5 secrets to a happy morning

5 Secrets to a Happy Morning

Midway through Monday mornings, the drama in my house starts to escalate to near-hysteria. The 4-year-old is melting down because she didn't get to choose her own outfit; the 18-month-old is getting into the magic markers; the 6-year-old tries to do some homework but can’t find a pencil.Adults fare no better. My husband is getting antsy because he needs to get to work 10 minutes ago but is waiting for me, while I’m still in the shower after dealing with aforementioned 18-month-old.It's no wonder that by the time the last child is tucked into school, I breathe a sigh of relief, feeling like I've just caught the last flight home from a war zone.Not all days are this rough; Mondays certainly have a rawness that comes with the transition between relaxed weekend and hectic week. But over the years I have learned five key things that will get anybody's morning off to a happier start:1. Make time for quiet contemplationI know it seems counterintuitive when we are already pressed for time, but 10 minutes of mindfulness or exercise most mornings will make everything start more smoothly. For some people it's 10 minutes of meditation, for others, quiet time for prayer, and others still, a run through the park. Yes, you probably have to get up earlier, but give it a try for a week and you’ll see what a difference it makes.2.Go to sleep earlier the night beforeI know, I know, evenings are when we unwind—often the only time of day when we don't feel like we're running from one thing to the next. And yet, sometimes that last hour of staying up is a little gratuitous. If you find yourself dragging in the late afternoon, consider skipping a TV show in favor of extra Z’s. Your body will thank you.3.Identify things that unhinge you and do them the night beforeHave you noticed a consistent morning time-suck? Perhaps it's packing lunches, finding a presentable outfit, or helping your kid gather her sports gear.Whatever it is, chances are pretty good you can get it done more efficiently if you take care of it the night before, leaving you to focus on those things that genuinely need to happen in the morning.4.Get the kids with the programI'm not above making a good bribe if it means cooperative kids and peace among all the family members. Do you have a kid who drags her heels getting dressed? She can watch a show or play outside if she gets ready with enough time to spare. The oldest who wakes up early? He can help get breakfast for his younger siblings.5. Make yourself an excellent breakfastThis last is my favorite, since it's all about creating a pleasurable moment in the midst of a hectic morning.What makes for an excellent breakfast? If a cup of coffee and a bowl of bran cereal sounds good to you, you’re good to go. But I prefer something a little more substantial—and delicious.Really good bread, toasted and slathered with mashed avocado, salt, and pepper gives you a boost of protein to start your day. A scrambled egg with cheese and a buttered whole-wheat English muffin does the same. A bowl thick with real oatmeal, drizzled with some deep dark maple syrup and a pat of salty butter—what could be better?Lesley Porcelli is a freelance writer living in New York. She was formerly an editor at Gourmet magazine.
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Happiest Country in the World: Switzerland

The United Nations’ World Happiness Report was released today, along with its index of countries in the world, ranked from happiest to least happy.“The same countries have made it into the top as last year, but the ranking has rearranged,” says Jeffrey Sachs, professor at The Earth Institute at Columbia University and one of the report’s authors.The report, which used information gathered between 2012 and 2015by Gallup, based its findings on six key variables that influence people’s happiness: real GDP per capita, healthy life expectancy, having someone to count on, generosity, perceived freedom to make like choices and freedom from corruption.The five happiest countries are:1. Switzerland2. Iceland3. Denmark4. Norway5. CanadaAt the other end of the scale:154. Rwanda155. Benin156. Syria157. Burundi158. TogoThe United States ranks 15th.Report co-author John F. Helliwell, professor at the University of British Columbia and the Canadian Institute for Advanced Research noted that some countries that have weathered difficult times have actually improved their happiness rank because of the “social capital,” or having someone to lean or depend upon.“Countries with tight social capital can weather economic disasters and come out better,” he notes. “Both Iceland and Ireland had their banking systems decimated, but came through with their social capital unscathed.”He adds that studies have shown residents of east Japan who survived the 2011 earthquake and tsunami are happier now than they were before the disaster.“It gave them a chance to prove their social connections,” he says. “When your level of social connections are high enough, you can recover.”The role of the governmentAll of the countries in the top 10 scored well on the six variables identified by Gallup as affecting happiness. Jeffrey says that even though the GDP is higher in the U.S., the overall perception of the government could play a key role in diminishing the nation’s happiness.“In the U.S., unlike other countries, trust and confidence in the government is going down,” he says. “The top countries are both affluent and have strong social support in which the government is viewed as honest.”The report ends with a chapter that looks at how to restore more trust in society, strengthen social networks and regain trust in our governments. “This is a point that I think is fundamental for this report,” Jeffrey says.
