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4 Ways to Navigate Life’s Transitions With Ease

Our lives are a series of transitions. The weekend eventually ends and Monday comes. We get married. Summer becomes fall. Vacation ends and we have to go back to work. We happily anticipate milestones such as graduating from college, getting a job or buying a new house. But once an experience ends, our mood can take a dip. Is it possible to navigate change with a sense of resilience while remaining happy? Our experts weigh in: 1.Realize transitions are a matter of perspective “There is no such thing as positive or negative transition; it fully depends on the way you think,” says Michael Mantell, Ph.D., a San-Diego based psychologist and the author of Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff: P.S. It’s All Small Stuff. “If it weren’t for transitions, we wouldn’t move, change, be agile or face new opportunities ... So I never, ever regret having to return to work. Instead, I always think, ‘Wow, what a great vacation this work gave me the opportunity to take, and how grateful I am for the vacation and the job.’ ” If you dread coming back to work, you are setting yourself up for depression and anxiety, he says. Susan Fletcher, Ph.D., a Dallas-based psychologist, says accepting life’s inevitable ups and downs can make transitions easier. “Peaks and valleys are to be expected,” the Working in the Smart Zone author says. “That doesn’t mean the good times are always vacation and the bad times are everything else. Even on vacation, we can have the same kind of stress we have in our ordinary life.” The key, Susan says, is knowing what works for you. “I need one full day to power down to go on vacation, so I don’t ever take a 6 a.m. flight to get the most out of vacation because then I am worthless when I get there.” Instead, she schedules midday flights and makes the journey part of the experience, stopping for lunch with her kids, playing cards on the plane and preparing to have fun when they arrive. The same is true at the end of the trip: If you need to, take a day to decompress and do laundry, buy groceries and open mail instead of returning the night before you go back to work. 2.Don’t set yourself up Be careful about setting expectations that are hard to meet. You can savor time, but you can’t stop time. If you are visiting your parents or a sibling who lives far away, expect to be sad when you leave, Susan says. “And don’t act fine when you aren’t fine because that takes a whole lot of energy.” To manage the dip in your mood, rather than dwell on your current trip ending, plan your next visit and start looking forward to it. When you think, “This will be the best vacation ever,” you’re setting yourself up for disappointment, she says. “Take it how it is and be accepting. Happiness is really defined in a lot of different ways. A lot of people get stuck in thinking happiness is success, but sometimes happiness is being together on the journey.” 3.Look forward to change Find ways to embrace change. Michael suggests looking for the good in fall weather, the fun of pulling together a new wardrobe, the beauty of upcoming holidays and the good that a new schedule brings. Organize yourself and plan for fall decorations, create a new exercise routine or write a gratitude list for everything you appreciated about your summer. Susan advises being deliberate. Create a work environment that makes you happy, with your favorite music playing or freshly cut flowers on your desk. “Think about things that help you feel like you are not all work and no play that are really specific to you.” 4.Appreciate life’s contrasts “If we were always happy, we wouldn’t even appreciate it,” says Connie Podesta, author of Life Would Be Easy If It Weren’t for Other People. “People get used to things quickly and then become complacent. It’s totally normal to be sad when we go back to work [but] it doesn’t mean you dislike your job ... Of course, we are sad to come back from vacation. On vacation we sleep in. Have some free time. No chores, no cooking, no bills to worry about. We don’t have to strategize our every move. It is fantasy land. It’s that contrast that makes the vacation so unbelievably memorable. But we know deep down that we can’t sustain that euphoria forever.” The contrasts make us happier, Connie says. “Humans are made to change—it’s in our DNA. We get anxious for the summer, but then tired of the heat. We get excited for the fall, but we love the first snow. The ocean looks amazing on the first day of vacation,” she says. “Transitions don’t zap our happiness; they make our happiness even more meaningful.” Read More: Upping Your Downtime Sandra Bienkowski is a regular contributor to Live Happy and the founder and CEO of TheMediaConcierge.net.
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The Slight Edge to Happiness with Jeff Olson

