Maya Rudolph TV show

Maya Rudolph Takes Charge

Some people find the key to happiness on a mountaintop. Others on a meditation cushion or a yoga mat. For Maya Rudolph, the epiphany that changed her life took place in the makeup trailer of the 2011 blockbuster comedy Bridesmaids. “In my younger years,” the actress-comedian and mother of four begins as she recounts the turning point, “I was always searching for happiness, always looking for a better moment. I used to think that happiness was something that you could bump against or a room that you walked into. Knowing how to be present and happy with where you are and who you’re with and what you’ve got was an important lesson for me and the biggest thing I want to teach my children.” The Bridesmaids' epiphany Fast forward to the making of Bridesmaids. With Maya as a bride-to-be, Kristen Wiig as her maid of honor and Melissa McCarthy, Rose Byrne, Ellie Kemper and Wendi McLendon-Covey as the rest of her bridal party, getting ready for each day’s shoot was like prepping for a real-life wedding. “We had this insanely long makeup trailer where the six of us would get our hair and makeup done,” Maya says. “You’re always tired because the call time was an ungodly 5:30 or 6 a.m. I was especially grumpy because I’m not a morning person, and my second daughter was only 7 months old so it was hard for me to be away from her. I'm in charge of making myself happy." “People would come in all the time and complain, ‘I’m sooo tired. I don’t want to be here.’ But I noticed that what I liked was when the door opened and the person who came in made you happy and made you feel good. Something in my mind clicked and I went, oh, I don’t have to react to other people walking into the trailer in a bad mood. And, I don’t have to wait for the person who comes in and is positive and uplifting. I can be that person who says a bright good morning and makes you feel good. “Recognizing that you can create your own happiness, especially when we’re getting all these different messages about what happiness is, was a shift that made a big difference in my life. It’s like emotional insurance. If I’m going to be at work and away from my kids and I’m working with people I love, then, OK, I’m going to make this day good. I’m in charge of making myself happy.” Live from New York As Maya shares this story, taking charge of her happiness is an easy task. She’s ensconced in a Manhattan hotel while she works on her new NBC comedy and music show, Maya & Marty, with Martin Short, a fellow Saturday Night Live veteran. The doorbell rings and room service delivers her breakfast—two poached eggs, gluten-free toast, jam and coffee. When the server asks if he can pour her coffee, Maya responds “Sure, why not?” with childlike delight. “This is insanely decadent for me,” she explains. “I don’t get to do this at home. I’ll take it. I appreciate it.” Maya’s glee in the morning’s peacefulness is understandable. Her three daughters and son, who range in age from 2½ to 10, are back home in Los Angeles with her husband, Paul Thomas Anderson, the Oscar-nominated director of films that include There Will Be Blood, Boogie Nights, Punch Drunk Love and Inherent Vice. Until her family joins her in a few weeks, Maya is enjoying life in a time machine that’s transporting her back to her late 20s. “I used to live and work in New York as a single person, pre-kids, so when I’m here working that old version of me kicks in,” Maya says. “I get a bit more sleep, which is rare, and I actually get to see friends, which is also rare. When I’m home with my family, the only priority is them. My kids always come first, and I don’t make much time for anything else. I don’t mind that at all. But this is a very nice way to focus on work without the usual guilt I’m riddled with. My kids are home and they’re in their routine. That makes me feel good.” Back to her comedic roots It’s been nearly a decade since Maya left SNL, where her repertoire of characters included Beyoncé, Donatella Versace, Oprah, Charo and, in the hilarious “Bronx Beat” sketches, Jodi to Amy Poehler’s Betty. After seven years on SNL, Maya went on to films that included comedies like Sisters, Friends With Kids, The Way, Way Back and Grown Ups 2, and animated pics like Shrek the Third, The Nut Job, Big Hero 6 and this summer’s The Angry Birds Movie. She also co-starred opposite Christina Applegate and Will Arnett in the short-lived NBC sitcom Up All Night. Now Maya is thrilled to be doing a variety show again, the perfect fodder for a self-described ham. “It really is the format I love the best,” she says. “After being away from SNL for so many years, I was craving performing in front of an audience again. There’s an incredible adrenaline rush you get from the immediacy of an audience response.” The new show is something of a follow-up to her 2014 comic-variety special The Maya Rudolph Show. But being paired with Martin Short gives her, she says, “such a great amount of confidence and joy. I feel this strange kind of calm that it’s all going to be all right. I’ve always loved and admired Marty, and he’s one of the loveliest human beings on earth. When he worked with my husband on Inherent Vice, I was severely pregnant and I came waddling down to the set just to watch him. He’s so lovable and so much fun to be with. I’d do anything with him.” Marty returns the compliment. The two performed together in February 2015 on The SNL 40th Anniversary Special, with Maya reprising her role as Beyoncé. “I thought our chemistry was kind of remarkable,” Marty says. “It was pure joy and fun and I thought, why not do more of this?” *** To read the rest of our feature on Maya Rudolph, pick up the September 2016 issue of Live Happy at a store or newsstand near you.
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Lorraine Toussaint's Everyday Happiness

