Recording artist Jason Mraz performs in concert at NBC's 'Today Show'

Jason Mraz Says Yes

When Jason Mraz broke onto the national scene in 2002, he arrived without a disguise. Below the tilted trucker cap on top of his head and above the fuzzy bunny slippers on his feet was a confirmed optimist, upbeat and positive. Bouncing on his toes, he sang one of the earwormiest hits of the new century. “If you’ve gots the poison I’ve gots the remedy, the remedy is the experience,’’ he sang in “The Remedy (I Won’t Worry).” Maybe we weren’t sure exactly what that meant, but we didn’t press the pause button to ponder; instead, we threw back our heads and joined Jason as he pronounced his cheerful credo “I won’t worry my life away.’’ Only after a while did we absorb that the song had a darker edge, that it was written in response to the news that his best friend from high school had been diagnosed with a rare bone cancer. For just a moment in the song, Jason shakes his fist at the heavens (“Who says you deserve this? And what kind of god would serve this?’’) Older, but never jaded But the singer is not the type to invest much in pointless anger or self-pity. The answer to the bad deals in life is to change your point of view, he says. Or, again from “The Remedy”: “You can turn off the sun, but I’m still gonna shine.’’ Almost a decade and a half later, the artist, now 38, is older, more mature, wiser. He bounces less, the bunny slippers have been retired, the trucker cap has been mostly traded in for a hipster’s pork pie, but otherwise, the person is not fundamentally different. Jason is no longer a coffee house ingénue, but says he remains convinced that life is what you make it, and the capacity to make it great resides within each of us. “I try to be happy,’’ he says, “but even if I’m not, I choose to have an optimistic outlook on life.’’ This outlook, this choice, infuses every element of his life, from his music to his interests to his feelings of responsibility as a member of the human race. “The future depends on how I set it up in the present,’’ he says . “I try to live optimistically to live out the best life I can.” I try to be happy,’’ he says, “but even if I’m not, I choose to have an optimistic outlook on life.’’ Jason says he is a great believer in the power of “saying ‘yes,’ ” in treating life’s opportunities with enthusiasm. “Yes is the key that unlocks potential,” he says. “It really is the key to creativity, and that creativity doesn’t happen if you say ‘no.’ If you’re in a theater and you’re improvising with someone, and you say ‘no,’ that’s the end of the scene!” Saying ‘yes’ is a concept so significant for Jason that he made Yes! the title of his fifth and most recent album, on which he collaborated with the all-female band Raining Jane. “The way I see it,” he says, “If Raining Jane hadn’t said ‘yes’ when I asked them to collaborate, this album would not have happened. If the label hadn’t said ‘yes,’ this album would not have happened. I see yes as the key that unlocks opportunity.” Jason's positive message Jason’s optimism is the hallmark of his brand, one of the most consistent there is in popular music. Such contemporaries as John Mayer and Ed Sheeran mix songs about love’s ecstasies and miseries in equal measure. That’s not Jason’s bag. “My albums are themed to be upbeat and inspiring,’’ he says. “I want to uplift, inspire, and make people dance.’’ One only has to look at hits like “Love Someone,” “You and I Both,” and the irresistibly catchy ”I’m Yours” (“my happy little hippie song,’’ he calls it) to see that this is an artist whose message, music and audience are perfectly in sync. These chart-busting tunes result from a disciplined gleaning process; Jason once estimated that to get the dozen songs that appear on an album, he will write 80. “The ones that don’t make it are either too cheesy or superdark and depressing,’’ he has said, “and I don’t want to subject the audience to either one.’’ From time to time, something melancholy slips through, but even then, as in a song like “I Won’t Give Up,” he manages to turn a song about a relationship that isn’t working into a testament to everlasting romantic devotion. “I’m inclined to sing songs that I need, that light my spirit,’’ he says. “In turn, that gives fans what they want.’’ Now always on the sunny side For Jason, music ameliorates whatever pains and disappointments he may encounter. “I wake up grumpy,” he admits in a surprising confession. But “I write many songs to fill the love I may not have experienced when I was a kid or the love I’m not experiencing now.’’ Divorced from wife Sheridan in 2004, Jason split with fiancee Tristan Prettyman, a singer, in 2011. “This world may seem unfair at times,’’ he says, “but we have the ability to dream, and that helps.’’ Among other things that Jason finds helpful is yoga. Like most everyone, reading the newspaper can get him pretty bummed. “It’s hard to stay completely positive when there is suffering in the world that all humans have to endure,’’ he says. “But I use music and mantras to transform my thoughts from the negative to the positive. If the world seems like a terrible place, I can transform my feelings by thinking or saying, ‘I won’t give up,’ ‘I won’t worry my life away’ and ‘I won’t hesitate no more.’ That is, I believe, what makes me a positive person. Through meditation and yoga, I can move energy through my body and ease any relentless thoughts I have, allowing me to focus and concentrate my attention where I need it to be.’’ Increasingly, that attention is directed to the broader world, how he fits into it, and how he can change it. Getting down to earth There’s no telling how many farmers aspire to be international pop stars—more than a handful, we’re guessing—but Jason is that rare international pop star who wishes he could spend more time in the dirt. “I love spending time at my farm,’’ he says, “but it can be a problem because I’m out on the land sometimes until midnight.’’ Jason owns a 5.5-acre farm north of San Diego, where the self-described “organic gardening geek’’ raises chickens, keeps bees, and grows corn, peppers, leafy greens and most especially avocados. He is serious about his crops, not only because in one recent year he sold 34,000 pounds of avocados to local Chipotle stores—also because they provide a large percentage of his vegetarian diet. (He began changing his diet in 2006, when he opened for The Rolling Stones at a few concerts. Until then a smoker and confirmed junk food devotee, Jason saw how the aging rockers took care of themselves, and adopted their program.) The urban farmer Jason is enthusiastic about his agrarian accomplishments. Writing recently on his website, he encouraged his visitors to become urban farmers, if possible. “It’s about making the most out of a small piece of land,’’ he wrote, heaping praise onto the educational website UrbanFarm.org. “It’s about declaring your yard, your courtyard or windowsill an actual farm. And then working with the seasons, the sunlight, and local resources like discarded materials and water runoff to bring it to life as conveniently and cheaply as possible. It’s the foundation for the idea ‘Think globally, act locally.’ ’’ Is it any surprise that Jason sells packets of seeds at his concerts? A big part of his positive message is expressed through activism and philanthropy. Some of his efforts take the form of broad, dramatic gestures, like the concerts against human trafficking that he played in the Philippines and Myanmar. Other efforts are local and specific. “On my last tour, I chose to make the venues smaller and play more nights in each market. We set up community-based events and awarded grants in a lot of those markets. More broadly, we partner with several organizations and focus on equality, the environment, and healthy living and eating.’’ What's next “I’m just ready for a break,’’ he has said, noting that the long tours make performing “feel like a corporate job sometimes.’’ At the same time, it’s hard to see how an artist whose music invigorates the spirit not only of his audience but his own as well could leave that behind. But whatever path Jason chooses, it’s all but certain to lead to something interesting and uplifting. “I love to write music and be in the studio,’’ he says, “but there is creativity in everything we do, and it should be nurtured.’’ (From the October 2015 issue of Live Happy magazine.)
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The Positivity Paradox

Aside from devoting our time and mental energy to work, we often unconsciously hand over something far more precious—our self-worth. You may have high hopes for that swanky new job, but your excitement will almost always be less intense and less lasting than you predict. Researchers find that your impact bias, the gap between what you think you will feel and what you actually end up feeling, often leads you to “miswant”: you pine for futures that don’t end up making you very happy. It’s time to shed the unhealthy habit of glorifying the future to justify a miserable present. Stop feeling bad about feeling bad Our jobs can put a lot of pressure on us to radiate happiness and positivity. But the nature of work is to experience setbacks and to show up when you’re needed, even if you don’t feel like it. So stop blaming yourself for not feeling happy all the time. When we try to suppress our sadness, disappointment or anger, we are more likely to feel those same emotions. University of Toronto assistant professor Brett Ford explains, “People who accept these emotions without judging or trying to change them are able to cope with their stress more successfully.” Focus on the here and now We’re happiest when we live in the moment, no matter what we’re working on. When our minds wander toward the past or the future, they often end up ruminating. Rumination differs from healthy reflection, when we analyze specific elements of a problem to better understand it. The first step to feeling better is to notice your cognitive distortions, or the dirty tricks your brain plays on you. If you find yourself pessimistically obsessing, reframe your thoughts. Another way to stop yourself from ruminating is through social distancing, when you try to look at your situation through someone else’s eyes. Ask yourself, “What advice would I give to a friend who felt similarly?” Lastly, remember your thoughts are simply that: thoughts. Acknowledge them, but recognize they are not inevitable truths. Let go of what you can’t control Stressors fall into two categories: those you can do something about (the withins) and those beyond your control (the beyonds). If you’re anxious because of withins— unanswered emails in your inbox or an impending deadline—the easiest way to feel better is to complete the thing that is stressing you out. How do you stop stressing about the things you can’t control? First, you have to be diligent about recognizing what you can’t control. If you feel responsible for the beyonds, you’ll never be able to confidently say you’ve done enough and relax. TAKEAWAYS 1. Take the break you can, whether it’s a vacation, a day off, or a minibreak. 2. Make time to be rigorously unproductive, see friends and family, and step away from your email and phone. 3. Stop feeling bad about feeling bad. Reframe your stress as motivation or excitement. 4. Prevent rumination by viewing your thoughts as simply thoughts, not as inevitable truths. Stay in the present and take care of the things within your control.