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World Happiness Report to Be Released Thursday

When the first World Happiness Report was released on April 1, 2012, it became the first report to provide a global look at happiness and well-being ̶and to look at the role public policy could play in a country’s happiness. A new happiness paradigm Published by the United Nations Sustainable Development Solutions Network, the report came on the heels of the UN General Assembly’s 2011 passage of a resolution inviting member countries to begin measuring happiness as a way to guide public policy. The comprehensive report provided the foundation for the first UN High Level Meeting on “Happiness and Well-Being: Defining a New Economic Paradigm.” Although the report was intended to guide public policy, it has found a reach far beyond that initial audience and, to date, it has been downloaded more than 1 million times. A second report was released in 2013, and it picked up where the first report left off. It showed significant changes in happiness in countries over time, with some countries showing increased happiness and others becoming less happy. The report, compiled by experts in several different areas including economics, psychology and survey analysis, provided a clear picture for policy makers about what key issues affect happiness. The big reveal On Thursday, the third World Happiness Report will be released online to the public. A special public event is set for Friday, April 24, from 7 to 9 p.m. at the New York Society for Ethical Culture, in which the report co-authors, Professors Jeffrey Sachs, John Helliwell and Richard Layard, will discuss their findings. Among new areas of data collected in the 2015 report are how happiness differs among genders around the world, the neuroscience of happiness, a cost-benefit analysis of policies promoting happiness and happiness in children. To download a copy of the new report on Thursday or register to attend the public event, go to https://unsdsn.org/happiness/
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Lisa Loeb Is Staying Positive

Lisa Loeb is many things to many people: To her fans, she’s a relatable, folksy musical artist; to her children, Lyla, 5, and Emet, 3, she’s a mom; to the beneficiaries of her nonprofit organization, The Camp Lisa Foundation, she’s a blessing. Most of all, to just about anyone and everyone she meets, she’s a genuinely happy person, and it’s that authentic glow that fuels all of the other aspects of her life. While it may seem the pop star is beaming with positivity now, it wasn’t always this way for Lisa. A childhood of searching “I feel like I spent a lot of time when I was younger being depressed, having my teenage angst, thinking about life, and being frustrated,” Lisa says. “I had a very happy childhood; my parents were great. I was not wanting for anything. I think that there’s just something in me that wasn't satisfied.” But Lisa didn’t ever stay down for too long. Looking on the brighter side “As I went along, I realized there were different ways that you could look at the world to see the brighter side of things,” she explains. “I try to be more of a glass half-full person than a glass half-empty. As I grow older, I continue to get a sense of being satisfied.” According to Lisa, an early love of music—and, eventually, a career in it—sustained her happiness. Music pulls you out “There’s something very magical when you’re working with other people and you're collaborating,” she says. “There’s something that makes you happy when you connect with people. Actually, just singing a sad melody can actually make you feel better. It’s like a way to digest those negative feelings… it pulls you out of it. Luckily with my work, I have that.” Camp Lisa On her second children’s album, Camp Lisa, she teamed up with some notable guests, including Nina Gordon, Jill Sobule and Steve Martin on banjo, to pay homage to some of her fondest memories growing up at summer camp. Lisa gives a portion of the sales from the record to the foundation she created to help kids who wouldn’t otherwise be able to afford to go to summer camp. “Summer camp was super important to me growing up,” she says. “I was really committed to school, and making good grades and all those kind of things, but I felt like I learned more about myself as a person when I was at summer camp, and it was really fun. I wanted to share that experience with other kids who didn’t have that opportunity. I feel like I want to help as much as I can because I have a voice out there.” A voice out there For Lisa, keeping a 20 years-plus career in perspective also helps maintain her positive outlook. Realizing that she had a lot of help along the way, like having her chart-topping hit “Stay” from the Reality Bites soundtrack discovered through her friendship with actor Ethan Hawke, she never forgets to be thankful. “I’m definitely grateful to different people for helping me find my sound, for helping me like that with different connections that led to other things,” she says. “Just for people who really wanted to listen to music and buy it, people who told friends about it… I’m grateful for all that.”
