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The Secret to a Healthier Family Dynamic Might Be More Play

Not all family time is created equal. Each day, time together might look like sharing meals, shuttling kids to and from activities, tackling household chores, or even watching TV. While those moments matter, they don’t always translate into feeling connected. Between busy schedules, stress, screens, and the pressures of life, it’s easy for family time to feel focused on logistics rather than genuine interaction. According to Brian Lippincott, Ph.D., author of Analytical Psychology and Family Systems: Neo-Jungian Practice to Help Families Find Flow, one of the simplest ways families can strengthen their connection each day is through play. Decades of research show that play serves an important purpose. More than simply adding fun to life, it supports emotional development, strengthens relationships, and helps people adapt to stress. These benefits create opportunities for genuine connection that otherwise get lost in the routines of daily life. PLAY REVEALS NEW SIDES OF EACH OTHER Every family develops its own unique patterns of communication. Frequently, this can look like family members adopting individual “roles” — one child might become the “responsible one”, the “peacemaker,” or even the “troublemaker.” A parent may become the “fun one” or the “disciplinarian.” These roles can be beneficial, helping families function smoothly. If each person knows which part they play, family interactions can feel predictable. Knowing what to expect from each other creates a sense of comfort, safety, and belonging. The flip side is that these roles can feel limiting. Over time, family members can start to see each other primarily through the lens of these identities. The peacemaker daughter might feel expected to be more mature than her age. Or the responsible parent who always keeps the family organized may struggle to relax. When people become defined by a role, they can lose opportunities to express other parts of themselves. Play is the ticket to temporarily escaping these roles. During play, there is permission to act out of the ordinary. Parents can be silly, while kids can take the lead. The peacemaker has an opportunity to become competitive, and the responsible one can let loose. Play creates a safe space to discover new sides to one another that aren’t normally visible. CONNECTION OVER CORRECTION “Problem-solving mode” is a default for many parents. When a stressful situation arises, or a problem behavior comes out, the most natural next step feels like correcting, fixing, or disciplining. While guidance is important, strong relationships are built through connection first. Play can help shift the focus. Psychologist and play researcher Stuart Brown, MD, founder of the National Institute for Play, believes that shared moments of play can help everyone in a family lower their defenses, creating a shared sense of safety. This safety makes it easier for everyone to feel seen, heard, and understood. Instead of correcting, teaching, or evaluating one another, ask yourself if it’s necessary in that moment. Each moment of connection builds trust and strengthens the relationship, making difficult conversations easier to navigate when they inevitably arise. FINDING “FLOW” AS A FAMILY Brian’s work centers on the idea of “family flow”, a concept inspired by the research of flow states from psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, Ph.D. Mihaly found that “flow” occurs when you become fully engaged in a meaningful activity, losing track of time, and becoming immersed in the experience at hand. Families can experience flow together. The fastest way to find flow as a family is through shared play. Whether it’s working on a puzzle, playing a card game, building a pillow fort, or throwing a ball — engaging in a playful activity encourages family members to be fully present. Moments of shared flow do more than create happy memories — they encourage communication, cooperation, and presence. The shift in attention strengthens a sense of belonging. For many, these shared moments of flow become the stories families tell for years, not because the activity itself was extraordinary, but because everyone felt genuinely connected. WHAT COUNTS AS PLAY? Play is broader than a card game or a children’s toy. It can last a moment, or hours, and be structured, or completely unplanned. What matters isn’t the activity itself, it’s the spirit behind it. Play might look like telling a silly story in the car, creating art together, throwing on music and dancing while cooking dinner, or dressing up in costumes. It can be spontaneous, or more structured, like a planned family game night or a camping trip. Play doesn’t need to be elaborate or expensive. What matters most is that family members are engaged and free to be creative, curious, and fully present. Don’t be fooled: Healthy families still experience conflict and stress. The key is that they also find ways to reconnect. Play is a powerful pathway to that connection, helping family members step outside their usual roles, build trust, and create shared experiences that build strong relationships for a lifetime.
