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4 Ways to Help When Someone You Love Has Breast Cancer

The horrible part about cancer is that, well, you have cancer. But the beautiful part (yes, there is a beautiful part) is that it opens your eyes to the kindness of human beings. Going through breast cancer in 2011 exposed me to an immeasurable amount of love that I never would’ve seen had I not had cancer. Friends and neighbors helped my family and me when I was recovering from surgery and chemotherapy in ways that mean more than I can explain. And the great thing is, these are gifts that will live on in my memory forever. When someone you love or care about faces a challenge such as breast cancer, it’s natural to want to do what you can to help. All too often, though, we aren’t sure exactly what it is we can do. Here are four things you can give to help ease the journey of someone facing cancer. 1. Time One thing you lose as a cancer patient is time. I lost about three weeks recovering from a bilateral mastectomy, and at least a week, if not more, recovering from each round of chemotherapy. Gifts that gave me a little time back meant so much. The meals people made for us meant we didn’t have to spend time cooking. The groceries people bought for us and left on our front porch meant we didn’t have to spend time at the grocery store. There are many ways to help a cancer patient carve out a little more time so that they can spend their healthier-feeling moments with family. (Idea: Help your loved one save time cleaning by sending a maid service to their house.) 2. Food When I was fighting cancer, the way to my heart was through the stomach. Not necessarily my stomach, because I was often nauseated and had no appetite, but through my family’s bellies. I was too weak and too sick to cook most nights, and my husband was busy juggling our 1-year-old and 3-year-old. Every meal people prepared, sent or ordered made us feel loved and supported. Those meals also took a lot of the decision-making stress off of us. (Idea: Set up a neighborhood meal-planning calendar.) My co-workers also collected several dozen gift cards to different restaurants—everything from pizza-delivery joints and ice cream shops to higher-end sit-down restaurants. My husband, children and I definitely put these to good use while I was sick, but those gift cards went further than that. When other family members came to help us, we used the gift cards to help feed them, too. Virtually every bite of food I ate during that time came from the kindness of co-workers and friends who fed me during a really crappy year. 3. Presence In endurance running, there are pacers: people who run alongside the race participant for certain distances to make sure he or she is safe and not too tired to complete the race. During my endurance run with cancer, there wasn’t a single point in my race where I didn’t have a pacer right there with me. I believe every cancer patient needs pacers. My pacers visited me in the hospital. They made cookies for the nursing staff that took care of me after surgery. They sent me DVDs in the mail. They checked in and asked how we were doing. They didn’t need to be physically present; even Facebook messages letting us know they were pulling for us or thinking of us were helpful, encouraging and needed. (Idea: Send your friend who has cancer a heartfelt text or email.) 4. Money As a breast cancer survivor, nothing irritates me quite like pink-washing during October. You know what I mean: “Buy this pink box of mac ‘n’ cheese and a portion of sales will go to breast cancer research.” Please, go ahead and buy that specially marked box of macaroni and cheese if you need it, but don’t let the pink ribbons drive your decision. If you want to give to a cause that advances patient care or cancer research, that’s a noble desire—but spend your money in a meaningful way. Donate to something that actually advances research or supports patient care. A quick Google search for “how to tell if a charity is legitimate” yields a number of results that can help you determine where to donate. Or consider donating to a research hospital in your area. Most research hospitals have a foundation that raises money specifically for research or patient-care programs taking place at their facility. Generally, if these smaller regional studies are funded and the research yields promising results, it generates interest among much larger donors. Having been on the receiving end of these four types of generosity, I can also say that even if all you have to give are a few words of support—anything to let that person know you’re thinking of them—give them. Your loved one needs to hear them. Read Melanie's earlier blog: Surviving Breast Cancer, Cynicism Intact Read more: The Science of Post-Traumatic Growth October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. To learn more go to the National Breast Cancer Awareness website. Melanie Medina is a breast cancer survivor and freelance writer who loves dog breeds that end with "doodle."
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Are You Facing Your Addictions?

September is National Recovery Month, which makes this a good time to both celebrate those who have been successful with recovery and to stop and learn how we can avoid falling into the trap of addiction and dependence. Addiction is defined as the habitual or compulsive surrender to a substance or activity. If you have an addiction or struggle with substance abuse, it can have an enormous influence on your happiness, success and productivity. It can even impact perceptions and behaviors. The Roots of Addiction One cause of addiction is the need to escape. Drugs, alcohol and other activities provide vehicles for denial and avoidance of real life. This particular form of escapism, however, never works in the long term. Instead, those who become addicted ultimately end up hurting themselves and others—often in life-altering ways. Much like a baby craves a bottle, pacifier or favorite blanket, adults have a similar pull toward various substances and activities that give them happiness and comfort. When this pull becomes an insatiable need and interferes with daily functioning, it is considered an addiction. Three elements combine to help create an addict: genetics, upbringing and the social factor (for example, you have a workplace where everyone goes out drinking together and drug use is condoned if not encouraged). If one of these is already present in your life, you should be cautious: the seeds of addiction are there. If two are present, there is a higher chance you could become an addict. If you have all three, you’ll need to be vigilant in order to avoid falling into addiction. Warning Signs Is there a substance you use or activity you engage in frequently that pulls you away from relationships, success, accomplishments or hinders your life? Whatever is causing you to pull away from other activities or people you once enjoyed needs to be examined. If something compulsive is getting in the way of you leading a fulfilling and satisfying life, follow this rule: Assess it and address it. Here are some of the best ways to do that: Listen to the voice. Almost every addict remembers a certain point right before things got bad when a small voice in his or her head said, “I think I might be an alcoholic/drug addict/compulsive overeater/sex addict.” Do not ignore this little voice. Give yourself time to question and assess whether you think you have a problem and work toward improving the behavior you are worried about. Get support. A support system is key when it comes to potentially addictive behaviors. If you are not sure whether you really have a problem, ask five trusted people: Do you think I shop too much? Drink too much? If a quorum of them says yes, it is worth examining. Call a professional. If you reach the point where you're doing something that is harming you and you cannot stop, it is time for professional help. When it comes to something as powerful as addiction, many of us do not have the proper tools to handle it—but professionals do. Reach out to a medical doctor, mental-health professional, religious leader or a 12-step group. In times of struggle, it is important to seek others and get the help we need. Keep good company. Role models are key when it comes to maximizing our potential in any area of life. When it comes to addiction or potential addiction, consider who you spend your time with. In order to recover, or stop from becoming addicted in the first place, you may need to change the company you keep. Make sure you spend time with people who model positive behavior and lead a high-functioning life. As the month of September comes to a close, I encourage each of you to take a good look at your behaviors and how they impact your life. There is no better time than the present to work on improving any weaknesses that might be getting in your way. For all of those working on their recovery, I salute you—it is not easy, but it is worth it. Find your peaceful and healthy place and visit it often. Read more: 5 Reasons to Stop Hating Your Body Read more: Do You Have These Hidden Symptoms of Depression? Stacy Kaiser is a Southern California-based licensed psychotherapist, author, relationship expert and media personality. She is also the author of How to Be a Grown Up: The Ten Secret Skills Everyone Needs to Know, and editor at large for Live Happy.