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4 Ways to Improve Your Happiness Through Art

If you are looking for a place to learn something new about yourself, improve on your overall health and happiness and make real connections, try your local museum. A meaningful museum visit can offer substantial benefits if you approach it as something more than just a place for observing art and artifacts. So, get out of the ordinary, and allow the art to take you in. Get Lost Research suggests mental restoration is achieved by mentally and physically removing yourself from routine and immersing yourself in an experience that leads to mindfulness. Amuseum visit during which you take on the role of both passive viewer and active participant offers such an opportunity. The next time you see astill life, consider what the individual objects in the painting mean to you. This can spark reminiscence and self-reflection. Engage Engaging with art on an emotional level can be inspiring. Skip the text panel description of the art piece, and instead ask yourself, “If this image could talk to me, what would it say?” or “What feelings does this image evoke in me?” These questions allow you to project your life stories onto the art, assigning personal meaning to and helping you connect with the work on adeeper level. Flex Your Mind Studies have shown that new experiences and learning can have positive effects on your physiological health, leading to increased brain health and immune system function. Learning builds confidence and increases self-esteem—sharing knowledge is empowering. A docent-led tour allows you to learn more details about the artists’ backgrounds, the subject matter and how pieces were acquired. Buddy Up Visiting a museum with someone is a great way to open the door for rich, meaningful conversation. You learn one another’s interests and share knowledge, reaffirming established connections and forging new ones. For example, discuss attributes the subject in a portrait has, and consider if these are qualities you appreciate. (This story originally appeared in the August 2014 issue of Live Happy magazine.)
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Always in Good Company

Imagine: the morning of a big family dinner with three generations of relatives, half of them from out of state, multiple dishes to cook and no working oven. What do you do? “Thank the sweet Lord that our neighbors were going out to eat! So I took the food next door to cook,” says actor Tiffani Thiessen, who starred in USA Network’s White Collar, for six seasons, as well as earlier series Saved by the Bell and Beverly Hills 90210. Tiffani, host of the Cooking Channel’s Dinner at Tiffani’s, laughs as she talks about the dinner party that almost didn’t happen. “I got extra cardio in that day, that’s for sure!” But sister-in-law Jill Smith points out that, “even if that meal hadn’t cooked, and we’d just had cheese and crackers, we still would’ve had a great time. With our families, it’s always about being together and enjoying each other.” Whenever possible, Tiffani and Jill like to co-host dinners together, including a recent outdoor party with family and friends to celebrate Tiffani’s new show. Jill, whose brother, actor Brady Smith, is Tiffani’s husband, says she often forgets her sister-in-law is a celebrity. “Something I like best about Tiffani is just her warm heart and her ability to make people feel comfortable and at home,” she says. Stirring Her Passions Tiffani says the great cooks in her family were her primary influences in the kitchen. But they taught her something else, too: “My mother, grandmother and aunt have always said a good hostess is not just someone who puts great food on the table, but someone who makes people feel comfortable.” Even while working, often commuting from coast to coast, and raising a daughter who is now 4½, Tiffani enjoyed having people to her home for dinner. Dinner at Tiffani’s (a play on the 1961 movie Breakfast at Tiffany’s starring Audrey Hepburn) became a joke among friends invited to the Thiessen-Smith home. The phrase stayed with Tiffani. “I thought, ‘That’s a great title.’ I was talking one day with my husband, and we thought this is probably a space we could kind of explore. That’s how we came up with the concept. Given that I’ve been in the business for so long—32 years going on 33—it’s amazing the slew of people I’ve gotten to work with and have been fortunate enough to stay friends with.” So, what if she invited these old friends to reconnect over Dinner at Tiffani’s? The Cooking Channel loved the idea and bought it. Perfection Is Overrated Tiffani emphasizes that she’s not a professionally trained chef. The menus and recipes she’s created for the show are not complicated—and that’s by design, to demonstrate how easy entertaining can be. “I want people to be able to do what I’m doing on TV.” It’s not about being perfect; it’s about creating and celebrating special moments with people we care about, she says. Jill says Tiffani’s easy-going personality contributes to the relaxed ambiance. “It’s just the ease of her personality. She’s just one of the most charming, down-to-earth people I’ve ever known. She’s not trying to put on a show and to be incredibly perfect. It’s not all about her, but about the entire event,” Jill says. “And she’s a hard worker, too. She’s the one who’s up in her pajamas making sure everything is ready for a party the next day.” The sisters-in-law have complementary skills and often co-host dinner parties for family and friends. They communicate about the overall look