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Laundromat Libraries: Making Everyday Spaces Places to Learn

We all remember the early days of COVID-19 survival: toilet paper shortages, grocery deliveries, and everyone suddenly at home, all the time. Schools closed, and at-home learning became the norm for some. For others, learning simply stopped. Without access to classrooms, libraries, or a steady supply of books, many students lost the opportunity to read and stay engaged. COVID didn’t create the problem; it exposed and magnified a long-standing gap in access. “A lot of students are living in book deserts, which are areas where there’s a lack of quality literature,” says Ryland Adzich. From Book Drives to Bigger Questions In 2020, Ryland entered high school in the San Francisco Bay Area. Motivated to help others, she joined a friend organizing book drives. Ryland personally distributed 100,000 books, but knew she could take it a step further. “I realized I created these book drives, but I don’t often see where the books are going,” she says. “They’re not always getting to environments that are the most effective for learning.” The realization shifted her thinking from distributing books to creating spaces where reading could truly thrive. [caption id="attachment_22549" align="alignright" width="440"] Ryland Adzich, undergraduate student in the Dedman College of Humanities and Sciences at Southern Methodist University, establishes a library at the Scrub a Dubs Laundromat in Dallas, Texas for children to read while their parents do laundry.[/caption] Building Spaces That Support Learning Ryland partnered with the afterschool program San Francisco City Impact to create a literacy multipurpose room and technology lab for K-8 students in the city’s highest crime district. The lab gives the 3,000 students in the district a safe place to learn, create, and access technology. Still, Ryland went further. She began collaborating with New York University professor Dr. Susan B. Neuman, who had developed small literacy spaces in New York City. “I thought, ‘I can totally adapt that and bring it here to the West Coast and make it my own thing,’” Ryland said. “And that’s what I did.” Meeting Families Where They Are She identified a key opportunity: Children ages 3 to 10 were often present in laundromats with long stretches of idle time. “I found through surveys and sitting in laundromats that that’s kind of the sweet spot,” she says. Her solution was to create small, accessible literacy spaces embedded in everyday environments. Each laundromat library includes a shelf with 10 to 20 books in both English and Spanish. Some locations add chairs if space allows. The cost is about $100 to $120 per setup. “It’s all about how we can bring books to these everyday spaces,” Ryland says, “so books aren’t just associated with the classroom.” From Waiting to Connection These spaces are designed to spark curiosity and interaction, and it’s working. “Feedback has been absolutely amazing, especially from laundromat owners,” she says. “A big thing they are seeing is families talking with one another. Families say their kids want to come to the laundromat and read.” Volunteers check in every few months to restock books because children often take them home. That’s considered a success. “It’s such a team effort,” Ryland says. “Knowing you have laundromat owners who want to do this, and people who want to help and donate, that’s been really exciting.” A Growing Movement Now a student at Southern Methodist University studying political science and computer engineering, Ryland has expanded the program to Dallas while continuing to grow the footprint in Northern California. Today, 10 laundromat libraries serve communities across both regions. Each one is a signal that learning can happen anywhere. With nonprofit status secured and momentum building, Ryland is looking to reach more families and more communities. She hopes to partner with a national laundry brand to help expand her mission nationwide. Happiness Through Helping Others A sense of impact is what keeps Ryland going. Putting people first so they can thrive in their education is her true motivation. “When it comes to happiness and that feeling of making a difference, it’s fulfilling when you’ve helped make someone else’s life journey that much better,” Ryland says. “Helping people is very powerful for me." Ryland’s work proves that real change doesn’t always require grand gestures, just thoughtful ones. To learn more about her non-profit, The Creative Destination, or for volunteer opportunities, click here. Photos courtesy of SMU
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Raising Calm Kids in Chaotic Times

Parenting in today’s world can feel emotionally overwhelming, to say the least. Busy schedules, stressful headlines, never-ending notifications, and everyday demands have many parents worried about whether they’re happy and calm enough to navigate stress without passing it on to their kids. Unlike skills children learn independently through curiosity and exploration, child development experts say emotional regulation is learned through their connection with caregivers. This can put pressure on parents to feel that they always need to keep their cool, even in stressful times. The good news is that raising calm kids doesn’t mean being perfectly calm all of the time. Instead, researchers say children learn resilience by seeing healthy emotional coping, repair, and recovery in action. KIDS BORROW OUR CALM Before kids can calm themselves down when upset, or talk through and identify their feelings, they rely on adults around them to help regulate their emotions. As Kira Wiley, author