This week, Founder of Live Happy, Jeff Olson, shares insights to small actions you can take to achieve happiness. Over the past 30 years Jeff has helped hundreds of thousands of individuals achieve better levels of financial freedom and personal excellence. Jeff describes himself as "a perpetual student of personal development," and he is as devoted to health and happiness as he is to personal and financial success. Jeff has worked with a series of sales, marketing, and distribution companies, building three different sales and distribution forces into multimillion dollar organizations from scratch, ultimately becoming CEO of one of them. Based on that experience, he went on to found The People's Network, one of the largest personal development training companies in the nation where he produced over 900 television programs around personal excellence in health, finances, relationships, and more. In this episode, you'll learn: How to achieve big goals through small actions The power to shift your mindset towards choosing happiness One thing you can do to be happier today Links and resources mentioned in this episode: SlightEdge.org The Slight Edge on Amazon Thank you to our partner - AARP Life Reimagined!
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Take a Look Inside Our October Issue!

This issue of Live Happy magazine features: A Joyful Juggling Act Multitalented black-ish star Anthony Anderson opens up about the challenges of growing up in Compton, California and the joys of being a husband, father and irresistible force of nature. The End of Bullying Live Happy looks at this hot topic from the point of view of positive psychology: what are the hidden causes of bullying, how can it be prevented and what are the lasting solutions? The Path to Purpose Lasting happiness entails finding real purpose and meaning in your life. Are you living in a place where you belong, connected to people you love, doing fulfilling work and pursuing it all with a sense of purpose? That's the good life. Find out if it's the life you're living. Start here and take this fun quiz, then read our fabulous feature article. More Than a Best Friend For many of us, a dog is more than a pet, they are a family member. Read about the love shared among canine companions and their families in this heartwarming article, complete with beautiful photos. And much, much more! Look for the new issue of Live Happy magazine at Barnes & Noble Booksellers, Sprouts, Whole Foods, and stores near you. Search hereto find the merchant closest to you that sells Live Happy. Get in touch and let us know what you think! Email at Editor@livehappy.com; find us on Twitter and Facebook.
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Are You Fully Charged with Tom Rath

In this week's episode of Live Happy Now, we have Tom Rath, author of Are You Fully Charged? The Three Keys to Energizing Your Work and Life. Tom is an author and researcher who studies the role of human behavior in business, health, and well-being. He has been described by business leaders and the media as one of the greatest thinkers and nonfiction writers of his generation. Tom's latest bestseller, Are You Full Charged? The Three Keys to Energizing Your Work and Life is receiving acclaim as "Rath's best book yet" and is the subject of a feature-length documentary. This book and his second children's book, The Rechargeables, were released in May of 2015. In this episode, you'll learn: The core elements of a good day Distinction between meaning and happiness The importance of positive interactions How to handle negative moments Links and resources mentioned in this episode: TomRath.org Are You Fully Charged? The Three Keys to Energizing Your Work and Life Thank you to our partner - AARP Life Reimagined!
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Positive Communication with Michelle Gielan

This week, on Live Happy Now, we have Michelle Gielan, Founder of the Institute for Applied Positive Research and expert on the science of positive communication and how to use it to fuel success. Michelle works with Fortune 500 companies and schools to raise employee engagement, productivity and happiness at work. She is a Partner at GoodThink, a positive psychology consulting firm, and she holds a Master of Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania. She is the author of a new book, Broadcasting Happiness: The Science of Igniting and Sustaining Positive Change. In this episode, you'll learn: How to turn off stress and negativity in your mind Turn negative thought patterns into an opportunity for positive growth How to deal with negative people Create a positive culture at work Links and resources mentioned in this episode: GoodThinkInc.com Broadcasting Happiness FREE Success Scale Assessment – Code to access is ‘LiveHappy’ Thank you to our partner – AARP Life Reimagined!
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Find Your Meaning in Life

