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The editors ofLive Happymagazine bring you ideas and research on how to live a happier and more meaningful life with Live Happy Now. You'll find dozens of interviews with positive psychology and well-being thought leaders, celebrities and more. Every Tuesday, a new episode transcript will be uploaded to read! Don't miss an episode!Live Happy Nowis available at the following places: Need help on how to download and review a podcast?We've got your answers here! Season 4 2018 August 7 - Finding Self-Compassion With Kristin Neff August 14 - Making Your Brain Hum With Joe Bates August 21 - Fun at Work With Scott Crabtree August 28 - Mindful Breathing With Nick Ortner September 4 - Happy at Home With Rebecca West September 11 - Midlife Moxie With Jonathan Rauch September 18 - Becoming Resilient With Rick Hanson September 25 - Let Creativity Flow With Keiko Agena October 2 - Strengths-Based Parenting With Lea Waters October 9 - Extreme Grit With Snowmobiler Colten Moore October 16 - Short Cuts to Happiness With Tal Ben-Shahar October 23 - Rebuild Your Health With Dr. Z October 30 - Make Work Your Playground With Andrea Goeglein November 6 - Build a Happier Brain With Dawson Church November 13 - Get Unstuck With Dr. Sasha Heinz November 20 - Practicing Gratitude With Deborah Heisz November 27 - Happiness Hacks With Alex Palmer December 4 - Less Stress for the Holidays With Nancy Jane Smith December 11 - Discovering Wholebeing Happiness With Megan McDonough December 18 - Make the Most of 2019 With Deborah Heisz 2019 January 1 - Overcoming Overwhelm With Dr. Samantha Brody January 8 - 5 Books That Will Change Your Life in 2019 With Sandra Bilbray January 15 - How to Become a Happy Activist in 2019 January 22 - The Year of Living Happy With Alli Worthington January 29 - The Power of Timing With Daniel Pink February 5 - Playful Intelligence With Dr. Anthony DeBenedet February 12 - Reinventing Valentine's Day With Stacy Kaiser February 19 - Flourishing Later in Life With Mary Pipher February 26 - Looking Inward With Laird Hamilton March 5 - Outer Order, Inner Calm With Gretchen Rubin March 12 - Working Together With Shola Richards March 19 - Celebrating Live Happy Now's 200th Episode With Deborah Heisz March 26 - Making Time With Jake Knapp April 2 - Happy Child Summit With Renee Jain April 9 - Overcoming Your Fears To Lead the Life You Love With Ruth Soukup April 16 - Inside the World Happiness Report With Chris Libby April 23 - Turning Off Your Job With Bryan E. Robinson April 30 - Finding Connections With Mark Nepo May 7 - Become a Memory-Making Mom With Jessica Smartt May 14 - Creating Your Best Life With Susan Hyatt May 21 - Overcoming Stress in America With Chris Libby May 28 - The Power of Character Strengths With Ryan Niemiec June 4 - What Our Jobs Do for Us With Suzanne Skees June 11 -Women's Happiness Summit With Carin Rockind June 18 - Reinventing Yourself With Sheri Salata June 25 - Get the Funk Out With Janeane Bernstein July 2 - (It's Great to) Suck at Something With Karen Rinaldi July 9 - Appreciating Others With Chris Libby July 16 - Happier Aging With Louise Aronson July 23 - Living Life as an Extrovert With Jessica Pan July 30 - How Plants Make Us Happier With Summer Rayne Oakes Season 5 August 6 - What's New in Positive Psychology With Deborah K. Heisz August 12 - Hacking Your Brain for Happiness With Patrick Porter, Ph.D. August 20 - Living Longer and Happier Through Kindness With Kelli Harding August 27 - 5 Steps to an Extraordinary Life With Zack Friedman September 3 - 7 Steps to Self-Improvement With Chris Libby and Paula Felps September 10 - The Power of Unplugging With Tiffany Shlain September 17 - The Beauty of Conflict for Couples With CrisMarie Campbell and Susan Clarke September 24 - Making Good Habits Stick With Wendy Wood October 1 - Teaching Kids Positive Messages With Again Again October 8 - The Importance of Self-Forgiveness With Stacy Kaiser October 15 - Overcoming Workplace Bullying With Dr. Britt Andreatta October 22 - Embracing Slowness With Jeff Bethke October 29 - Digital Detangling With Pete Dunlap November 5 - Developing a Winning Mindset With Annie Vernon November 12 - Happiness Around the World With Helen Russell November 19 - Train Your Brain for Happiness With Dr. Tara Swart November 25 - The Thank-You Project With Nancy Davis Kho December 2 - Simple Abundance Revisited With Sarah Ban Breathnach December 9 - Discovering the Power of Community With Peter Montoya December 16 - Holiday happiness Tips With Joe McCormack