of The Joyful Child, explained on the Live Happy Now podcast, “Our child’s nervous system is wired to mirror our nervous system. Our calm is contagious, so is our chaos, so is our stress.” Harvard Health experts refer to this as “co-regulation.” Lauren Marchette, a child, adolescent, and family psychologist and a lecturer in psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, states, "At its heart, co-regulation is connecting with a child who's in distress and being able to evaluate what that child needs in the moment to help calm themselves." As children grow, they become more independent emotionally, but they still look to trusted adults for cues on how to handle difficult moments. Emotional regulation isn’t something they can master on their own; they build it through thousands of small everyday interactions over time. CALM DOESN’T MEAN PERFECT Of course, no parent can stay calm at all times. Stress, frustration, impatience, and overwhelm are all a part of parenting (and being human). Emotional regulation isn’t about suppressing these emotions or pretending they don’t exist. This also doesn’t mean that children should be protected from stress, discomfort, or chaos. What helps kids develop skills of emotional regulation is witnessing what healthy recovery looks like. It’s about learning that difficult feelings can be recognized, managed, and overcome. Modeling emotional regulation can look surprisingly simple. It might mean naming feelings out loud by saying, “I’m feeling frustrated, so I’m going to take a deep breath.” These moments help kids learn that calm is not the absence of stress, but the ability to return to steadiness after a difficult feeling. REALISTIC DAILY PRACTICES FOR EMOTIONAL REGULATION The following practices from Kira’s book, The Joyful Child, will help you keep your cool; kids learn more from what you do than what you say. If you take a moment to recenter yourself and shift your mood into a better place, that’s a skill kids both witness and internalize for later in life. As Kira states, “Calming yourself first isn’t selfish, it’s strategic.” Take a S-T-O-P Break S = Stop. Literally just pause whatever you’re doing (and thinking about). This doesn’t mean you have to freeze — just take a brief moment to reset your attention. T = Take a Breath. Take a slow, deep breath in through your nose, allowing your lungs to fill. Hold for a second or two, then exhale slowly through your mouth. Feel free to repeat this a couple of times. Focusing on your breath helps bring your awareness back to your body and the present moment. O = Observe. With your next inhale, observe how you’re feeling. What’s going on inside your mind and body? Are you tense? Anxious about something? Calm? Notice any thoughts and emotions without judgment. You don’t need to fix anything right now — just acknowledge what’s present. P = Proceed. After taking a moment to stop, breathe, and observe, carry on with what you were doing — hopefully with more grounded energy and a bit more clarity in your mind. Connect, Then Direct Many parents find that the most difficult struggles of the day happen during transitions — for example, transitioning from playing at home to getting in the car and going to school. A tool that parents can rely on during these moments to make transitions more joyful is something Kira calls “connect, then direct.” From The Joyful Child: Slow down and make contact — Take your usual morning-rush-hour speed down a few notches and offer big hugs first, high fives when the teeth get brushed, lots of pats on the back. Look in your child’s eyes when you talk to them and listen when they talk to you. (It makes a huge difference here to minimize outside distractions and noise by turning off TVs and things that go beep). Say less — Raise your hand if you’ve ever found yourself rushing around, shouting “OK, we’re going! Get your shoes on!” as you dash to grab something you forgot. You come back and the shoes are still not on. Now let me ask you, are YOU really ready to walk out the door? Probably not. Connect, then direct — Slow down and connect with them first. Then you can say it once and mean it. Here’s how it works: Look your child in the eyes — when neither of you are doing anything else at the same time — and say, “In five minutes, it will be time to put your shoes on.” Then in five minutes say, “It’s time to put your shoes on.” Full stop. Give the instruction when it’s genuinely time to do the thing and when you’re actually ready yourself. Use Music to Change the Vibe Music can be a powerful tool to help with emotional regulation, for both kids and adults. Instead of trying to force feeling calm, Kira suggests using music to shift the tone. “You can be the DJ of the vibe in your house. Use music as a tool to curate the vibe that you want, which I think is really an underestimated tool that people don’t think about using. If you want clean up to be a dance party, put on a fantastic song and start dancing and wiggling while you’re cleaning up. Your child’s going to join you.” FOCUS ON CONNECTION Connection is at the heart of all of these practices. Small moments, like a hug before leaving for school, a deep breath after frustration, or a playful song during clean up, can help kids (and adults!) feel grounded even when life feels chaotic. Kira believes parents underestimate how much joy can be intermixed into everyday life. “We can weave more joy and connection into our daily routines very easily without extra time, special training, equipment, or anything else. Just simple, playful activities. It will make everyone calmer, happier, more regulated, more self-aware, and just make it a more joyful experience for everybody.”
