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10 Top Health and Wellness Trends of 2017

Step aside, green tea. You’re so 15 minutes ago, paleo. Sorry, kale. There are some new health and wellness trends taking center stage this year. If you know what “athleisure” means (or you are wearing fractal-patterned leggings as you read this), you probably already know some of this year’s trends. We’ve reached out to experts to get the skinny (pun intended) and find out which fun or befuddling health practices will be coming our way this year. 1. Make time for recovery More people are taking muscle recovery seriously after hard workouts, says national fitness trainer and founder of Get Healthy U Chris Freytag. “Baby boomers still love to work out, but I think people are doing things like foam rolling, more yoga, acupuncture and cupping (an ancient practice of using bamboo or glass suction jars to enhance circulation and relieve pain). People are choosing more natural ways to take care of their muscles after a hard workout rather than taking an anti-inflammatory,” she says. 2. The new happy hour Going sans-alcohol is the new cool. Look for more bars and restaurants that feature fun, healthy “mocktails”—cocktail-like beverages made with fresh seasonal ingredients but minus any alcohol. More people are touting the health benefits of living permanently on the wagon and this is leading to social gatherings with a focus on connections over cocktails. Some of the health benefits in addition to no hangover? Abstaining from alcohol can mean improved mental clarity, less body fat, a better mood, enhanced quality of sleep and improved relationships. If that doesn’t make you want to put down your glass of red wine, we found this compelling: Some experts say your life’s purpose can sometimes be masked by even moderate alcohol consumption. Going dry may be the new non-smoking. 3. Fitness anytime, anywhere “In today’s world, where everyone is time-starved, health-conscious, individuals sometimes struggle to be as active as they’d like to be,” says Chuck Runyon, CEO and founder of Anytime Fitness, “our job as fitness facilitators is to help others lead healthier, more active lives whenever they can find the time—be it in the gym, at work, at home or while running errands.” Like other mobile workout businesses, Anytime Fitness has become less gym-centric, working to meet clients where they are. “We’ve also learned a great deal from millennials and that’s why we’re using multiple social media platforms, and a new mobile app, to coach and connect with our members. Imagine providing each of your customers with a personal wellness coach in his or her pocket.  That’s precisely what we’re aiming to do.” 4. A hot mug of bone broth While kombucha was last year’s magic elixir, bone broth, packed with minerals, is the healing tonic of choice in 2017. Mark Sisson, the author of the book The Primal Blueprint, calls bone broth an original superfood. The suggested health benefits are myriad: improved immunity, better sleep, improvement for a leaky gut, increased energy and a more youthful appearance. Mark writes, “A bone broth habit may allow you to enjoy the benefits of a diet rich in animal protein—good body composition, superior recovery from training, strong bones, overall robustness—while avoiding the downsides.” Where do you get this primal concoction? Look for bone broth bars, order it online or make it at home by roasting animal bones—beef, turkey or chicken—overnight with veggies. Enjoy a mug of the broth served hot. 5. Unplug using technology Yes, tech can help us chill out. Start by downloading and using some of the great meditation apps available, such as Calm, Buddhify and Headspace. There are apps that remind you to breathe  and whole gadgets made just to monitor your vitals for stress, such as the WellBe. “People are stressed and becoming more educated on the benefits of deep breathing and meditation even if just for a few minutes during the work day,” Chris Freytag says. Yes, our amazing, addictive devices have become a huge cause of stress and anxiety. Why not also let them help solve the same problem? 6. Veg out and get your protein Old school eating meant meat was the center of your meal and your main protein source. Modern nutrition is all about getting protein from plants. “Plant-based diets are becoming more common,” says Hillary Goldrich, a registered dietitian based out of Asheville, North Carolina. “Eating plant-based meals can improve inflammation, heart health, cholesterol and weight,” Hillary says. “Seeds such as chia, hemp and flax that provide omega-3 fats have become pantry staples. Protein-rich grains such as quinoa, amaranth, sorghum and teff are more accessible. Nuts, beans and avocados provide fiber, healthy fat and protein. Add these healthier proteins to a colorful array of vegetables and fruits, throw in some spices and herbs and you get a flavorful, well-rounded meal.” Meatless Monday may extend further into the week! 7. Don’t toss out the ugly apple Ugly produce needs love too. Social awareness regarding food waste is moving to the forefront, Hillary says. NPR reported that there was enough food waste last year in the United States to fill 44 skyscrapers. “People are seeking ways, on small and large scales, to reduce food waste and repurpose foods,” Hillary says. There’s a movement to love ugly produce and grocery stores are getting in on the love. You should be able to find some bruised and misfit fruit and veggies at Whole Foods and Walmart stores this year. Don’t judge a veggie by its looks. By buying them, you're helping ease the landfills and save the planet! 8. Health meals delivered  Want to whip up some butternut squash agnolotti for the family? Order up your meals and just follow the prep and cooking instructions. “Home cooking has seen a surge and continues to be on trend with the meal delivery service market growing,” Hillary says. “The ease of making a healthy, complete meal in conjunction with pre-measured ingredients and step-by-step instructions make these services overwhelmingly appealing. The competition seems to be keeping costs reasonable.” Hello Fresh, Plated and Blue Apron are some of the most popular meal delivery options. 9. Mindfulness is ever-present Mindfulness remains a focal point of yoga and meditation, but is now increasingly available as an immersive multisensory experience at wellness centers around the country. These spas aim to heighten your senses and increase mindfulness using sound healing, visualization techniques and aromatherapy. The Spa at Mandarin Oriental in Boston, for example, launched a multisensory experience this year designed to “restore health and a sense of well-being,” including sound therapy inspired by the ancient healing art of Himalayan singing bowls. Enjoy vibrations and harmonious tones meant to restore balance and energy. Mindfulness vacations and Zen retreats, once niche escapes for Buddhists and seekers, are also becoming more mainstream. 10. Gym clothes at work? Last year “athleisure” went from being a momentary trend to a lifestyle. Now it’s common to see people wearing fashionable and comfortable workout wear not only outside the gym (at the supermarket, in line at Starbucks), but also crossing over to the final frontier: the workplace. Athleisure is coming to cubicles and offices across the country. More of us are leading active lives and don’t have time to change shoes once we get to the office, let alone entire outfits as we dash to appointments or head to yoga class after work. “Business casual” is about to look—and feel—a whole lot more comfortable. Just think, soon you might be able to wear the same outfit in the office as you do to morning boot camp. “Workleisure” may be the new casual Friday. What new health and wellness trends are you seeing? We’d love to hear from you! Talk to us in the Comments section, below, or on Twitter or Facebook. Read more: 8 Great Happiness Perks You Get From Exercise. Listen to our podcast Mindfulness is Pure Awareness With Meditation Ex Jon Kabat-Zinn. Sandra Bilbray is a contributing Editor to Live Happy and the founder and CEO of TheMediaConcierge.net.
