savoring isn’t just for the present moment. Like most people, you may have found that you had more fun planning your vacation or reminiscing about it than you had when you were actually on the vacation! You’re not alone; scientists say that savoring can be divided into three time-related categories: anticipatory savoring (leading up to an event), experiential savoring (in the moment) and reminiscent savoring (remembering good times and the positive emotions that accompanied them). Researcher Jordi Quoidbach, Ph.D., of the Barcelona Graduate School of Economics describes experiential savoring as “a mindful approach in which one focuses attention on the present moment and systematically suppresses thoughts unrelated to the current experience.” In direct contrast, Jordi describes anticipatory and reminiscent savoring techniques as removing oneself from the moment. This type of savoring, he says, “consists of stepping back from the present experience to mentally travel through time to remember or anticipate positive personal events.” In a study published in Personality and Individual Differences, Jordi reports that emotional well-being—although experienced differently—increased with each of the three types of time-related savoring. Anticipatory savoring takes place before an event. In our vacation example, it might involve watching films set in our vacation spot or collecting maps or guidebooks to plan an itinerary. When we actively plan or imagine good times ahead, we are practicing anticipatory savoring. Experiential savoring occurs in the here and now. It involves being mindful of good things happening as you enjoy a fancy breakfast or the smell of the sea while on vacation. It also happens on a daily basis as you look for things and experiences in your life to appreciate and savor. The key is to not put too much pressure on yourself to make the most of each moment. Simply notice the sights, sounds and smells around you. What parts of this moment are most enjoyable? Reminiscent savoring happens after the fact, when we relive positive moments. We might just drift off into our memories, or we can create activities to help. Looking at photographs or telling friends about our trip is a great way to ramp up reminiscent savoring. One way to enhance reminiscent savoring is to plan a positive activity at the end of your event. This taps into what scientists call peak-end theory, or the finding that we tend to remember the high point (peak) of an experience as well as the way it ended. To the extent possible, try to plan a favorite activity at the end of your event to help you leverage the peak-end theory. You can use this approach to successfully end meetings, parties or even a workout. Don’t Be a Wet Blanket Sometimes we short-circuit our ability to enjoy good times, something scientists refer to as “dampening.” Instead of lingering in good feelings, we cut them short. We dampen our positive emotions when we suppress or minimize good feelings, distract ourselves away from an enjoyable moment, find fault or see only the negative in an otherwise positive situation. Dampening our positive experiences can be seen as an opposite to savoring them. “Such individual differences in the propensity to savor or dampen positive emotions may play an important role for one’s overall well-being,” says Jordi, relating it back to Barbara’s research. “Indeed, the broaden-and-build theory suggests that the cultivation of positive emotions helps to build lasting resources that, in turn, enhance life satisfaction, increase the likelihood of experiencing future positive emotions, and foster resilience to negative ones.” Sometimes dampening positive emotions is appropriate. If you’ve just been promoted and your co-workers weren’t, for example, postponing any celebratory savoring might be in order. Don’t Wait, Savor Today Many of us fall into the trap of thinking that our happiness is just around the corner. Savoring is an active way to notice and enjoy good things already present in our lives. Sure, there are times when we’ll take big steps to change and improve. We may decide to move to exciting new places or to leave jobs that we no longer find rewarding. But to be truly happy, we need not necessarily make big changes. It could be as simple as changing our perspective, such as Sariah’s decision to focus on the current blessings in her life rather than being overwhelmed by its challenges. “Positive events may set the stage for people to experience savoring. But positive events alone are not enough to bring about happiness. People need to be able to attend to and appreciate” those positive feelings, Fred says. This article originally appeared in the April 2016 issue of Live Happy magazine.
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The Science of Positivity Resonance

Take a glimpse into the world of positive psychology withThe Flourishing CenterPodcast. Each episode is divided into three sections giving you insights into living an authentic happy and flourishing life. What you'll learn in this podcast: Science Says—A study by Barbara Fredrickson, Ph.D., and colleagues discovers something unique about positivity resonance. It’s not just a feeling of positive emotion between two people, but rather a deeply shared connection with others that is related to flourishing mental health and well-being. LifeHack—Learn how to build your positivity resonance muscle. Practitioner’s Corner—Meet Amy Holdsman, a dog lover, positive psychology practitioner and philanthropist who helps people make a social impact in the world. Learn more aboutThe Flourishing Center
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The Science of Awkwardness with Melissa Dahl

Senior editor of New York magazine and health journalist Melissa Dahl has released her first book, Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness, about the science behind those less than comfortable moments in our lives. Melissa joins the podcast to discuss why we have awkwardness and how embracing the cringeworthy moments in life can help us grow into emotionally stronger people. What you'll learn in this episode: Why embracing awkward moments will make you stronger. Do we ever outgrow our awkward teenage selves? What others are really thinking about us. Links and resources mentioned in this episode: Purchase her book Cringeworthy: A Theory of Awkwardness. Follow Melissa on Twitter.