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The Happiness Benefits of Planting a Butterfly Garden — for You and Your Kids

In a world where screens demand more and more of our attention, it can be difficult to make time for much else. This may be one reason why interest in "analog hobbies” like gardening is rapidly growing — with Forbes deeming 2026 “The Year of Analog Living”, and arts & crafts company Michaels reporting searches for “analog hobbies” on its site increased by 136% in the second half of 2025. Many people, especially families, are looking for screen-free activities to encourage slowing down and reconnecting with the outdoors. It may not surprise you that the benefits of getting outside are profound. Research from the Journal of Happiness Studies found that connecting with nature leads to higher overall well-being and feelings of having a greater sense of meaning in life. The Overwhelming Benefits of Gardening The term “biophilia” is used by researchers to describe the human tendency for seeking connection with nature and living things. And humans seek it out for good reason — engaging with nature has been shown to reduce stress levels, improve attention, and increase positive mood. Research even suggests that seeking connection with the outdoors can reduce mortality! According to Preventative Medicine Reports, gardening offers its own unique health benefits by combining time in nature with physical activity, hands-on sensory experiences, and relaxation. It also creates an opportunity for families to spend intentional time together outdoors, encouraging connection with each other and the natural world. Why a Butterfly Garden Butterflies naturally spark curiosity, drawing kids in with their bright colors, fluttering movements, and dramatic transformation from caterpillar to butterfly. Children tend to retain information best when learning is tied to a sensory experiences and emotional engagement. A butterfly garden does just that — turning your backyard into a living science lab and giving kids the opportunity to observe natural processes firsthand. They can witness pollination, metamorphosis, flowers blooming and changing with the seasons, and the tiny ecosystems at work in their own backyard. How to Get Started Find a Location A butterfly garden can be added to an existing garden, started from scratch, or even created as a container garden! The National Garden Bureau recommends starting with a space of 3 feet by 6 feet, or grouping three to four large containers together on a patio, balcony, or deck. Find the sunniest spot available — butterflies use the heat of the sun to control their body temperature and to help them fly. Choose Your Plants Butterflies are pollinators that drink the nectar from flowers, meaning you’ll want to plant flowers that provide a succession of blooms to attract butterflies throughout the season. Brightly colored flowers such as orange butterfly weed and red salvia are a great place to start for attracting butterflies. Common garden favorites such as chives, bee balm, black-eyed Susan, and echinacea are also beloved by butterflies. Annuals such as cosmos, petunias, and zinnias bloom all season long, providing a continuous source of nectar. Milkweed, dill, fennel, and parsley provide a great source of nourishment for caterpillar larvae. For more suggestions on flower species to plant, visit the National Garden Bureau’s website. Accessorize Rocks provide warm spots for butterflies to rest. Line the edges of your garden with stones, landscape with larger rocks or boulders, or create a small rock pile for butterflies to enjoy. Stepping stones can add a fun whimsical element to the space, make the garden feel even more interactive for your kids, and be a warm place for butterflies to land. Saucers, “butterfly puddles”, or concave rocks that collect water all can provide water sources for butterflies. Adding sand or pebbles can make it more appealing for butterflies to land and enjoy the space. Enjoy Grab a chair or hang a hammock to sit back, relax, and enjoy your garden. Butterflies typically are not afraid of humans, so don’t be shy! Make a habit of observing the garden daily — a great way to get kids to interact with the garden is by starting a log of the different insects you see, exploring with a magnifying glass, or even using the flowers or bugs as inspiration for an art project. Beyond attracting butterflies, these gardens create opportunities for connection — encouraging families to slow down, get curious, and reconnect with each other and the natural world. They create small moments of wonder benefiting both kids and adults alike. And don’t worry — butterflies aren’t perfectionists. A slightly weedy garden won’t scare them away, and a little wildness is all part of the magic.