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Desmond Tutu and Dalai Lama Write Happiness Book

Got questions about joy? Your answer could come from spiritual leaders Desmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama, who will collaborate onThe Book of Joy. The best part: They want you to help write it. The two aretaking your questions on a Facebook page(orhere on mobile). Questions will be compiled into a list that readers can vote on. Winning questions will be answered by the South African archbishop and the Buddhist leader. The two will meet inDharamshala, India, April 20-24 not only to celebrate the Dalai Lama’s80thbirthday but also to collaborate on the book. Co-writer Douglas Abrams, who worked with Desmond Tutu on a children's title,God's Dream, will interview the two about their perspectives on joy. Videos of their discussions will be shared with the world after their meeting. As Douglastold Publisher's WeeklyDesmond Tutu and the Dalai Lama "are two of the most infectiously happy people on the planet, and they are willing to share what they have learned with the rest of us." The Book of Joy: Finding Enduring Happiness In an Uncertain Worldwill be published in 2016 by Avery Books, a Penguin Random House imprint focused on wellness and health. *** Jim Gold is a veteran journalist based in Seattle and the Bay Area.
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Can Happiness Save the Planet?

Jenny Jenkins grew up caring for the planet, so it’s no surprise that she has instilled those same values in her children. Today, the mother of four says it’s become second nature for her and her husband, Cliff, to practice a low-impact, environmentally friendly lifestyle.“Because I grew up thinking this way, it’s not hard,” says Jenny, a high school guidance counselor in Cincinnati, Ohio. “I think we’re happier because we live a less cluttered life. And now we see our kids doing some of the same things.”Experiences over thingsWith an emphasis on shared experiences and family activities over products and purchases, Jenny’s family values togetherness and an active lifestyle. “We all love the outdoors, so we’ll walk wherever we can—like to the grocery store or the farmer’s market—instead of driving. It means that we spend more time together than a lot of families do, and it also is good for us because of the physical activity. And, even just walking to the hardware store, you’re getting outside and connecting with nature, and that makes you happier.”Today, experts say that mindset is just what the planet needs. People who are happier have been found to be less focused on “things” and more focused on fulfilling activities and social relationships, which brings with it a built-in benefit for Mother Earth.Happy people make more responsible consumers?In a recent study, Miriam Tatzel, Ph.D., of Empire State College, State University of New York, found that happy people share one very distinctive trait: They value and seek out experiences instead of possessions. This trait could be the key to creating a healthier planet, she told the American Psychological Association at its convention in August in her presentation, “Consumer Well-Being & Environmental Well-Being: A Surprising Compatibility.”“Consumerism and all the stuff we make harms the environment [through] pollution, climate change, degradation of natural resources,” she says. In the past, a popularscientific viewpoint has been that saving the planet would only be possible if consumers’ consumption habits could be changed. However, she now believes that saving the planet could be as simple as emphasizing happiness.“If people spend less time working and spending, they have more time for relationships and personal interests,” Miriam says. “People who are less materialistic tend to be happier and more satisfied with their lives.”Teaching it to the next generationJenny says she has seen that mindset blossom in her children. “I’m not saying we don’t have any ‘stuff,’ because we do, but we mostly do activities instead of [giving traditional] gifts,” she says. For example, this year they bought family season passes to a ski slope instead of buying items like Xboxes and iPads.“When you start thinking that way, experiences become more important,” Jenny says. “The kids appreciate them more, and it actually is something they’d prefer over regular toys and presents.”Read more about cutting down on consumer clutter.Of course, convincing most consumers not to buy the latest gadget or to skip getting that shiny new car can be a tough sell. In America, consumer debt continues growing, inching up another 3.3 percent in 2014; credit card debt is outpaced only by mortgage and student loan debt.The consequences of consumer debt extend far beyond dismal credit scores; debt also can have serious side effects that impair mood and state of mind. It often is accompanied by stress, fear, anger and depression, according to debt expert Bill Fay of Debt.org. Making people happier with their personal lives could help them downsize their debts while having a ripple effect of creating a happier, more environmentally conscious society overall, Miriam says.Creating an upward spiralCatherine O’Brien, Ph.D., an expert in sustainability education, discovered the link between sustainable living and happiness while working on her doctorate at Barefoot College in Rajasthan, India, in the mid-1990s. “I found that not only did the people there live sustainably, but it was a culture filled