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5 Ways to Break Your Achiever Fever

Nothing explained my misery: I was five years into running my successful market research business, I had Fortune 500 clients, loyal employees, and was growing an average of 20% each year. I should have been happy given everything I had accomplished, but aside from short bursts of excitement from achieving goals, I just couldn’t find any sustainable joy. This had been the story of my life, whether it be sports, school or my career—I was forever striving for the next thing, the next goal, the next achievement. I’ll be happy when…I used to think. But the happiness never seemed to arrive, no matter what I accomplished. I was sick and tired of living my life this way and my insomnia had gotten so bad I knew something had to change, otherwise I risked becoming a liability to my own company. Four years later, after extensive coaching, self-reflection, meditation, reading, journaling and various retreats, I now understand that I had been suffering from a sickness that I now call Achiever Fever. Achiever Fever is the dark side of achieving—it’s the delusional state of mind we get ourselves into when we tie our self-worth and happiness to our accomplishments. Symptoms include: a constant need to prove oneself, frequent worry, an inability to stay present, comparison with others, fear of not living up to one’s potential and the over-use of food, alcohol, exercise, sleep or work to distract ourselves from our stress. However, as I have come to learn, there is a cure. The cure does not diminish our abilities to achieve: in fact, it only enhances them. But just as importantly, the cure allows us to discover the joy and peace that is already in us to begin with. If you think you might be suffering, here are five ways to break your fever: 1. The first, and in many ways most important step, is to recognize that you are feverish. Achievers tend to operate at a heightened level of busyness that keeps us focused on the external world. Our inner selves get ignored, our self-awareness decreases and we suffer in silence as a result. The suffering can only be dealt with when we acknowledge there is a sickness. 2. The next step, just like with any addiction (and many of us are addicted to achieving), is to tell someone you are suffering. This requires vulnerability and courage. Rest assured that most achievers are suffering from the fever, but most are too anxious to talk about it for fear of seeming weak. Owning it and naming it are critical. 3. Now it is time to get to know the voice in your head – the inner critic that natters away at you, the one that tells you are not good enough, smart enough, strong enough, caring enough or trying hard enough. We allow this voice to run our lives, keeping us in a state of self-doubt and feeling like we can’t get out of own way. This voice can be disrupted by questioning these irrational stories we tell ourselves. Do not accept the voice as truth. There are several systems of self-inquiry, such as Byron Katie’s The Work, that can transform our thinking and take away our fever. I speak more about this in my book, as well, The Achiever Fever Cure. 4. The only way we can truly experience joy is by being present, something that is difficult for future-focused achievers. Incorporating meditation into your life, even if it is only five minutes of deep breathing a day, will show you what it feels like to be present. You will be able to watch your inner critic at work and strengthen your self-awareness, both key in curing your achiever fever. 5. The ultimate cure for achiever fever is to learn to let go. This does not mean giving up, but rather giving in to the flow of life. Achievers like to be “in control” but all we are really able to control is our reactions to what comes our way. Our unhappiness comes when try to twist our life, and the people in it, to suit what we would like to happen. Instead, set an intention, create a plan, rest assured your work ethic will kick in and get out of the way. Remember that challenges bring gifts. Keeping Achiever Fever at bay is a daily practice. Just like we exercise our external selves, we need to pay attention to our internal selves. As we become more self-aware and more present, joy flows into our lives allowing us to feel more connected to ourselves and to others. It is in this state that we can flourish, accomplishing what we never thought possible, as our self-doubt and irrational thoughts fall away.