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Finding Awe in the Everyday Chaos of Parenting

You finally made it through bedtime, complete with multiple stories, glasses of water, and a meltdown. Right as you sit on the couch to relax, the baby starts crying. Parenting young children fills the day with a rollercoaster of highs and lows. It begs the question: Does having a child make you happier? WHY PARENTING FEELS BOTH JOYFUL AND EXHAUSTING Research shows the answer to this question is complicated. Often referred to as the “parenting paradox,” parents report greater life satisfaction than adults without children, while also reporting higher levels of stress and depression in their daily lives. How does this add up? Anthony Vaccaro, a research assistant professor at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, reports that a study conducted by the University of Southern California following new fathers revealed that whether parenthood makes you happier isn’t really about the children themselves; it has much more to do with feeling purpose in life. In the study, brain scans were conducted before and after the birth of their child. The brains of fathers who reported a sense of increased meaning in life after their child’s birth showed increased activity in the areas responsible for linking a person’s emotions with their sense of identity. “A father might feel overwhelmed by sleepless nights yet still contextualize this experience as part of a meaningful existence,” Anthony observes. “In other words, the challenging emotions people deal with in the short term can become independent from a long-term sense of satisfaction, potentially because separate brain processes underlie the two feelings.” New research says awe may be the cheat code to help find greater meaning in parenting. HOW AWE HELPS PARENTS FIND DEEPER MEANING Awe is the feeling you experience during a moment of overwhelming greatness or wonder. An important element of awe is its ability to take you out of yourself and connect you to something larger. It’s often encountered during life’s big moments, like witnessing the birth of a child. But awe can be experienced and cultivated in the little moments of daily life as well. A new study from the University of Rochester, led by Princeton Chee, found that experiencing awe in relation to children not only enhanced the parent-child bond but also improved overall well-being by enhancing life's meaning. “We find that awe can actually strengthen parental well-being more broadly and holistically,” Princeton notes, additionally highlighting that “these positive emotional experiences don’t diminish the challenges of parenthood. Rather, the finding suggests that cultivating and savoring moments of awe can help parents find greater joy, meaning, and richness in the parenting experience.” During moments of awe, time feels like it slows down, helping parents feel immersed in the moment. While it’s easy to experience awe in big, milestone moments, like a baby's first steps or the first day of school, you can also create moments of awe by slowing down and tuning in. Research suggests that experiencing awe in everyday life can be just as meaningful as the milestones. HOW TO FIND AWE IN THE ORDINARY Cultivating awe doesn’t mean pretending that parenthood is easy or without stress. It’s about taking a moment to notice the small ways that life is extraordinary. Parenting is an awe-generation machine — if you know how to look for it. Simple ways to cultivate awe: Take an “awe walk” Instead of taking a walk and using it as an opportunity to catch up on a podcast, try using the time to notice your surroundings. Listen to the birds or the rhythm of your child’s steps beside your own, point out a flower or tree you haven’t paid attention to before, and encourage your child to participate with you. Create small moments or rituals Awe doesn’t need to be spontaneous; you can invite it in! Bring your child outside in the evening to listen to the frogs, look at the moon together, or witness the first snowfall of the season. These simple experiences can become lasting emotional memories. Use technology for good Not all screen time is created equal. Doomscrolling might feel satisfying for a moment, but technology can be used as a method of inspiring awe or facilitating connection with the right intention. A song, video, or photo that sparks curiosity or happiness can interrupt stress and lift your mood. Pay attention to how you feel afterwards, and focus on connection — like sharing a song with a friend or texting a grandparent about a funny moment with your child. Experience awe through your child’s eyes Children are naturally wired to experience awe. A child seeing a giraffe, a shooting star, or a bubble pop for the first time can reconnect you with a sense of wonder and serve as a reminder that life is extraordinary. Take a deep breath, get on their level, and witness a moment from their perspective. Parenting will never be exclusively joyful — stress, exhaustion, and frustration are a part of the package. Awe gives parents a tool to hold both of these truths — reminding you of the beauty that exists alongside the chaos, and of how meaningful the experience of parenting can be.