with joy,” she says. “They were wildly creative and imaginative. And I had a novel thought that, if we live sustainably, we might be happier.”That thought became the basis for her concept of Sustainable Happiness, which combines principles of positive psychology with a sustainability mindset. As the positive psychology movement gained traction, Catherine saw more areas where it connected with sustainability and created a complete educational platform combining the two.A message of spiritual and emotional abundance“People were tired of hearing environmental messages,” she says, adding that many environmental messages were equated with making sacrifices and relinquishing creature comforts. “I knew that if people could hear the happiness message, it would accelerate their interest. Everyone has an interest in happiness.”Catherine’s Sustainable Happiness teachings look at how fewer material possessions and a deeper connection to the Earth can pave the way to a happier, healthier life. “This is not a new thing, and it’s not something I invented,” she says. “Many indigenous cultures are built on this. It’s about thinking about what we can do to live happily and connect with other people.And in doing so, you often begin making choices that reduce your footprint. It’s not necessarily that you’re thinking about being environmentally friendly, it’s that the activity you choose to participate in has other benefits [for the planet] associated with it.”Happiness as a side effectWhile many of the choices made by happier people are good for the planet, it has also been found that being good to the planet can generate feelings of happiness. So which comes first—personal wellbeing, or caring for the planet? Societies that practice sustainability are shown to be happier than their less environmentally minded counterparts.That’s the foundation of the Happy Planet Index, which was introduced in 2006 by the New Economics Foundation. The global measurement standard multiplies an index of life satisfaction and the life expectancy average of each country’s residents, then divides that by the ecological footprint of the country. Results consistently show that residents with a smaller ecological footprint register greater levels of happiness, satisfaction and wellbeing.Read more on sustainability and going green.In the “State of the World” report developed for The Worldwatch Institute, economist John Talberth, Ph.D., and then director of the Sustainability Indicators Program atRedefining Progress in Oakland, California writes that societies or individuals who practice sustainability and pro-environmental behavior have a greater sense of subjective wellbeing.Meanwhile, a study published in September in the journal Frontiers also found that people who exhibit pro-environmental attitudes and behaviors showed greater signs ofpositivity and well-being.“I think it depends on the individual,” Catherine says. “Some people may think about how they can live happily and connect with others, and that’s going to lead them to dothings that are good for the planet.” Others, she says, may be concerned for the planet and seek out earth-friendly activities that connect them with nature and with other like-minded individuals, both of which are known happiness boosters.Naturally happy“Being in nature, or even just looking at it, is associated with a number of positive physical and mental outcomes, including reduced stress, increased attention and greater self-control,” says Misha Voloaca of the University of Ottawa Well-Being Lab. His current research is centered on the role happiness plays in connecting with nature. “There is good evidence showing that people who are more connected to nature have smaller ecological footprints.Importantly, such people also tend to be happier and more mindful in everyday life. [It supports] both personal and environmental well-being.” Victor Corral-Verdugo of theDepartment of Psychology at the University of Sonora at Hermosillo, Mexico, agrees. His recent study, “Happiness as a Correlate of Sustainable Behavior: A Study of Pro-Ecological, Frugal, Equitable and Altruistic Actions That Promote Subjective Wellbeing,” published in the journal Human Ecology Review, reviews numerous studies on the topic and introduces his own observations. He concludes that the benefits of pro-environmental practices are so positive that they lead to further conservation efforts, which in turn generates a continuing upward spiral of happiness.Victor and his colleagues studied the relationship between sustainable behavior and happiness among college students in Mexico, an area he intentionally selected because it has both environmental and social concerns. He was interested in learning if positive behaviors could offset some of the effects of the environmental problems while at the same time increasing the happiness of its citizens.“According to our results…the more pro-ecological, altruistic, frugal and equitable a person is, the more feelings of happiness (s)he experiences,” Victor finds. He echoes Catherine’s belief that if people knew about the positive consequences of adopting a pro-environmental lifestyle, more people would be eager to participate. And Jenny says it is something her family benefits from every day.“When you’re moving around in nature, eating better and spending time with your family, you’re naturally going to feel better,” she says. “Physically, you feel better. The way you’re living makes you happier. It’s kind of common sense.”