5 Ways to Get in Touch With Your Higher Calling

Finding meaning in one’s life is such an integral concept to Martin Seligman, one of the founders of positive psychology, that he includes it in his shorthand for happiness, PERMA, which stands for Positive Emotions, Engagement, Relationships, Meaning, and Achievement. While the fleeting happiness we get from something like watching a gorgeous sunset is nice and part of the “pleasant life,” Martin says, if we want to be happy in the long term, we need to strive for “the Meaningful Life” in which “we find a deep sense of fulfillment by employing our unique strengths for a purpose greater than ourselves.” It sounds wonderful. A “purpose-driven life” as it were. But how do we find it? In church, synagogue or mosque? Alone in the wilderness with our thoughts or while finding a deep sense of connection with our friends and families? Some seem to have a clearer view of how to arrive there than others. The passionate artist, the pediatric surgeon, idealistic missionary or dedicated social worker ... they seem to already know or quickly find their strengths, follow their passions, help, teach and give to others, and gain a deep sense of satisfaction from their work. But most of us spend a little more time wandering in the wilderness. Here are a few ideas for those who are still searching for a greater sense of purpose in life: 1. Volunteer Working with children, seniors, at-risk teenagers … anyone who needs help will give you a quick on-ramp to the purpose superhighway. Many cities have volunteer clearinghouses like Volunteer Match that will help match you with an organization. Or if you prefer, stay close to your community and pitch in at the local elementary school. The rewards will be immediate and plentiful. When we pursue a meaningful future, it sheds a special light over our daily life, painting the most mundane and pedestrian activities in brighter colors.” — Ran Zilca, research scientist, author and chief data-science officer at Happify. His latest book, Ride of Your Life, was released this year.** 2. Get in touch with the divine Pray, meditate, walk outside, stargaze. There are myriad ways to remind ourselves that we are small bits of a large, interconnected universe. Whether you believe in God, a higher power or the power of humankind, prayer and meditation, as well as reconnecting with nature, are ways to get in touch with the sacred. I believe that meaning is an experience that we can cultivate, influence, and in a certain sense, create… The best way to make this meaning—to have this experience—is by identifying and then living our life purposes." — Eric Maisel, Ph.D., a California-licensed family therapist who has written more than 40 books, including Life Purpose Boot Camp 3. Spread positive emotion Give to the world what you would like to get back. See how you might add more positive emotion to your life by strengthening relationships and being kind and compassionate toward friends and strangers alike. Start performing small Happy Acts as a way of giving back. We can endure the most difficult of times and even thrive in the midst of the chaos around us when we give our lives meaning." —Barb Schmidt, international speaker, philanthropist, spiritual mentor and best-selling author of The Practice. 4. Practice gratitude Focus on things already meaningful in your life instead of taking them for granted, invest each one with a deep sense of gratitude. Soon you may feel motivated and energized to help and protect the people and things you care about, whether that means writing a letter to a nephew or starting a non-profit. 5. Create When you were younger, did you love to draw, throw pottery or write short plays? Something about the act of creating makes us feel alive and part of the dynamic universe. We can make something out of nothing! It’s exhilarating. You can do your thing in solitude or join a playhouse or rent space in a collective studio. In this way, a hobby has the potential to develop into not only a great source of purpose and a sense of identity but also of important and meaningful relationships. And once you've gotten really great at something, you can teach others to do it. You will get back much more than you give. For much more on finding a sense of meaning and purpose in your life, see our feature story, "The Path to Purpose," in the October issue of Live Happy magazine—on newsstands September 1. **Expert quotes are from the “Survey” section (pages 28-29) of the October issue of Live Happy magazine.
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Mindfulness Matters: Drastically change the way you think and feel.