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How to Find Friends: A Guide to Meaningful Connections

Making friends is one of the most rewarding experiences in life, but it’s also one of the most difficult. Whether you have just moved to a new city and are navigating social anxiety or simply want to expand your social circle, finding friends can feel like a daunting task. However, with a little patience, effort and the right approach, building lasting friendships is entirely possible. Most importantly, we must realize the importance of experiencing these friends in person. We might meet them online, but the real friendship flourishes face-to-face. Why Making Friends Can Be Challenging In today’s fast-paced world, many factors make forming new friendships tricky. Busy schedules, digital distractions and introversion can all create barriers. According to research, many people often have difficulty connecting in person after heavily relying on digital communication. However, understanding these challenges is the first step in overcoming them. It’s essential to embrace vulnerability and make time for face-to-face interactions, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. Where to Look for Friends Friendships often begin in places where you spend the most time. This could be your workplace, local coffee shops or hobbies you are passionate about. Shared interests are one of the most effective ways to build a connection as they provide natural conversation starters. Studies show that people who engage in regular activities together are more likely to form deep, lasting friendships. Online communities are another great avenue, especially for those who struggle with face-to-face interactions. Whether it’s through social media groups, gaming or niche forums, these platforms allow the first introduction to connect with like-minded people and establish bonds over interests. But we must remember that they begin a friendship, but it’s best to then grow the friendship in person. Building Meaningful Connections Once you’ve identified potential friends, the next step is building a genuine connection. It’s essential to prioritize quality over quantity. Instead of trying to meet as many people as possible, focus on cultivating a few deep relationships. This involves some active listening, showing interest in others’ lives and asking open-ended questions to keep the conversation flowing. People are more likely to connect with you if they feel heard and understood, so take time to engage deeply and authentically. A little vulnerability goes a long way. Don’t be afraid to share about yourself as well. Keeping The Friendship Alive Making a friend is just the first step: maintaining the friendship is equally important. This means following up after your initial meeting, scheduling regular hangouts and being a consistent presence in their lives. Be a good listener, offer support when needed, and make time to nurture the connection through coffee dates or nice long walks together. While making friends might feel like a challenging task, it’s entirely achievable with the right mindset and approach. Be patient, stay open to new opportunities and remember that every meaningful friendship begins with one simple step—showing up. When you take the first step, you might just find the connections you are wishing for as you work to share your life with others. Dr. Lori Whatley is a psychologist and expert on human connection with more than 25 years of experience. She helps businesses and families manage digital distractions and foster meaningful relationships. Author of Connected and Engaged and Happier Together, Dr. Lori is known for her approachable style and insight. She holds advanced degrees from California Southern, Mercer, and UGA, and has traveled to over 85 countries. Also listen to this Live Happy Now podcast featuring Dr. Lori: How to Make Friendships That Last
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Todd Bridges Spreads Positivity and Enlightenment on New Podcast

He’s lived in a penthouse on Park Avenue (or, at least, his character Willis Jackson did on his long-running hit sitcom, Diff’rent Strokes) and clawed his way out of the depths of drug addiction. For Todd Bridges, life has been a wild series of peaks and valleys, and it all started with acting. “I definitely wanted to be in show business when I was five years old,” Bridges recalled. I wanted to be Redd Foxx, my idol. My mom always told us that we can do whatever we wanted to do, but once we started, we couldn't quit. That's the only thing she would tell us.” Born into a family of entertainers, Bridges started young, quickly earning groundbreaking roles on TV classics like The Waltons and Little House on the Prairie, becoming the first African-American child actor to have a recurring role on a popular TV show. For the world, these were game-changing moments. For Bridges, it was business as usual. “I don't think I had felt that much about it because I just thought it was just a job until much later in my life when I got older and I realized how significant these things were,” Bridges explained. “Even when I was in Roots, It was years before I realized how big that was. That was one of the biggest miniseries in history. I think it captured 77 million viewers. Still to this very day, I don't think anything has ever done that.” Then came another life-changer: Diff’rent Strokes, an eight-year sitcom sensation that achieved huge ratings success and plenty of cast drama to go with it. Much like costars Gary Coleman and Dana Plato, Bridges struggled through his own real-life challenges in the years following the show’s departure from prime-time airwaves, battling addiction and running afoul