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5 Tips for Digital Decluttering

You are having a great day—productive yet carefree. You open your closet door to put something away when out of the corner of your eye you glimpse what looks like a nest of black snakes interwoven with flecks of silver. The snakes morph before your eyes into a Medusa’s head of abandoned computer cords that threatens to turn you into stone if you keep looking at them. And they have names: USB, FireWire, pin-dot, 2-pin. And the cords connect to so many obsolete devices: your old digital camera, that practically antique PalmPilot, your grandma’s dot-matrix printer, your shattered iPhone 3. This is a monster pile of digital detritus, and it’s time for it to go. The GOT syndrome In the past 10 years, the speed of innovation has increased exponentially. Periodic upgrades have become expected and anticipated, leading to a constant churn of hardware. While it’s easy to acquire new gadgets, it is significantly harder to know what to do with the old ones. As a result, we are burdened with what I call the GOT (guilt over things) syndrome. The GOT syndrome makes us feel like we have to keep objects because they might be useful again someday, they have sentimental value or they are worth a lot of money. It’s hard to let go of a gadget that you spent $600 on just a year ago, only to find that its value plummeted as soon as the next model came out. It’s also difficult to get rid of gadgets that carry sensitive data, particularly when an item is broken. And so, these Medusa heads made up of gadgets and gizmos pile up in dark closets, their very existence in our homes proving that the stone-turning effect really works—we are paralyzed by our fear of letting go. Listen to our podcast on Digital Spring Cleaning With Amy Blankson. Creating a Habitat for Happiness Instead, imagine having your closet and drawer space back to use on projects that you really care about! In my book The Future of Happiness, one of the strategies I share for increasing well-being in the digital era is to create a habitat for happiness in your life, which means carving out a space where your brain can maximize its productivity and flow by removing distractions and infusing your space with more meaning. Although the process can seem daunting, devoting a day or even a weekend to decluttering can make a serious dent in your tech graveyard and increase your happiness! To get started with digital spring cleaning, follow these steps: 1. Sift and sort Start by sorting your items into two piles on the floor: those that are still used/needed and those that are not. (My general rule of thumb is that if I haven’t used something in the last two years, I probably don’t need it.) Go through your “needed” pile to see if you have multiple copies of the same device or plug. Yes, one Ethernet cord can be handy in a pinch, but fifteen cordsare overkill. 2. Take care of special memories I find that most of my digital clutter is related to old home videos. I have old video cameras of multiple sizes, each of which takes different tapes, cords, and, of course, different wires. For years, I told myself that I was going to convert all these tapes into digital format. But doing so is an incredibly arduous and long process. Unless you are particularly tech savvy and have tons of time on your hands, I suggest bringing your videos to a video conversion service. Companies like Wal-Mart and Costco will convert videos for you. 3. Contain yourself To limit entropy in the future, put your “needed items” in small storage spaces and containers. Let me say that last part again: small storage spaces and containers. As we know, things expand to fill the given spaces, so it would make sense that limiting our spaces would help contain the disorder. Avoid cardboard boxes since they are food for potential roaches and other bugs. Use clear (and lidded, if you can find them) containers so you can easily find what you need. 4. Deal with the leftovers Divide your pile of “not-needed items” into three boxes: sell, donate or recycle. For items that you are interested in selling, you can take them to Best Buy, which offers to purchase an extensive list of electronic items at reasonable prices. You can even use the company’s online trade-in calculator to get a sense of how much you might get in return. Alternatively, you can receive an Apple gift card for old computers through services like PowerON. If the item is not easily sold, you can donate or recycle it. To find an organization in your area that accepts technology, check out e-Stewards.org, a nonprofit website with some great information about how to donate your items. Note: before parting with your gadgets, make sure to remove sensitive information by securely erasing data. (If you are unsure of how to do this, look up “erase” and your device on Google. Or just find your nearest teenager to help. If all else fails, many cities have on-site hard drive destruction services or you could even mail your devices to be destroyed through services like Ship’n’Shred.) 5. Relish your victory Last but not least, take a moment to stand back and appreciate what you have accomplished. Think about all the ways you have helped others by recycling and how you can use the money you earned by selling your old gadgets. And, of course, dream about how you can utilize your newly recovered space for things that add meaning and purpose to your life. Amy Blankson, aka the ‘Happy Tech Girl,’ is on a quest to find strategies to help individuals balance productivity and well-being in the digital era. Amy, with her brother Shawn Achor, co-founded GoodThink, which brings the principles of positive psychology to lifeand works with organizations such as Google, NASA and the U.S. Army. Her new book is called The Future of Happiness: 5 Modern Strategies for Balancing Productivity and Well-being in the Digital Era.
