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Happiness 101

You probably learned a number of useful things in school: reading, writing, arithmetic. But no matter how fantastic your teacher, it’s doubtful that “How to be happy” was included in the lesson plan.Luckily, it’s never too late. September marks the inaugural run of The Science of Happiness, a free online class for happiness seekers worldwide.Teaching happinessThis “massive open online course” (MOOC) is the first of its kind devoted exclusively to positive psychology. Instructors Dacher Keltner, Ph.D., and Emiliana Simon-Thomas, Ph.D., will teach students science-based skills for greater happiness and wellbeing.“We’re going to dig into what we think are the most direct paths to happiness and health,” says Dacher, who is also the founding faculty director of University of California at Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center.Connections, compassion, kindnessDacher says the 10-week course will zero in on scientifically proven methods for greater happiness, from building strong social connections with friends and family to the power of compassion and kindness.Students can also expect to learn a bit about their own brain, as well as practical applications for happiness. “We’re taking great care to have reflective practices that our students can engage in, like writing a gratitude diary, learning different techniques to be mindful, how to read people’s emotions more effectively—the tested practices that people can start to integrate,” Dacher says.Visiting scholarsJoining in the discussions will be noted experts from the field of positive psychology, including neuropsychologist Rick Hanson, Ph.D.; The Myths of Happinessbest-selling author Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D.; and mindful meditation teacher Jon Kabat-Zinn, Ph.D.So, can students really boost their happiness in just two months? Absolutely, Dacher says. “Even more important, [students will] have a sense of what they can work on to get happier. I think it’ll give them a little purpose—a little extra meaning in life.”“The Science of Happiness” launches Sept. 9. Register at either GreaterGood.Berkeley.edu or EdX.org, or opt in at any time to audit the course.
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7 Tips for Eating Healthy on a Budget

It’s not breaking news that eating healthier can contribute to our happiness, but when you're working with limited funds, it’s easy to get sticker shock in the organic section. If you’re on a tight budget, it can seem impossible to afford the good stuff. Here are seven ideas that will help you shop, cook and eat healthy without breaking the bank. 1.Get with the (meal) plan Having a meal plan ensures that there are tasty and healthy options readily available. Although the long-term financial benefits of a healthy diet are huge, there are immediate monetary payoffs to meal planning as well. First, “cheap” fast food meals aren’t all that cheap when compared to a far more nutritious home-cooked dinner. Also, planning meals ahead also saves on the cost of waste. (We’ve all seen produce meet an untimely death in the back of the crisper.) Thinking ahead—and cooking ahead, such as making a large pot of stew or soup on the weekend that you can eat all week—is well worth it when it comes to healthy eating. 2. Let an app do it for you Meal planning can be tedious: finding recipes, making shopping lists....Today, a number of apps will do the work for you; many are inexpensive and some are free: Plan to Eat is under $5 per month and Pepperplate is free. Cook Smarts ($6-8/month) even provides a meal plan for you each week that can be modified based on your dietary preferences, including gluten-free, vegetarian and paleo. 3. Go fresh, go local Buying fresh, organic produce in the supermarket can add up quickly, but sticking mainly with what’s in season will save you money. When you buy apples in summer, they are shipped in from New Zealand or Chile and may cost more (not to mention the effect on the environment). Likewise, eggplants in winter are shipped in and will be less fresh and tasty, as well as more expensive. It’s definitely better to buy organic when possible, but if the cost is prohibitive, it’s better to buy non-organic fruits and vegetables than to forgo them altogether. If you can, purchase your in-season produce at a farmers market near you. One study done in Vermont showed an average of almost 40 percent savings on organic produce at farmers markets versus grocery stores. Another option to make saving even easier is joining a co-op or CSA Farm Community-Supported Agriculture), many of which will deliver locally grown, organic produce right to your doorstep, saving not only money, but time, too. If you are an omnivore, many farmers markets, CSAs and local farms are great resources for saving big on eggs and hormone-free, antibiotic-free meats. 