of the law on multiple occasions. These struggles are often generalized as common issues amongst former child actors, a theory that Bridges doesn’t buy into. “I don't ever blame the industry. I always tell people that for every one actor they named that has had problems or gotten in trouble, I can name 20 that haven't,” he said. "So that's just what the media does. It's not true at all. We were painted as demons, and we were good kids. We just went through some difficult situations that we didn't know how to process. And when it was processed, it was processed in the public, not by yourself.” Still, the impact of the Diff’rent Strokes cast’s collective struggles weighs heavily upon Bridges, the lone surviving member of the group. “I was the one that was the go-between for everybody. I maintained relationships with everybody,” Bridges recalled. “Then we lost everybody — Dana and Gary and Conrad [Bain] and Charlotte [Rae]. No one ever thought I'd be the lone survivor, so that’s pretty traumatic.” In 1993, after years of battling bouts of addiction to crack cocaine and methamphetamines (in addition to numerous legal charges related to drug possession and sales), Bridges made the decision to get clean and rehabilitate his life. “It was the old saying in our program — ‘you got to get sick and tired of being sick and tired’ — and I was tired of doing the same thing over again, expecting different results,” Bridges admitted. “I finally realized that something had to change. The judge helped me find a program, and I was able to make a change in my life. I was able to start realizing that I could be happy if I just worked the program and became more confident within myself.” “I’m kind of used to the world having access to my life anyway, so it was just another step to clear my own mind,” Bridges chuckled. “My program's all about me staying out of trouble and knowing how to keep my life in a good light.” A desire to pay it forward and help others has led to Dang!, the new podcast that Bridges cohosts with his wife Bettijo. Together, the happy couple chat about “life’s messy realities — everything from love and family to mental health struggles like anxiety and addiction.” “We just thought that we should do a podcast, so we could just talk about issues like what's it like to be in a mixed relationship, or what it's like to have stepchildren — how difficult it can be and how great it can be at the same time, or maybe a little bit of both,” Bridges laughed. “People really have been enjoying it a lot, which is good. I have a good outlook on life to share, being a person who's gone through so much. To see the world clearly and not have any hate in my heart is a big step, and I think people need to see that. You don't have to go around hating people. You just love yourself and everyone around you. You keep peaceful, loving people around you and your life will get a lot better.”
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Watching Live Sports May Boost Happiness and Reduce Loneliness

If you’ve ever experienced an electric atmosphere while attending a live sporting event, that feeling could be making you happier in ways you never thought of before. According to a recent study published in the journal Frontiers in Public Health, attending live sports could be another tool to boost your happiness and longevity. Researchers from Anglia Ruskin University’s School of Psychology and Sport Science used survey data from more than 7,000 adults in England between the ages of 16 and 85 and concluded that watching sporting events in person increased life satisfaction and decreased feelings of loneliness. Existing research already suggests that actively participating in sports increases happiness and well-being. However, this is the largest study that suggests that just watching sports in person—or passive sports engagement—allows social interaction and bonding that can lead to meaningful connections, even for a short time. Commissioned by the Department for Digital, Culture, Media and Sport, the insights from the report found that attending live sporting events and identifying with a team fostered connections with other people and made people feel that life was more worthwhile. Dr. Helen Keyes, a lead author of the report and the head of the School of Psychology and Sport Science at Anglia Ruskin University (ARU), says that “watching live sport of all types provides many opportunities for social interaction and this helps to forge group identity and belonging, which in turn mitigates loneliness and boosts levels of well-being.” Lonely No More Loneliness, as described by the study, is a “modern behavioral epidemic” that can have negative impacts on mental and physical health. The Healthy Minds Monthly Poll conducted by the American Psychiatric Association (APA) found that one in three adults in America say they have experienced feelings of loneliness at least once a week this year and 10% say they are lonely every day. Even younger people are not immune to feelings of loneliness, with 30% of Americans aged 18-34 saying they were lonely every day or several times a week. According to Gregorio Lozano III, a licensed professional counselor with the online mental health platform Grow Therapy, our need for connection is hardwired and is rooted in survival. Connecting with others is a basic human need  “The root cause of loneliness tends to be a sense of disconnection from others, more specifically, emotional disconnection,” he says. Researchers are optimistic that the results from the ARU study can lead to social interventions that can help mitigate the growing loneliness problem, such as offering reduced ticket prices to certain groups that may need a well-being boost.