Lorraine Toussaint’s Everyday Happiness

If you try to define Lorraine Toussaint by the many roles she has played throughout her career—including the vicious Vee Parker in Orange Is the New Black or the doting and big-hearted Donna, the mother of Dr. Beaumont Rosewood Jr., on the new Fox series Rosewood—you can see how good she is at her job. She brings passion and purpose to every character she portrays because she understands the brevity of each moment and is grateful just to be present. Her credo is to celebrate what’s lovely every single day. When she isn’t working, she maintains her website, everydaylovelybylorraine, where she shares her positive views on life. “We deserve to have every one of our days on this planet to be in some way, shape or form lovely,” she says. “And ‘lovely’ for me means authentic, real, transparent…and present.” HOW DO YOU LIVE HAPPY? Happy isn’t something that happens to me, it is a quality that I choose. Even if I am frustrated or challenged in the moment or going through a rough spot, it is one of my core qualities. So I am always aware that I am happy. I am happy to wake up; I am happy to breathe; I am happy to stand up in the morning. There are so many reasons why I am happy, but mostly I am happy because I choose to be happy. WHO HAS TAUGHT YOU THE MOST ABOUT HAPPINESS? The people in my life who have chosen to live unhappy lives. I watched the price they paid for unhappy living; it was active and it was a choice. Oh, good lord. Given the option I am going to choose happiness every single time. It’s a no brainer. So those really darkly depressed, complaining, ego-driven, narcissistic individuals in my life have really been my gurus. I am so not going down that road. WHEN IS THE LAST TIME YOU LAUGHED OUT LOUD? This morning. I laugh out loud at myself all of the time. I laugh at my thoughts. I love the feeling and the sound of my laughter. I love trying to squeeze the life, the love and the joy out of my laughter. WHAT IS YOUR “GO TO” BOOK, MOVIE OR TV SHOW TO LIFT YOUR MOOD? I’m a real Scandal watcher, but I don’t watch very much television. I find a really good book on tape is a nice companion sometimes. If I need a laugh, I will tune into the comedy channel, just for the purpose of laughing. Mostly I like silence. I never have anything on in the background. I like hearing my thoughts. WHAT IS THE KINDEST ACT SOMEONE HAS EVER DONE FOR YOU? A very important woman in my life told me to trust myself above all others. Because you know yourself better than anyone. I remember the breath I took then, and it was such a lovely moment. I have seen so many acts of kindness. I went to Juilliard, which changed my life.…I have been broke as all get out, to the point where I had a friend sign a rental lease for me as collateral. I have had such kindness in my life. HOW DO YOU MAKE OTHERS CLOSE TO YOU HAPPY? I see them. I see the people in my life. I listen to them. There is nothing like being seen and feeling heard…and I make them tea. Many people come to my home and expect to be loved on. My doors are always open and I love on them. I like serving my friends and the ones I love. I create an environment where they can breathe deeply. That is what this home is meant to be. If you walk into a room I want you to know that I see you. That is a gift. WHERE IS YOUR HAPPY PLACE? The ocean. Anywhere there is water and being with my daughter is my happy place. My truly happy place is by the sea. I try not to be very far from the sea for very long. Chris Libby is the section editor at Live Happy magazine.
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Find Happiness in Your Headphones