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Are Extroverts Happier?

Do you enjoy work-related cocktail parties? Have you ever talked to a stranger on a bus just for fun? Do you know the barista’s name at your local coffee shop? If you answered yes to one or more of these questions, you may be an extrovert.If you prefer spending Saturday nights reading novels on the couch, and haven’t spoken up in a meeting since that time in 1998—congratulations, you’re an introvert!It feels good to be socialSince the 1960s, psychologists studying personality and happiness have found that extroverts report higher levels of happiness. According to Richard Lucas, Ph.D., who studies the connection between extroversion and happiness at Michigan State University, extroverts seem to have more frequent positive emotions than introverts. This could be because extroverts tend to take more actions that strengthen well-being, seek out social situations or because their brains are just fundamentally different.Flaws in the research?Some critics question the validity of this research. Psychologist and mindfulness expert Arnie Kozak, Ph.D., author of The Awakened Introvert, to be published later this year, believes the battery of questions researchers ask are designed by Western psychologists who have certain sensibilities.“There seems to be a cultural bias: the idea that in order to be happy you have to be active and social,” Kozak said. In his opinion, the studies linking extroversion and happiness often paint introvertedness in a negative light and don't capture the positive feelings introverts have about themselves.However, similar studies done in China and Latin America still show a relationship between extroversion and happiness (although slightly less strong), reinforcing the conclusions.Read more about the benefits of social interaction.“People who are extroverted tend to be happier than those that are introverted. The strength of that effect can depend on culture and what you mean by happiness, but on balance it’s still true,” concludes John Zelenski, Ph.D., who studies the connections between emotion and cognition at at Carleton University.What causes the difference?Scientists have found that asking introverts and extroverts to be social, at least in a laboratory setting, makes both groups happier, at least for a little while. This could mean that extroverts’ increased happiness comes from the sheer number of their social interactions, compared to the lower volume introverts have.Other scientists are looking at physiological differences in the dopamine system—the part of the brain that controls risk and reward. Extroverts may, in theory, be more sensitive to dopamine and get bigger bumps in pleasure. This is a promising area of research still very early, according to Lucas.Embrace your inner introvertEven though the extroversion-happiness relationship has been proved time and again, introverts shouldn’t worry. As Susan Cain points out in her bestselling book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking, there are many positives to introversion. While introverts were once thought of as shy, aloof or detached, many experts would now argue that they have excellent observational skills and sensitivity to their environments—qualities that provide unique value in the workplace and personal relationships.They’re also really good at acting like extroverts whenever they want. In one of Zelenski’s studies, introverts had a much easier time acting extrovertedly than extroverts did acting like introverts. This may be because they had a lifetime of practice acclimating to an extroversion-centric environment.And, it’s important to remember that no matter where you fall on the introvert-extrovert spectrum, chances are you’re already happy. “Most people are happy most of the time… There are a lot of happy introverts walking around,” Zelenski says.Are you an introvert or an extrovert, and how do you think it affects your happiness? Let us know in the Comments section, below.