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De-stressing for the Presidential Debate 

As America prepares to watch this week’s presidential debate, many are feeling the stress of this year’s unprecedented election cycle. New research from the mental health app Headspace and the nonpartisan initiative When We All Vote shows that the elections are impacting our well-being. Nearly 80% of respondents said they are paying more attention to politics this year than they usually do. While that can lead to better informed choices, it can also create more feelings of anxiety and nervousness: an annual survey by the American Psychiatric Association found that 73% of adults are feeling “particularly anxious” about the 2024 U.S. election.  Constant alerts on social media, trying to sift through conflicting information to find the facts, and concerns about the election’s outcome all contribute to what is being called election stress disorder. While about 30% of adults say their sleep has been negatively affected by anxiety about the elections, among Gen Z that percentage jumps to 40%.  What’s stressing us out?  According to the Headspace/When We All Vote findings, inflation is the issue creating the most anxiety for Americans during the election season, with 53% of respondents reporting it stresses them out. That’s followed by immigration (37%) and healthcare affordability (34%). Women’s reproductive rights are the main stressor for about one-third of Americans. How to manage election stress  Regardless of what is stressing you out this election season, there are simple practices you can choose to help soothe your anxiety. One of the most important things you can do is register to vote and be sure to vote on or before election day. While you alone can’t control the outcome, being part of the democratic process can help with your overall mental health.   You can also try a practice like mindfulness or meditation to help when you feel the stress start to rise. Headspace has created a free Politics Without Panic election guide to help you put your mental health first this season.  To walk you through the feelings you might be having, Live Happy has teamed up with clinical psychologist Dr. Lauren Cook to offer a free email series, Overcoming Election Stress. Sign up here to get this four-week course delivered to your inbox and help you understand the causes of election stress, receive tips for managing your anxiety, and learn how to manage difficult conversations during this tumultuous season. You can also hear Dr. Lauren talk about election stress in this podcast episode.  And remember, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by the news or the election season, seeking the help of a professional therapist or counselor can help. 
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10 Tips for Talking to People with Different Beliefs

This is a time of immense division, and that often leads to heated and harmful conversations. No one really wants to have uncomfortable conversations, but if we don’t prepare ourselves for when the moment arises, we aren’t going to make any progress to overcoming our differences of opinion.  Here are 10 tips on how to have a conversation with someone from the other side. Tip 1: Be Clear with Yourself. What are you hoping to achieve with this conversation? Is it to convert someone to your way of thinking? Defend your position or try to understand their thinking? Having that self-awareness will help keep you focused during the conversation. Tip 2: Actively Listen and Reflect Back. What happens when a toddler isn’t being heard? They scream louder or start to flail around. People just want to be heard and seen. As you listen to someone, repeat back what they said in the same way that they said it - words and tone and ask them to verify if you got it right. This helps people feel confident they are being understood and provides cognitive empathy. For more training on this technique, check out Edwin Rutsch’s Empathy Circles. Tip 3: Don’t Hesitate to Ask for Empathy for Yourself. It can be useful to say to someone “I hope you can see where I’m coming from…” and ask them to have some cognitive empathy with you. It helps move someone from repeating their talking points to having to reframe and reflect back what you are saying. And it gives you a chance to clarify your position to them. Tip 4: Take a Curious Breath. As many of them as you need. The act of a big inhale/exhale can help make space in your mind to figure out how you might respond instead of reacting in a way that is going to escalate the conversation instead of defuse it. Tip 5: Share Personal Stories. I’ve always found it’s much harder to be judgmental about someone you know rather than a large anonymous group. There’s a lot of ‘othering’ in politics. Break through that by sharing your own experiences or those of people you know. Share why a political issue is personally important to you. Tip 6: Agree Where There is Agreement. Defuse the ‘us v. them’ mentality by agreeing where there is common ground. Perhaps immigration reform is something you both agree on but the way to do it remains at issue. Acknowledge that you agree on the larger topic and then steer the conversation into ‘what can we do about it’. Tip 7: Remain Respectful through Empathy. Keep in mind that just like you feel strongly about your issues, the other person does too. Try to connect with an issue on a personal level that is informing their political views. Tip 8: Get Curious. Ask questions about their views, where they came from, what they’ve experienced in relation to that. It will help move the conversation from a stand-off back into a dialogue. Tip 9: Remember Your Connection Points to the Other Human. Recall what you know about the person you are talking to. Remind yourself of the things you have in common. Tip 10: Having Empathy Doesn’t Mean That You Have to Agree. Many people hold this idea that having empathy with someone means that you agree with them. That’s not true. It just means you understand where they are coming from or connect with their feelings. It doesn’t mean that you have to give up your own views. Rob Volpe is an empathy activist, consultant and thought leader and author of Tell Me More About That: Solving the Empathy Crisis One Conversation at a Time. To sign up for his bi-weekly newsletter, click here. To reach out to him directly, email him at rob@robvolpe.expert.
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