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Turning Off Your Job With Bryan E. Robinson

If you’re having trouble turning off your job and can’t seem to unplug from work, Bryan E. Robinson, Ph.D., has just the solution for you. A recovering workaholic himself, he understands how hard it is to step away from work addiction and make time for life. His book, #Chill: Turn Off Your Job and Turn On Your Life, is a month-by-month guide to working less and living more. In this episode, you'll learn: What happens to us at a cellular level when we’re always busy How meditation can change the way you work Simple ways to make unplugging easier Links and Resources Purchase his book #Chill: Turn Off Your Job and Turn On Your Life. Facebook: @RobinsonBryanE Twitter: @BRTherapist Instagram: @bryanrobinsonauthor Don't miss an episode! Live Happy Now is available at the following places:           
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Nap Your Way Happy

If you suddenly discovered you were deeply in debt, would you ignore it, or do whatever it took to get rid of that debt? For most of us, the answer is obvious, but you may be surprised to learn that, chances are, you’re carrying debt that you aren’t even aware of. And every day, you’re adding to it just a little bit. The good news is, you can free yourself from this debt just by committing to a single simple activity every day for 15 to 30 minutes—and it’s free, enjoyable and can be done without any special training. It’s called taking anap. Recent research is shedding more light on the value of nodding off during the day. And now, some companies are warming up to the idea, realizing that a well-rested worker is happier and more productive. These companies are so enthusiastic, they’ve even created nap rooms, which can range from a simple darkened room with couches or reclinersto areas with more elaborate “pods”created specifically for the businessenvironment. But it doesn’t take an official nap room or pod to get the benefits of a few minutes of dozing during the day. Huldah Brown, a service coordinator for Midland Area Agency on Aging in Hastings, Neb., keeps a pillow, blanket and timer in her desk drawer. On days when she’s tired or having trouble focusing, she says a 20-minute nap is all it takes to get herself back on track. Although she used to just rest her head on a pillow on her desk, she recently moved to a new office that has a couch—and her boss encourages her to use it for napping. “I always feel more alert afterward, and it seems like I can do my job better,” she says. “On days when I take a nap, I’m able to get a lot more done—and I feel so much better at the end of the day.” Snooze or Lose Huldah isn’t just dreaming up those results; a large and ever-expanding contingent of experts are touting the value of a nap. Not only can it improve your mood, but it also makes a tremendous contribution to your overall health. And in today’s world, where the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention estimates that more than 33 percent of us aren’t getting enough shut-eye at night, naps could prove to be the key to better living. In fact, they may even save your life: Getting the proper amount of sleep improves memory, strengthens the immune system, increases concentration and even decreases people’s risk of being killed in accidents, the American Psychological Association says. “A nap crunches all the benefits of the first and the last part of [overnight] sleep,” explains Sara Mednick, Ph.D., a research psychologist and assistantprofessor in thedepartment ofpsychology at the University of California, Riverside. “I was working in alab [with a scientist] who was working on research about nighttime sleep, and his research showed that we need at least six to eight hours of sleep a night. But Iknew people like myself who were nappers, who thought it didn’t make sense that you can feel as good as you doafter a short nap, when the data show you need a full night’s sleep.” So she set out to research the benefits of napping, and found that it had the same benefits of crucial non-rapid-eye movement (NREM), or “slow-wave sleep,” and rapid-eye movement (REM) sleep experienced overnight, only delivered in a highly condensed form. Since slow-wave sleep (which occurs earlier in the night) can improve memory,and REM sleep (which occurs later in the nocturnal sleep cycle) enhances creative problem-solving, the combination of the two packs a powerful one-two punch that Sara says can be delivered by a simple, properly timed nap. “We have a mixture of different kinds of rhythms in our body and different biological pressures that allow for specific cycles to occur across the day and night,” she says. During the day, our bodies go through a cycle where “it’s a natural, biologically strong period to be sleeping,” she says, which is probably where the practice of taking a nap originated. During that period, the body can achieve both REM and slow-wave sleep. “So you get the same benefits of a full night of sleep in a much shorter time frame,” she says. Sleep More, Smile More And if you suffer from sleep disorders, or if your life simply doesn’t allow you to get the amount of sleep you need, the Stanford Center for Sleep Sciences and Medicine says a 15- to 30-minute nap seven to nine hours after you wake up is the perfect way to refresh—without disturbing nocturnal sleep. A nap might even be more invigorating than an overnight snooze. In 2008, British researchers conducted a study comparing the effectiveness of getting more nighttime sleep, napping and using caffeine when it came to overcoming that all-too-familiar afternoon slump. Of the three, a nap was found to be most effective. One big factor, they discovered, is the amount of time someone has been awake. In other words, even if you got eight great hours of sleep, you might feel the same dip in alertness 16 hours after waking up that someone who only got six hours of sleep would experience. “The thing I’m most surprised about is that in studies, when you compare napping to nighttime sleep, the performance outcomes show the same benefit,” Sara says. “That should open our minds to not only having a regular sleep schedule, but a