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Train Your Brain for Happiness

Last year, my daughters and I surprised my husband by gifting him with the cutest puppy you’ve ever seen. He was thrilled! The tiny fur ball was calm and snuggly and eager to please—for about a week. As she became more comfortable in the family, though, she began to test her boundaries. For those of you who have ever raised a puppy (or a child, for that matter), you will understand how shocking it can be when your perfect angel gets that first glint of mischief in his or her eye. The morning that this happened to me, I was running late for work (of course), and my puppy was taking an epic morning stroll, looking for the perfect spot to do her business. The moment she finished, I swooped in impatiently to pick her up, and my cuddly lump of fur looked me square in the eye and did a side-lunge-juke to evade me! Not only that, but she squeezed through my fence and dashed into my neighbor’s muddy garden with the joyful bound of a gazelle. I chased after her; I scolded her; I used my high-pitch-fake-happy voice; I even tried to trick her into coming with a treat. But in that moment, I realized with chagrin that I had never bothered to teach my puppy the all-important recall command “come,” as in, “come here right now, darn it!” Assuming that she would always be a pliable lump of snuggly fur, I had underestimated my puppy’s developing mind and the need for attention training. Our Puppy Brains Likewise, our brains can behave like untrained puppies at times. Sometimes, we fail to train our brains to “come” when called, assuming that our minds operate on autopilot and always act in our best interest. Yet, as we all know from personal experience, when challenges arise, our bodies aren’t always well trained to respond on command. Sometimes our bodies take over, resorting to a “fight or flight” response. And instead of behaving in our best interest, our mind begins acting like a mischievous puppy on the run. We haven’t taught our minds how to listen to us obediently because we either didn’t even know it was possible or had no idea how to do so. Fortunately, the last two decades of research in the field of positive psychology have revealed that training our brains is not only possible, but that doing so can actually change the shape and function of our brains by improving neural plasticity (you can, in fact, teach an old dog new tricks); increase gray matter (the density of brain cells that drive how fast you can move, learn, and sense things around you); and strengthen neural networks (the pathways for our brain to talk to itself and the rest of the body). A recent study of mindfulness in the workplace found that the ability to step back from automatic, habitual reactions (those fight-or-flight responses) is highly predictive of work engagement and well-being. For instance, if you often feel your blood starting to boil when you hear a colleague down the hall talking too loudly on the phone, metacognition and mindfulness give you the power to choose a different reaction—perhaps taking a deep breath, using the opportunity to go for a walk, or listening to your favorite music. Mindfulness also creates positive job-related benefits, higher levels of engagement and increased psychological capital (hope, optimism, resiliency and self-efficacy), all of which may lead to more success at work. Specifically, a positive and engaged brain is 31 percent more productive, three times more creative and ten times more engaged. To reap these benefits, we need to actually train our brains for positivity. In the same way that you might go to the gym to exercise different muscle groups, so can you intentionally develop different skill sets that improve your overall sense of well-being and happiness. One of my favorite brain-training programs is called Happify.com (it’s free!). Happify uses colorful, fun games that are grounded in research to teach core positive psychology principles. Here are a few of my favorite brain-training activities on the platform: Need help focusing on the positive? A game called “Uplift” teaches your brain to scan the environment for the positive, thereby improving your mood and reducing negative thinking. As hot-air balloons float by, click on words like “joy” or “radiant” while ignoring words like “criticize” or “angry.” 
 Searching for a way to relax? Choose the “Serenity Scene” activity. Perfect for someone feeling overwhelmed with
a long to-do list, these guided relaxation tracks can help people unwind, feel less anxious, and get a fresh charge of energy (grounded in brain-scan research). 
 Want games for your children to try? “Negative Knockout” is an Angry Birds–like game where you use a slingshot to destroy words that describe your biggest challenges that day. 
Two months after regularly using the platform, 86 percent of users report feeling significantly happier. This impressive statistic highlights how technology can create positive change in our lives, enabling us to rise above our genes and environment to tap into our greater potential. 
 Happify is one of the best comprehensive resources for brain training that I have found; however, there are numerous apps, gadgets and devices for brain training that are worth exploring as well. To download a full list of my favorite brain-training apps, gadgets and devices, amyblankson.com/braintrain. Training your brain is not just a hobby for overachievers; it’s a leadership strategy. Whether you are a CEO, summer intern, corporate employee, graduate student, athlete or parent, these training skill sets are the building blocks of positive habit change in your life. It’s time to start training our minds now—and just like with puppies, the sooner we can start training ourselves, the better. Read more by Amy Blankson: Let Technology Lift Your Life and The Internet of Things Brings the Future Home. Listen to our podcasts with Amy: How to Declutter With Digital Spring Cleaning and The Future of Happiness.