Find Happiness in Your Headphones

In his song “I Believe in Music,” Mac Davis wrote: “Music is love and love is music If you know what I mean; And people who believe in music Are the happiest people I’ve ever seen.” As it turns out, Mac’s observation might have been more than a songwriter’s musings; it now appears to be scientifically accurate. In recent years, researchers from many disciplines have turned their attention to what music can do for our physical and mental health and why it seems to make us so happy. According to a study published in the journal Psychology of Well-Being, music is one of the most powerful and effective ways for creating lasting positive emotions. For many music lovers, the research is just confirmation of what they already know: Music doesn’t just sound good, it does good for your body and your brain. An officer and a musician While working the high-stress job of a police officer in Memphis, Tennessee, Susan Lowe used music as a way to let off steam and hit the “reset” button. “In the fifth grade, I went to see The Carpenters,” Susan recalls. “I saw Karen Carpenter up there playing the drums and knew that’s what I had to do. I went home and told my mom I wanted to play the drums.” She played in bands throughout junior high school, high school, college and beyond. When she joined the Memphis police force in 1985, she began living a double life of sorts, working full-time as a buttoned-down officer and then, after hours, drumming for a cover band that played the songs of Madonna, Cyndi Lauper, Berlin and other chart-toppers of the time. “It was a total disconnect from my professional life,” says Susan, who is now retired from the police force but continues to play drums. “It’s a great outlet for stress; when you’re playing music, you don’t think about anything else. It’s just about the music.” At 54, she says she still listens to music all day, whether she’s in the car, at home or taking a walk. As a child—in the days before portable music players—she would take her vinyl music albums with her on vacation. “I would suffer emotionally if I didn’t have music,” she says. “It brings me peace. I identify with the music spiritually and emotionally, and I see things all the time that remind me of a song lyric. I can live without a lot of things, but I could not live without my music.” She’s not alone. A 2015 Nielsen study found that 93 percent of the U.S. population listens to music regularly, spending more than 25 hours each week taking in tunes. We spend more time listening to music than we spend watching TV—and the good news is, music does more than just sound good; it also can have a positive, powerful effect on our bodies and our brains. The more researchers learn about what it does for us, the more hopeful they are about how it can be used. Always on my mind Although no one is quite sure just how large a role our connection to songs plays in our happiness, it’s obvious that the connection remains for many years. Research from Alex Korb, Ph.D., an adjunct assistant professor of neuroscience at UCLA and author of The Upward Spiral: Using Neuroscience to Reverse the Course of Depression, shows that listening to music from the happiest times of our lives can instantly change our current states of mind. He says the music serves as a reminder of the environment we were in during that happy time, while our brain’s hippocampus connects us with it emotionally. “I don’t know how I’d make it through Sunday night without them,” says Gail Leavey, nodding toward the band that plays each week at a Nashville, Tennessee, restaurant. “This is the kind of music we’d listen to when we were young, and it brings back so many memories.” The Nashville Sunday Jazz Band has been performing weekly since 1992; Gail has been there since the first show. For years, she and her husband only missed a show when they went out of town; after his death three years ago, she continued the weekly tradition, bringing his memory with her to every show. At any given time, the band’s rotating lineup can include music session legends, symphony orchestra members and jazz faculty from one of the area colleges. They play Dixieland and early swing, which for 97-year-old Gail is a treat for the ears. “There aren’t a lot of people who still understand this music,” she says. But inside that room on Sunday night, where the median age is well into the 80s, there’s a youthful energy that seems to swell with the music. Most, like Gail, are regulars; they’ve become friends over the common bond of music from the turn of the century—“the turn of the last century, not this one,” Gail points out with a laugh. “When we’re here, we forget our age,” confesses Gail’s friend, Billie Stuck, who turned 98 in May. “This kind of music was always my thing. It’s the beat, the rhythm—it’s a way to express yourself.” The two women still dance, now with each other instead of their husbands, letting the music take them back to another time and place. “It’s like ‘Brigadoon,’” says Ellen Pryor, referring to the story of the enchanted city that would rise seemingly out of nowhere. Ellen began attending the weekly jazz sessions when her husband, Bill, was struggling with Alzheimer’s. Bill was engaged by the music, and she found a caring community of music lovers who welcomed and supported the couple. When Bill died five years ago, the band played at his wake; it also has performed at anniversary parties and even weddings for this devoted group of followers. “It’s become an extended family that was brought together because of the music,” says Ellen, who drives several of the women to the performance each week. “It’s hard to explain until you see it for yourself.” Music & memories To understand why music has such an effect, scientists have explored what happens from the moment it reaches our ears. While there’s still much to be learned, one thing that has become clear is that it’s an automatic, not a learned, response. Dr. Jon Lieff, a Massachusetts-based psychiatrist who specializes in neurology, says that music—whether we’re listening to it or playing it—stimulates all of the brain’s regions responsible for emotional processing. Babies as young as 5 months old show emotional responses to happy music and by the time they are 9 months old, they can recognize a sad song, and it affects their mood. As we get older, that connection to music continues growing stronger. Jon says that’s because in addition to the alluring sound of the music itself we have emotional connections—both positive and negative—associated with it. Late Show host Stephen Colbert, in his tribute to Glenn Frey during a show earlier this year, illustrates this concept well in recounting his first slow dance ever to the Eagles song “Desperado.” “‘Desperado’ is the perfect last song at an 8th grade dance when you have danced with no one,” Stephen said. A girl he knew said that she loved the song, which gave him the courage to ask her to dance and led him to take a “small, very small step toward manhood.” As Stephen recounted on his show, “This was the first time I’ve ever had my arms around a girl in my entire life.” He called the dance “one of the sweetest, most beautiful experiences of my life….I just want to thank Glenn Frey for what he gave me.” Ever wonder why you tear up during some songs, while others might cause chills to run up your spine? It’s all in your brain. The sound of music Daniel Levitan, Ph.D., a cognitive psychologist who heads up the Laboratory for Music Perception, Cognition and Expertise at McGill University in Montreal, is a former rock musician and music producer who’s won 17 gold and platinum records and has worked with such artists as Santana, The Grateful Dead and Joe Satriani. His 2006 book, This is Your Brain on Music, was the first to delve into the intersection of neuroscience and music. Daniel explains that listening to music releases certain chemicals in the brain, such as dopamine, that “feel-good hormone” that gets a boost every time you hear a song you like. It may help explain why we just can’t seem to get enough of certain songs and why they have the same beneficial effect on us regardless of how many times we listen to them. It’s not just the memories we connect to that certain song; it’s the way our brains innately embrace the music. For Susan, hearing music from the ’80s is a double whammy; not only does it bring back memories of her youth, but she has fond memories of playing those songs on stage. At a recent Cyndi Lauper concert, she found herself watching the drummer. “We never played at that level, of course, but we played songs like ‘She Bop’ and ‘Girls Just Want to Have Fun,’ ” she says. “When I go to these shows, it really takes me back to some moments in my life that were really special. It makes me smile.” You raise me up Armed with a growing dossier of studies showing we are hard-wired to respond to music, researchers are now looking at how to use that information to do more for our minds. A review of studies published in the journal Nature Reviews Neuroscience offers repeated examples of how music is linked to improved skills in memory, language, speech and focus. What’s more, “There are entire populations of people that can be helped by music,” says Dr. Ron Eavey, director of the Bill Wilkerson Center at Vanderbilt University Medical Center in Nashville. The center is the home of a research hub that studies how music interacts with the brain and is looking at how it might possibly help heal everything from autism to Alzheimer’s to post-traumatic stress disorder and pain. They aren’t alone in their efforts; a Boston-based company named The Sync Project, a global collaboration of scientists, engineers, researchers and musicians, is looking at how music can be used to treat such things as schizophrenia and movement disorders. For one of its first studies, The Sync Project is examining how music can help athletes improve performance during high intensity interval training. After Dr. Christopher Duma, a California brain surgeon, saw improvements in patients with Parkinson’s, Alzheimer’s and autism when he began using music as a therapeutic tool, he created The Music-Heals Project. Partnering with Mike Garson, former keyboardist for David Bowie and grandfather to an autistic child, they composed Symphonic Suite for Healing, which in addition to being used clinically is being performed with symphonies to raise awareness about the healing power of music. As more evidence of music’s healing power is discovered, researchers, scientists, doctors, psychologists and teachers are among those looking at ways to apply the findings and delve deeper into the secrets locked inside the notes. So happy together As much as music affects us individually, it becomes even more powerful when shared with others. Data from a number of top brain researchers confirms that listening to music with someone else can release prolactin, a bonding hormone. And singing together releases oxytocin, which increases feelings of trust. It even can help strengthen the immune system. A study by Tenovus Cancer Care, a British cancer charity, and the Royal College of Music, published earlier this year in the journal ecancermedicalscience, showed that cancer patients who sang in a choir for just one hour showed significant reduction in stress hormones such as cortisol and improved moods. They also registered an increase in the amount of cytokines, a protein found in the immune system that can boost the body’s ability to fight illness. Improved mood has been linked to lower levels of inflammation, which is often associated with serious illness, and the results were so compelling that Tenovus is now conducting further studies to see what kind of long-term rewards can be reaped when patients spend time singing with others. Of course, you don’t have to be ill or depressed to benefit from sharing music with others. “There are so many ways that music brings us together,” Jon says. “I don’t know exactly how it works, but it does. When you’re grooving on music together, there are synchronous brainwaves that occur. Music can bring people together through shared experiences or a shared song.” Grooving to the music In a live music setting, those feelings and forces can feel even more intense. Even though she no longer plays in a band, Susan says that music remains an important part of her life; she still plays the drums (“for fun and exercise”) and takes in about 60 live shows a year. “Seeing live music puts me in a different place, mentally,” she says. “You’re in the moment and just enjoying what’s happening. I’m watching the performers and the way they interact with each other. It’s a complete escape.” She has made lasting friendships at shows, both with the performers and with other fans. And she carries the memories with her. “One time during the late ’80s, we opened for Berlin, and during their set, one of their keyboards caught on fire,” she recalls. “It was like this unexpected pyrotechnic show! I think about that when I listen to their music, because it really stands out in my memory. We’re going to see them [on tour] this year, and having that experience makes me look forward to seeing them even more.” Jon says that the pre-existing history we have with certain songs amplifies the effects of listening to them at a concert; we then increase our connection with them each time we experience them differently. “When you go to a concert, you have memories that you connect with those songs, you know the history of the band, you’re hearing music and your body is moving. It has a broad, emotional meaning, and it’s involving all these different parts of the brain at the same time.” Jon adds that, with so many benefits—both known and yet to be discovered—music’s unique role as both a physical and emotional healer should be explored and enjoyed more fully. “It’s one of the most powerful spiritual forces out there for bringing people together,” he says. Listen to our Live Happy Summer Playlist! Paula Felps is the Science Editor at Live Happy magazine.
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33 Ideas for Summer Fun