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Let Technology Lift Your Life

It’s easy to get frustrated by the incessant rings, dings and pop-up messages of the tech in our lives. Technology helps us communicate faster and work better, but it can also become an albatross. Researchers are beginning to study exactly how it affects happiness and emotional development in the long run. So far, the results from academic studies have been a wake-up call: Teens who spend hours online become less happy; the mere presence of a cellphone during a face-to-face conversation can reduce feelings of closeness, trust and relationship quality. While these findings should give us pause, there is another side to the story—about how technology can (and is) being used to improve communication. Think of the numerous geographically divided families that can now communicate on FaceTime or Skype for a fraction of the cost, or of far-flung friends who now stay in touch via Facebook or Snapchat. Positive news about social media Keith Hampton, a professor of media and information at Michigan State University, argues that the idea that we interact either online or offline is a false dichotomy. Through his studies, he has become convinced that social media and the internet are actually drawing us closer together—both online and offline. “I don’t think it’s people moving online, I think it’s people adding the digital mode of communication to already existing relationships,” he says. The more different kinds of media that people use to interact—phone, email, in person, text, Facebook—the stronger their relationships tend to be. Similarly, a 2012 Pew research study of more than 2,200 individuals in the U.S. found that 55 percent of internet users say their email exchanges have improved their connections to family members, and 66 percent say the same thing for significant friends. Sixty percent of users cite email communication as a primary reason for this improvement. If we know that social media has the potential to positively or negatively impact our relationships, the next step is to think more carefully both about what we are consuming online and what we are spreading. Individuals who actively invest in others are 40 percent more likely to receive social support themselves. So how can we help spread positivity? Here are three tips to get you started: 1. Don’t be 'phony.' Cognitive dissonance is the mental stress we feel when we hold or act upon contradictory beliefs, ideas or values at the same time. Brené Brown, a professor at the University of Houston and author of The Gifts of Imperfection, describes authenticity as “the daily practice of letting go who we think we are supposed to be and embracing who we are.” The further we get from our authentic selves, the further we move from becoming our ideal selves. The internet offers rare opportunities for anonymity and reinvention. But don’t use it that way, for the sake of your own happiness. Make sure your online persona reflects your actual persona, and let the world see the real you. 2. If you are going to read the feed, invest the time to respond. It makes a difference whether you simply scroll through posts or actually stop to respond. A recent study found that individuals who use Facebook passively, experience declines in well-being over time. If your friend said something profound or funny, would you merely flash them a smile or would you verbally respond? Researchers report that time spent reading posts from acquaintances without responding to them is related to a slight increase in negative mood; conversely, posters experience an increase in happiness when they see that their friends reacted to their posts in a personal way rather than just hitting a like button. 3. Let your compliments complement your conversations. Social media is not intended to be a replacement for offline communication, but rather a different mode of expressing one’s self.Use it to enhance, not replace your actual friendships and acquaintances. Make plans, check in and then get together in the “RL” (real world). These small changes make a huge difference in the way that we perceive and engage with social media. If we aspire to see a world where technology strengthens our relationships and improves our mood, we have to start by being intentional with our own behavior. Listen to Amy Blankson discuss 'How to Declutter With Digital Spring-Cleaning' on our Podcast. Amy Blankson, aka the ‘Happy Tech Girl,’ is on a quest to find strategies to help individuals balance productivity and well-being in the digital era. Amy, with her brother Shawn Achor, co-founded GoodThink, which brings the principles of positive psychology to lifeand works with organizations such as Google, NASA and the U.S. Army. Her new book is called The Future of Happiness: 5 Modern Strategies for Balancing Productivity and Well-being in the Digital Era.