4. The big chill Frozen vegetables will save you cold, hard cash and also taste a lot better than the canned variety. They are fantastic when you are in a pinch and need a quick, healthy side dish. Heat them up and add some olive oil and salt and pepper, if you like. Buying good quality, minimally processed frozen fish and chicken breasts can also save money and time; if you have these healthy proteins on hand, you are less likely to resort to fast food. And because frozen items last longer, there is much less risk of waste. 5. Rice and beans, a magical combination Brown rice is a powerhouse of nutrients, including B vitamins, magnesium, manganese, protein and fiber, to name a few. And at less than 15 cents for one half-cup serving of organic brown rice, it’s also a boon for those seeking a bargain. Make a large batch and store leftovers in the fridge for use during the week in a quick stir-fry, side dish, or even rice pudding for breakfast. (For those who know of brown rice’s benefits but still prefer the taste of white, no need to worry—white rice is still nutritious as well as inexpensive.) Beans and rice taste great together, but more important, they make a complete protein. Beans are chock-full of fiber, B vitamins and minerals. A one-pound bag of dried beans will only set you back about $1 and makes 10-12 servings! Whipping up some red beans and rice, or sautéing cooked lentils with seasoned spinach or kale are a couple of great ways to make a budget-friendly meal that is both tasty and healthy. 6. Meatless Mondays Most omnivores find they can sink their teeth into a hearty veggie- and grain-based meal at least once per week. Because meat is often the priciest ingredient in recipes, by going meatless on Monday (or any other day), you are not only improving your health, but your balance sheet, too. Black bean burgers and lentil tacos are delicious and filling, and mushrooms have a meaty texture that is sure to satisfy cravings. 7. Pack it in With Americans spending an average of close to $1,000 yearly on lunch (and some spending up to $5,000), brown-bagging it more often is a great way to save money and gain nutrition. Without much extra effort, packing up your healthy leftovers into individual portions makes it easy to throw together a midday meal to take to the office or heat up at home. Your co-workers will be green with envy.
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4 Tips That Could Prolong Your Life

Researchis showing us that if you live apositive, happy lifestyle right now, nottomorrow or 10 years from now, barringhealth issues, you could live a longerlife than someone who approacheseach day with a negative outlook.Among the most notable researchwe’ve found on this topic comes fromEd Diener, a Gallup senior scientist andformer University of Illinois psychologyprofessor. He took an in-depthlook at more than 150 studies looking atthe connections between aging andhappiness. From one that tracked thelife spans of almost 200 baseball playerswho were smiling in photos versus thosewho weren’t, to one that studiedScandinavian twins and yet another thatanalyzed how positive 180 nuns’autobiographies were when entering theconvent, what he found was one cleartheme: Happy people tend to havelonger, healthier lives.Who lives the longest?And in an interview with theUniversity of Illinois News Bureau, hewent so far as to say that, in his opinion,the data linking positive feelings andenjoying life to longevity is strongerthan the claims that obesity reduces aperson’s life span. That’s a pretty strongbelief, but it’s one we should thinkabout. Do you have the happiness andthe positive attitude it will take to carryyou to the century mark?First, let’s define what happiness is and what it’s not: Happiness is not aboutbeing blind to the negatives in ourenvironment. Happiness is believingyou have the power to do somethingabout those negatives. If you want tocreate positive change in your life, if youwant to live a positive life, you have to first change your reality.1. Keep a journalIn just two minutes,you can actually rewire your brain,allowing it to work more optimistically and more successfully. Write downthree new things that you’re grateful foreach day for 21 days in a row. At the endof that, your brain will start scanningthe world, not for the negative, but forthe positive. Then begin journalingabout one positive experience you’vehad over the past 24 hours and allowyour brain to relive it. These kinds ofexercises teach your brain that yourbehavior matters.2. Sleep mattersOne of our favorite studiesis from a 2008 issue of the Asia PacificManagement Review, which foundthat if you memorize sets of positive,neutral and negative words and thensleep for seven to eight hours, you willremember about 80 percent of all threelists a day later. If