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The Healing Power of Yoga

I was only 6 years old when I discovered what I wanted to do with my life. I wanted to save people who were sick. I wanted to make them strong so that they could be their own heroes. Not the kind with capes and X-ray vision, but those who realize their power to take charge of their health and live their best lives. Those who make their health a priority and implement important life changes to achieve greater health and happiness. Health Heroes. I want to create a world full of them. It’s what drives me to this day. Two of the best ways to achieve a healthier life are through movement and spirituality. Each is an important tool in your fight against disease and premature death. That’s why yoga is such a powerful ally to any Health Hero; it serves as a bridge connecting your physical and mental well-being. Strengthen Your Body Practicing yoga can result in significant improvement to your physical health. As part of your daily routine, yoga will likely transform your body into one that is firmer, leaner and stronger. However, some of the most impressive benefits happen beneath the surface. When you practice regularly, you increase your chances for lower blood pressure, improved cardiovascular health, better flexibility, greater muscle strength, perfected posture, better pulmonary function, lower blood sugar, boosted immunity and improved bone health (critical to warding off osteoporosis). Transform Your Mind When people think “health,” they tend to think only about the body. But a Health Hero knows that your mind is your greatest power. What’s amazing is that the simple practice of cultivating your mind can actually improve your health and happiness and add years to your life! Think of yoga as a workout for your soul. You need to condition it, like a muscle, in order to develop and grow stronger. Because yoga clears your mind of distracting “noise,” it creates space in which new things can develop. You become empowered to discover yourself on a much more intimate level. Your personal strengths and desires become easier to identify. It becomes easier for you to focus and get creative. That alone leads you down a path to new ideas, solutions and purpose. We know that stress is a silent killer, but did you know that yoga is the ultimate stress reducer? When you begin to breathe deeply and focus on your poses, you reduce anxiety. You enter a more relaxed state and calm your nervous system, diminishing the fight-or-flight response. Yoga is believed to combat depression. In fact, a study published March 16 in PLOS ONE concludes that eight weeks of twice-weekly, 90-minute hatha yoga sessions can significantly reduce the severity of depressive symptoms. Even your romantic relationship can improve. When you’re centered and more connected with yourself, you’re able to be that same way with your partner. A Life Reimagined Imagine how your life could change if your body and mind transformed in these ways. What would you do differently with improved health, extra endurance, less anxiety, more focus and a greater sense of purpose? You’d probably be able to enjoy life in entirely new ways. My Prescriptions for a Healthy Body and Soul Make the commitment to move with purpose every day. Even a few minutes of yoga will do the trick. If you’re stuck at work or have limited time to yourself, opt for an easy yet effective yoga pose that can quickly be done at home or in the office (try cat pose, forward fold and seated twist, as shown in the accompanying illustrations). A chair or a place to stand is all you need. Practice yoga every day, and the repetition will intensify the physical and mental health benefits while creating an ever-deepening spiritual connection. I encourage you to use the power of yoga to improve your mind-body wellness and continue your journey toward a healthier and more purposeful life. Recognize that your health comes first and give yourself permission to make it a priority. When you give yourself this most important gift, you’ll be taking that first step to becoming a true Health Hero. The light in me honors the light in you. Namaste. Read more: Become Your Own Health Hero Listen to our podcast: Health and Happiness With Dr. Partha Nandi DR. PARTHA NANDI is the creator and host of the internationally syndicated, award-winning medical lifestyle television show Ask. Dr. Nandi and author of the book Ask Dr. Nandi: 5 Steps to Becoming Your Own #HealthHero for Longevity, Well-Being, and a Joyful Life.
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5 Steps to Fulfill Your Purpose

One of the key elements of a flourishing, fulfilling life is a sense of purpose that allows us to find our passions, pursue important goals and ultimately live lives of authentic happiness. Most of us go about our lives without actively thinking about what purpose we are trying to accomplish. However, there are steps we can take to develop a more deliberate awareness of our goals and achieve lives of meaning. 1. Define your goals. First, be clear about your purpose and intentions: Who do you want to be? How do you want to live? What do you want to do? How are you going to do it? Then explore the roads that lead to your goals and the obstacles in your way. Often, these obstacles will become opportunities for growth and change. Purpose is about intention—having goals that help build the framework for your plans and fulfillment in life. Those goals can be large or small in scope. If you want to eat more healthfully, you’ll be motivated to buy more fruits and vegetables. If you want to have a positive effect on the environment, learn more about the issues and join like-minded people so you can get your cause on the next ballot. 2. Look at the big picture, then fill in the details. From the time you are small, those around you—from your parents to the society at large—influence you, tell you what is important and how they expect you to live. While these influences can be helpful, it is crucial to find your own meaning and purpose. The easiest way to begin is to look at the big picture and then work out the small details. Recently, I began working with a client I will call Kelly. Kelly was raised by a single mother who barely scraped by financially. If it weren’t for the help of close friends and community organizations, Kelly felt she would not be the successful businesswoman she has become. In a big-picture sense, Kelly decided her purpose in life should involve giving back to others. She began to think about ways she could give back. The most obvious was to write a check, but that did not feel like it would fulfill her true intention. After some reflection together, we came up with a plan to give back in three categories: money, hands and heart. The money was the checks she would write to deserving organizations. Her hands would dish out food at a local shelter on Saturdays. Her heart came into play when she aligned with Big Brothers Big Sisters of America and mentored a young girl. Her tactical goals led to the fulfillment of her overarching purpose in life. 3. Consult your morals and values. If you want to live with purpose, you need to understand and explore what you value most. If you value teaching children, you can focus on that area. If you value creating beauty, you can grow a beautiful garden or express yourself through art or music. If you value helping others, we can find a way to make that happen. 4. Use strengths and build up weaknesses. Often we need the weaker parts of ourselves in order to accomplish what we desire. If you feel stuck in an unsatisfying job because you are averse to risk-taking, work on building up your courage. If you struggle with time management and don’t have time to add volunteer responsibilities you’re interested in, work on your organizational skills and start small with just an hour every other week. 5. Think about your legacy. Imagine what kind of legacy you would like to leave. Erik Erikson, an expert in psychological development, focused on the stages of change across the life span. He called the final stage in life “Ego Integrity vs. Despair.” This reckoning happens at the sunset of life, when you reflect on your past and decide\ what you are satisfied with and what you regret. Before getting to that stage, think about what messages you want to leave behind about who you are and what is important to you. This will help shape your purpose and goals. We all want to live a life of purpose. The key is to figure out what in life creates meaning for you, and then create goals and behaviors that support your intentions. Stacy Kaiser is a licensed psychotherapist, author, relationship expert and media personality. She is also the author of the best-selling book, How to Be a Grown Up: The Ten Secret Skills Everyone Needs to Know, and an editor at large for Live Happy. Stacy is a frequent guest on television programs such as Today and Good Morning America.