and feel they want and any special details, then focus on their specialties: Tiffani on the food and Jill, who is a graphic artist, on the décor. For their recent party, they started by creating a Pinterest board to collect and share ideas. Later, they would show the board to their floral designer and to a friend who would prepare the desserts. They wanted it to be festive and elegant, yet cozy and not fussy. “We didn’t want everything to be incredibly perfect,” Jill says. They chose a color scheme of classic black and white, and decided to host the party outside at a collection of tables—almost like a picnic. They used dining chairs from different sets, and combined contemporary black and white stemware with delicate crystal. Tiffani, in a black sequined cocktail dress, passed trays of hors d’oeuvres. For the menu, she chose fresh, seasonal ingredients to create dishes including roasted chicken with lemon and Picholine olives; roasted acorn squash with spicy maple glaze; and wheat berry salad with roasted carrots, feta cheese and mint. Connecting Through Food Tiffani acknowledges that dinner parties can be intimidating, but that shouldn’t be an excuse to not have them. “It’s stressful! I won’t tell you it’s not stressful,” she says. “But matching anything doesn’t matter. Sometimes the table looks better when nothing is matched. It doesn’t matter what your house looks like—if you have nice weather, do something like a picnic outside. It’s about what you’re putting on the table and about connecting with each other. You don’t have to have fancy dinnerware to show people you care.” Hosting a dinner party is a lot like acting, Tiffani says—hopefully, without the drama of an oven-less family dinner. “This is just pure passion for me. It’s an extension of my creativity. There’s an artistic side to it,” she says. The concept for the event, the look and feel, the menu and décor “go hand in hand,” she says. Each component contributes to the overall look and feel. Tiffani also puts thought into her guest list, making sure the “bigger personalities” don’t overwhelm the introverts. Tiffani says food is one of the few things that touches people’s emotions. “I think music is the only other thing that does that,” she says. “Food can make people feel happy, feel comfortable. And that’s something I really wanted to convey in the show. You know everybody is so busy on computers, tab-lets and phones, and we don’t make eye contact, and we’re losing a sense of connection. So I think it’s even more important for people to stop, sit down as friends, families and colleagues and share a meal. I hope that’s something that never changes.”
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4 Ways to Keep Your Self-Esteem While Raising Teenagers

Teenagers can be rough on your self-esteem. While a younger child looks up to you, desires your company, is eager to please and aspires to be like you, an adolescent becomes more critical, more focused on friends, more argumentative, more passively resistant and strives to be distinct from you. Because of this, you might feel like you invest most of your time worrying about, arguing with, negotiating with and nagging your teen. And, you feel like your worthy efforts at parenting either go unnoticed or are not appreciated. So, how can you cope with this blow to your self-esteem? You must first take responsibility for managing it yourself. To do that, try these four suggestions to make it easier for you. Adjusting Expectations You shouldn’t take these changes personally; they are not about you. Instead, you might tell yourself, “I understand that as my teenager is changing, our relationship is changing. This means that close together times might seem harder to come by.” Asking for What You Need When you feel unacknowledged for your efforts, it’s important that you ask for what you need. For example, you might declare your expectation for common courtesy by saying, “When I do something for you, I would like a ‘thank-you’ just as I give when you do for me.” And when the relationship starts to feel distant or disaffected, you can express your feelings and suggest ways to reconnect by saying something like, “How about we go out to get something to eat or go to a movie or do something else together? I’ve been missing fun company with you.” Insisting on a Give-and-Take You should refuse to adopt a role where you do all the giving and the teenager does all the receiving, because this will naturally lead to resentment. Instead, you can simply say, “I expect to live in a two-way relationship with you. This means just as I do for you, I expect you also do for me. And sometimes you will need to do for me before I do for you.” Defining Yourself Broadly You should not allow your self-esteem to depend entirely on the opinion of your teenager and what she or he does or doesn’t do. Instead, you must define yourself broadly beyond only being a parent to an adolescent. You might remind yourself of other aspects of your life, such as your active social circles, hobbies that you enjoy or charities that you are involved with. And you should absolutely not judge yourself through your adolescent’s unappreciative or critical eyes. To keep up your self-esteem, you must evaluate yourself kindly by focusing on your various parenting “wins,” even if they seem small. To keep up your self-esteemwhile raising teenagers, it helps if you ask yourself,“What do I wish my adolescentwould say in recognition for all I do for her?”Then, you should commit to being your own best supporter and affirmatively answer thatquestion for yourself.