you miss a night ofsleep and stay up, say 36 hours, youstill remember most of the neutral andnegative words, but 59 percent fewerof the positive words! This is becauseyour brain interprets a lack of sleep asa threat to the central nervous system,then goes on high alert, scanning theworld for additional threats—that is,negatives.Get seven–eight hours of sleep per night."Fatigue severely impairs ourability to see the positives in life, makingsleep not just good for your health, butalso your wellbeing. So, turn off the TV,put away the book and get seven to eighthours of shut-eye.praise and gratitude, you are doomed to a reality devoid of those things.3. Stop fighting stressNo question, stress can be detrimentalto our health. Countless books andentire research journals are dedicated tothis topic. But that’s not the entire story:In fact, there is a huge body of researchshowing that stress can enhance ourwellbeing. There exists an alternatebut equally true reality in which stressis actually good for us.Make stress work for you, not against you"First, becomeaware of the stress. Second, look for themeaning behind it. (“I’m stressed aboutthis project because I know I’ll get apromotion if I succeed.”) And third,channel your stress response to improveyour motivation. Stress is a fight-or-flight response, and when you fight orflee from it, you only make it worse.Recognize it and then channel it inpositive ways, improving both your lifeand happiness.4. Expect the best outcomeDefensive pessimism,or assuming the worst until you areproved wrong, seems like a very safeposition—that way you are neversurprised and even have a plan in place.Sounds safe, right? The problem is,your brain constructs a world based onhow you expect it to look. So if you can’tanticipate accomplishment, meaning,praise and gratitude, you are doomedto a reality devoid of those things.Say, for example, you’re running amarathon. Don’t start out by thinking about the injuries you could sustain orabout how embarrassing it would beif you didn’t finish. Instead, start by planning a training schedule, thinkingabout how good you’ll feel as yourmiles start increasing, and anticipatingthat nice dinner you and your familywill eat after the race to celebrate youraccomplishment. Expect success, andyou’ll be more likely to find it.And this is just the beginning.There are a number of ways you, too,can be happier and live a more positivelifestyle. So, put on a smile and relishevery moment.ShawnAchoris theNew York Timesbest-selling author ofThe Happiness AdvantageandBefore Happiness.Shawn recently sat down with Oprah Winfrey to discuss his steps for achieving happiness on OWN’sSuper Soul Sunday.MichelleGielanis an expert on the science of positive communication and how to use it to fuel success.She formerly served as a national news anchor for CBS News, and is the founder of the Institute for Applied Positive Research, which works with companies and schools toraise employee engagement, productivity and happiness at work.
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Word Power

Words matter, and as we take steps to boostour happiness, the very words we choose are surprisinglyimportant. That’s because differentwords appeal to different people.For instance, when I decided to takeactions to make myself happier, I starteda “happiness project.” I love a “project”;I want to roll up my sleeves and begin.There's no "right" wordSome people, however, disagree. “Itsounds like homework,” a friendobjected. “It reminds me of the science project I hated in sixth grade.” Myfriend loves art and design, so perhaps she might frame the same process as“design my life.” Or someone who lovestravel and exploration might“start my journey.”In fact, some people bristle atthe word “happiness” itself.They prefer to talk about peace, serenity,satisfaction, fulfilment or contentment.Happy happy, joy joyAs for me, I have an issue with the word“joy.” “So, Gretchen, tell us about howyou try to live a more joyful life.” For me,the word “joy” evokes a rare, intenseemotion; I don’t feel joyous very often,and I don’t expect to feel joyful in myordinary day. But for someone else, “joy”might be the right word.Also, by emphasizing different values,the words we choose can make a habitmore or less appealing. “Playing thepiano” sounds like more fun than“practicing the piano”; “engagement time” sounds more interesting than “email time.” And what sounds moreattractive, a “personal retreat day,”“catch-up day,” “ditch day” or“mandatory vacation day”? Would yourather “take a dance class” or “exercise”? Some people embrace the word “quit,” asin “I’ve quit sugar.” Some are put off byits overtones of addiction.Setting the right toneThe differences in word choice mayseem subtle, but they’re significant. I hada note posted in my office that read,“Creative and confident,” but I changedit to “Creative and enthusiastic.”