Give Yourself a Mindfulness Makeover

Diane Baumer admits she was fairly certain mindfulness wouldn’t work for her. “I knew it had worked for others, but my depression was so severe and nothing had ever worked [for treating it]. I’ve had it all my life, and it’s completely rearranged the pathways in my brain.”She first became aware of mindfulness in the 1980s, when she was introduced to Buddhism, but had only learned about it in theory. Last year, desperate to ease her depression and obsessive thoughts, she enrolled in an eight-week mindfulness course. The course taught her how to stay in the moment and not get carried away by her thoughts.“I was amazed by the change in me,” says Diane, who lives in Florence, Kentucky. “I didn’t have racing thoughts, and my obsessive thoughts about death and dying were gone. By the end of the eight weeks, I had learned to just notice my thoughts rather than grab them and run with them. It’s been life changing.”Appreciating life as it happensMindfulness, experts say, is a practice that helps us pay attention to and self-regulate our thoughts. Staying mindful, or in the moment, allows us to appreciate life as it happens. When our minds are busy doing that, it’s impossible to also be ruminating about the past or worrying about the future.Although it is based on a 2,600-year-old Buddhist practice, interest in mindfulness has surged globally in recent years. It began gaining significant traction in the U.S. in the 1970s when Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D., began studying the effects of mindfulness at the University of Massachusetts Medical School. He created the Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program, the first documented structured program to teach mindfulness, which became the model for many programs developed since then.Today, Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction programs have been implemented in more than 200 medical centers, clinics and hospitals around the world. But it also has gone beyond the medical field. Neuroscientists continue investigating how mindfulness can change both the structure and function of our brains; psychologists use it for their own cognitive improvement as well as to help clients with everything from anxiety and depression to compassion and self-acceptance; business leaders are looking at how mindful decision-making can redefine their workplaces; and educators are embracing such concepts as mindful learning and mindful reading.Studies show mindfulness can improve communication and happiness between couples and co-workers, and prisons have even used it to help reduce hostility and mood disturbances among prisoners.It’s about paying attention“When I start talking about all the things mindfulness can do, I sound like a snake oil salesman,” jokes Richard Sears, PsyD, Ph.D., MBA, ABPP, of the Center for Clinical Mindfulness and Meditation at Union Institute and University in Cincinnati and author of Mindfulness: Living Through Challenges and Enriching Your Life in This Moment.“It increases happiness, improves relationships, helps alleviate conditions like depression and chronic pain.…But really, what’s going on is awareness. It’s about paying attention, bringing us back to what is going on right now.”Richard’s work in the area of Mindfulness Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT) is a form of MBSR that implements cognitive therapy-based exercises. Cognitive therapy explores and challenges negative thought processes; MBCT is effective in treating problems like depression and anxiety, he says, because it creates a connection between our thoughts and our feelings.Listen to author and Live Happy science editor Paula Felps on the Live Happy Now podcast as she discusses what happens "When Happiness Has a Bad Day."Take a moment, take a breath“Once you’ve experienced depression, it cuts a pathway in your brain and makes it easier to become depressed the next time you feel sad,” Richard says.