nap schedule aswell.” That’s a notion Arlene Matthews Uhl, professor of developmental psychology, former psychotherapist and author of The Complete Idiot’s Guide to The Psychology of Happiness, buys into as well. Napping, she says, is a form of downtime that allows us to reboot for the rest of the day. It not only clears the mind, but helps our mood and energy as well. On a physical level, she says, people who take naps regularly will likely be more hormonally balanced, and will be less susceptible to the effects of stress hormones, such as cortisol. That in itself is a natural boost to your mood. “Apart from that, it is highly likely [you] will find that [you] have a burst of creativity after [your] nap time,” Arlene says. “And working in a creative state of flow is one of the keys to happiness.” Get (Back) with the Program While naps are a natural biological urge, many people feel the need to resist sleepiness and “stay productive,” even though volumes of research point to the fact that a quick nap may actually increase productivity and learning during the day. One study conducted in California and reported by the Harvard Men’s Health Watch in February 2012 gave subjects a creative problem in the morning and gave them the afternoon to think it over and develop solutions. At 5 p.m., the participants were tested, but half of them had been allowed to nap and enter the REM sleep state, while the other half was only allowed to quietly rest and relax, but made to stay awake. While those who weren’t allowed to sleep showed no improvement in problem-solving, the nappers showed a 40 percent improvement in performance. Similarly, a study in the December 2011 issue of Cognitive, Affective, & Behavioral Neuroscience showed overwhelming evidence that a daytime nap helped improve motor learning skills. The paper not only included a new study showing that both short and long naps were beneficial in improving motor performance, but recapped more than two dozen other studies emphasizing the improved learning benefits of daytimenapping. Losing the Sleep Stigma With so much evidence pointing to the value of naps, why aren’t more of us curling up on the couch during the day? It has to do with the American work-hard, play-hard mindset, the National Sleep Foundation says. While many countries, including Spain, France and Japan, see scheduled naps or “siestas” as part of the daily routine, Americans are prone to cram more activities into their day rather than schedule a nap. Arlene believes there is still a definite stigma attached to daytime napping, and it may leave nappers feeling guilty for taking a break. One way to get around the guilt of taking a nap, she says, is to call them “power naps,” instead of the more leisurely phrase “catnaps.” This way, you will feel less guilty, more empowered—and better able to take advantage of the many benefits a nap provides. “This simple reframing can help us give ourselves permission to take a break and recharge,” she says. She points out that, when left in a room without windows or clocks, people will naturally take a nap in the late afternoon—even if they don’t know what time it is. Studies on this date all the way back to the 1960s, when a German doctor furnished abandoned World War II bunkers like small apartments—except that they lacked clocks, calendars and windows that showed whether it was light or dark outside. The study consistently showed a pattern in which participants slept for six to seven hours, and then 12 hours later would return to bed for a shorter nap. What that tells us is that “when [you] are free from environmental cues and follow...internal rhythms, napping quickly materializes as part of [your] everyday behavior,” Arlene says. Allowing that natural rhythm to resume is a way of creating a happier, more productive day by improving mood, skills, memory, alertness and health, Arlene says. Like other self-care practices such as meditation, exercise and mindfulness, napping helps even out our moods, sharpens our awareness and allows us to tap into our creativity. “As a result, our relationships tend to become more stable and calm as well,” she says. “All [you have] to do is experience the effects of not being well-rested enough for the course of a few days to understand how difficult it is to be happy under such circumstances,” she says, adding that the connection between happiness and napping is too strong to ignore. “Maybe we need to invent a new name for it:‘nappiness.’”
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Don’t Have Enough Time in the Day? Here’s How to Make Some!

In a time when all of us are looking for more time, Jake Knapp is an anomaly. Although he was once just as stressed and pressed for time as the rest of us, Jake found a way to reinvent his approach to how he spends his day. Jake, a tech designer who spent 10 years at Google building products like Gmail and Google Hangouts, used that same innovative approach to tackling what might be the biggest mystery yet: time. He applied his design skills to his daily routine and figured out how we can design our days to get more out of them. He then teamed up with fellow tech designer John Zeratsky to write Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day to let others in on the secret of how to make more of their day. Live Happy: This is such a relevant book, because I don't know a single person who says they have too much time on their hands anymore. Are we busier than we used to be, or is it the way we're structuring our time? What's going on with us in time? Jake Knapp: I don't know. I think there's probably some element of the human experience, at least in modern industrial age, that has probably always felt really busy and there's always been a lot of stress, I think. There is definitely something going on with our technology and the rate at which we're improving our ability to be distracted these days. Also, I think our culture, more and more, accepts busyness and expects busyness, especially in the United States. If you're in the United States, you're used to asking people how they are and hearing, “I'm busy.” That can be good or bad or whatever, but that's the standard answer. LH: What really sets your book