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Lifelong Education Delivers Confidence, Joy and Hope

Mark Murphy knows firsthand that learning changes lives. His conviction is so strong that the former school principal and past Delaware secretary of education founded a nonprofit devoted to helping young adults become lifelong learners. His organization, GripTape (named after the surface used to create secure footing on skateboards), encourages young adults to pursue learning challenges. There is one simple condition: Do it on your own. Challenges are self-proposed and self-directed and take place outside of traditional schooling. For example, GripTape Challenger Alphina Kamara wanted to better understand the root causes of homelessness. To do so, she created a multistep plan that included running clothing and donation drives, holding a banquet for homeless individuals in her town of Claymont, Delaware, and recruiting local organizations to help host these events. Alphina was successful in completing her project and hosting the banquet late last year. The intensity of the experience surprised her. “My journey was not without its challenges. I received a lot of rejections as I contacted organizations. But I still managed to make it fun by bringing my friends along for the journey and meeting new people and contacts who encouraged and reminded me how many people want to see young people succeed.” In doing her project, Alphina not only learned about homelessness, she gained confidence. It made me feel like I was more capable of doing more things,” she says. “The results were fascinating and empowering in a way I never could have imagined.” Through GripTape, Mark wants to create a generation of lifelong learners like Alphina, individuals with the unfailing agency to make intentional choices about what and how they learn. Why is that such an important skill heading into adulthood? Mark’s research and personal experience show that being committed to learning beyond our school years helps individuals develop both their sense of self-worth and their problem-solving skills. Something special happens when people construct their own learning paths, he says. “At GripTape, people experience the deep sense of fulfillment and accomplishment that comes with engaging in learning in its most relevant and authentic manner.” Mark believes that when we improve our knowledge and craft, our hearts and minds open in new ways. Creative juices flow. We see a new world of possibilities. As working adults with family responsibilities and busy lives, it is easy to get so caught up in the day-to-day that we feel we don’t have time to breathe, let alone to learn something new. Yet, as Alphina says, “If we are not learning, we are not growing.” Benefits of an Active Mind Scientists confirm that lifelong learning is associated with greater life satisfaction and a sense of optimism and engagement. According to the VIA Institute on Character, adults who are learning something new—by taking a class, pursuing a hobby or reading every day—report less stress and greater feelings of hope and purpose. Ryan Niemiec, Psy.D.,VIA’s director of education, explains that researchers have identified love of learning as a character strength whose expression is consistently linked to positive outcomes for oneself and others. These outcomes are present across cultures and countries and include a boost in one’s sense of possibility, an increase in seeking and accepting challenges, and aging in a healthy and productive way. Individuals who love learning are more motivated to persist through challenges, setbacks and negative feedback, Ryan says. One such individual is Byrd Helguera, age 89. More than 70 years after graduating from high school, Byrd is still intent on learning and takes regular classes at Vanderbilt University in Nashville. She’s so hooked she doesn’t even take the summers off. Understanding history, in particular, gives her perspective on an ever-changing world and keeps her engaged and interested in her place in it. “It’s good for us to know how we got here and to consider what other people are thinking and talking about. It’s really quite valuable to all of us.” The classes, which are taught by Vanderbilt professors, are part of the national Osher Lifelong Learning Institutes program. Byrd has studied literature, history, astronomy, psychology and many other topics. “I grew up in a family of teachers and my husband was a professor of history,” says Byrd, the former associate director of Vanderbilt’s Medical Center Library. “I’m always doing something to keep my mind busy. If I’m not reading, I’m playing Scrabble or doing crossword puzzles or that sort of thing.” She also belongs to a book club and writers group. “I think keeping your brain active is important to having a happy life,” she says. Ryan explains why that is. “When adults have a passion for learning, they stay open to new knowledge, rather than being stuck in a know-it-all mode. This helps us see new opportunities for ourselves—who knows what our passion for learning might lead us to in the future?” Researchers are still piecing together the links between learning, life satisfaction and having a sense of possibility. We do know that the hippocampus, an area of the brain essential to learning and related to forming and retrieving long -term memories, also plays a role in mood regulation and in our ability to imagine new situations. The hippocampus is of great interest to neuroscientists because it is where adults generate new neurons throughout their life spans. Read more: Never Stop Learning What Happens to Our Brains When We Learn? As evolutionary biologist Alison Pearce Stevens, Ph.D., has written in Science News for Students, learning physically rewires the brain. Alison explains that the millions of neurons in our brains speak to each other via chemical and electrical signals. When we learn something new and the information becomes part of long-term memory, the neurons involved in the task become more efficient at talking to each other. As they work together, their communication pathways become faster and form networks. The result is that we improve our understanding or physical skill. Scientists no longer believe that adult brains are unchangeable or in decline with age. Instead, they now know that our brains can undergo remarkable amounts of reorganization at any age. Brain plasticity, the ability to build new neurons and neural connections—that is, to change and grow—persists throughout our lives. Lara Boyd, Ph.D., is uncovering ways to harness the power of neuroplasticity to create more effective rehabilitation for victims of stroke and other brain trauma. Lara’s work as director of the Brain Behaviour Laboratory at the University of British Columbia and the Canada Research Chair in the