“MBCT teaches you to notice signs of the problems coming up so you can prevent them.” Mindfulness teaches us to take a moment, take a breath and get back to what is happening right now rather than reacting to the “what ifs” of the situation.For Diane, that means one rough patch in her day no longer spirals into negative thoughts that trigger bad memories and depression. “With more awareness comes better choices,” Richard says. “If I’m aware of how I’m reacting, I can lower my stress response, and that makes other things better. I’m less vulnerable, and my immune system can heal better. Everything improves when you become more aware.”Healthier mind, healthier bodyThe mind-body connection has been well proven over time, and mindfulness proponents and practitioners say it holds many keys to creating a healthier, happier life by influencing the body. “It’s not a cure-all, but it will assist in whatever a person is struggling with, whether that’s physical, mental or emotional,” says Ryan M. Niemiec, PsyD, education director at the VIA Institute on Character and author of Mindfulness and Character Strengths: A Practical Guide to Flourishing.“It offers support and assistance in whatever you’re trying to accomplish. Take for example someone with chronic pain; to learn how to face that directly is a huge challenge. But to bring an honest awareness to your own suffering can completely change your relationship with it.”Studies have documented the effects of mindfulness on physical ailments. Ryan says medical and scientific endorsements have boosted its popularity and have shown the ways it can help both physical and mental challenges. “Before” and “after” brain scans show that certain areas of the brain get thicker after practicing mindfulness for about eight weeks, according to Richard. He equates it to building muscle by lifting weights—over time, you get stronger, but it has to be maintained in order for the results to continue.Read More: 3 Must-Have Mindfulness AppsA powerful tool for healthSome clinical studies have focused on how mindfulness can influence specific ailments, including substance abuse, anxiety, PTSD, depression, autism, cancer, multiple sclerosis, heart disease, AIDS, high blood pressure and headaches. On the broadest level, mindfulness is seen as a tool to improve health because it boosts our immune system. Scientists have attributed this to lower secretions of cortisol and adrenaline, both of which suppress the immune system.Louis Alloro was working on his Master of Applied Positive Psychology degree when he first learned about mindfulness. “Even though I had been involved with personal development my whole life, and had started getting involved with positive psychology, I kept thinking, ‘I don’t know how to do that.’”But once a friend (and fellow MAPP student) started teaching him mindfulness, he realized that not only was it something he could do easily, it was something he had always had the tools for. All he needed was someone who could show him how to use them.Today, Louis can’t imagine daily life without mindfulness and meditation practices, which he says help make him more positive and appreciative and benefit him both physically and mentally.Easy self-care“I think the future of health care is self-care, and mindfulness is such an effective, easy and cheap strategy for self-care,” he says. “We can calm our parasympathetic nervous system, which is our rest-and-digest system, and those are two things that just seem to always be in overdrive today.”Being mindful has allowed Louis to slow his reactions, calm his mind and become healthier. In doing so, he is able to accomplish more while feeling less stressed. “I love the adage that you have to slow down to speed up,” he says. “Mindfulness lets you do that.”Driven to distractionA study by the National Science Foundation discovered that, on any given day, our brain generates some 50,000 thoughts. That averages out to about 52 thoughts a minute during waking hours, so is it any wonder that many of us find it a challenge to “stay in the moment?”As a doctoral student at Harvard, Matt Killingsworth became interested in the association between happiness and what we’re thinking about. He developed the Track Your Happiness app to study the causes of happiness, and monitored users in real time.With more than 15,000 subjects in 80 countries, Matt collected 650,000 “live” reports that led to the conclusion that “a wandering mind is an unhappy mind.” People who were “in the moment” consistently were happier than those whose minds were wandering, even if they were performing a task they didn’t enjoy.Unquiet mindsWhat Matt found most surprising was just how often our minds wander. Overall, our minds are on something other than what we’re doing 47 percent of the time. And, unfortunately, when our minds wander, they usually aren’t visiting a happy place. We often end up with anxiety and worry about the future, or anger or regret about the past. Matt’s studies showed that a wandering mind isn’t the consequence of unhappiness and related anger or anxiety; it’s the cause of it.