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The Neuroscience of Motivation with Elliot Berkman

If you’re having trouble staying motivated the issue may be starting with your brain. Neuroscientist Elliot Berkman shares how to keep your brain motivated in this episode of Live Happy Now. Elliot Berkman is an Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of Oregon and Director of the Social and Affective Neuroscience Lab. He studies the motivational and cognitive factors that contribute to success and failure at health goals such as cigarette smoking cessation and dieting. His work uses knowledge of brain function, structure, and connectivity to design and improve interventions on health behavior and wellbeing. What you’ll learn in this podcast: Achieving goals is not as important to well-being as striving for them Why habits are hard to break and how you can create better habits How to overcome temptations to create lasting change Links and resources mentioned in this episode: Learn more about Berkman Consultants Follow Elliot on Twitter
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7 Science-Backed Tips for a Happier Morning

Not all of us are born with the urge to wake up and carpe diem. Some of us would rather seize the covers and pull them right back over our heads where they belong. As daylight saving time ends and we are given back the hour that was snatched away from us in March, it seems like the perfect time to look at new ways to bring joy to your morning. After all, we get a whole extra hour—we might as well make the most of it, right? Mornings matter For better or worse, our mornings can set the tone for the entire day. If you drag yourself out of bed feeling tired, stressed or harried, chances are good you’ll feel that way for at least the next few hours. Once that ship starts sailing, it’s hard to turn it around, so consciously deciding to start your mornings differently is a huge step toward creating a better day. Planning to start your day on a positive note can make the difference between a so-so morning and a super one. Here are seven scientifically proven ways to bring more happiness to your morning. 1. Forget the alarm Do you bolt out of bed to the sound of an alarm that sends your cortisol levels skyrocketing? While it may be effective in waking you up, it’s not necessarily the best way; Japanese researchers are even investigating the correlation between heart attacks and alarm clocks. Instead, try waking up to a favorite song programmed into your phone. No need to have it blaring, either; the idea here is not to jolt you awake, but rather to invite you to start the day. Listening to an uplifting song first thing in the morning can not only put a positive message in your mind, but also can help lower your stress and anxiety levels. 2. Get centered One of the big stressors of the morning is simply trying to get everything done and get everyone out the door on time. Getting up a few minutes earlier and investing that time in yourself can help you feel calm and centered for the day. Creating a morning practice, whether that means meditating, writing in a journal or doing yoga, is a way to put yourself first every morning. Even five or 10 minutes of mindfully centering yourself can better prepare you for what’s to come. 3. Practice gratitude Gratitude is one of the best ways to shift your attitude. On those days when getting up and going to work feels like the last thing you want to do, write down five things you appreciate about your job. (Even if the best you can come up with is “the coffee in the break room is always hot.”) Practicing gratitude has many benefits, including flooding your brain with positive emotions—and who doesn’t want that first thing in the morning? (It can even help you sleep better, which makes waking up easier.) 4. Stay unplugged It has become a habit for many of us to reach for our phones first thing to check email, texts or catch up on social media. Or we may switch on the TV to find out the latest news. Well, here’s a news flash for you: None of those things are going to add joy to your morning. Take this time to be mindful of your morning and make time for yourself. Seeing what you’ve missed (or what you need to do) creates instant stress, so ignore it for as long as you possibly can. 5. Make a run for it Going for a morning run (or walk) to start your day has dual benefits. First, there’s the benefit of the exercise itself, which releases feel-good endorphins in your brain for an instant boost. But just taking your movement outside is good for you, too. Research into biophilia, that emotional connection we have with nature, shows that getting outside for even a few minutes can reduce cortisol and enhance our overall mental health. 6. Question your existence Our brains are processing machines that are constantly asking questions. The problem comes when we are inundated with a line of negative questions: “Why didn’t I get up earlier?” “How am I going to get everything done today?”…you know the drill. Redirect the inner interrogation to more intentional, positive questions—things like, “What am I most excited about today?” and “How can I make today awesome?” You’ll reset your thinking (and your mood), and your brain will automatically start looking for answers. 7. Just breathe Finally, take a breath. A deep, slow breath that starts in your belly and eventually fills your lungs. You’ll instantly trigger your parasympathetic nervous system—which controls our fight or flight response—and create a feeling of calm. You’re also sending more oxygen throughout your body, which instantly creates more energy. Load up, it’s free! Paula Felps is the Science Editor for Live Happy magazine.