Neurobiology of Motor Learning shows that our brains have an extraordinary capacity for change and that every experience or stimulus we encounter reorganizes our neurons. In fact, Lara would say that after reading this article, your brain will literally not be the same. Lara believes that maintaining neuroplasticity throughout adulthood is vital both to our survival and sense of fulfillment. “Learning is the key to managing our rapidly changing culture. We must keep learning in order to keep up with technology, our kids and our grandchildren,” she says. Learning is the key to managing our rapidly changing culture. We must keep learning in order to keep up with technology, our kids and our grandchildren,” Laura says. The challenge is part of the benefit, Lara says. “Learning becomes hard when we are challenging ourselves at a level that is just beyond our ability. Learning difficult tasks slows down the rate of change in behavior. This is why it feels hard. But it also increases the amount of brain plasticity.” She applies the insights of her research to her own life by making a daily effort to cultivate conditions that she and other neuroscientists know optimize brain plasticity. These include exercising regularly, sleeping seven to eight hours a night and engaging in daily mindfulness practice. Lara also prioritizes learning at work and in her free time. “Because of the rapid changes in how we map and study the brain, I am constantly learning new imaging approaches. These can be quite technological and a bit tricky, but I love challenging myself to figure them out. I am also always reading books [that have] nothing to do with my work.” Learning How to Learn With all the benefits ascribed to engaging in lifelong learning, it is no surprise that “Learning How to Learn” is one of the most popular and highest ranked massive open online courses (MOOCs) in the world, according to ClassCentral.com, a website devoted to reviews of online courses. More than 1.6 million students have completed the course. Learning How to Learn was developed and is taught by Terrence Sejnowski, Ph.D., head of the computational neurobiology lab and Francis Crick Chair at the Salk Institute, and Barbara Oakley, Ph.D., the Ramón y Cajal Distinguished Scholar of Global Digital Learning at McMaster University and a professor of engineering at Oakland University. Barbara is also author of several books, including A Mind for Numbers and Mindshift. In 2017, Terrence and Barbara followed up their successful Learning How to Learn MOOC by designing and launching a new online course called Mindshift based on Barbara’s book. Barbara went from being a failing math student in high school to earning graduate degrees in engineering and eventually becoming a college professor teaching complicated mathematical and technical concepts to others. When Barbara’s students asked how she managed to change her brain so drastically, she began seeking an answer. She spoke with engineers, cognitive scientists and neuroscientists such as Terrence. She realized that there are distinct techniques that many mathematicians and scientists use to master technical or abstract material. Barbara explains that the main message she and Terrence communicate to their students is that learning is always possible. “There are tricks and tools anyone can use to learn material that is novel to them. There is enormous possibility in how you can change as a person.” Ready to grow? Get started with the following guidelines. Tip No. 1: Think of learning as a lifestyle. As Alphina and other participants in GripTape’s Challenges can attest, learning in its most powerful and lifelong sense is much more than studying a book or sitting in a class. Matthias Gruber and his colleagues at the Center for Neuroscience at the University of California, Davis have found that being curious enables learning. Being curious sparks the physical changes in the brain that enable learning and make subsequent learning rewarding. Barbara says that being a lifelong learner “is to create your own process for acquiring knowledge and skills and actively live that process in some way every day.” Learning can be a grand project involving intense focus on one subject or skill, or it can be as simple as paying attention and asking questions about the things that you see around you. Tip No. 2: Work with your brain, not against it. In their courses, Terrence and Barbara talk about balancing the use of a diffuse and focused state of mind when trying to understand something new, especially if it is complex and technical. A diffuse state of mind is free flowing and looks for the big picture. In doing so, it enables more random connections. A focused state of mind is hyper-attentive and task-oriented. It concentrates on ordering details and blocks out extraneous information. A diffuse state of mind might help you brainstorm what to make for dinner. A focused state helps you make the shopping list and follow the recipe. In learning complex information, we need to employ both a diffuse and focused mind. The trick is knowing when to employ which mode and giving yourself the time and opportunity to switch between them. Our brains approach novel information by first trying to integrate it into our existing knowledge—a set of connections and neural networks we already have in place. When our brains cannot find any connections, we may start to struggle and get frustrated. Our initial reaction is to try harder to make a connection using our focused, detailed-oriented minds. But it is often better to back off and let the details be in our subconscious so that new neural connections can be made. Stepping back and explicitly not thinking about a topic gives the new material a chance to sink in and enables our brains to go into diffuse mode and find novel ways to connect. This is why we often suddenly think of a solution to a problem or figure something out while in the shower or taking a long walk. Tip No. 3: Rethink failure. One of the most persistent and powerful roadblocks Barbara sees in adults is a fear of failure. We tie our self-esteem to getting things right and making the grade, rather than taking pride in our persistence. At a deep level, many of us are reticent to learn something new because we are afraid of not being good at whatever we’re trying to learn. For many of us, it is hard to overcome a fundamental fear of making a fool of ourselves. We want to get things right because that was what was most often rewarded in school. We may feel pain, shame and guilt at our mistakes. Barbara reminds her students that great learners possess a general openness to letting experiences shape and affect them. They head into any undertaking with the thrill of discovery. And they have no prejudice or predetermined conceptions of the potential outcome of their