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10 Steps to Become a Fully Loaded Grown-Up

A few years ago, I wrote a book called How to Be a Grown Up. What motivated me was my realization that there are 10 significant areas each of us needs to focus on in order to have the greatest chance of being a happy and successful adult. Over time, I’ve come to realize that most of us don't want to be just a grown-up, we want to be a fully loaded grown-up! What is that, you ask? My definition of a fully loaded grown-up is a person who knows when to get down to business and when to lighten up; who can bounce back from life's little spills and not blame someone else for the mess; and most important, who can accelerate through any roadblock to success and happiness. Here are my 10 steps to becoming a fully loaded grown-up. 1. Be a dynamic communicator A dynamic communicator puts in the time and energy to communicate effectively. She cares more about the long-term outcome than the immediate gratification of being louder or being right. The dynamic communicator lets go of the need to win and realizes that true winning comes from a successful relationship, whether romantic or otherwise. 2. Learn to cope Each person's ability to cope begins in childhood. But how you behave in adulthood is a combination of the cards you were dealt as a child, your life experiences as you've grown and the baggage you have accumulated along the way. A fully loaded grown-up learns effective coping skills and puts them into practice. When you have those all-important skills, you can handle whatever life throws at you—and in the end, walk away from the game of life with a positive outcome. 3. Build a strong support system A strong support system provides fun, social interaction, encouragement and help during tough times. They are cheerleaders to root for you during challenges, and people who will celebrate your victories. You’ll want to invest plenty of time and emotional resources in this group, as they are the people who provide a soft place to land when you need it. Perhaps you can find this support network in one or two people, or you might need a dozen. Whatever works for you, make sure not to neglect this key area of your life. 4. Find a solid intimate partnership I have found that a satisfying love relationship has the power to make people happier and more productive. The key is finding a person who nurtures your strengths, and vice-versa, and then maintaining that relationship. Put in the effort to find someone who meets your needs and fulfills your head, heart and body. 5. Get comfortable with your appearance Learn that what other people think doesn't matter and that you ultimately have to satisfy yourself. Be kind and gentle with yourself; social comparison—which often focuses on looks—can be the cause of depression and anxiety, especially for women. Learn to be conscious about your appearance but not hard on yourself. 6. Learn to manage your finances Not surprisingly, managing your finances is key to becoming a fully loaded adult. Take time out to investigate your strengths and weaknesses, and identify the bad habits you have developed over the years. Learn to separate your emotions from your finances and be as logical, methodical and reliable as possible. If you feel your skills are lacking in this area, reach out for support by taking a class, getting advice from a friend or reading one of the many great books out there on how to manage your money. 7. Find work that meets your needs If your work is unsatisfying, find a path either to improve the current environment or make a change. If you are unable to make any changes in your present job, look for elements about it that make you happy. Is it down the street from your favorite lunch place? Have you met a great friend? Does it cover your bills every month? Focus on the positive to help you get through the negative. 8. Free yourself from addiction I define addiction as the habitual and/or compulsive surrender to a substance or activity. They can run the gamut from food to alcohol to sex to shopping. Addiction is so powerful that it can destroy every other area of your life in one fell swoop. Fully loaded grown-ups know how to find real and concrete help so they can recover and live a life that is addiction-free. Three main elements come into play with addiction: genetics, the environment/social factors and the ability to cope. If you have weaknesses in any of these areas, stay vigilant for signs of the onset of addiction; it can sneak up on you. 9. Practice good time-management skills We all have the same 24 hours in a day available to us, and yet some people are extremely productive and accomplish many things, while others can barely make it through the bare minimum of tasks. Don't make excuses. Don't overload your schedule. Learn time-management skills that include delegation and focusing on what is most important. 10. Be flexible Flexibility allows you to handle what life throws at you. It is the ability to adapt, bend and stretch as needed. Flexibility in life will reduce your stress and allow for greater happiness and productivity. If you are taking the time to read this article, you are working the skill of flexibility because you are trying to grow and change. Being a Fully Loaded Grown-up requires what I call positive action. Positive action is the ability to take ownership of your life and make steps toward making change and forward progress. The payoff is that you will be calmer, happier and your life will run more smoothly. You can begin this journey by evaluating your status in these 10 areas and getting started at improving realms that may need some extra effort. Listen to Stacy Kaiser discuss the Myth of the Perfect Parent on our podcast. Stacy Kaiser is a licensed psychotherapist, author, relationship expert and media personality. She is also the author of the best-selling book How to Be a Grown Up: The Ten Secret Skills Everyone Needs to Know and an editor at large for Live Happy. Stacy is a frequent guest on television programs such as Today and Good Morning America.
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Beans and Greens Stew With Tomato Broth

You can think of this stew as a gluten-free version of the classic Tuscan winter soup ribollita without its signature bread. Or you can just as easily think of it as a hearty winter bean stew, spiked with tomato and rosemary, that makes great use of healthy dark-green leafy vegetables like lacinato kale (sometimes called Tuscan kale or cavolo nero) and collard or mustard greens. If you don’t like collards or can’t find lacinato kale, substitute any sturdy greens (avoid delicate spinach). For such a rich stew, this dish is quick to make because it uses cooked beans, and the greens need only a quick simmer. Enjoy on a fall or winter weeknight and make enough for leftovers! Ingredient 1 large white or yellow onion, finely chopped 1 stalk celery, finely chopped 1 large carrot, finely chopped 2 garlic cloves, finely chopped ¼ pound pancetta, chopped (optional) 2 tablespoons extra-virgin olive oil, plus more for top Pinch of red pepper flakes Salt and pepper to taste Leaves of 1 sprig rosemary, finely chopped 4 tablespoons tomato paste 1/3 cup white wine 6 cups chicken stock 1 bunch lacinato kale, leaves pulled off the stems and chopped 1 bunch mustard or collard greens, leaves pulled off the stems and chopped Two 15-ounce cans cannellini beans, rinsed Grated Parmesan cheese 1 tablespoon minced parsley (optional) Directions Prepare the vegetables and pancetta (if using). In a large, heavy pan, heat the olive oil over medium heat. Add the onion, celery, carrot, garlic, pancetta, red pepper flakes, rosemary, and salt and pepper and sauté until softened and golden, 7 to 10 minutes. Add the tomato paste and cook for 1 minute longer. Add the white wine and cook until it is absorbed, about 1 minute. Then add the chicken stock and stir with a wooden spoon to combine everything. Bring to a boil, then turn the heat down to a simmer (medium-low). Add the greens and the beans and cook everything together, uncovered, until the flavors meld, about 25 minutes. Taste and adjust seasoning. Serve in bowls and top with a sprinkle of olive oil, some fresh Parmesan cheese and a sprinkling of fresh parsley, if using. Adapted from Giada De Laurentiis’ Ribollita recipe. Read more about the benefits of leafy greens in the April 2017 issue of Live Happy magazine. Read more on healthy cooking: The Bite of Spring Read more on warming soups: Spicy Carrot Soup Emily Wise Miller is the web editor for Livehappy.com.