apart is that you're not talking about time management. Can you explain that to us? JK: My background is as a designer and I think a lot about how to try to design things so they'll be easy for people to do and work well for what people want to accomplish, which is how we get into this fix where technology is so compelling and so distracting. It's also a way to take control of things. With time management, the word that people associate with it is being productive. How can I get the most things done in the least amount of time? The way that I'm talking about it is actually about being purposeful, instead of productive. It's picking that one thing that really excites you each day, one thing that you want to have bring your full attention to and then making a time for it on your calendar and defending some space for it. Then everything's designed around that. It becomes the focal point. We call it the highlight of your day and everything builds off of that one central design piece. It's almost like in Instagram, the highlights of Instagram are probably the photos and the highlight of your inbox maybe is each e-mail. For us, in the making time process, the highlight is that one thing that's the most excites you each day. LH: For a lot of us, the thing that's most exciting is not the thing that dominates our day. How do you balance those two things? JK: I should probably say it can't always be the most exciting thing. Sometimes it's going to be the thing that's most satisfying, and maybe your day realistically is going to be dominated by some big project at work. Perhaps you're a bit stressed about it. I can't tell you how many times in my past I've talked to people, or I've had this experience myself where I know I have to do something. It's really important and it's the most important thing for the day at work. Yet at the end of the day, I haven't done it somehow. I look back and I think, “Gosh, I was answering e-mails and I was talking to people,” but somehow I kept putting off that hard, big project that I knew was really important. Sometimes it'll be really satisfying to do that thing that you've got to do, but whenever possible I want to encourage people to prioritize something that they might not otherwise get to. Start off the day by saying, “If the day was over and I was looking back on it, what would I like to say was the highlight of my day?” Occasionally, it will be that work project, but sometimes it's going to be that thing that was really fun, that hobby you wanted to get to, or spending time with your kids. That's really the promise of it is when you start to be able to harness this idea of highlighting to do those things that otherwise get deprioritized. LH: How do you use this concept to regain control and get back on track with your day? JK: Well, one of the most important things about this concept is that it is day-by-day. There is no week-long plan, or month – It's not a big master plan. It’s, “let's look at today and see what's possible today.” I think that already helps a lot. Not feeling you're building a big suspension bridge and if one piece falls apart, the whole thing collapses. Rather, you're just saying like, “For today, what's workable and what's doable?” Also, I think it's important to be realistic during the day. A lot of times for me, the thing I set out to have – be my highlight at the beginning of the day is something happens, things come up. Life is like that. At the end of the day when I reflect back on what's happened, I'll say, “Oh, yeah. This this other thing took its place, but that thing was really important, really urgent.” My kid got sick, or last week it was our puppy who got sick. Part of what happens is that, at least for me, I stopped feeling guilty about not doing the things that were important. I start having a better relationship with my own attention, because I've said this is the thing that's most important to me today. If I do it, great. If I don't, I can at least look back and say, “Well, I know why because there was this clear headline.” LH: One thing that you say is crucial to being able to make time is to start identifying the things in our lives that are worth making time for. How do we start that process? JK: Knowing what the highlight is, is really important. For me, a great exercise to start off with is making a list of the projects that you have in your life, just in any order. Anything could be a project. For me, being a dad is a project and writing a book is a project. I often have one or two work-related projects going on at a time. There might be something else going on at home and you can just list out all of those. Then make yourself put them in priority order. At this moment, like it doesn't have to be for your whole life. Just saying right now, this week, or today, what's the top priority of these projects? Just make a numbered list and draw a circle around that top thing and really – I really encourage people when they're doing this to think about that thing that you feel you've put off, that you've been like, “Gosh, some day it would be really great if I could get back to painting, or get back to practicing the saxophone, or someday if I could spend more time with my kids, it would be so great.” Well, put that thing at the top of the list. Then every chance you get, every day when you choose to highlight, see if there's a way to make time for that thing, that top priority. Even if it's something that usually gets put off. I think that's a really powerful way to start. Then day-to-day, I usually suggest people look for whatever's going to be the most satisfying at the end of the day. Something that will probably take 60 to 90 minutes usually makes a good highlight. LH: What's the one thing that you want everyone to take with them? JK: It is extremely important in our world to look at the default settings. Look at the way that things are set up, the ways that you handle e-mail, the ways that you interact with social media, the ways you spend your time and ask which of those things really have to be the way that they are. If you start to question some of those things, you really can take control of your time. Time is – it's your life, so you should take control of it.