33 Ideas for Summer Fun

While the weather is warm and the days are long, spend your free time having fun with the people you love! 1. “I believe that if life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade...and try to find somebody whose life has given them vodka, and have a party.” —Ron White 2. Host a star-spangled soirée. 3. Listen to “Wouldn’t It Be Nice” by The Beach Boys. 4. Enjoy a homemade ice cream social. 5. Create your perfect pool party playlist. 6. Read A Moveable Feast by Ernest Hemingway. The most essential part of my day is a proper dinner.” —Rachael Ray 8. “You will never be happy if you continue to search for what happiness consists of. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life.” —Albert Camus 9. Listen to “Uptown Funk” by Mark Ronson and Bruno Mars. 10. Go “glamping” in style. 11. Turn your backyard into a movie theater. 12. Listen to “Saturday Night” by the Bay City Rollers. 13. “You have to live life to its full chorizo.” —Mario Batali 14. Have a “make your own pizza” party. 15. Let it all loose on Labor Day. For the happiest life, days should be rigorously planned, nights left open to chance.” —Mignon McLaughlin 17. Listen to “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun” by Cyndi Lauper. 18. Read Sage Living: Decorate for the Life You Want by Anne Sage. 19. Make it a great day for croquet. 20. Attend a progressive dinner party. 21. “Life itself is the proper binge.” —Julia Child 22. Go berry picking. 23. Read The Art of Mingling by Jeanne Martinet. 24. “It is not length of life, but depth of life.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson 25. Plan a road trip to the nearest national park. 26. Read One Summer: America, 1927 by Bill Bryson. 27. Catch and release butterflies or lightning bugs. 28. Listen to “Man on Fire” by Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros. 29. Backyard BBQ! 30. “Grilling takes the formality out of entertaining. Everyone wants to get involved.” —Bobby Flay 31. Read The Butler Speaks by Charles MacPherson. 32. Listen to “Times Like These” by the Foo Fighters. 33. Play in the sprinklers.
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Cute couple in a convertible car.