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10 Tips for a Happy Friday

Ahhhh, Fridays. The gateway to good times. The fast track to fun. But Fridays are still a workday: You want to be productive, feel good about your accomplishments, and be proud of your work before you close the office door behind you and head out for the weekend (assuming you are lucky enough to leave work behind on Saturdays and Sundays). Sometimes we are so eager to reach the weekend that every hour of Friday seems to pass with a tick-tock of slow torture. We've come up with 10 hacks to make the most of your Friday. Make it productive and fun; collaborative and a little bit relaxing. Leave us your own tips for a happy Friday in the "Comments" section below. 1. Don’t skip breakfast Eat a healthy meal and follow these 7 other science-backed tips for a happy morning 2. Dress for success Wear your happy socks. 3. Listen to music Put on your favorite happy playlist or comedy podcast on the way into work to prime yourself for happiness. 4. Get the tough stuff done first Tackle your thorniest projects early in the day to get them out of the way. Done and done! 5. Get moving Go to the gym at lunch or take a walk with your office buddies. Moving our bodies makes us happier. 6. Send a thank-you email to a colleague It won’t just make the recipient feel better—it will make you feel better, too. 7. Daydream Spend a few minutes thinking about all the fun things you’re going to do over the weekend. (Research shows that just anticipating fun or a trip is almost as good as having fun. Your brain can hardly tell the difference!) 8. Take a breather Take a short meditation break with your co-workers. It’s a great team-building exercise, a break from work and a relaxation practice all in one. If you'd prefer to do something at your desk, here are some free guided meditations from the UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center. 9. Clear off your desk A clean desk can help you think in a more organized way as well, some experts say. When you come in on Monday morning, everything will be sparkling and fresh, just waiting for you to get to work. 10. Start Happy Hour early! Emily Wise Miller is the web editor for LiveHappy.com.
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Let Your Workout Lift Your Life

Staci Ardison of Austin, Texas, believed she’d be happy if she lost weight. She went on a diet and started doing cardio; she lost the weight, but didn’t find the happiness she expected. At a friend’s suggestion, she tried powerlifting, a form of competitive weightlifting. Progressing from deadlifting 135 pounds to 315 pounds and also adding 50 pounds to both her overhead press and bench press in six months did more than lift her spirits. “You pick up a bar and nothing else really matters because it’s so empowering,” Staci says. “Knowing what my body was capable of made me very happy and excited.” Staci discovered that powerlifting’s progressive nature (each week, more weight is added) and team atmosphere made her more confident about speaking her mind and more at ease meeting new people. “It takes time, but as you start lifting more [weight] and realizing who you are and what you’re capable of, what other people think doesn’t matter as much anymore,” Staci says. She found herself moving past the crippling shyness she’d experienced since childhood, easily making friends after recent moves. “Before I started [powerlifting], I would have never talked to anyone, anywhere,” she says. As Staci learned, a departure from your routine can have profound effects on your body, mindset and spirit—and this is especially true when it comes to fitness. If you want to feel happier, more confident and strong-minded, sometimes it’s best to put down the self-help books, postpone the therapy appointment and hit the gym instead. Workouts that push your limits can challenge you mentally and stretch your boundaries. “It’s going to be a little uncomfortable at times,” explains Ariane Machin, Ph.D., clinical and sports psychologist and co-founder of the Conscious Coaching Collective, an agency focused on programs to help clients embrace their power and find their inner voices. “Your muscles will be burning, you’ll be breathing faster than you would like, [and you’ll be facing] the psychological barrier of, ‘Can I actually do this?’ ” According to Ariane, you should embrace that unpleasant feeling because it’s a positive sign of change. These levels of discomfort can also be an asset: As your fight-or-flight system becomes engaged, your heart rate goes up, blood circulates, more oxygen is supplied to the brain and you are primed for better performance. Building a base As Staci’s example shows us, toughing it out during exercise can also help you find your footing outside the gym. Studies show that exercise helps with confidence, mood, happiness and stress resilience. Using data from 15 European countries and more than 10,000 respondents, a 2015 study published in the open access journal BMC Public Health determined that more exercise was associated with greater happiness. Another 2015 study from the University of Turku in Finland found that young men and working adults with good physical fitness felt more active, energetic, capable and confident in their daily tasks, and experienced less stress. The gradual process Staci used to gain muscle demonstrates exactly how strength should be built. According to Daniel Rockers, Ph.D., a Sacramento-based clinical health psychologist, building strength—whether while working out or in life—requires getting out of your comfort zone. Gradually and progressively pushing yourself out of that zone, he says, can get you used to overcoming stress, instead of being overwhelmed by it. Practicing a sport or exercise where you’re consistently pushing the envelope makes you more resilient to stressors in other areas of life, as both exercise and dealing with stress both involve periods of work and rest. Happy hormones are also created during exercise, whether it’s moderate or intense. Janet Schrager, Ph.D., says that endorphins produced through movement cause an exercise-induced mood boost, often called runner’s high, will make you feel more positive. For maximum benefit, Janet recommends aiming to work out at least 30 minutes, five times per week. She often prescribes aerobic activities—the best type of exercise for promoting endorphin-releasing oxygen—such as swimming, running or biking. “I always recommend