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Make-A-Wish: Where Science and Hope Meet

Make-A-Wish: Where Science and Hope Meet

"Knock, knock." "Who's there?" "Interrupting cow." "Interrupting cow wh—" "MOOOOOOO!" Spend enough time with 4-year-old Kellan Tilton, and you’ll likely be met with a barrage of similar conversations, since that’s how the spunky boy defines happiness. “It’s when people laugh really hard at my knock, knock jokes,” he says. Kellan started chemotherapy on the third day of his life after being diagnosed with neuroblastoma. Paralyzed from the waist down, he began using a wheelchair at 17 months. “You’re never prepared—how can you be?” asks Elizabeth Tilton, Kellan’s mom. “It’s a learning curve for us right now, and we just take it day by day.” Make-A-Wish entered the family’s life last year on a mission to fulfill Kellan’s one greatest wish: to have a pathway built from his family’s Maine home to their barn, where he loves to help his dad, Dan, with the day’s tasks. Having a typical farmyard, it was hard for Kellan to navigate the hilly terrain in his wheelchair. “It was frustrating for him because he’d want to get to the barn or the chicken house quickly like his seven other siblings,” Elizabeth says. “It was really important to him to be under his own power, rather than have us carry him or pull him in the wagon.” Last August, Kellan became the director of the construction crew, describing to them where the 200-foot path would lead and where a swingset—a bonus provided by Make- A-Wish—was going to go. The strong-willed boy got to help, too: He rode the excavator, moved dirt and pushed pavers together. “It was every little boy’s dream,” Elizabeth says. She fondly remembers the first morning after the path was complete. “Dan was down in the barn, and usually when the kids get up, I get them dressed and yell to Dan to come get Kellan,” she says. “That morning, he popped himself onto the ramp and onto his path and just went. I could hear him say, ‘Hi, daddy!’ and then he was there.” Or, in Kellan’s words: “I love to zoom outside in my wheelchair!” And as the path was being built, that’s what you could often  find him doing, giving high-fives to the crew along the way. While the Tiltons have always been positive people (the word “can’t” isn’t used in their household), the Make-A-Wish experience has  filled their hearts in a different way. “Our family got to see the community come together, and everyone involved has really become like family,” Elizabeth says. “I have kids who want to be wish granters now. This path is something he’s going to use for years and has already improved his life—and our lives—so greatly.” Every six months, Kellan returns to the doctor for testing and scans to ensure the tumor remains dormant. “We’re waiting for that five-year miracle mark where he’s considered a survivor,” Elizabeth says. Now, it’s more about managing the paralysis, Elizabeth explains, since Kellan is a typical little boy. “If it’s a ball, he wants to catch it. If it’s a chicken, he wants to chase it.” Managing expectations is also on their minds. Recently, Kellan returned home from a trip to visit his 21-year-old sister, Mollie, at a Connecticut school where she studies dance. He told his mom, “When I’m older, I’m going to hold Mollie up when she dances. When I’m older, I’ll use my legs.” Mollie says statements like that demonstrate how positive Kellan is and how bright his future will be. “The Make-A-Wish experience was incredible because it’s the universe giving him what he deserves—a bright spot, with all of these people gathering to show him that it’s OK. He’s even more independent now and feels like he’s more a part of the team.” Formerly a labor and delivery nurse, Elizabeth has experience with kids living with life-threatening illnesses. “A lot of them seem like they’re old souls to begin with, just because of what they go through,” she says. “Kellan is a special kiddo. He’s going to teach us a lot in his lifetime.” To infinity and beyond What would you wish for if you could go anywhere, be anyone, have anything or meet anybody? That’s the question that’s been posed to more than 350,000 children who have had a wish granted through Make-A-Wish America and Make-A-Wish International, which serves nearly 50 countries on five continents. Inspired by Chris Greicius, a 7-year-old with leukemia who wanted nothing more than to be a police officer, the Make-A-Wish Foundation was born after a team of big-hearted Arizona Department of Public Safety officers banded together to ensure Chris’ wish came true. On April 29, 1980, Chris became Arizona’s first and—at the time—only honorary DPS officer. The wishes are as original as each child’s imagination, and to qualify, kids must fall between 21/2 and 18 years old and be diagnosed with a life-threatening medical condition but not necessarily a terminal illness. Italian