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6 Strategies for Better Sleep

We’ve all been there, some even call it the witching hour. You find yourself eyes half open where it’s too early to start the day, but seems too late to fall back asleep. My clients often report that they wake up and immediately their mind is spinning; thoughts on what they need to do during the day, replaying events from the day before, even reaching for their phones to start checking emails and Instagram (because hey, someone I follow is on another time zone, and they are already having midday snack). Unfortunately, this sort of environment in the mind becomes a battle between an exhausted, and not fully awake mind that just wants to get going against cognitive efforts to convince yourself to fall asleep. “I need to get to sleep; I have a big meeting in the morning.” “If I don’t fall asleep now, I won’t get to work on time.” Or even worse, getting up two hours before rise time and finding yourself napping at your desk by 10 a.m. Sleeping is one of those underrated things that people loosely use to explain away their everyday problems. “I’m exhausted, I didn’t sleep well.” “My child had a fever, and we were both up all night.” “Once I have some coffee I’ll wake up.” Do this sound familiar? Sleep deprivation is a national epidemic. The NHTSA says it’s responsible for 72,000 crashes on the road every year, poor testing scores in children, a lot of the mood disorders people experience and it’s been attributed to some physiological disease processes as well. Sleep is the time when our body repairs itself, cheating yourself of those extra two hours in the morning is what contributes to lack of focus at work, short tempers and less productivity. Here are some strategies that will calm the mind enough to allow you to doze back to dream land. 1. Without turning on any lights, roll to your right side (consult a physician if you are pregnant or have known heart issues). When we roll to our right side (our heart side) we relieve pressure, which allows our blood pressure to reach homeostasis. 2. Without opening your eyes, try lifting your eyebrows. Some would also say gaze up to the spot in between your eyes (known as your third eye). This action will naturally allow any tension you are holding in your face to calm. Also, notice if you are holding your jaw tight during this time, relax it. Conversely you can tighten all the muscles in your face and then relax them. 3. Create a mantra you will use such as: “this thought is not welcome now; I invite it back in the morning.” While laying on your right side, with your face relaxed, take a deep breath in through the nose, letting your belly expand, and hold it slightly, then release it back through your nose. This is where the mind loves to take off. Insert your mantra here. 4. If you struggle to let go of thought because you are afraid you will need it tomorrow, keep a note pad and pen by the bed and jot it down. Make sure that you follow all of the above, low lights, and once you are ready to reset, lights out. 5. Do not be tempted by electronics (keep them in another room if needed). Reaching for your phone, flipping on the TV or grabbing your iPad is inserting blue light into the already complicated brain matter. The mind responds to this blue light as if it were day, ultimately throwing off your circadian rhythm which is how we get stuck in the 4am wake-up call day after day. 6. Do not get up. Making herbal tea might seem like a nice idea but once we stand up, physiological changes happen in our body. Our parasympathetic nervous system (whose job is to work when we rest, by conserving energy, slowing the heart rate, regulating a slightly lower body temperature, increasing intestinal and gland activity, and relaxing the sphincter muscles in the gastrointestinal tract) says, “time to shut off.” Then, our physical body switches over to non-resting mode, notably a faster heart rate, a higher body temperature and alertness. Remember, nothing that has come to you during the precious time of rest is more important than getting your rest so you can be as effective as possible during your day. If you can cognitively believe that this time of sleep is as important (if not more important) that anything else you do in your day, then you can consider sleep an important job, just like any other job you do. And you work hard, so you owe it to yourself to get your rest.
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Learning to Be Happy From Within

Have you ever heard the old saying happiness blooms from within? Well, it turns out there may be more to that saying than we even realize and all it takes to make that happiness bloom is a few minutes of daily meditation. Although we might not initially think of happiness as the main benefit of meditation, it is one of the most commonly reported secondary effects of the practice. I personally experienced this shift during my early twenties when I felt unfulfilled by the external world around me and started looking for happiness within. Every day I began doing meditations for joy and happiness, began to stop and pause during the day to go inward, and just be present with my inner self. It was nothing short of magical. Overtime, I felt as if a weight had been lifted off me; my social anxiety was dropping and I began living life for me and no one else. In fact, this time of my life was so meaningful that it inspired me to become a teacher and create my location independent yoga and meditation school, Yoga For You, and my guided meditations podcast, Mindful in Minutes that now helps to share meditation with people in 162 countries. Brain Power Although many feel happier after meditation, the question remains what is actually happening during meditation that is making us happier? According to existing research done at universities across the United States, such as John Hopkins, meditation makes us happier because we are physically changing the size and structure of our brains with meditation. Although many feel happier after meditation, the question remains what is actually happening during meditation that is making us happier?" Studies show that over four to eight weeks of daily meditation our brains change on a neurological level. Brain scans of meditators and nonmeditators show that areas of the brain associated with fear, anxiety and pain—like the amygdala—shrink and became less active after daily meditation. Areas associated with happiness, memory, and emotion—like the frontal lobe—grow in those who meditate regularly. Chemically the brain changes as well. The feel-good chemicals in the brain oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin, increase after meditation and levels of the fear and stress chemical and cortisol, drop physically. This helps you feel happier and less stressed over time. The changes in the brain also improve your sleep, boost your immune system and decrease your anxiety, can make you a happier and healthier person. Embrace Your True Self Although not backed up by research yet, a personal reason I believe meditation is the key to unlocking happiness, is the deep connection you get with your inner self. In my experience, those who meditate report feeling more content with who they are, what they have and feel they have more clarity in life. It is also during a deep meditation practice that you can connect deeply with atman, or the true self, which is according to yoga philosophy, is where pure happiness resides and how we create a direct line of communicating with our soul and intuition. So maybe the next time you’re feeling like you need a happiness boost instead of looking outward, try gazing inward and give meditation a chance. To access dozens of free 10-minute guided meditations you can check out my podcast Mindful in Minutes, or take my free 7-day meditation challenge at yogaforyouonoline.com.