movement and exercise as a critical component for well-being and positivity,” Janet says. Research exploring the connection between exercise and positivity found that taking a brisk 35-minute walk five times a week subdued symptoms of mild depression, and the mood-boosting impact of exercise appears to last longer than taking antidepressants, according to a study referenced in Harvard Health Publications. Working out also improves focus, increases cognition and boosts creative insight, Janet adds. Discover new ways of thinking Two months ago, online pet insurance entrepreneur Nick Braun felt his business and personal life were in a rut. He decided to shake up his solo exercise routine by taking group classes. Plunging himself into an unfamiliar environment with new-to-him exercises that he enjoyed revitalized his personal life. “[The classes] really reinvigorated me physically and mentally with my business,” Nick says. He started making creative adjustments to his business such as modifying his website design and opening an Instagram account. Nick’s experience reflects scientific findings: In 2016, research published in Scientific Reports found that one aerobic exercise session significantly enhanced both visual and muscle learning in study subjects. What’s more: This effect can last more than 30 minutes post-exercise, leading researchers to believe that exercise of moderate intensity may improve the brain’s plasticity (the ability of the brain to change). Another 2014 study in the Journal of Experimental Psychology performed experiments showing that walking boosted performance on a creativity test. Nick definitely found this to be true. He discovered that attending classes—a blend of butt-kicking strength training, cardio and stretching—in a female-dominated environment sparked ideas on how to market to his business’ similarly female-saturated market. Observing how the female owners marketed their club—from the way they designed their logo to the colors and layout of their studio—helped him understand he had been approaching marketing his business from a purely analytical perspective. He shifted his approach by hiring copywriters and other creative experts to help him achieve his newly inspired creative vision. Outside-the-box fitness New York health coach Samantha Elkrief also experienced a change in outlook from hitting the gym. Samantha always thought of herself as skinny and frail; she was convinced she would never be considered a strong woman. In fact, she was so afraid she’d fail at building strength that she never even tried. But, after being diagnosed with endometriosis in 2014 and learning that exercise could help counteract the condition, she joined a gym, hired a personal trainer and started strength training. When her trainer suggested box jumping—a muscle-building activity that requires squatting, lifting both feet off the ground in one explosive movement and landing on top of a box, she was terrified. “Trusting my body to take both feet off the ground at the same time and jump on this crazy box had me freaking out,” she recalls. But Samantha made it onto the box that day, and eventually, she was box jumping up to 20 inches. That exercise was just one of the confidence-building movements Samantha learned while working out. “I used to think that I couldn’t get good at something I wasn’t inherently good at. But the gym flipped that around for me,” she says. A confidence boost Samantha’s confidence followed her outside of the gym: She took up new hobbies, regardless of whether she thought she’d excel at them, including food photography and painting classes. At work, she fostered new business alliances and began submitting articles to publications. “Pushing myself at the gym gave me so much more confidence,” she says. “In life, you don’t often get 10 opportunities to push yourself out of your comfort zone in an hour. At the gym, you do. And it retrains your brain.” Whether you’re building strength and confidence like Staci and Samantha, or making changes in life and business like Nick, it’s best to start small and work your way up. According to Pax Tandon, Ph.D., a Philadelphia-based positive psychology expert, you can take your first small step by changing the way you breathe. Breathing mindfully will help combat the fear and anxiety that may stop you from getting to your workout. Don't forget to breathe To begin, try this breathing exercise: Count four seconds to inhale, hold for four counts, then exhale for six counts. As you inhale, concentrate on breathing in positives like optimism, calm and positivity; as you hold, clear your mind and breathe out negative emotions like stress and anger. Practice this cycle for one minute a day to start. Then, increase the minutes you practice as you get more comfortable. Eventually, muscle memory takes over and you will begin to naturally breathe mindfully. This process will bring calming oxygen to your brain and inspire a trend: Your breathing will help you make it to your workouts and your workouts will help you develop your breathing even more, which will help you tackle further ventures outside your comfort zone. “[Without breathing mindfully] we end up in states of panic or fear. The breath gets very shallow and short, which works against us,” Pax says. Another positive step, Ariane points out, is that changing damaging thought patterns may help you push your limits. One pattern that may need to be countered is comparison syndrome—bringing yourself down by comparing yourself with others. Ariane advises that you remember everyone’s process and strengths are different. You can oust the comparative mindset with gratitude and self-appreciation by performing daily gratitude lists and viewing your weaknesses as strengths. Instead of thinking “I wish my body were different,” try “I appreciate what my body does for me.” For Samantha, who sometimes deals with comparison syndrome in yoga class or on Facebook, staying focused on her own accomplishments—and deleting the Facebook app from her phone to minimize her feelings of FOMO (fear of missing out)—helps the 33-year-old entrepreneur sidestep these comparison traps. But despite the challenges you may encounter along the way, taking yourself out of your comfort zone is certainly worthwhile. “It makes you a different person,” Samantha says. Carimé Lane is a Vancouver-based freelance writer. Several years ago she found the sport of boxing, which never fails to push her outside her comfort zone.