“The only moment we can ever be in is the present,” Richard points out. “Mindfulness is about being in the moment, bringing our attention back to what’s happening right now.” For most of us, learning to be in the moment takes some work to undo what’s become a deeply ingrained pattern. As children, we have the innate ability to enjoy the present moment as it unfolds, but before long, we’re taught to start thinking about the future.Your life is now“We’re often taught that the ‘good thing’ is coming. It’s always about the next thing,” he says. “Over time, we lose the capacity to enjoy good moments. Even when we [accomplish] a great thing, we’re already thinking about what’s next.”While there is a place for planning, he says the current model doesn’t allow us the chance to enjoy the moment. As children, we start talking about what we’ll be when we grow up; we go to high school and think about college, and while in college we dream of the career waiting for us. The cycle continues once we get that job; we start saving for our dream house, working for the next promotion, building the future. Before long, it’s time to save for retirement and plan for the golden years.“About middle age, a lot of us wake up and realized we’ve been tricked. We realize, ‘This is my life! It’s not coming; it’s already here!’ ” Richard says.Putting it into practiceMindfulness can help put us back in touch with our true thoughts and feelings, and millions of people around the world have found it transformational. One of the most effective paths is through meditation, but Ryan says many people are intimidated by the idea.“The three most common reasons for people to abandon their mindfulness meditation practice is that their mind wanders, they forget to do it or they don’t have time,” Ryan says. “Meditation is a way of cultivating mindfulness, so having a formal meditation process is helpful in improving that. But it’s more about finding the right fit.”For one person, that fit might be a centering prayer; for another it might be self-hypnosis; someone else might choose to do an insight meditation. Many classes and online courses now teach mindfulness and meditation practices. Keep in mind that there’s no onesize-fits-all solution; it’s what works for the individual.Find your fit for meditationLouis, for example, is fond of taking mindful walks as a way to improve positive emotions. “I put away my phone and purposefully attend to the experience of taking a walk,” he says. “I feel my feet each time they connect with the ground, and I see things to be grateful for. I can feel my heart rate slowing down, and I become more calm, more at peace.” Walking or eating mindfully are easy, effective ways to take a break—and they can be done unnoticed by others.Diane practices mindfulness in everything from washing the dishes to taking a walk, being careful to notice the touch of sun or water on her skin or the sounds around her.Other simple, common ways to implement mindfulness can include:• Sit quietly and observe what you’re experiencing in that moment. Observe the sights, sounds, and smells that typically go unnoticed during a busy day.• Take note of the physical sensations you’re feeling, whether it’s the texture of a book in your hands, the feeling of the chair against your legs and back or the feeling of water splashing on your skin as you wash your hands.• When experiencing anxiety, depression or anger, become an observer; look at how your body is responding to the emotion instead of becoming absorbed in the feeling itself.Ronald D. Siegel, PsyD of Harvard Medical School, likens it to watching clouds drift by; Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D., compares it to watching soap bubbles float in the air. Try using the experience as an opportunity to understand the feeling rather than reacting to it.• And, when all else fails, just take a breath.“With mindfulness, there is no goal than to become more aware,” Ryan says. “A great place to start is just to breathe. Follow your breath, it’s something we all have. And you’ll notice physiological changes almost immediately.”Listen to author and Live Happy science editor Paula Felps on the Live Happy Now podcast as she discusses what happens "When Happiness Has a Bad Day."Read More: 33 Ideas on Mindfulness
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Find the Sacred in Everyday Life