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Running for Joy

Running for Joy

Dusty Olson was barely halfway through the 50-kilometer Speedgoat endurance run in Utah’s Wasatch Mountains when the cramps started. The sharp pain originated in his thighs, but then spread throughout his legs, nearly crippling him. The cramps were so severe, he was forced to stop running and lie down on the dirt trail, sweating and shuddering. He waited a few minutes, then peeled himself off the ground and started running again. Miles down the trail, the cramps returned and he was back in the dirt. He continued this pattern until he crossed the finish line, more than six hours from the time he’d started. “There’s no way I wasn’t going to finish,” Dusty says. “Even with the cramps. Anytime I’m out there, moving and getting that release, even with pain, it feels good.” Dusty Olson is a long-distance fiend. He grew up in Duluth, Minnesota, a nationally ranked Nordic skier who ran cross-country in high school as training for his winter sport. He won junior nationals in Nordic skiing and took top honors at a regional cross-country championship. Built long and lean with a mop of wavy blond hair, his body got accustomed to four-hour-long runs, the miles vanishing beneath his feet. At age 19, in 1993, he signed up for his first endurance run, the Minnesota Voyageur 50-miler. He won the race, pulling into the lead halfway through and surprising even himself. Soon after, he started training for long runs with his friend, Scott Jurek, with whom he’d grown up skiing. When Scott entered his first 100-mile race, Dusty offered to pace him, meaning he’d run alongside him for the latter half of the race, setting the tempo, shining an extra flashlight on the trail when darkness settled in, and making sure Scott got enough food and water. Scott went on to become one of the country’s top ultra-marathoners, with a record seven consecutive wins at California’s 100-mile Western States run. In 2010, Scott set a record by running 165.7 miles—the length of six and a half marathons—in a 24-hour period. Throughout it all, Dusty was his sidekick, his trusted partner on the trail who kept him on track when things got tough. By late 2010, it was Dusty who started suffering. His knees and legs felt heavy and he was experiencing flu-like symptoms, a fever and cold sweats. He visited a handful of doctors and eventually got a diagnosis: He had Lyme disease, contracted from a tick bite months earlier. Doctors told him he should take time off from running and let his body and immune system recover. But after 20 years of running long distances, Dusty couldn’t imagine life without running. He runs year-round, even in the cold Minnesota winters. Logging those miles make him who he is. It’s what fills him with joy and gives him a sense of release. “Once you get efficient at running, you get that feeling of Zen, or runner’s high,” says Dusty. “You gain that outer-body sensation where you’re just floating through the trail or up the hill.” Without that sensation, how was he supposed to face the rest of the world? “It was hard to deal,” he says. “When you can’t run, you don’t have that path to escape, that channel to sort things out in your daily life.” Dusty had discovered something scientists are still trying to figure out. Somehow, the act of putting one foot in front of the other gave him an unrivaled sense of bliss. We call it runner’s high, the chemical reaction in your body triggered by vigorous exercise that helps improve moods and reduce stress. Researchers are still studying how it works, but one thing appears clear: Running can send you on the path to happiness. Your Brain on Running The act of running isn’t necessarily pleasurable. Sore legs, pounding heart, constricted lungs. But there’s something about running that has a nearly supernatural ability to turn physical discomfort into a feel-good, emotional sensation. Even people who say they hate exercise generally agree that they feel better—and happier—after a workout. It’s called runner’s high for a reason, because it can feel almost like a sensation you get from drugs. And it can be equally addictive. “The neurotransmitters likely responsible for exercise-induced rewards activate the same receptors in the brain that are activated by drugs,” says David Raichlen, an associate anthropology professor at the University of Arizona who has completed a series of studies on the idea of runner’s high. “The effects from these endogenous chemicals are milder than exogenous drugs.” Researchers have been studying runner’s high for decades, and there’s still a good amount of disagreement about what causes it, or if the sense of euphoria can even be scientifically proven. Early research suggested runner’s high came from endorphins released in the brain during exercise, but some 20 years ago, neuroscientists began suggesting that a different neurochemical system, named the endocannabinoid system, was likely responsible for runners’ reported ecstasy. David’s research has found that the neurotransmitters released during exercise also act as pain relievers, so it’s possible that they are produced to make exercise feel less painful. A 2012 study of his, published in the Journal of Experimental Biology, reported that people experienced the highest level of euphoria from moderate-level exercise, like running. “The type of exercise that elicits these moderate intensities can vary based on an individual’s fitness level,” he says. “For some, walking may be enough, and for others, running at a higher speed may be necessary to activate the endocannabinoid system.” Not every run produces this sensation, sadly. Ask Amby Burfoot, the 1968 Boston Marathon winner and the author of The Runner’s Guide to the Meaning of Life, how often he experiences runner’s high, and he’ll tell you he gets it on far less than 1 percent of his runs. He described his first experience with runner’s high in an article in Runner’s World magazine: “For a mile, maybe two, I slipped into another world, a timeless one where there was no effort, no clocks, no yesterday, no tomorrow. I floated along for 15 minutes, aware of nothing, just drifting.” As Amby describes it, runner’s high is a type of flow state, the heightened consciousness first described by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, which is often referred to as being in the zone. “The best moments usually occur when a person’s body or mind is stretched to its limits in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile,” Mihaly wrote in his book, Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience. At age 68, Amby keeps running—he’s logged more than 105,000 miles in his life—because he hopes to achieve this flow state. “Running is a great way to help lose a few pounds or maintain a healthy weight, but it does much more than this,” Amby says. “Running helps people keep a