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Get Better Sleep to Thrive at Work

Do you sleep at least eight hours every night? If not, here’s what may be happening to you. You are more likely to: Take longer to do your work. Come up with fewer and less accurate solutions to work problems. Choose easier work (like listening to voice messages) over harder work (like creative problem solving and planning) Be much less creative and strategic. Say that you don’t like your job and other things in your life (a general mood-depressing effect of less sleep). Act in unethical ways, like padding a travel expense report. And the worst part? When you are sleep deprived, you don’t recognize that you are sleep deprived and suffering the effects that go along with it. For example, if you’re driving, you may think you’re still in control of the car even when you’re sleepy, but you’re not. We are not good judges of our own abilities at that point. The previous examples come from a powerful book released this fall, Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams, by University of California, Berkeley professor Matthew Walker, Ph.D. According to Matthew, the most important step you can take is to start going to bed and waking up at the same time each day. How do you know if you’re getting enough sleep? Matthew suggests asking yourself these questions: Are you sleeping eight hours per day? Can you wake up every day without an alarm clock? If around 10 or 11 a.m., someone offered you a cozy sleeping area, would you take them up on that? Do you need your coffee before noon to function optimally? The Biggest Snoozer In the TV show The Biggest Loser, contestants compete to see who can shed the most weight by the end of the season. At many companies, employees hold contests where each week they encourage one another to make healthy food choices and to exercise, often donating the weekly kitty to charity or a fun team-building event. What if you started a competition at your workplace called "The Biggest Snoozer?" Instead of tracking the number of pounds lost, you could track the number of hours slept. Imagine how much more productive and happy you would all be. No more cranky bosses. No more finger-pointing because someone didn’t make a deadline. No more angry outbursts because someone is dead-tired. In the book, Matthew shows how your basic health may be affected by not getting enough ZZZs, drawing relationships between shorter sleep and the common cold, immunity problems, and even cancer and heart disease. Our advice for getting a good night’s sleep and feeling refreshed the next day? Margaret suggests eliminating caffeine. Or, if you really must have it, don’t drink it after 1 p.m. And shut down screens, be it computer or TV, starting at least one hour before bedtime. Senia recommends getting into bed by 9:30 p.m. If you read in bed, try a real book, not an e-book, to avoid the bright screen. Turn the lights off by 10:30 p.m. Read more: 8 Expert Tips for Better, More Restful Sleep MARGARET H. GREENBERG and SENIA MAYMIN, Ph.D., are sought-after executive coaches, speakers and positive psychology practitioners, and the authors of the bookProfit From the Positive. Find more information about their coaching and certificate programs atProfitFromthePositive.com.
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Keep the Change

Linda Allen was 9 years old when she decided she wanted to join the baseball team. Unfazed by the fact that no girl had ever been allowed on the all-boy team, she asked the coach what skills she’d need, then set an ambitious goal. After two months of practicing and focusing solely on her goal, she tried out. Not only did Linda become the first girl ever to make the team, but she snagged the coveted second baseman spot just as she’d envisioned. “My parents instilled it in me to set my goals high, work hard and never settle for less,” says Linda, now a successful insurance agent in Fort Worth, Texas. “Even then, I knew if I walked onto the field with no preparation, I would have failed.” That valuable lesson set the stage for Linda’s future. She has seen goal setting work in both her personal and professional life, and also raised her sons to use goal setting in everything from academics to their careers. “It’s not rocket science,” she says. “You create a system that works for you and then own it and use it.” Set realistic goals As a new year begins and many people make all-or-nothing resolutions (lose 20 pounds!) in hopes of creating change in their lives, experts instead encourage us to set goals with a clear plan. For example, create a weekly exercise plan and stick to it; and start cooking at least four meals a week at home. The numbers back up the experts; while just 8 percent of resolutions are successfully kept, people who set goals show a success rate of 90 percent. “Even if the goal doesn’t happen the way you wanted, by using the planning and execution, you know you have given it your best,” Linda says. “So you don’t feel like a failure, you readjust and win with the best outcome possible for you.” Understand the "Why" of goal-setting Knowing what drives us to set goals, and why they’re important, may affect how we structure our goal-setting process. “The thing that encourages us to set goals is that we see some gap in our lives,” explains Jan Stanley, who has a master’s of applied positive psychology from University of Pennsylvania and has helped organizations and Fortune 500 companies develop goal-setting strategies. The first key, she says, is to make sure our goals and values align. “We all have things we hold dear, whether it’s our family, saving the planet or just wanting to get more out of life,” Jan explains. Examining what’s important to you personally, and then using those values-based intentions to create goals, builds the foundation for successfully setting attainable targets. When Linda makes a goal, she defines it, writes down the steps needed to reach it and then prioritizes those steps so she can make them part of her daily actions. According to Jan, that method is exactly what it takes to make our goals more accessible. Make it part of a routine “One of the things that is so powerful about implementing actionable steps into our routine is that we know what we’re going to do today,” Jan says. “Now we’re no longer wondering what we should or could do; we know what we need to do today to reach that long-term goal.” Much-cited research from Edwin A. Locke, Ph.D., a pioneer in goal-setting theory, shows that the more specific the goal, the better the individuals trying to reach that target will do. As you work toward your goal, several things happen in your brain that propel you toward success. Each day you follow that routine, you reinforce it as a habit and gain momentum. And, when you accomplish your daily objective, your dopamine system—the neurotransmitter that doles out rewards—creates a feeling of pleasure and satisfaction, which is important to keep your brain’s motivation and incentive high. That’s important to keep us going, Jan says. “We have these lofty goals of what we want to accomplish, but there’s so much work to do and so many off-ramps that can divert our attention,” she explains. “If we have a way for our brains to experience rewards throughout the process, we’re more likely to keep with it.” Think of scaling Mount Everest: It’s not going to happen in a day, so it’s the day-to-day progress that keeps you motivated. Setting yourself up for success As much as we’ve been taught to dial in to our willpower, it may be our brainpower that proves to be the stronger ally when it comes to setting and achieving goals. Learning to use creative techniques, like visualization, can help prime your brain for accomplishing that goal. “When we envision something happening, our brain treats it as something we’ve already done,” Jan explains. “That’s why psychologists work with athletes to envision themselves doing things like breaking through the tape first. Our brains can’t tell the difference between when you’re visualizing it and when you’re actually doing it.” You can reinforce that visualization by writing about it. The Best Possible Future Self writing exercise, developed by Laura King, Ph.D., of the University of Missouri, Columbia, has become a popular practice for achieving goals. Its effectiveness lies in connecting your sense of accomplishment with a clear-cut vision of what the future looks like, Jan says. In this exercise, participants write in vivid detail what their lives will look like when that goal is achieved. They describe how they feel and what they’re doing. The writing becomes a sort of road map for the future and makes it easier to detfine what steps should be taken and can help establish priorities. In other words, it becomes an outline for your own personal success. “Most of us really want to make a contribution with our lives,” Jan notes. “Can we be happy without ever setting goals? Maybe. But when you’re looking at making a contribution and finding meaning in your life, goals help clarify that contribution, and outline the steps we need to take to make it happen.” Listen to our podcast, How to Make Better Resolutions With Jan Stanley, here. Paula Felps is the Science Editor for Live Happy.