Summer Fun Bucket List

When summer arrives, the mercury rises and it’s time to slow down the hectic pace of life. But before sinking permanently into your hammock, we have a project for you: Tick off some boxes on your bucket list! What, you say—productivity during the summer? But a bucket list is different from a to-do list. It’s a bucket full of all the fun things you’ve always wanted to do. So while you are whiling away your time this summer—or trying to keep the kids entertained during those dog days—try some suggestions from our list below. 1. Take windsurfing lessons With a few quick lessons, you will be up and surfing on your bare feet in no time. 2. Go for a ride in a hot air balloon Do something fun and exhilarating that doesn't require a lot of physical exertion. You'll feel like you're floating on air (because you are), with gorgeous vistas all around. 3. Try out a Zen retreat Imagine several days of meditation, with no phones, no computers...and no talking! 4. Visit Niagara Falls or the Great Smoky Mountains Give yourself a breathtaking view this summer by visiting one of these natural wonders. 5. Chill out at a music festival Summertime and music go hand-in-hand. Find a music festival with a great line-up, get some friends on-board and make a road trip out of it. 6. Host a snow-cone or homemade ice-cream stand Break out the cooler, grab your kids and make some snow cones or homemade ice cream for the other children in your neighborhood. 7. Organize a block party for your street Enjoy a potluck that creates community and fosters friendships. Be that neighbor who gets things going. 8. Get certified for SCUBA diving You don’t need to be near an ocean to get certified, but it will come in handy when you want to make use of it. 9. Turn your yard into an obstacle course for your kids Slip ’n Slides, tires, hula hoops, jump ropes, basketball hoop, mini mud pits and hopscotch in your driveway or backyard can all create a super-fun obstacle course for your kids (and you, too). 10. Sign up for a race in the fall Use summer to train (as a family or on your own) for one of the many fall charitable 5K races in your area. Couch to 5K is a great program if you are new to running. 11. Host a clambake Hosting a clambake at home is easier than you think. But if you don’t have access to good fresh clams or other summery seafood, we suggest a rockin’ backyard barbecue of baby back ribs instead. 12. Fill balloons with paint and have a messy balloon fight Wear clothes you don’t care about and aim at each other, or aim your balloon at giant paper to create your own artwork. Click here for a little tutorial. 13. Tour your own town If you were a visitor in your own town, what would you want to see? Where would you eat? Sometimes the best adventures are right in your own backyards. 14. Ride a roller coaster Whether you are an adult or a kid trapped in an adult’s body, riding a roller coaster might do you some good. 15. Go skinny-dipping Bare it all in nature and take a dip in a lake or a night swim in your pool. 16. Rent a convertible and drive to the nearest beach Turn up the sweet jams on the stereo and feel the wind rush through your hair! Oh, and don't let the kids spill juice on the backseat. 17. Do nothing No, we didn’t run out of ideas for you, we just know you are overdue for a break. When is the last time you did absolutely nothing and just enjoyed silence? Give yourself a little empty space this summer and just bliss out. Sandra Bienkowski is a contributing editor for Live Happy.
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Meet three people who have truly flourished.