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Educator Suad Alhalwachi

To Be Happy in Dubai

Happiness is an inside job in the UAE, where government officials have teamed up with happiness experts to try to boost the country’s standing as one of the happiest places on Earth. Aiming for the Top 10 in the World Happiness Report, the UAE has stepped up its focus on improving the lives of citizens by approving grants for education, employment and housing.Official language: ArabicLife expectancy: 77.09 yearsHappiness claim to fame: No. 14 on the “World Happiness Report.”Suad Alhalwachi was making a good salary when she realized the old adage is true—money can’t buy happiness. As an accounting professional, she made excellent money but knew something was missing. So she quit her job and launched Education Zone, an educational consulting firm that specializes in helping students achieve their scholastic goals.'Happy' comes from insideChanging careers made Suad, who lives in Dubai in the United Arab Emirates, realize that being happy was something that came from within her instead of from a paycheck. Giving hope and guidance to students keeps her happy and motivated, says the grandmother of two. And it allows her to combine her passion for learning withprofessional development.“I am not wealthy enough to have achieved all my dreams yet,” she says, “but I still have what I want.” Although she lives in one of the wealthiest countries in the world— Dubai is known as the City of Gold—she measures her contentment by counting blessings, not acquisitions.Counting blessingsAmong those blessings are her 2-year-old granddaughter, who loves playing with makeup, “so I let her apply makeup on my face. I look like a clown at the end, but I enjoy being her clown!” She also has a 7-month-old grandson whom she enjoys pushing in his stroller through the park: “He loves to watch the cats and birds.”She revels in these simple pleasures but acknowledges her life would be easier if she had more money: “It would help me pay off my mortgage faster, grow my company bigger, build a better future for my children and grandchildren and even do more charity works.” However, she chooses to focus on what she has right now. “I believe if everyone learns to find joy in their everyday living, they will develop an optimistic attitude toward life and be happy.”An example of joy and resilienceBorn and raised in Bahrain, Suad and her 12 siblings learned their most important life lessons from their mother, who never learned to read or write, something her children didn’t know until they were older. “She never grumbled about it. In fact, she managed to make us read our assignments to her, and she would even sense out that we did not read it correctly and then tell us it did not sound correct to her.”She also taught them, by example, to approach tasks joyfully and without complaint. “She happily did the entire chores at our home; she raised us, taught us, baked for us, sewed our cloths, painted our house, made curtains for the home, and this list is endless, but she never complained.”Cherish small thingsInspired by her mother’s example, Suad learned to cherish the small things. She says her mother “taught us an important lesson: that life is never given on a plate to anyone. Therefore, be thankful for even the smallest thing you have because many others across the world are less fortunate.”Suad says the best way to experience happiness is by helping those in need. It is something that is deeply ingrained in her, and while she sees her mission in education as one way to help eradicate poverty, she feels she must do more, so she and her family sponsor the education of five small children from an orphanage in Iraq.“We are also helping poor Bahraini artists in promoting their work,” she says, explaining that she created an organization called The Curators to help promote the work ofstruggling artists. “Art is my passion. I thought if I spend time [with artists] and help them advertise their art, people will buy it and their life will shift to the better. Now we’re helping them sell their art. This gives us immense pleasure.”Click here to read more about happiness around the world.
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Happiness is a Choice

As one of the world’s least-developed countries, Malawi has a low life expectancy, high infant mortality and a 74 percent poverty rate. Yet it is dubbed “the warm heart of Africa” and topped Forbes magazine’s 2010 list as the African country with the happiest people.Researchers say that happiness comes from its relative calm, peaceful environment, which allows the government to spend its limited resources on social or economic initiatives that positively affect the lives of Malawians.Official language: ChichewaLife expectancy: 59.99 yearsHappiness claim to fame: Named the happiest country in Africa by the World Database of Happiness and by Forbes; named one of the happiest places to visit by Lonely Planet.In the shadow of Mount Zomba, in the African country of Malawi, a young teacher named Mwaona Nyirongo has dedicated his life to helping his students reach new heights. Slender and gregarious, he lives and works in the eighth poorest country in the world, yet considers himself one of the happiest people on the planet. “I am not rich, but I am optimistic about life,” he explains. “I see possibilities everywhere and that helps me enjoy life and appreciate the love around me.”Growing up in the small town of Ntchenachena, where abject poverty, daily suffering and rampant HIV/AIDS infection were normal ways of life, he had no idea how desperate his situation was."I did not know life could be different"“The problems and deaths around me were what life was. I did not know life could be better or different,” Mwaona says. But when his father died unexpectedly, 12-year-old Mwaona went to live with an uncle who lived two hours away in Ekwendeni. Through his uncle, he met people who spoke of careers, education and life outside of Malawi. It was then that the young boy realized, “not everybody spends mornings without breakfast or sleeps without anything in the stomach.”As a teenager, he joined the Boy Scouts and was chosen to represent Malawi at the 20th World Scout Jamboree in Thailand in 2002. “What an eye-opener that was,” he recalls. “There were cellphones, Internet access, better hotels, a lot of food, better hospitals. Almost everything was way ahead of Malawi, and I started to feel extremely sorry for myself and my country.”A new awareness of the worldHis newfound awareness brought fascination but also generated pain and sadness because he was surrounded by so many things he could not have. “I realized my sadness was making me less productive, so I chose to cultivate happiness by focusing on the things that really matter,” says Mwaona, who currently teaches history and geographyat Mulunguzi Secondary School in Zomba and is pursuing a college degree in communications.He gives back to his community by volunteering with the organization Africa Classroom Connection, which builds much-needed classrooms in Malawi, and helps identify deserving students in need of scholarships.Giving backIn 2008, he raised money to organize a youth football league to keep young people involved and out of trouble. Although almost everyone in the village was destitute, the campaign was successful; neighbors gave what they could, and it was enough.“In Malawi, we believe in Ubuntu: ‘I am because we are.’ We are responsible for each other. Being involved in something big and honorable gives real meaning to my life and brings happiness,” he says. Now a scout leader himself, Mwaona surrounds himself with the love of relatives and friends. He enjoys Malawian dances like Malipenga and Beni, listens to American jazz standards and the music of The Beatles.Happiness is a choice“Happiness is a choice,” he says. “Our environment or situations do not make us unhappy. We make ourselves vulnerable and allow sadness in. We don’t need to wait for people to give us happiness; we must cultivate it on our own.”Click here to read more about happiness around the world.