Find the Sacred in Everyday Life

In our fast-paced and commodified world, we are encouraged to fly at lightning speed and to relish the latest material thing or fleeting pleasure. At the same time, the study and practice of spirituality has grown enormously in popularity and continues to receive widespread attention. Our frenzied, plugged-in lives have driven us to seek some sort of spiritual refuge or respite from the technological whirlwind. (See: the success of a meditation app like Headspace or other evidence of an increased search to slow down and unplug.) Perhaps this heightened interest in spirituality reflects a personal thirst for meaning in our lives. Many of us are seeking not only to slow down but also to find a firm footing on a more solid—and perhaps sacred—ground. The search for the sacred "Spirituality can have a positive impact on our well-being by helping us focus on what we value most in life," says Ken Pargament, a world-renowned scholar of religion. The Bowling Green State University psychologist has been studying spirituality for more than 35 years and has written several books on the subject, including Spiritually Integrated Psychotherapy and The Psychology of Religion and Coping. Defined as “the search for the sacred,” spirituality enables us to see the extraordinary in the ordinary, Ken says. "Sacred" refers to human perceptions on qualities often associated with the divine or higher powers: transcendence, ultimacy (essential and absolute truth), boundlessness, interconnectedness and spiritual emotions. Spirituality enhances well-being Research has shown that people who find the sacred in various spheres of life—such as relationships, work, and nature—enjoy enhanced well-being. For example, a 2010 study conducted by Ken and colleagues found that pregnant couples who viewed their marriages and pregnancies as sacred experienced increased positive emotions and were better able to overcome adversity during tough times. Similarly, research headed by Yale professor Amy Wrzesniewski in 1997, then at the University of Michigan, found that people who see their work as sacred report higher levels of job satisfaction. More recently, a 2014 study by Ken and colleagues showed that sacred moments were commonly reported by mental health providers and were linked with positive outcomes for the patient, the provider and the therapeutic relationship. Patients experienced healing and growth, and providers a greater sense of meaning in their work, according to Ken. Read More: The New Prayer Finding the divine If you feel you may be missing aspects of the divine and the sacred in your own life, Ken suggests asking yourself these questions to help foster a more integrated sense of spirituality: What do you hold sacred? Do some soul-searching to identify what matters most to you. How much time are you devoting daily to your spiritual strivings? How might you find more time everyday to search for the sacred? Where do you find the sacred? There are many spiritual pathways. Some of us find the sacred in relationships, some in prayer or meditation, still others through study or action. Reflect on where you experience your deepest feelings of awe, gratitude, mystery, timelessness and love. Emotions like these provide clues about where you might find the sacred and might try to spend more of your time. How committed are you? Practice makes perfect in the spiritual realm as in other areas of life. Spiritual growth takes commitment and hard work. Prepare yourself for a long-term process and don’t be discouraged by frustrations along the way. Read more by Suzann PileggiPawelski: The Power of Passion Suzann Pileggi Pawelskiis a freelance writer specializing in the science of happiness and its effects on relationships and health.
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Behind the Scenes With Anthony Anderson

Anthony Anderson Keeps it Real

Toss Anthony Anderson a softball as we did at the cover shoot for the new issue of Live Happy and he turns it into a story. Assuming a pitcher’s stance he pantomimes a conversation with a catcher; eyes locked on his imaginary teammate, he shakes his head a few times, declining the pitch, then finally nods and gives the ball a gentle toss. Too gentle for his taste. “I look like a punk,” he says with mock disgust. “I need to throw an effing curveball.” Best buds The crew in the Hollywood photo studio cracks up, and it’s far from the last time Anthony will leave them in stitches. Later, when he and Victor, a crew member, lean against each other back to back for a shot, Anthony sings, “He ain’t heavy. He’s my brother,” and then plants a kiss on Victor’s neck. (The two met each other on a previous photo shoot and “we just hit it off,” Victor says.) And when Victor staggers a bit, Anthony reproaches him playfully, “Hey, I’ve lost weight! It should be easy to hold me up.” Lightened up Anthony is indeed lighter than he’s been in years, having shed some 50 pounds since the summer of 2014. Sticking with his new regimen of eating several small meals a day, he sits down to a plate filled with greens and whole grains before the shot begins and a couple of hours later, before the interview, he requests a second meal, this one salad and grilled chicken. As he eats, he eagerly shares the details of his strenuous workout routine. The ultimate host Before he leaves the studio, Anthony will graciously autograph a half-dozen softballs for the Live Happy team and dispense bear hugs all around. When I recount this to Kenya Barris, the creator of Anthony’s hit sitcom black-ish, he’s not surprised. “Anthony is the ultimate host,” Kenya says. “He wants to make sure everyone is fed, everyone is having a good time.” Nominated-ish A few weeks after our shoot, the Emmy nominations are announced and Anthony earns a nod for Outstanding Lead Actor in a Comedy Series. He goes on Twitter to share his joy with his more than 350,000 followers. “Today I’m truly humbled by my Emmy nomination. Hard work, sacrifice and faith pay off! And a talented writing team headed by [a reference to Kenya] @funnyblackdude.” To read more about Anthony Anderson, see the feature story in the October issue of Live Happy magazine, on newsstands September 1. Shelley Levitt is a freelance journalist based in Los Angeles and an editor at large for Live Happy.
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7 Tips for Improving Your Daily Commute