Transform Your Life and Flourish

Lucie Buissereth was almost finished with her medical residency when she realized this wasn’t the life she wanted. Atsushi Yamada was a successful corporate executive, but he wasn’t pursuing the one thing he’d loved since his youth. Alison O’Brien was a globe-trotting television producer at the helm of a new prime-time show. Her life was jam-packed, but still felt empty. Today, their lives couldn’t be more different. By following their hearts and using their strengths, they were all able to flourish. Here are their stories. Lucie Buissereth: Choosing to Flourish “‘What do you mean you want to be happy?’” Lucie Buissereth recalls this reaction from her family when she said she was giving up medicine. It was as if she’d delivered a painful blow. Lucie was just as devastated, but for different reasons. “I realized I was living a lie,” she says. All her achievements including becoming a doctor were aimed at gaining her family’s approval and not for herself. After a 36-hour shift, she says, “I thought, ‘I can’t do this anymore.’” Lucie’s epiphany, which came in the early 2000s almost two years into her residency at New York City’s Montefiore Medical Center, was the first step toward creating a flourishing life. Her innate character strengths—including honesty and bravery—would lead her further along the path to a truly satisfying life. Outward focus vs. inward satisfaction Research shows achievement for achievement’s sake, and not for the benefit of other people, is essential to flourishing. Lucie had had that once in her life. Obese as a child, weighing 220 pounds by age 10, Lucie decided in her late teens to slim down, and she did. “Fitness became my little thing,” she says. After that fateful 36-hour shift, Lucie turned on the TV and saw, of all things, adults jumping rope. She was watching the U.S. National Jump Rope Championship. The next day she called the sponsoring organization, USA Jump Rope, to ask how she could participate. Impossible, they said, because she had no experience, team or training. “But I could train myself—why not?” She continued to petition USA Jump Rope while growing more disillusioned with medicine. In 2004, she resigned her residency and, coincidentally, USA Jump Rope relented. Lucie’s perseverance—another of her character strengths—had paid off. “I was 38 years old and had never picked up a rope before, but I said ‘goodbye’ to medicine and went full force into competitions.” Lucie got coaching work at area gyms and dipped into her meager savings, but it was worth it. At the 2005 national championship, she took gold medals in each of the four speed-jumping and freestyle events in which she competed. “I knew right then and there what my calling was,” she says. “I was going to do something that could help others, particularly kids. I was going to turn this talent that I have—I don’t know where I got it—into a viable, beautiful business.” Jumping for joy! Lucie opened a gym on Long Island that focused solely on jump rope. She coached all ages, but it was the children who really thrived, becoming happier, healthier and more engaged at school and home. She found purpose and work that was totally engaging, two elements that are key to flourishing. Her improved well-being contributed to resilience, which would prove essential. In 2007, after years of severe headaches and other symptoms, Lucie was diagnosed with muscular dystrophy. “Doctors told me that within eight or nine months I would be in a wheelchair. I did my share of lamenting, crying, ‘Why me’ and all that, and then I said, ‘Enough.’ ” She has had relapses and remissions, “but I’m still standing. I’m still competing,” she says. Lucie was shopping when she met Staffen Lindner, a Swede in New York on business. “He asked if he could buy me coffee and that was it,” she says, giggling. They married and now live in Sweden. Lucie is finishing a motivational book, has introduced her programs in Swedish schools and returns to New York twice a year for jump rope camps. It’s not only about jump rope, though. “It’s more about encouraging kids, particularly girls, to be amazing,” she says. “To be fierce in themselves, and to know there’s nothing they cannot do.” Just like Lucie. Read about the science of flourishing: Go Beyond Happiness Atsushi Yamada: Creating His Niche Atsushi Yamada was always involved in music while growing up in Japan—singing in the church choir and playing organ, later playing guitar in a Beatles cover band, singing in the male chorus in high school and with the glee club in college. Even after he landed a job in sales with IBM, he assisted his former glee club conductor in directing choral performances, and “of course, I loved karaoke,” he says, laughing. Being so engaged—like Atsushi is in music—is important to flourishing. But he didn’t see how music could be anything but a hobby, even after his maestro passed away and chorus members asked him to take over. “I was really busy selling computers,” he says. “The conducting paid almost nothing. There was no way to survive without that [IBM] salary.” A couple of years later, he got a job offer selling life insurance for Sony that required less time in the office. He could have a nice income and more free time for conducting. He accepted. Using his strengths “I really didn’t expect to become a professional conductor. I wanted that, but on the other hand, if you just quit your job and you never had any experience studying music in school and you don’t have a teacher, and you say, ‘Now I am a conductor, could you give me a job?’ people think you’re crazy!” But Atsushi employed all his sales savvy, as well as his signature character strengths—perseverance, creativity and social intelligence—to make his dreams come true. He began by persuading Sony to sponsor a concert as a “social contribution.” Atsushi had his employer’s blessing again after the Great Hanshin earthquake of 1995 when he coordinated a series of benefit concerts. For the final performance, he got funding to hire an acclaimed singer, which included a trip to New York City (his first ever) to audition singers with the New York City Opera. “This was brave,” he says, chuckling at the thought of himself, a self-taught musician, auditioning the finest vocalists in the world. Bravery, another of Atsushi’s key strengths, would prove helpful in more ways. In New York, he asked opera officials about the possibility of an internship. They agreed. This opportunity led to a stint directing the touring company and, in 2003, Atsushi’s debut conducting Hansel and Gretel at Lincoln Center—where he received a standing ovation. The risks have paid off Decades have passed and Atsushi has now conducted some of the world’s greatest singers and musicians. He’s also found great purpose, raising money benefiting victims of the 2011 earthquake and tsunami in Japan and creating cultural exchange and educational opportunities for hundreds of young music students. Today Atsushi is principal conductor and co-founder of the Philharmonia Orchestra of New York, which made its premiere performances in March at Lincoln Center. PONY, as it’s called, incorporates orchestra and choral performance with the highest-definition film technology to “destroy stuffy classical traditions that can make this wonderful music accessible to new audiences,” he says. He is living his dream. And, “I would say to others who have a dream, a wish, that there is never zero percent chance of success,” he says. “There is always some chance. You just have to try.” Read more about what it takes to flourish in life: 5 Ways to Flourish Alison O’Brien: Racing Through Life Alison O’Brien had a little more than a mile to go in the 2013 Boston Marathon when a police officer halted her and other runners. There had been explosions near the finish line. That’s where her parents and 2-year-old niece were waiting. Terrified of what might’ve happened to her loved ones, Alison’s mind raced. “I thought, ‘Time is too precious. I have to treat it differently. I don’t want to have regrets.’” As a network TV producer, she had traveled the world making documentaries. And, prompted by a friend’s cancer diagnosis, she had taken up running and coaching with the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society’s Team in Training, raising money to fight blood cancers. Growing after tragedy She found meaning and joy from her work and her coaching and fundraising. Yet a painful divorce years earlier had deeply affected her. “Personally, I shut down a lot. I felt like I had to,” she says. The Boston Marathon bombings brought perspective—a character strength that helps us all flourish. “As I sat on that curb for an hour and a half, I realized there are no guarantees that we’ll have more time,” she says. Honesty and a loving heart are two of Alison’s top flourishing-related character strengths. She thought about things she hadn’t pursued, like a meaningful business idea. A new beginning And then there was her personal life. At the end of that awful day in 2013, Alison reunited with her family. They were fine, but Alison’s life had changed. That year, she launched JWalking Designs, selling fitness wear including running skirts for both women and men. She and her teammates had often complained about their running clothes—how the shorts didn’t fit right and they needed more pockets—and now she was doing something about it. Perseverance and leadership, qualities Alison possesses in spades, made it possible and helped both her and her business thrive. Now she’s “more present” for her family and has made room in her life for even more love. Alison met Chris Peterson at a mutual friend’s birthday party. Now she, Chris and Roxie (their dog) are a family. In May, Alison will run the New Jersey Marathon, which was her first race 10 years ago. She’ll dedicate every mile to people who have made a significant impact on her life. Some, like cancer victims she trained, have passed away. Many others will be there. “Once I opened myself up to living a different type of life, the riches that came from that were just amazing,” Alison says. “I’m excited to see what other things life has to offer. If you don’t make the most of your time, you’re not guaranteed any more of it.” So why not flourish? Lisa Ocker is an award-winning writer and editor based in the Dallas-Forth Worth area.
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Quinoa-Mushroom Frittata With Fresh Herbs