“Confidence” has an overtone of posture and self-consciousness; it relatesto the way I’m seen by others or the wayI view myself. “Enthusiasm,” on theother hand, expresses the way I feelabout something or someone else—it’senergetic, positive, generous andoutward-turning.Raising the bar by lowering the barAlong the same lines, I once madethe resolution to “lower my standards,”but before long, I changed it to “lowerthe bar.” “Lower my standards”suggests settling for mediocrity, while“lower the bar” suggests the removal ofobstacles, which is what I aim to do.I’m fairly argumentative, and I would argue with people about why myvocabulary is the most helpful. But I’vecome to understand that just aseveryone is different because we each have our own mix of temperament,interests and values, differentvocabularies are appropriate as well.Figure out what works for youSo if you’re trying to make a changein your life, think about the words youchoose. Pursue your dream, sprinttoward a finish line or cross an item offyour to-do list—whatever strikes achord with you.GRETCHEN RUBIN is the best-selling author ofThe Happiness ProjectandHappier at Home,and is currently working on her latest book,Before and After, scheduled for release in 2015. She is considered one of the most influential writers on happiness today, and has become an in-demand speaker and keynoter.Gretchen has also made appearances on theTodayshow,CBS Sunday MorningandBooknotes. You can readabout Gretchen’s adventures in the pursuit of happiness and habits on her blog atGretchenRubin.com.
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Naturally Happy

It’s what makes us exhale with delight while driving a scenicroute. It’s why we find peace as we walk a mountain trail, relax as we sit in the sun on the beach. It’s biophilia, and it’s the emotional connection thatwe, as humans, have with nature.“Being outside makes you moremindful,” says Dr. John Ratey, associateprofessor of clinical psychiatry atHarvard Medical School and co-authorof the new book, Go Wild: Free Your Body and Mind from the Afflictions of Civilization. “If you take a walk on atreadmill, you’re going to read a magazine or watch TV or listen to music, and it takes you away from thatexperience of walking. But if you take awalk on a trail, you immediately have tobe in the moment. You have to payattention to the changes of the ground,watch what is going on around you.”Happy trailsEven if you’ve walked that same traildozens—or hundreds—of times, it isdifferent every time and requires attention and awareness.John teamed up with journalistRichard Manning for his ninth book onbrain function, this time taking ascience-based look at how moderncivilization is doing serious damage to both our minds and bodies. Whatemerges is a clear argument for shakingloose from modern life to restore ourhealth and happiness.Ranking high on that list is the need for us to get back intouch with nature. “We have to get back to our evolutionary roots,” John says. “Because of our digital connections, we are losing our people connections. We wrapourselves in all the tremendous stimuliwe can connect to—Facebook, Twitter,the latest Kardashian story—but wedon’t even see what’s happening in theworld around us….[Being in nature]improves our mood, lessens ouranxiety and enhances our cognitiveability.Down to earthGetting back in touch with nature provides more than just an emotional lift, experts say. Studies tracking alphawave activity show that simply looking at nature scenes reduces anxiety, depression, anger and aggression.In one, residents of an adult care center in Texas showed reduced levelsof cortisol, the “stress hormone,” simplyby moving to a garden environment.And in another, subjects showed lessstress when plants were placed inthe room.In Japan, the belief in the benefits of connecting with the earth is so strong that a national movement was launched,“shinrin-yoku,” supporting the use of nature to improve health and wellbeing. The Japanese Society of Forest Medicine has conducted numerous studiesshowing measurable medical and mentalhealth benefits to connecting with nature.Not only has the Japanese governmentinvested more than $4 million inresearch to prove the tangible benefits ofnature, but it has also built 100 “foresttherapy bases” and has inspired the restof Asia to follow suit.In fact, South Korea’s forest serviceis working with a German medicalresort company to build the NationalBaekdu-daegan Forest HealingComplex. The $140 million foresttherapy center will include therapeuticprograms and forest education as well ascontinue research on the benefits of aforest environment on happiness andbetter health.Try this at homeFortunately, we don’t need amultimillion-dollar forest center or even a national park to reconnect withnature. Many experts tout the benefitsof reconnecting with Mother Earthsimply by walking into our ownbackyards barefoot, also called“earthing” or “grounding.” Researchhas shown that this simple action helpsoffset some of the harmful effects of theelectromagnetic fields surrounding us inthis world of digital devices and that ittransfers the negatively charged freeelectrons in our bodies into the earth.In a study published in EuropeanBiology and Bioelectromagnetics, researchers found that connecting thehuman body to the earth during sleephelps alleviate sleep dysfunction, pain and stress and lower cortisol levels.Researchers concluded that earthing provides “reductions in overall stresslevels and tensions.”