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Secrets to a Happy Life

Japan has a relatively high standard of living and the world’s longest life expectancy, but according to Gallup, it ranks somewhere in the middle when it comes to happiness. The exception to that is found in Okinawa, an island archipelago that is home to a joyful and progressive population.Official language: JapaneseLife expectancy: 84.46 yearsHappiness claim to fame: Located in one of the famous “blue zones,” Okinawa is home to one of the oldest, happiest and healthiest populations on Earth.Okinawa Prefecture has Japan’s highest birth rate, and residents have been recognized for centuries for their health and longevity.In Okinawa, elderly women are respectfully called obah, or grandmother. Because residents of Okinawan communities feel deeply interconnected, an obah is everybody’s grandmother. A recent visit to Miyako Island revealed the secrets of three obahs’ long and joyful lives.Dance and WorkChikako Ikeda, 63, teaches traditional Okinawan dance. She divides her time between leisure, family time and work. From January to March, many families on the island help each other harvest sugarcane. Chikako works with her husband and daughter to prepare their sugarcane crops for sale.“There were not a lot of big typhoons last year, so sugarcane has grown pretty well,” she says. “Harvesting is pretty tough work and many people use big machines nowadays, but we prefer harvesting by hand.”A healthy dietAt the end of the day, the sugarcane is beautifully bundled and placed on the ground. At 5 p.m. they are back home and Chikako starts to prepare dinner while the others take baths. Eating well-balanced meals is one of the reasons for long life in Okinawan people. Meals include many kinds of green vegetables, seafood and pork with low salt content. Chikako says,“Working hard and eating well are the two keys for good health.” While her family enjoys their meal, she leaves the house and goes next door. Four evenings a week she teaches dance class. Her 26 students are all housewives age 50 to 77. After the lesson, she smiles and says, “The most important thing in my life is family, of course. But when I am dancing with friends, I feel very happy.”Tea with FriendsKimiko Motomura is a charming 90-year-old. Kimiko shares a few details about her life as she drinks tea with her close friend Hatsue Nakama, who is 89.“I am very happy to have family and good friends here in Nishihara town. I take a walk in my neighborhood every day to chat with people,” Kimiko says. She loves singingOkinawan folk songs and is the chairperson of a choral group. She volunteers with a group that cleans the town hall and around local monuments, and she also teaches the Miyako dialect to children to preserve the island’s culture and history. She has 18 grandchildren and 21 great-grandchildren. “I am at my happiest when family members come to see me, and we have a meal together,” Kimiko says.“The key to happiness is to open your heart and be friendly with everyone,” she says. She smiles and keeps waving in front of the entrance to her beautiful house until her visitors vanish from sight.Preserving the PastOn Miyako Island, there is a traditional hemp textile weaving called Miyakojofu. The cloth is known to last for three generations. To make it into f ne thread requires a high level of skill, and Yoshiko Akamine is one of the few people who can still do it. She is 94.With three of her great-grandchildren playing in the living room, Yoshiko shows how she does it. “I make thread little by little each day. At the end of the year I will get some money for it, and I am very happy to give it to my grandchildren on New Year’s Day.”People encountered on Miyako Island are cheerful, friendly, optimistic and kind. They advise an easygoing approach to life and promise good health and long life will follow.Click here to read about happiness around the world.
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