positive attitude. And it breeds achievement, which spills over into all areas of life.” When Amby came down with a serious intestinal infection a year ago, his health problems threw him into a spiral of depression. “I had almost never had a down day in my life, and now I was more or less completely incapacitated,” he says. He committed to running three miles every day, even though it was painful, with the belief that regular exercise would improve his physical and emotional wellbeing. After three months, it worked: He was healthy and happy again. “I simply tell people, running isn’t that difficult. The only muscle you need is the big one between your ears,” Amby says. “Running doesn’t take skill, it just takes discipline and determination to carve out a schedule of three or four runs a week that can deliver all the benefits of running. When someone wants to run badly enough, they can and will.” The Enlightened Path Natalie Wilgoren, a 64-year-old psychiatric nurse practitioner from Boca Raton, Florida, got into running just a few years ago. Although she’d been active most of her life, she hadn’t run since she was in her 30s. But she decided to sign up for a half marathon in Las Vegas in honor of her 60th birthday. She joined a running group and started by jogging just short distances—“I’d run lamppost to lamppost,” she says. She completed the 13.1 miles in Vegas while also raising money for the Crohn’s and Colitis Foundation through a group running program called Team Challenge. The camaraderie of the race—everyone cheering each other on, the adrenaline of standing on the starting line with 27,000 other runners—made her feel like she belonged to something bigger. After that, she was hooked (“I guess you could say I’m addicted,” she acknowledges). She signed up for more half marathons in far-off locales, like Washington’s Olympic Peninsula, Boston and Savannah, Georgia. Back home in Florida, she meets her running group at 6 a.m. every Saturday for a long run, and afterward they all go out for a well-earned breakfast together. “I like doing it because I like the whole scene,” Natalie says. “Everybody is out being healthy and working toward a goal. And we support and look out for each other.” In addition to that sense of community, she says running has given her more energy and more focus and that she’s generally in a better mood. “Plus, I think it has a lasting effect,” she says. “It’s not just after the run that I feel better. Once you have that rhythm going—of running a few days a week—it makes a difference to your whole life.” You don’t need to run marathons or 100-mile races to experience the emotional upswings delivered by running. A Scottish study, published in 2009 in the British Journal of Sports Medicine, reports that participants only needed a minimum of 20 minutes of exercise each week to experience mental health benefits. That’s one short run—maybe covering two miles—each week. That’s something you can do all four seasons, whether you’re running on a treadmill in the gym in the winter or outside any time of year. Of course, if you can squeeze in even more than that, you’ll have a better chance of experiencing the long-term benefits of regular exercise. A study by the Public Health Agency of Canada found that regular physical activity was related to long-term happiness, with consistently active subjects showing a higher level of happiness up to two and four years later. Fit regular and moderately intense exercise into your schedule and the impacts on the rest of your life can be profound. Take professional triathlete Jesse Thomas, 34, and his wife, Lauren Fleshman, 33, a professional long-distance runner. The two met at Stanford University, where they were both NCAA All-American track and field athletes. From their home in Bend, Oregon, they both work out around 20 hours a week, while also juggling raising their young son, Jude, and running Picky Bars, the energy bar company they co-founded. It can all feel stressful and overwhelming, but they say exercise is what gives them the energy they need to tackle the rest of life’s duties. “When I’m not working out, I feel frustrated, bored and unmotivated,” Jesse says. “That’s the biggest thing with exercise—I come back from a run, and I’m more motivated to do all the other stuff in my life. You’d think it might be the opposite, that you’d be tired from a long run, but instead, it gives me an energy boost.” Lauren agrees. “When other things in life are challenging, I have this reserve of positive energy from my running life that can spill over,” she says. “How many people who don’t exercise get to be alone for an hour with their thoughts? It’s very meditative.” They’ve both dealt with injuries that have put them out of commission for a while, and getting back into their sports afterward can be a tough transition. “I understand why people don’t want to exercise—it’s so hard at first,” Lauren says. “It takes months of consistent work without a lot of positive feedback before you start reaping any of the rewards. But then, it’s like a self-fueling fire.” Running, Jesse adds, is like their church, their place of solace. “To me, running feels like coming home,” he says. “It’s just me and my shoes and my shorts and that’s it. It’s the most Zen I get. It’s very spiritual and rejuvenating.” Running for Life Dusty Olson has recently returned to running after his battle with Lyme disease. It’s been a long and hard road to recovery, full of antibiotics with weird side effects, an endless stream of doctors, and medical treatments he can’t afford. His local community threw a running and paddling fundraising event in his honor to help cover the cost of some of his medical bills. He’s been getting out for runs, mainly short ones, a couple days a week if he can manage it. “Some days are better than others, but I’m improving,” Dusty says. “Sooner or later, the body rebuilds itself.” A carpenter and ski coach by trade, Dusty says he once had an employer tell him that he had to go for a run in the morning before he came to work, otherwise he’d be too distracted and unable to focus. When he got his morning run in, however, he was significantly more efficient at work. “That was a good boss to have,” Dusty says. “He even let me come into work an hour late so I could get a long run in beforehand.” He’s started getting into marathon canoe races—60-plus-mile paddles on rivers and lakes around Minnesota. Naturally, he’s already won a few of those. Canoeing, he says, is easier on his joints. But there’s no such thing as a paddler’s high. So, he keeps on running. Because he can’t imagine not doing it. Because it’s the only way he knows how to find peace. “There’s something about running that lets your brain just focus on that one thing,” he says. “It’s a taste of freedom. It’s complete happiness.” (This story originally appeared in the February 2015 issue of Live Happy magazine.)