dreams Two years ago, 16-year-old Patricia Valderrama was living a typical teenager’s life in Texas. She loved to dance, play volleyball, run track and hang out with her close group of friends while dreaming of one day traveling to Europe. What she didn’t realize at the time was that she’d take an unexpected path to get there. Diagnosed in 2013 with myxoid liposarcoma, a rare form of cancer that typically affects people in their 70s, Patricia made the very adult decision to have her left leg removed to get rid of the disease. Patricia’s mother, Arlyn, recalls the first moment she saw Patricia following the surgery. “She grabbed my neck and hugged it and said, ‘I accept this,’ ” Arlyn says. Referred by her doctor to Make-A-Wish, Patricia knew nothing would make her happier than visiting Italy, a destination that entranced her after watching The Lizzie McGuire Movie as a young girl. “I just wanted to see her happy,” says Erick Valderrama, Patricia’s father. “I didn’t know she was wishing for Italy. I just follow where she wants to go.” By coincidence, the trip kicked off last July on Patricia’s 16th birthday, and the teenager—along with her younger sister and parents—embarked on eight days filled with gelato, famed landmarks and Patricia’s favorite stop—the Colosseum. “When you think of Italy, you think of the Colosseum,” Patricia says. “Everyone talks about it, so that’s why I couldn’t wait to see it for myself. I get to say that I’ve been there now.” The previously unimaginable experience bonded the family, Arlyn notes. “All of the joy and laughter and fun we had—it had such a positive impact on us as a family.” These days, Patricia goes back to the doctor every six months for checkups until the cancer has been kicked for five years. That hasn’t slowed her down, though: She continues to run and dance and dream of new ways to explore the world. More than wishful thinking “A wish is highly emotional—and seemingly impossible,” says best-selling author and lecturer Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D., who is also the co-founder of the Wholebeing Institute, Happier.TV, Potentialife and the Maytiv Center for Research and Practice in Positive Psychology. “While the attainment of all goals motivates, there’s a different degree of significance assigned to each goal. Wishes are the goals that we consider most significant.” So, what happens to the mind and body when our wishes—our most significant goals—come true? More specifically, what effect is the Make-A-Wish experience having on children? Those are the questions a team of researchers for the Maytiv Center set out to answer in a 2015 study published in Quality of Life Research. Sixty-six children, ages 5 through 12, participated, all of them referred to Make-A-Wish Israel. Roughly half were assigned to a wait-list control group—children who weren’t certain when their wishes would be fulfilled—while the other half were assigned to an intervention group that knew their wishes would occur within six months. Researchers asked both groups of children to complete questionnaires rating measures of psychiatric and health-related symptoms, positive and negative effect, hope and optimism both pre-intervention and post-intervention. The result? The children whose wishes were granted had higher levels of hope regarding their futures, increased positive emotions and lower levels of depression and anxiety. Control group participants displayed lower levels of positive emotion over time with no major shifts in their levels of hope or health-related quality of life. That might shed light on why Patricia now defines happiness as “being content with what you have and truly appreciating the beauty that is life.” What stood out to her from her trip to Italy was the locals’ laid-back lifestyle. “They don’t wait until the weekend to have fun,” she says. “They take off work a couple of hours every day to visit with friends or go to a cafe and make that part of their daily lives. We don’t do that in America. We get so busy and put off having fun.” Interestingly, the research also uncovered a decrease in the perception of physical limitations among the group of kids whose wishes were granted, something that Elizabeth witnessed first-hand. “To be honest, building the pathway has made Kellan a little more reckless,” Elizabeth says, laughing. “He immediately understood that he was going to have more mobility. He told everyone, ‘I’m going to run really fast!’” We know that many physical symptoms of illness can’t be changed. Where the ailment doesn’t have the final say, though, is in the frequency, intensity and course of those symptoms, because research shows us that those variables can be affected by psychosocial factors—like regaining a sense of independence for a little boy in a wheelchair who sees himself capable of “running.” “The notion of brain and body being distinct is a misnomer,” says Steven