experiences. With this mindset, failure can become a lot less scary. Lara’s research at the Brain Behaviour Laboratory shows that if our goal is to reap the health benefits and adaptability that comes with learning, our stumbles and failures may be the best thing for us. This is because encountering difficulty and failure encourages brain plasticity. From a neurogenesis standpoint, they are at least as valuable as our successes, if not more so. Tip No. 4: Be prepared to feel like an impostor, and then get over it. In a class, we might worry that everyone else is getting it and we are falling behind. Or we might convince ourselves that we will never be any good at the hobby we’ve taken up, or that we are not serious students or our efforts are not valid if we are doing something just for fun. Barbara says we should embrace our inner imposters. She explains, “You don’t realize you actually have something very valuable. You have a beginner’s mind that enables you to step back and be more flexible. [In learning], many more problems actually come from being overconfident than being underconfident.” Barbara might say that no true master ever feels complete in his or her knowledge. Rather, they feel engaged and energized by their learning process. Mastery is not a static end state, but a high level of ability to find ways to refine one’s knowledge and skills. This spring, Alphina achieved another milestone, giving a TEDx Talk on what it means to give young people the keys to their own learning. In her talk, Alphina spoke about the power of embracing learning in its messiest, most personal and broadest sense. Through GripTape, Alphina and her peers have learned one of life’s (and neuroscience’s) most meaningful lessons. We limit ourselves when we think that education fits neatly into a box and that it only takes place for the 12 or 16 years most of us are in school. Education at its best and most powerful is a lifelong process. Knowing this, Alphina challenges learners of all ages to ask ourselves: “What are you learning that keeps you inspired and hungry for more?” Read more: 4 Ways to Stay Engaged With Lifelong Learning —Live Happy Science Editor Paula Felps contributed to this feature. Jennifer Wheary, Ph.D., researches and writes about the possibilities of education for improving lives.
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5 Wearable Tech Devices That Increase Emotional Awareness

In ancient Greece, philosophers believed so strongly that self-knowledge was the key to human potential that they inscribed the phrase “Know Thyself” onto the sacred Temple of Apollo. Since that time, philosophers, religious leaders and authors alike have mused about the nature of humanity and our sense of self. What are humans made of? How do we experience pain? What are emotions and why do we have them? Until recently, most of the conclusions that were drawn came from external observation or speculation. However, thanks to evolving technology, we now have the ability to connect our external and internal worlds in ways that Socrates or Plato couldn’t have imagined. Now, with wearable fitness and wellness trackers, something can tell us what’s going on inside our bodies on an intellectual, emotional and even molecular level at all times. We are witnessinga new era in which people can get a personal, real-time snapshot inside their bodies to understand how stimuli like stress can increase heart rate, speed up breathing and even produce headaches. Taking your emotional temperature While many wearable technology products focus on tracking physical health, a number of wearables are now emerging specifically to assess emotional health. One of my favorite wearables, called theSpire Stone, is a small lava-shaped rock with a clip that attaches to your waistband or bra strap. It uses your breathing patterns to determine if you are feeling calm, focused or tense. As a naturally anxious person, I found this feedback loop useful. However, about five days into my trial period with Spire, this device went from fascinating to fundamentally transformative. In-Spired reality check Through a terrible series of circumstances, my 8-year-old daughter Ana broke her neck last summer in our backyard pool. Fortunately, she is now doing fine and launching back-handsprings all over the house. But at the time, I remember driving Ana to the hospital to get X-rays while wearing my Spire stone, and surprisingly, it said that I was feeling quite calm. It wasn’t until we were walking out of the hospital, with Ana in a giant neck brace, that the Spire stone began to vibrate, indicating that I was feeling tense. And I thought, “Yeah I know!! My daughter just broke her neck.” But the vibration caused me to pause and think about why I was feeling tense. I realized that I was worried about what other people would think about me as the mom of a child with a broken neck, rather than being present with Ana and supporting her as she wrestled with her new reality—a summer of no gymnastics, no lacrosse, no swimming. This 30-second feedback loop from the Spire Stone was just enough to help me reframe my thoughts and mindfully pivot to be more like the mother I wanted to be. The next generation This is technology at its finest — helping to raise our consciousness and fuel well-being through science-based solutions. And right now, so many emerging technologies coming onto the market will help us to gain insight into living happier, healthier lives. Here are a few wearables that I find particularly fascinating: Muse—a brain-sensing headband that provides real-time insight into your state of mind and teaches you how to overcome distraction Feel—a gender-neutral bracelet that uses skin conductance, body temperature and heart rate to track emotion and coach you toward greater well-being Bellabeat Leaf Urban—a bracelet, necklace or clip that measures stress, breathing patterns, sleep quality and even tracks menstrual and ovulation cycles Pip—a small handheld device that monitors changes in skin pores to track stress levels and then recommends strategies to reduce stress through activities in its companion app. If you are interested in learning about other wearables for tracking physical and emotional health, check out my bookThe Future of Happiness or visit happiness.tech for direct links to over 100 apps, gadgets and wearables dedicated to increasing well-being. Amy Blankson, aka the ‘Happy Tech Girl,’ is on a quest to help individuals balance productivity and well-being in the digital era. Amy, with her brother Shawn Achor, co-founded GoodThink, which brings the principles of positive psychology to lifeand works with organizations such as Google, NASA and the U.S. Army. Her new book is The Future of Happiness: 5 Modern Strategies for Balancing Productivity and Well-being in the Digital Era.