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Less Stuff, More Happy

For the past decade, Gretchen Rubin has been delving into what makes us happy. Her 2009 breakout book, The Happiness Project, rode to the No. 1 spot on the New York Times best-seller list and took readers along for the ride on her search for happiness. Since then, Gretchen has continued sharing her insight into what makes us happy—and why. With her latest book, Outer Order, Inner Calm: Declutter and Organize to Make More Room for Happiness, she looks at how to create a peaceful environment in an increasingly chaotic world. She sat down with us to talk about why she chose to focus on decluttering and why it’s so important for our happiness. Live Happy: There seems to be a lot of interest in organization and decluttering right now; can you tell me why that is? Gretchen Rubin: I do think it’s something people are always interested in. But I do wonder if right now, the world feels like a very noisy, overwhelming place. It seems like there’s so much going on and so much to deal with. I wonder if that’s making people think, “You know what? I can’t control the world but I can control my coat closet, and if I can’t bring down the level of noise on the outside, I can at least get everything more orderly within my immediate environment, and that will help me cultivate that sense of calm [and] it’s going to make me feel better.” LH: Is it harder to declutter these days? It seems like we have more stuff… GR: Well, I do think it’s easier to buy more stuff. I think for a lot of people, things like online shopping have made it a lot easier in a way that maybe isn’t good. So, one of the things to do is understand where you might be tempted. Some people do a lot of online shopping. For them, [I’d say] delete your accounts. Every time you buy online you have to shop as a guest. That’s just a little bit more inconvenient and it’s probably enough that a lot of people won’t impulse-buy because it’s just a little bit of a nuisance. Part of it is just knowing what might cause you to buy things that you later regretted or realized you didn’t need. LH: What was it that made you personally interested in taking on this topic and giving us a great game plan for getting through all this clutter in our lives? GR: Ever since I wrote The Happiness Project, I’ve noticed how energized people are around the subject of outer order. People are not that energized talking about exercise, which is a habit that is very important, but it’s not like there’s this buzz around it. I became more interested, like, why is that? And I realized it’s because outer order contributes to inner calm for most people. Over time, I became more and more intrigued by it and wanted to focus on it. LH: We know that there is this great relationship between outer order and inner calm, but can you explain to us how it works? GR: Life is easier when you get rid of things you don’t need, don’t use, don’t love. I mean, you can find your keys more easily, you can clean and dust and vacuum more easily, you can put things away more easily. Life is just easier. It’s easier to make a decision like ‘What am I going to wear to work tomorrow?’ because everything fits and you’re not fighting your way through a bunch of stuff. LH: A lot of people can’t even imagine that they can get to the point that you’re talking about, where you can truly declutter. What’s so wonderful about this book is you tell them how to do that—but as you mention, it’s hard to maintain. How do you keep from re-cluttering? GR: There are a lot of little habits that you can follow that make it a lot easier. One is the one-minute rule. Anything you can do in less than a minute, do without delay. So, if you can hang up your coat, if you can print out a document and put it in the file where it belongs…if you could put the cap on the toothpaste and put the toothpaste back in the medicine cabinet, just go ahead and do it. This doesn’t take any time or energy out of your day because these are small tasks, but it gets rid of those little tasks that very quickly mount up if you’re not careful, and then you feel like, “Oh my gosh, everything is such a mess.” LH: One thing in your book that I really wanted to talk about was your “mock move.” Can you tell us what a mock move is and why it’s so helpful? GR: Absolutely. One of the most valuable times for clearing clutter is [when you’re] moving. Because you’re faced with, “do I really want this and do I want this to the point where I am going to pay for a box and a mover to move it and then figure out what to do with it on the other end?” A lot of things just fail that test. Because we get so used to our stuff, it’s hard to evaluate it. So, a mock move just changes your perspective and then you say, “Okay, well I have this fax machine from 10 years ago. It still works. Nobody ever sends faxes anymore, but it is still working. Why would I get rid of it? It’s perfectly good. But would I move it? There is no way. Why would I move a fax machine? I haven’t used it in 10 years. So, there’s something about doing a mock move that often helps people see that they don’t really value something, because if you wouldn’t pay to move it, and you wouldn’t pay to buy it, you probably don’t use it, need it or love it. So that’s a really helpful question to ask yourself. Hear our complete interview with Gretchen Rubin on the Live Happy Now podcast.