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Host a Wall to Share Your #HappyActs!

Join Live Happy and many Happy Activists as we celebrate the annual International Day of Happiness (IDOH) on March 20. In addition, all month long, we’ll be sharing ideas, stories, videos and more on how to spread kindness, compassion and love with your friends, neighbors and co-workers. Here’s what you can do to get in on the action: Host a Happiness Wall Help us get a record-breaking number of Happiness Walls around the world. We have everything you need to spread joy right where you are. Whether you're a do-it-yourselfer or a keep-it-simple kind of person, you can create your own Happiness Wall with ease. Let’s get started! Invite family and friends, the community and even the media to share the moment. Be creative—use decorations and balloons—make it a festive event. Find some inspiration from past Happiness Wall events. Bring your very own Happiness Wall home with our new Wall Poster—it’s that easy! Teach your kids the importance of kindness, compassion and giving back. Finally, take pictures and share them with us on social media using #HappyActs and #LiveHappy! Attend a Happiness Wall Event Find out where your closest Happiness Wall is and attend a local event—make it a family affair! Perform #HappyActs Get inspired by daily themed happy acts such as posting a video of your happy dance, thanking your boss or co-worker, or donating your time to a worthy cause. Do, learn and share your #HappyActs on social media (make sure to use the hashtag!). Become a Happy Activist Join our Live Happy #HappyActs Wall Hosts Facebook group to find other Happiness Activists near you, listen to inspirational wall stories and get great wall ideas. Encourage others to perform #HappyActs. Sign up for our e-newsletter to learn more about why you get that warm, fuzzy feeling when you share #HappyActs. Go to happyacts.org to learn more!
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Want a Better Future? Let’s Hope

Want a Better Future? Let’s Hope

Welcome, Happy Activists! A Happy Activist is someone who, through kind words and intentional positive actions, strives to make the world a better place. Live Happy invites you to join our #HappyActs movement! On the 20th of each month, we encourage everyone to incorporate kindness into your daily lives by participating in each month’s planned activity. The more who join the #HappyActs movement, the more positive impact we’ll all have on our homes, workplaces and communities. What you think and do matters! January’s happiness theme is hope. As one of the character strengths mostly associated with happiness, hope gives us the strength and motivation to achieve our goals. Ryan M. Niemiec, Ph.D., Education Director at the Via Institute on Character, says that building up hope can be beneficial to our mental, physical and social health. He suggests writing down a goal and three ways to achieve to that goal and why. Our January Happy Act is to create a Hope Chandelier. This easy-to-do craft can provide the inspiration you need to create more hope in your life. Hope chandeliers look great at home or school. You can even plan one for an activity during wedding or baby shower. Gather these materials: Glue gun and glue Scissors Various ribbons Quilting hoop Twine Cord or yarn for hanging Basket Paper Step 1. Tie the twine to the inside of the quilt hoop and wrap around the hoop, creating a “web.” Tie off and insert back into outer loop. Secure. Step 2. Tie yarn (or cord) around the quilting loop to create the top “hanger.” Step 3. Use glue gun to secure ribbon around the outside of the hoop. Secure some decorative ribbons on hoop to start the chandelier. Step 4. Print instructions on paper and mount for display or glue to a basket lid as shown. Step 5. Cut strips of ribbon in various lengths (recommend 3 to 5 feet). Step 6. Write down your hopes on the ribbons and attached to the chandelier. Our January Happy Activist is Camille Gerace Nitschky, Executive Director of Children’s Grief Center in Midland, Michigan. Camille and her team of volunteers are dedicated to bringing back hope and joy in the lives of young people who have experienced the loss of loved ones. Children’s Grief Center is a safe place for children, teenagers and their families to get the love and support during times of sadness. “We have over a hundred kids coming to group,” Camille says. “They find a lot of connection in the sense of belonging and they realize that they are not alone in their grief.” Any time we can give hope to others, especially those who need it the most, we give them something to look forward to, relieve anxiety and create positive relationships. “We turned something hard and what seems to be negative into something positive and a tool for living.” For more inspiring stories about hope: Write a Hope Letter 31 Ideas of Hope 4 Websites That Will Help You Build Hope Time to up your #HappyActs game. Help us spread global happiness by becoming a Happy Activist and host your very own Happiness Wall for the International Day of Happiness (March 20). Learn how you can host a wall at your school, business or organization and find out how to create your own fantastic wall using one of our Happy Acts Wall Kits.