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Ikigai: The Secret to a Long and Happy Life

Ikigai is a Japanese concept that roughly translates to “the happiness of always being busy.” More broadly, it means having a purpose or reason for living. A new book called Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Lifewas written by Spaniards Héctor García and Francesc Miralles, who came up with the idea while chatting in a bar in Tokyo. Could ikigai, they wondered, be the reason Japan has the highest life expectancy in the world (86.8 years for women and 80.5 years for men, according to the World Health Organization), and lays claim to the highest ratio of people who live to the age of 100 or beyond? To explore that question, Héctor and Francesc decided to interview Japan’s centenarians in person. After a year of research, they decamped for Ogimi, a rural town of 3,200 on the north end of the island of Okinawa. Ogimi has been nicknamed the Village of Longevity, as people live longer here than in any other place on the planet. This distinction, of course, wouldn’t mean much if these elders turned out to be frail, sickly and depressed. But, as Héctor and Francesc discovered, the longest-living people in the world exude happiness, friendliness and a remarkable vigor. (One woman who had recently turned 104 beat the authors in gateball, a fast-paced, croquet-like sport popular among Okinawa’s older residents.) As they conducted their interviews with the eldest residents of the town, the authors recognized that something even more powerful than the area’s rich natural resources and beauty was at work: “an uncommon joy that flows from its inhabitants and guides them through the long and pleasurable journey of their lives.” Here are some regular habits that help the elders of Ogimi cultivate ikigai. They stay busy without hurrying. The older residents of Ogimi are always doing something, and they approach each activity attentively and slowly, whether preparing tea or crafting objects out of wicker. Every single elder the authors spoke to has a vegetable garden they tend to daily. As one centenarian noted, “I plant my own vegetables and cook them myself. That’s my ikigai.” They nurture connections with friends every day. Ogimi is divided into 17 neighborhoods and each one has a president and other community members in charge of things like culture, festivals, social activities and longevity. There are few restaurants and no bars in Ogimi. Instead, social life revolves around the community center where everyone gathers frequently for celebrations and events such as birthday parties, weekly gateball competitions and karaoke. Read more about Okinawa: Secrets to a Happy Life They move throughout the day. Even the Ogimi townspeople who are over 80 and 90 years old are still highly active. They don’t go to the gym or exercise intensely, but they are on the move during the course of their daily routines. Most get up early and spend an hour or so before or after breakfast tending their gardens. They meet friends for walks. And almost everyone follows a morning warm-up called “radio taiso,” gentle exercises that were first introduced to Japan through radio broadcasts in 1928. The movements, such as lifting your arms above your head and circling them to your sides, are simple and take only a few minutes. But they’re an effective, low-intensity form of dynamic stretching that helps keep residents limber. Try the calisthenics yourself with this brief video. They eat healthy foods in moderation. Okinawans, research has shown, eat a diet rich in vegetables and herbs, and low in animal products. Daily staples, like seaweed, sweet potatoes, green tea and miso, are high in antioxidants. Okinawans consume one-third as much sugar and nearly half as much salt as the rest of Japan. Locals, the authors note, eat a wide variety of foods, especially vegetables and spices—an average of 18 different foods a day. They also consume fewer calories—1,758 per day compared to 2,068 in the rest of Japan and an estimated 2,200 to 3,300 calories in the U.S. The Okinawan diet is built around nutrient-dense, low-calorie vegetables and fruits. They also subscribe to the Japanese concept of hara hachi bu, which means “fill your belly to 80 percent.” In other words, stop eating before you feel completely full. They connect with nature every day. Okinawans spend time in nature—often while moving and engaging with friends. One Ogimi centenarian sums it up this way: “I wake up at 5 every morning, leave the house and walk to the sea. Then I go to a friend’s house, and we have tea together. That’s the secret to a long life: getting together with people, and going from place to place.” Read more about global secrets for happiness: What the Heck Is Hygge? Shelley Levitt is a freelance journalist based in Los Angeles and editor at large for Live Happy. Her work has appeared in Real Simple, People, SUCCESS and more.
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33 Ideas for a More Meaningful Life

If you want to live a fulfilling life, it might be a good idea to get over yourself. When you strive to make a difference for the greater good, you can create a lifetime of happiness and joy. 1. "Like every species on Earth, we are always seeking the ideal conditions that will allow us to live to our fullest potential.” —Thich Nhat Hahn 2. Read The Power of Meaning: Crafting a Life That Matters by Emily Esfahani Smith. 3. Don't put off until tomorrow what you can do today. 4. Write that novel you keep talking about. 5. Watch Forrest Gump. 6. Listen to “Unwritten” by Natasha Bedingfield. 7. "The living self has one purpose only: to come into its own fullness of being, as a tree comes into full blossom, or a bird into spring beauty, or a tiger into luster.” —D.H. Lawrence 8. Read The Nocturnal Journal: A Late-Night Exploration of What's Really on Your Mind by Lee Crutchley. 9. Watch Peaceful Warrior.  10. Mentor a young person. 11. Listen to “Believer” by Imagine Dragons. 12. Join your local Rotary Club. 13. Read The Compassionate Achiever: How Helping Others Fuels Success by Christopher L. Kukk, Ph.D. 14. "One should not search for an abstract meaning of life. Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life to carry out a concrete assignment which demands fulfillment.” —Victor Frankl 15. Take up a team sport. 16. Watch The Fosters on Freeform. 17. Listen to “Break Free” by Ariana Grande. 18. Listen to “The Riddle” by Five for Fighting. 19. Read The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter—and How to Make the Most of Them Now by Meg Jay, Ph.D. 20. "Life lived only for oneself does not truly satisfy men or women. There is a hunger in Americans today for larger purposes beyond the self.” —Betty Friedan 21. Read Year of the Dunk: A Modest Defiance of Gravity by Asher Price. 22. Explore your artistic side. 23. Watch This Is Us on NBC. 24. Discover a worthwhile hobby. 25. Read The Self-Love Experiment: 15 Principles for Becoming More Kind, Compassionate, and Accepting of Yourself by Shannon Kaiser. 26. "Even more than giving is the capacity for us to do something smarter for the greater good that lifts us both up.” —Kare Anderson 27. Watch Hidden Figures. 28. Never bowl alone. 29. Lead by example. 30. Read Ageless Soul: The Lifelong Journey Toward Meaning and Joy by Thomas Moore. 31. Create Blessing Bags filled with necessary items for the homeless. 32. Set a goal for yourself...and achieve it. 33. "But when we focus on others, our world expands. Our own problems drift to the periphery of the mind and so seem smaller, and we increase our capacity for connection—or compassionate action.” —Daniel Goleman