“Getting quiet in nature awakens usto the most serene place in our hearts, aplace of deep stillness,” says Eoin Finn, Blissology.com founder and creator ofthe Earth.Body.Yoga. series.“There is avibration to nature that is slow and peaceful, and similar to two guitarstrings getting in tune, we harmonizewith this vibration.”That gives us a feeling of awe,gratitude and a sense of belonging tosomething greater than ourselves.“Everything out there isinterconnected, and that is miraculous,”he says. “I want us to really blur the linewhere we begin and nature ends. Weshould never lose sight of thisinterdependent relationship.”Regardless of what it’s called—“earthing,” “grounding” or “connectingwith nature”—the effects are noticeableand well-documented, John says. Gettingback in touch with the earth affects notonly our mental wellbeing, but can havemeasurable effects on our physical healthas well. From the sun nourishing us withvitamin D to building stronger, healthierbodies as we move around, John saysthere is no downside to returning to amore nature-centric lifestyle:“That connection is so, so importantfor us. It leads to so many good things,changes our brains, changes ouremotions. You’ll be happier, you’ll wantto live longer so you can enjoy this life.And when you want to live, you takebetter care of yourself.”
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5 Tips for Feeling Healthy Inside and Out

1. Exercise is the best The best way to feel happy, healthy and fit is to exercise. There is no substitute. Research shows that exercise will boost your mood, help you to sleep better and increase your self-esteem. This is partially due to the release of endorphins in your body as you workout. Endorphins decrease our sense of pain and increase our happiness and sense of pleasure. If you want your mood to go up, increase your exercise. Working out doesn’t mean 60 minutes or 0; all or nothing. Working out to a ten minute app on your phone is still exercise. Start somewhere. 2. Put good food in your stomach Ninety percent of serotonin is made in your gut. Serotonin is the chemical that makes you happy. That means, whatever you are putting into your body, could impact your mood. Do your best to stay away from frequenting antibiotics, processed foods and high sugar and carb diets. If you're a coffee fanatic, make sure to research science-based facts about its benefits, before you start investing in coffee makers. Healthy habits like taking walks, doing yoga, avoiding "toxic" people and eliminating negative self-talk will all help to minimize stress. 3. Find true peace of mind How do we find true peace of mind? Try making a list of your values and see if you are actually living them. Are you worrying over little things in your life? Are you overscheduled? Your kids overscheduled? Take a look at your day-to-day worries and see if there are a few things you can easily cut out, that will give you more free time (and more peace of time). 4. Don't compare yourself to others A great way to feel healthy is to stay in tune with your body and its needs. When we compare ourselves to others, we focus our time and energy on trying to be something that our body and mind might not actually want us to be. As we compare ourselves to others we are giving ourselves a very unrealistic and skewed perception of reality. This can decrease confidence and even lead to depressive symptoms. Instead, work on becoming more self-aware. Reflect on your values, your goals, your current life situation and begin creating a realistic plan to get you where you are trying to go. 5. Dress your mood up Of course, there are days when you want to cuddle up in yoga pants or sweats and just relax. Quite frankly, I think you should do that. However, don’t let this dress style be your only style. I know that the day-to-day routine can be boring or nothing exciting might be going on, but dress up anyway. At least twice a week, wear something that makes you feel pretty or handsome. The way we dress and feel in our own skin makes an impact our confidence and our attitude about our day. There is nothing like a new dress, a great hair day, or a nice suit to lift your spirits. Dress up your body, dress up your mood.