Quinoa-Mushroom Frittata With Fresh Herbs

This recipe comes to us from Live Happy columnist Dr. Drew Ramsey, a psychiatrist with a special interest in modifying one's diet to improve mood and mental health. The frittata, which contains both eggs and quinoa (powerhouses of protein) as well as a beautiful array of herbs, is featured in his latest book: Eat Complete: The 21 Nutrients That Fuel Brain Power, Boost Weight Loss, and Transform Your Health. Serves 4 Ingredients: ¾ cup uncooked quinoa (or 1½ cups cooked) 6 large pasture-raised eggs ½ cup grated Parmesan cheese ¼ cup chopped fresh basil 2 tablespoons chopped fresh chives or tarragon 1 teaspoon minced fresh thyme leaves ¼ teaspoon freshly ground black pepper 4 green onions or garlic scapes, thinly sliced 1 cup sliced mushrooms such as maitake, shiitake, or chanterelle, brushed clean and sliced Olive oil ¼ cup assorted pitted olives, whole or chopped Cook the quinoa according to the package instructions. Set aside. In a large bowl, whisk the eggs, then stir in the quinoa, Parmesan, herbs, pepper, green onions or garlic scapes, and mushrooms. Coat a medium, ovenproof skillet with a thick layer of olive oil. Place over medium-high heat, add the egg mixture and sprinkle with the olives. Cook for 2 to 3 minutes without stirring. Preheat the broiler with the rack in the second position from the top. Broil the frittata until the top is lightly browned and the eggs have firmed up in the center, 3 to 4 minutes. Remove the frittata from the oven and let it rest for 3 minutes. Loosen the edges with a spatula and cut into 6 wedges. Serve immediately. Nutrition per serving (1 large wedge): 232 calories; 13 grams protein; 14 grams carbohydrates; 14 grams fat (6 grams saturated); 295 milligrams cholesterol; 2 grams sugars; 2 grams fiber; 409 milligrams sodium. Recommended daily allowance of nutrients: Selenium = 65%; vitamin K = 51%; B12 = 39%; choline = 35%; zinc = 33%. Read more by Dr. Drew Ramsey: Two Nutrients You Can't Live Without Download our podcast with Dr. Drew Ramsey: Happier With Every Bite Dr. Drew Ramsey, M.D., is an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons. His work focuses on the treatment of depression and anxiety with a combination of psychotherapy, lifestyle modification and psychopharmacology.
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For Niecy Nash, Happiness Is Always in Style

For Niecy Nash, Happiness Is Always in Style

At just 5 years old, Niecy Nash discovered her life’s passion: to make people laugh. Living in St. Louis, Missouri, at the time, she was watching television with her grandmother when she caught a glimpse of Lola Falana on the screen. “Here was this beautiful black woman, and I knew right then that I wanted to be just like her. I wanted to be black, fabulous and on TV. And I wanted to put a smile on people’s faces.” Her family’s move to Los Angeles when Niecy was 8 years old brought her one step closer to that dream. And after guest-starring on various TV shows after college, she eventually rose to fame on the comedy Reno 911! in 2003. And she hasn’t stopped working since. Niecy, now 46, is currently starring in the TV Land comedyThe Soul Man. And this fall, she’s back as Denise Hemphill, the boisterous “Secure Enforcement Solutions” private security guard on Fox’s horror-comedy anthology series, Scream Queens. A life of comedy and tragedy But despite her professional success and the indomitable drive that continues to fuel it, Niecy hasn’t led a charmed life. At age 15, Niecy saw her mother critically injured in a shooting. “My mother was just a few feet from me when her boyfriend shot her in the middle of our street. She survived, but that incident resulted in so much heartache.” In 1993, more tragedy touched her family. Niecy’s younger brother, Michael, was shot to death by a classmate at his Reseda, California, high school. He was 17. “That was the day before my 23rd birthday,” she says. Niecy says her mother sank into a deep depression after the death of her son. To pull her mother from that darkness, Niecy turned to humor. “I realized what a gift comedy can be when I started to see her spirits rise, even slightly, when I’d tell her jokes.” Niecy’s heart broke once again when her marriage to Don Nash (the father of her three children) ended in divorce in 2007. “That could have been the straw that broke the camel’s back,” she says. But instead, she relied on a unique perspective. “I can see how someone might say ‘this woman has a right to be crazy, bitter or angry.’ But I choose to be grateful, positive and hopeful,” Niecy says. “I don’t believe those horrible things that happened are the total sum of me. And instead of being angry about them I have a desire to try to live my best life in spite of them.” Embracing the moment Niecy has a specific picture of what her best life looks like. “It’s a state of mind,” she says. “It’s enjoying love in so many different forms and unexpected places.” So to fill her life with happiness, she fills her head with peace. “I’ve learned the importance and beauty of peace of mind. There are so many things that happen in life that could be sources of anxiety or make you unsettled. And yes, some of those things are major life events or tragedies, but others could be as simple as a cranky co-worker who snaps at you. In the face of any of those things, I choose to steady myself and replace the negative thoughts it’s so easy to have with positive ones that feel a lot better in the long run,” she says. Niecy looks at the painful aspects of her life as proof of her mental and emotional mettle. “Once you realize you can survive a thing and that the last time you laughed or smiled wasn’t the last time you were going to laugh or smile, you discover a strength in you. You find the ability to say to yourself, ‘If I can do this, I can do anything.’ You start to ask yourself ‘why not me…I’m tough enough to get through this.’” When she speaks of her brother, it’s clear Niecy’s heart will forever carry the pain of his loss. But she won’t allow grief to swallow her happy memories or anger to consume her life. Choosing to persevere with positivity can prevent pain and loss from stealing the future. “I’m not talking about being Miss Rosy Sunshine or pretending bad things don’t happen, because I know they do,” she explains. “I just approach my attitude like a wardrobe. We all get up every day and decide what jeans or shirt to put on and for me, my attitude is the same thing. I choose to put on and wear a positive outlook and attitude and to try and see the good, even if it’s buried in there a bit and I have to golooking for it.” Part of that decision includes living in the moment. Her happiness doesn’t hinge on problems, money or fame. Niecy says she doesn’t live her life to only dread, amass or cherish those things. “I think that if you live your life only based on what you have, it becomes challenging to still be happy” if your situation changes. Drawn to positivity “I like to look beyond happiness,” she says. “I aim to have and give joy because I think that’s the thing that keeps you going even if everything in your life is not going right.” And to stay connected to joy, she keeps herself in a place of gratitude. “It’s hard to have a sad face or a weary spirit when you’re living in gratitude,” Niecy says. “Every day you wake up and your feet hit the floor, there’s something to be grateful for. Your kids, your dog, a meal, whatever. When you remind yourself of all you have, the pain of what you’ve lost, or haven’t yet found, starts to ease.” To further maintain that joyful focus, Niecy says she looks for positive energy around every corner. And that perspective is fueled by the lawsof attraction. “I believe that at any given moment in life, you can attract a version of what you are. So I don’t entertain conversations, people or settings that drain me or make me feel bad.” Even her cellphone message conveys Niecy’s outlook. She asks that callers not leave a message if it’s not about love or conveyed with a positive spirit. “Don’t leave any of that mess on my voicemail to clean up,” she says. She consciously seeks to surround herself—not just her voicemail—with people who project positivity, peace and joy. Niecy relies on positive people she calls touchstones who help bolster her mood. “There are those people and moments that teach you and make you stronger,” she says. That thinking applies in her professional life, too. “I try to be someone others want to work with and have on set. I strive to be a positive and nice person because I think it’s important to be a team player. There are no divas in my house.” Happy at home Niecy says she has a similar view when it comes to parenting for her son, Dominic, and daughters, Donielle and Dia. “I know I can’t control what they’re exposed to outside of our house, but in here, there’s no flicking on reality TV that highlights people yelling, fighting and feuding. I don’t want that energy in my house,” she says. She’s not against all reality TV programming. Niecy hosted the Style Network’s Clean House, which featured a cleanup-and-renovation crew that went to the homes of families in need of decluttering. But she’s choosy about what shows—reality or otherwise—air in her house. “There’s no such thing as just a TV show. I don’t want those negative words or messages in my house. And for me, purposeful positivity includes what you watch on TV, read in books or listen to on your MP3 player.” The power of hugs When her kids were younger, instead of sending them to their room or banishing them to time out, Niecy encouraged her kids to solve theirquarrels with physical displays. “I’d make them hug each other,” she says. “They’d be so angry and say, ‘I don’t want to hug him or her.’ But I’d make them hug each other until they’d start laughing. Once they’d giggle they could go back about their business with the understanding that it’s OK to disagree but to deal with that disagreement from a place of love.” She holds herself to that same standard when navigating her relationship with her kids or her husband, Jay Tucker. Niecy's talking stick and golden rule To ensure everyone in her house has the chance to be heard, Niecy relies on an old-fashioned egg timer. “To hear each other out, we’ll pull out the hourglass and one person can say what they need to uninterrupted until the sand runs out. Then we flip it and it’s the other person’s turn. That way there’s no jockeying to talk over each other without either person ever really being heard. And the time to flip creates a break to absorb what is being said.” Niecy also relies on her golden rule for conflict resolution as well as facing controversy or decision making. “I always ask myself, ‘Is an action serving you, edifying you, making you better or stronger and more equipped to handle life in a positive way?’ And if I can’t answer all those questions with ‘yes,’ I find a different behavior and try it out. It’s never too late to test drive a new positive attitude.” Gina Roberts-Grey is a frequent contributor to Live Happy magazine.
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7 Tips to Master Your TV Time