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4 Ways to Stay Engaged With Lifelong Learning

Learning shouldn’t stop when you graduate from high school or get a college diploma. While it’s true that our brains go through a period of rapid growth and development during our late teens and early 20s, we continue to mature, understand the world and, hopefully, learn new skills throughout our entire lives. The more nourishment we give our brains in the form of experiences and information—whether that means taking a class in French cooking, learning origami or becoming addicted to a smart political podcast—the more it keeps us nimble and youthful. When we engage in lifelong learning, not only do we gain insight about the wider world, we also get a better understanding of ourselves. Plus, we reap other benefits, such as a sense of vitality, meaning and fulfillment. Lifelong learning doesn’t just mean going back to school to get a Ph.D. (though some people may choose to do that). Don’t know where to start? Here are four options to consider. Just follow your interests and see where they take you. 1. Listen and learn. We are living through a golden age of audio with multiple options for every listener. Podcasts have opened up a new world of listening and learning, and the best part is that they’re available anytime, anywhere. If you are new to the podcast world, it can be overwhelming; there are just so many to choose from, including comedy shows and plenty of true crime. But lots of podcasts are truly educational. You’ll find options for grammar geeks, history hounds and classic film buffs. Start with names and media outlets you may already know, such as the TED Radio Hour, The New York Times, Malcolm Gladwell or our own Live Happy Podcast. The only limit is your free time. Before podcasts there were audio books, which are still going strong thanks to Audible and other streaming programs. Local libraries also offer a selection to borrow for free. Sometimes it is just easier to listen to a book than to read one—especially if you have a long commute, or spend a lot of time cooking and folding laundry. Read more: 8 Ways to Find Your Own Tribe 2. Watch and learn. Some of us are visual learners, and watching a human being talk helps us assimilate information better than if we just listened to a disembodied voice. We watch their expressions and body language; we take a journey along with this person. There are now thousands of TED Talks on innumerable subjects, from how to recycle Styrofoam to how computers will grow our food in the future. Instead of looking to user’s manuals for instructions, we now look to YouTube videos for everything from tips for riding your new road bike to DIY green cleaning. Education can be as close as your phone. Download an app such as Duolingo to begin learning a new language. A longtime proponent of lifelong learning, The Learning Company offers The Great Courses, a series of long-term classes on subjects that range from the Ottoman Empire to Optimizing Brain Fitness, taught by Ph.D.s who are leaders in their fields. For most of the courses, you have a choice of media: DVD, CD, audio, or video download, priced accordingly. Here is a TED Talk from Live Happy contributor Amy Blankson about how to maintain your happiness in the digital era. 3. Find an online course. Digital learning is now easier than ever thanks to MOOCs: Massive Open Online Courses. These are varied in scope, convenient and usually inexpensive. You can take a one-time class online, sign up for a professional certificate, or even earn a degree. For example, if you are looking for an online course in positive psychology, we’ve got you covered. Start here for an online education: Founded by Harvard and MIT in 2012, EDx is a non-profit clearinghouse of high-quality online courses offered for free (with additional certificates at a cost). It is a pretty amazing resource. Coursera is another large MOOC clearinghouse offering courses from Duke, Stanford, UPenn and other prestigious universities. You register to pay monthly and can take any course. Recently bought by LinkedIn, which was gobbled up by Microsoft, Lynda.com offers tons of useful professional video courses—mainly in computer, web, business and related fields. Learn to edit video, use WordPress or code in HTML. Lynda is a great resource for those who want to polish their digital skills, or even your grandmother who would like to use Word shortcuts. Sign up for a yearly fee and take as many classes as you like. Read more: 5 Ways to Get in Touch With Your Higher Calling 4. Attend a class in the ‘real world.’ Online courses have made staying home a tempting option for adult education, but in truth, nothing beats being there in person, in the presence of the teacher and other students where, at its best, you’ll find an atmosphere of intellectual dialogue. Many universities, colleges and community colleges offer some form of continuing education. The Bernard Osher Foundation has made an incredible commitment to lifelong learning, helping to fund specialized institutes at more than 100 universities. (Check this list to see if there is one near you.) Courses are most often taught by Ph.D.s and other specialists in their fields. Churches, Jewish Community Centers and community recreation centers sometimes offer classes such as bible study, religious history, and computer literacy for seniors at low or no cost. Taking a class is not the only way to continue learning. Developing a hobby or pursuing a passionate interest such as yoga or dance can produce the same life-enhancing effects. Seek out a local crafts guild to take a pottery or painting class, or a 4H or university extension that teaches gardening or animal husbandry. Another way to learn and grow in the real world: volunteering. If you are passionate about books, volunteer at the library, or read to someone who is vision-impaired. You love to cook? Volunteer at your local Meals on Wheels. You’ll learn as much about the other volunteers—from all walks of life—as you will about food. To understand why lifelong learning is so important for our well-being, check out the feature article in the October 2017 issue of Live Happy magazine. Emily Wise Miller is the Web Editor for Live Happy.
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