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4 Tips to Raise High-Achieving Kids

When I was a new mom, I met a couple I’ll call the Jacksons whose primary goal was to raise their children to become achievement-oriented adults. While this is a common wish for parents, the Jacksons had a fairly extreme way of going about it. When their son was less than a year old, the Jacksons initiated a family policy that no one was to give him anything; if he wanted something, he had to learn to get it for himself. The Jacksons truly believed that if their child had just the bare minimum (of food, clothing, etc.) and was always in need, he would be motivated to find a way to get whatever he wanted on his own—setting him on the path to eventual success. In contrast, many “helicopter parents” harbor the same dreams for their children and yet lean toward the opposite extreme by hovering—offering too much guidance and praise. My experience has been that both of these parenting styles ultimately may do a disservice to children and impede their confidence and success. As a therapist, I suggest a middle-ground approach to parenting that yields the best outcomes for children in terms of success, psychological well-being and self-confidence. Albert Bandura, a psychologist and expert in cognitive development, developed the concept of “self-efficacy”—the way people view themselves as capable and productive makes a tremendous difference in their success. The best way for parents to help children accomplish this is by providing appropriate guidance, support and praise, while allowing for experimentation and even failure. The following key elements are essential for raising children to become motivated, successful and goal-oriented adults. Read more: Which Kind of Goal-Setter Are You? 1. Help kids build confidence in themselves Believing in yourself builds confidence, improves self-esteem and makes both children and adults take more risks, feel more motivated and work harder. If you want to teach your children to feel confident in who they are and their achievements, help them learn their strengths, tell them you believe in their abilities and point out both past and present successes. It may sound simple, but past achievements DO build future successes. Example: Your child is starting a new class, activity or sport. Let her know that it is normal to be worried about something new, but also that she has certain skills that she can use to apply to this new situation. Be specific about what those skills are and give examples of when she has used those skills successfully. 2. Help them understand the "Why" I have heard so many parents utter the following overused phrases: “because I said so,” “you have to do that because it’s your homework assignment” or “the coach/teacher/tutor/school said so.” While each of these statements may be true, they do not explain the reasons or benefits of doing that task. Homework builds skills, allows for practice and teaches concepts outside of the classroom. Our children need to understand these reasons, not simply that they have a duty. Example: Your child says, “I don’t like to read. I think it is boring and I am not good at it.” You respond that it’s OK, not everyone likes reading, but reading is important. You make it clear that as he grows older there will be lots of things he will need to read and understand, and the only way to do that is to practice. Read more: Making Motivation Work 3. Teach kids to look inward for competition and achievement Goal-oriented children learn that trying to do better than they did yesterday and the day before is much more important than trying to be equal to or greater than someone else. Each of us has a unique set of skills and abilities, and we need to focus on honing them so that we can maximize our own growth. During the recent Olympics in Rio, it was clear that swimmer Michael Phelps’ disappointment in his London performance in 2012 was a stronger motivation to excel than any rivalry. Example: Your child says, “Johnny is better than I am at math” or “Alexandra runs so much faster than I do.” The response should be something like the following: “Johnny and Alexandra will be better at some things than you are, and you will be better at other things than they are; we do not need to compare. Instead, let’s talk about how much faster you are than you were in second grade and figure out how we can help you get faster before next year.” 4. Help kids set reasonable goals and make plans to accomplish them Goal setting starts at an early age. It begins when kids learn to do homework before watching TV, or how to clean their rooms and make their beds in an efficient and effective way. As parents, we need to teach our kids what types of goals are reasonable and then help them strategize a way to get them accomplished. Example: Your child has a big project due in two weeks. You sit down with her to discuss how long it will take, what days she will work on it and the best way to get it done well. Then follow up with her to make sure she is keeping on schedule. If we as parents can provide support and guidance while giving kids the stepping stones to develop their own confidence and self-esteem—and let them learn their own lessons through experience—they will be well on their way to success. Read more: Are You Making This Common Parenting Mistake? Stacy Kaiser is a licensed psychotherapist, author, relationship expert and media personality. She is also the author of the best-selling book, How to Be a Grown Up: The Ten Secret Skills Everyone Needs to Know, and an editor-at-large for Live Happy. Stacy is a frequent guest on television programs such as Today and Good Morning America.
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