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5 Books That Will Change Your Life in 2019 With Sandra Bilbray

If you’re looking for books that will get your new year off to a great start, this week’s podcast will hit the spot. Live Happy Books Editor Sandra Bilbray tells us about five fantastic books worth picking up and tells us what you can expect to learn from each one. Learn more about each of these books by picking up our Live Happy bookazine, or follow the links below. - Big Potential: How Transforming the Pursuit of Success Raises Our Achievement, Happiness and Well-being by Shawn Achor - Your Best Year Ever: A 5-Step Plan for Achieving Your Most Important Goals by Michael Hyatt - The Wisdom of Sundays: Life-Changing Insights from Super Soul Conversations by Oprah Winfrey - I Know How She Does It: How Successful Women Make the Most of Their Time by Laura Vanderkam - Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life by Susan David, PhD Don't miss an episode! Live Happy Now is available at the following places:           
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You Can Lean on Amy Rutberg

You Can Lean on Amy Rutberg

Actress Amy Rutberg never forgets how she got her start in acting. At 9, her mother took her to an audition where she would meet the person who would change her life. The director of the play saw something in the extroverted Amy and helped cultivate the acting and life skills that she needed to live out her life’s passion. “I think about her often,” Amy says. “Her kindness in helping me really planted the seeds to the adult and actor I became.” Today, you’ll find Amy practicing her craft on hit television shows such as Marvel’s Daredevil and The Defenders, as well as NCIS: New Orleans. Because she credits her success from the kindness of others and she knows how tough show business can be, she says she never passes on an opportunity to help mentor a young person with advice and insight. “If you give someone the right advice at the right time, it can make a world of difference,” she says. Who taught you the most about happiness? The two most influential people in my life who have been my role models for happiness have been my mother and my husband. My mother’s happiness was so selfless. She made sure I was happy or my dad was happy. Seeing other people happy made her happy. While that is admirable, I wouldn’t say that it is necessarily applicable to my life. Maybe that’s just my generation, we need to find our happiness; we need to be fulfilled on our own. My husband really always has the best advice, whenever I am upset about something, he turns to me and says, “Amy, relax. Everything is as it should be.” There’s something about that, even when I want to resist it or think that it’s trite. He has a calming energy on me. How do you stay balanced? I’m also a mom. I have a 4-year-old. When I am not working, I try to spend as much time with her as possible. I’m no stranger to me time. I think my husband and I have kind of both made that a priority in our family. A mentally well-balanced person is the better family member and a better parent. What is the kindest act someone has ever done for you? My mother let me audition for this play and there was this director, her name was Anne Gesling. I was 9 years old and she put me in the show and gave me a role. She really took me under her wing and pushed me. She saw that I was a precocious kid and she saw that I had talent and this might be something I spend my life doing. She cultivated that, not by coddling me, but by empathetically pushing me. I came back to this woman time and time again for years throughout my childhood and she taught me the hard work and discipline of the business. She is still doing that for kids. How do you like to make others happy? I think that one of the most important things that you can do as a person for somebody else, is to listen to them. Everybody is going through something, whether it’s the little things like being upset about your kid’s soccer program. Maybe it’s something bigger. I think of my relationships with my husband, my family and my friends, and just being there, being present and just listening to someone is the greatest gift you can give them. What inspires you to be the best person you can be? I know this is a cliché, but it’s my kid. People always talk about the wonderful things and the negative things about being a parent, but I don’t think I appreciated the tremendous moral and ethical responsibility to being a role model for someone. I mean, I am her whole world, granted she is only 4. She learns from everything I do and say and that is a massive responsibility. I am very grateful that I get this opportunity and for all its difficulties, it is truly the most remarkable thing one can do in life. Everything that I do, I try to think how that plays in to how I want my daughter to become. What do you do to boost your mood? I always go back to Broadway musical because it reminds me of my childhood. When I am feeling down and I have a big decision to make, I put on the songs of my childhood, which are all Broadway musicals. I’ll put on Evita, Jesus Christ Superstar or something by Stephen Sondheim and that relaxes me. There is something comforting about those sounds and being a kid remembering what that was like. Where is your happy place? Any beach will do. I really am a beach person. My parents have a lake house in Lake Arrowhead, California, and going out there sitting in the boat on the lake is when I am most Zen and happy. Unfortunately, I only get there a couple times a year. My other place is Montauk, which is a beach community out here in New York that my family and I go to every year. We go to the same beach and playing with my kid on that beach is really when I feel the most present. I always leave that trip and say, “This is the most present I have been all year.” There is something amazing about building sandcastles to like really put you in the moment.
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