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Why Traveling Can Be the Key to Your Happiness

What is fulfillment? I consider experiencing transformational self-discovery and realizing your purpose in the world as fulfillment. That feeling of “completion” when suddenly your body tingles all over in the self-realization that you’ve aligned with the universe. In your gut, you know you are exactly where you are meant to be. If you have no idea what I’m talking about, then you need to travel more. I love that travel presents an opportunity for people to put their fast-paced, “connected” world behind them and build true, deep connections with themselves by experiencing new landscapes and making life-changing memories. As the host of the luxury lifestyle show, Travel Time with Linda, I recognize travel as the ultimate platform to create more meaning in your life happen. So, when was the last time you experienced “going to the nectar of your being” fulfillment? In the season two of Travel Time with Linda, premiering March 17th, I wanted to seek out the most incredible “bucket-list destinations” designed to inspire and fulfill. I consciously chose to reflect the mindset of experiential traveling, highlighting the joys of experiencing new landscapes and different cultures first-hand that make you feel whole and put life into perspective. From embracing pure escapism by glamping in Alaska, to the private island playground of The Maldives, or maybe learning archery in Ireland’s Game of Thrones Territory; it’s an immersive journey that provides unforgettable travel experiences. So, I have a confession to make: It’s not really “a secret” that setting time for travel is the key to fulfillment. There are many campaigns, such as Project Time Off, encouraging us to better our lives through travel, and according to the U.S. Travel Association, people who use all or most of their vacation days are 79 percent happier with their personal relationships. In a recent survey from senior living community Provision Living, out of 2,000 respondents, 95 percent say they have a bucket list of experiences or achievements they hope to accomplish while living life to the fullest. Travel is the number one bucket list category with eight destinations as the average number of locales to check off the average to-do list. Use this vacation planning tool provided by the U.S. Travel Association to get started ticking off your own bucket-list destinations in fulfilling your dreams and to live happier.
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February Happy Activists

Empowerment to the People

Welcome, Happy Activists! A Happy Activist is someone who, through kind words and intentional positive actions, strives to make the world a better place. Live Happy invites you to join our #HappyActs movement! On the 20th of each month, we encourage everyone to incorporate kindness into your daily lives by participating in each month’s planned activity. The more who join the #HappyActs movement, the more positive impact we’ll all have on our homes, workplaces and communities. What you think and do matters! February’s happiness theme is empowerment. Helping others feel a sense of empowerment can be a powerful thing. In a recent Live Happy article, actress Britney Young, described how portraying Carmen “Machu Picchu” Wade on the hit Netflix show GLOW, really taught her about her inner strength and how much she could help others. “I hope audiences are inspired to break down their own barriers and go after things they have always been dreaming of, or have been afraid of attempting. Because once those boundaries are broken, anything is possible,” she says. We couldn’t agree more. Our February Happy Act is to help people feel empowered. In Paula Felps’ Live Happy article, Shower Trucks Helps Nashville’s Homeless, she tells the story of a couple who started a mobile shower stations for the homeless. The idea was so inspirational, soon, hair stylists and barbers pitched in offering free haircuts and shaves. These are regular people using their talents and skills to help people in need, turning despair into dignity. Look for the ways in your life where your talents to be a source of inspiration and empowerment for others. If you are musically gifted, you can piano lessons for free, or if you are handy, then help build houses with Habitat for Humanity. There are plenty of ways you can help people feel confident and hopeful again. Our February Happy Activist is Luc Swensson from Boise, Idaho. This impressive 13-year-old, has been helping others feel good about themselves for almost half of his life. At age 8, he started raising money for patients suffering from pediatric cancer, and just recently, he launched the I Love This Life Foundation. With this foundation, Luc travels the country encouraging kids to be their best selves. To find out more about Luc and his work, go to ilovethislife.org. For more inspiring stories about empowerment: Stitching Lives Back Together Rowing the Pacific The Empowered Britney Young Find Your Tribe Time to up your #HappyActs game. Help us spread global happiness by becoming a Happy Activist and host your very own Happiness Wall for the International Day of Happiness (March 20). Learn how you can host a wall at your school, business or organization and find out how to create your own fantastic wall using one of our Happy Acts Wall Kits.
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