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The Joy of Kneading

I was a frustrated bread kneader. I wanted to fill my house with the intoxicating aroma of fresh-baked bread, if not daily, then at least on a weekly basis. Aside from desiring the crusty finished product, I couldn’t resist the romance of the process—imagining myself wearing a floury apron, falling into a meditative rhythm as I turned the dough over and over, coaxing flour and water and yeast into a pillowy, elastic ball. But for one problem—my pathetically weak upper arms. The need to knead “Knead the dough until it is smooth and elastic, about 10 minutes,” the recipe would read. Ten minutes later, my dough was still shaggy—nowhere near the glossy, springy ball that I had anticipated. And my arms and hands were fatigued. Another five minutes passed, and my dough still wasn’t right, the kneading becoming more treacherous as the dough did indeed gain elasticity, giving me the sensation of wrestling in my kitchen with an angry octopus. Then one by one, I received signs from the universe to give up the fight. First, there was the wedding gift of a stand mixer, whose very presence and powerful motor and dough hook rendered my efforts laughable. Next came my in-laws' cast-off bread machine, which cut me out of the process altogether. Finally, there was the sudden popularity of Jim Lahey’s famed no-knead bread, whose knockout crust and chewy interior made kneading seem as antiquated and pointless as scrubbing laundry on a washboard. Amazing homemade bread was suddenly available without the requisite effort of energetic dough shiatsu. Hands-on connection If I was looking for some sort of sensual connection to my dough, I was going to have to find it elsewhere. Bread didn’t need me anymore. Lest you think me some kind of weirdo for craving a connection and wanting to work the dough with my own hands, there's science to back up the pleasure—and its benefits. "When we use our hands, we're activating large parts of the brain," says Dr. Marie Pasinski, a neurologist at Harvard Medical School and the author of Beautiful Brain, Beautiful You. "There are more sensory receptors in our fingers than in other parts of our bodies. For that reason, when using your hands, you are really stimulating sensory areas of your brain." Think of that scene in the French film Amélie when the protagonist steals a moment to surreptitiously sink her hand into a bag of dried beans, simply to enjoy the sensation. "We take our sense of touch for granted, but it's one of our most malleable skills. It's pretty neat that you can reach into your pocket and tell a quarter from a dime," says Marie. Once you stop to think about it, indulging in feel-good activities for your hands might be the equivalent of treating your ears to an opera or your eyes to an art exhibit. And the more you use your hands for these kinds of sensory tasks, the more you fine-tune their sensitivity, continues Marie. "People who play the piano, for example, have much more developed sensory and motor areas in their fingertips than someone who doesn't play an instrument." There is plenty of evidence that this kind of hands-on work benefits every aspect of wellbeing. A 1999 study from the University of North Carolina at Greensboro found that a group of nursing home residents who regularly performed sensorimotor activities—from flower arranging to sewing—over 30 weeks improved their overall condition. This included having better physical mobility and lower levels of anxiety and depression than a control group. Once the sensorimotor activities decreased, so did their improvements. 'I made that' Marie—who not incidentally learned a love of cooking and baking while waiting tables at a Hungarian restaurant known for pastries—also likes to emphasize the satisfaction that can come from looking at a finished product which didn't even exist before your hands got involved. "The proud 'I made that' feeling is very powerful, and then you have this thing you can enjoy while eating it," she says. And so, I focus my fingertips elsewhere in the kitchen: dough, specifically pie dough, although any cookie dough that has to be formed and rolled out is a good candidate, too. Yes, fabulous pie dough can be produced in about two seconds in a food processor, but since the day I learned how, I have only made pie dough by hand. I always cited the reason as a practical one: I love to be the one who, during the “rental apartment at the beach” weekend, with little more equipment than a countertop and a wine bottle, makes and rolls out the crust for an improvised berry galette. The sensual pleasure of making pie And it's true that by making dough by hand, I keep my skills sharp. But there is another reason: It is simply pleasurable to do so. To plunge my hands into the bowl of cool, whisper-weight flour, to rake my fingers through the grit that sugar and salt add. To rub in a cold stick of butter, first squeezing the stick until it breaks, then smearing its clammy chunks into the flour, alternating rubbing and breaking down the butter with several quick tosses to redistribute the crumbs in the bowl. Finally, in goes the water. With a fork I scrape the mixture against the side of the bowl, and it satisfyingly clumps together. A few fold-overs, and it has turned into a mass. A few minutes ago, it was nothing. But now it has transformed and will later transform again into a delicious shell for some equally delicious filling. And that is so very gratifying.