8 Tips to Master Your TV Time

When we settle down to watch TV, we are engaged, entertained and, if all goes right, happy. Among Americans—who watch an average of nearly three hours a day—watching television is the most common free-time activity. We simply love TV. But while television is a good servant, it’s a bad master. It can often swallow up huge amounts of time without giving much back in return. Here are eight tips to make your TV time a source of happiness instead of regret: 1. Watch TV with someone else We enjoy all activities more when we’re with other people, and we tend to find things funnier, too. Use TV as an excuse to get together with friends and family. Sporting events (the Super Bowl), awards shows (the Oscars), reality TV (American Idol, Survivor), comedy (Broad City), and special events (the finale of Downton Abbey) are all a lot more fun to watch with other people. 2. Use TV as a bridge If you’re having trouble connecting with someone—your sweetheart or your teenager—try watching TV together (even if football or Project Runway isn’t necessarily your favorite). Watching TV is companionable and a way to engage in a pleasant, undemanding way. 3. Record shows Recording allows you to watch a particular show according to your own schedule and mood. Most important: If you’re sleepy, don’t stay up late to watch TV! Record a show, and finish watching it another time. 4. Or enjoy watching them live Anticipation is an important aspect of happiness. Looking forward to a favorite show will heighten the pleasure you feel once you watch it. And it’s fun to think that people all across the country are sitting down to see what’s next on The Bachelor. 5. Enjoy commercials This is particularly easy if you rarely watch TV. An enormous amount of creativity goes into creating commercials, and they can be fascinating if you pay attention. Not only that—surprisingly, a study shows that we enjoy TV more when it’s interrupted by commercials. 6. Learn about TV The more you know about something, the more interesting it becomes. Read some TV criticism; read interviews with the creative people involved in your favorite shows; become more knowledgeable about what goes on behind the scenes. 7. Don't surf Especially if you’re feeling frazzled from multitasking, don’t flip from one show to another. Sit down, start watching, sink into the experience and stay on one channel. 8. Choose to watch TV Often, we don’t really choose TV, it’s just the easy default activity. Make the effort to ask yourself, “What do I choose to do for the next hour?” before you plop down with the remote control. In many cases, other activities would take a bit more effort to begin, but would yield more enjoyment in the long run. If you watch TV mindfully, it can be a source of happiness, especially if you use it to connect with other people. If you watch it automatically, and for lack of anything better to do, it can be a drain on happiness. Gretchen Rubin is the bestselling author of The Happiness Project, Happier at Home and Better than Before. She is one of the most influential writers on happiness today, and has become an in-demand speaker and keynoter. Learn more at GretchenRubin.com.
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