Fox, Ph.D., a New York-based child psychologist whose patients have included wish kids. “So if you look at the mind and body, it’s all really one organ. So whatever filters through the mind in a positive way is going to have an impact on the body, and vice versa.” At the conclusion of the study, Tal summed up the findings in a video. “The participants exercised a different muscle than the one they’re used to—the muscle of impossibility,” Tal explains. He notes that once a wish is fulfilled, it becomes possible. “And once they've turned one impossibility into a possibility, why not do it elsewhere?” The healing power of a wish Rollin McCraty, Ph.D., executive president and director of research at HeartMath Institute, illustrates the importance of hope with an example from Doc Children’s book, The HeartMath Solution: Imagine you’ve been in a lifeboat at sea for days after being shipwrecked. Energy depleted, you’re lying in the bottom of the boat and suddenly see a bird. You peek over the side, spotting land. Suddenly, your energy is restored, and you’re paddling like crazy to get to shore. “Hope is a real energy source,” Rollin says. “From a scientific perspective, hope is a really powerful, positive emotion— and emotions are the drivers of our physiology.” Rollin explains that no matter what we’re measuring in a person— brainwaves, heart rhythm, hormones—very little change can be detected if only a person’s thoughts are being measured. But once you trigger an emotion—say, the kind that would accompany a wish coming true—very large changes happen very quickly. According to an article in the journal American Psychologist, anticipation may help replace negative automatic thoughts with positive ones that have been shown to be important when coping with life-threatening illnesses. For Patricia, that meant reading books about Italy, learning some Italian words and even planning her outfits six months before the trip. Psychological healing, of course, isn’t the same thing as changing a prognosis. The role of a wish is to add fuel, since a positive outlook and improved health go hand-in-hand, as Dr. James B. Fahner, founder and chief guide of the cancer and hematology program at Helen DeVos Children’s Hospital in Grand Rapids, Michigan, and chair of the Make-A-Wish America Medical Advisory Council, explains. “It’s one of the circles of life—you can’t have one without the other. But that constant cycle needs energy and inspiration to keep going, and a wish experience is a powerful source of that positive energy.” The reality is that some kids are terminal—but that doesn’t mean the positive effects of a wish experience are lost. “When they look back on a period of time that was really difficult, it wasn’t just time spent in hospitals, and it’s not just images of illness,” Steven says. “They have memories of this special time, too, and that really helps give a sense of positivity to the family in particular.” Exhibit A: Kathy Bailey, whose son Alex faced a brain tumor when he was 11 years old. His wish: to skydive over Disney World. Yet federal law says a child must be 18 years old for a tandem skydive. Unruffled, the team of volunteers assigned to Alex’s wish worked their magic on the FAA until they received an exception. “The wish experience is like a time machine—only you don’t travel back in time, but to a different time when you don’t have to deal with the blood tests and the chemo,” Kathy says. “It’s like you have a paintbrush, and it puts some color back in your lives.” Alex passed away when he was 14, but that didn’t stop Kathy from upholding her end of the bargain she made with Alex before he died: She agreed to skydive on his 18th birthday. At 13,000 feet in the air, Kathy soared, cheeks flapping and spirit soaring—and the power of a wish lived on. Amanda Gleason is a North Texas-based freelance writer and the former travel editor for Southwest Airlines' inflight magazine.
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The Science of Savoring with Paula Felps

Paula Felps is the science editor for Live Happy magazine and has worked as a freelance writer and editor since 1998, covering topics from health and fitness to luxury cars and travel to business and technology. She has written for publications and websites such as Executive Travel, American Driver, Self and Reserve. In this episode, Live Happy co-founder and Editorial Director Deborah K. Heisz talks with Paula about the science of savoring and shares a glimpse into the new April 2016 issue of Live Happy magazine. What you'll learn in this podcast: The definition of savoring How to improve your happiness with the practice of savoring The power of positive emotions Links and resources mentioned in this episode: Pre-order a copy of Live Happy: Ten Practices for Choosing Joy Thank you to our partner—AARP Life Reimagined!
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