7 Ideas to Reboot Your Commute

Ideally, we would wake up each morning and take a leisurely stroll to the office, with no need to worry about traffic jams, packed trains, or late buses. In reality, most of us have to travel some distance to work (even those who work from home often have to commute to meetings), and commuting can have a negative impact on the mind and body. A 2012 American Journal of Preventive Medicine study linked longer commutes with poor cardiovascular and metabolic health, and a 2014 World Leisure Journal study showed people with the longest commutes as having the lowest overall satisfaction with life. Clearly, commuting isn’t great for living a happy life, but it’s often unavoidable. The U.S. Department of Transportation estimates (PDF file) the average commute is 12 miles and takes 24 minutes, each way. Here are many things you can do to make the most of the time spent traveling to and from work, including: 1. Avoid peak traffic time Mornings can be tough, but if you adjust your schedule so you’re leaving before or after the average commuter, you’ll likely have to contend with less traffic (and stress!). In some places, even a matter of minutes can make a difference. Want to really cut down on the commute time? Ask your boss if you can work odd hours (like 10am-7pm). 2. Switch up commute route Another way to make a commute bearable is by varying your route. Taking new routes—or taking a different route to and from work—can make driving more enjoyable, allowing you to experience new scenery. And, because a new route requires more attention, it can also help you stay more present, which is a great way to cut down on stress. 3. Carpool with a coworker Not only is carpooling better for the environment, it can positively impact your mental state. Carpooling keeps you accountable for timely arrival, which can set the tone for the day. In addition, sharing the car ride can make the driving experience more enjoyable, as you’re able to have conversations and share observations. 4. Treat yourself on the road Your commute can be a great opportunity to treat yourself while on the road. For example, if you love coffee or tea, prepare your favorite blend before you hop in the car. Or, if you’re a chocolate lover, keep your favorite bar in your desk and break off a bit for the ride home as a reward for facing the daunting task of traveling in traffic. 5. Listen to a book or podcast Make your commute more appealing by indulging in a captivating audio book or podcast. Audio books and podcasts have come a long way in recent years, and there are tons of options for quality (and often free!) content. Consider using the time spent commuting to catch up on classic novels, learn a new language, or educate yourself on an unfamiliar topic. Download our new podcast on the science of well-being, Live Happy Now. 6. Use a calming scent Consider using a car freshener with scents of lavender or jasmine or bring some tea with chamomile or vanilla. On the bus or train, consider dabbing a tiny bit of essential oil on your wrist in a soothing scent like sandalwood or rose. When you start to feel stressed, you can inhale and receive an instant bit of calm. 7. Soothe yourself with sound Music has the ability to change the way we feel in a matter of seconds. To ease the stress of the daily commute, fill your music player or phone with soothing tunes. Not big on music and don’t know what would calm you? Consider listening to one of the 10 most scientifically relaxing songs. If music really isn’t your thing, consider downloading a white noise app, which can also have a soothing impact. Dani DiPirro is an author, blogger, and designer living in a suburb of Washington, D.C. In 2009, she launched the website PositivelyPresent.com with the intention of sharing her insights about living a positive and present life. Dani is the author of Stay Positive, The Positively Present Guide to Life, and a variety of e-books. She is also the founder of Twenty3, a design studio focused on promoting positive, modern graphic design and illustration.
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