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3 Keys to Boosting Your Confidence

Is fear of failure holding you back?Do you charge ahead, willing to give anything a try and persisting in the face of setbacks, criticism and failure? Or do you hesitate, waiting until you feel you can put the pieces together so everything will be “just right,” ensuring that everything goes as planned and everyone is happy?My grandfather’s motto for life is: “Just get in there and have a go.”As I look back on decades of risky career moves and wonderful adventures around the globe, I thank him every day for giving me the confidence to show up for the things that have mattered most in my life.In fact, I didn’t realize just how good his advice was until I recentlyrecorded this podcast withKattyKay, co-author of the best-selling bookThe Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance—What Women Should Know.Thoughts into actions“Confidence is what turns our thoughts into actions,” explained Katty. “With it you can take on the world; without it you remain stuck on the starting block of your own potential.”It turns out confidence isn’t simply feeling good about yourself, saying you’re great—perfect just as you are—and believing you can do whatever you want. Nor does it require you to be a jerk who always has to speak first, ignores other people’s ideas, or demands to be given what you deserve. Rather, confidence is what allows you to stop mumbling, apologizing andhesitating, and instead start acting, risking and failing.“Confidence matters more to our success than competence does,” said Katty. “If you choose not to act, you simply have less chance of success.”Unfortunately,Katty’s research foundthat confidence appears to be a particular challenge for women across professions, income levels, and generations. And while our genetics, our schooling, our upbringing, our society and even the way we look are all factors that affect our confidence, it’s also a result of our own choices.Choose to become more confidentAs a result, Katty believes we can improve our levels of confidence through three simple steps:1. Take action—Nothing builds confidence like taking action, especially when the action involves risk and failure.So step outside your comfort zone, and if the very idea feels overwhelming, focus on how your actions can benefit others to kick-start your confidence. Start with small challenges that allow you to grow, improve and gain confidence. If you fail, think about how you can do it differently next time, and try again. If you succeed, set yourself the next challenge and keep stretching yourself forward again and again.2. Think Less—Note the stories you’re playing over and over, and ask: Is this the only explanation for what’s unfolding? Try to note as many plausible alternatives as possible, and invest your attention on the explanations that build rather than destroy your confidence. And if all else fails, try a little self-compassion and talk back to yourself, as you would to a friend who was full of self-doubt.3. Be Authentic—Be confident in a way that feels genuine to you. You don’t always have to speak first; you can listen and incorporate what others say. You can speak calmly but carry a smart message—one that will be heard. Play to your distinctive strengths and values. Express your vulnerability. We’re at our most powerful when confidence emanates from our core.To find out how confident you really are, take this free survey.And remember my grandfather’s motto: “Just get in there and have a go.”What would you be doing right now if you had a little more confidence?Michelle McQuaid is a best-selling author, workplace well-being teacher and change activator.To learn more about Michelle visitwww.michellemcquaid.com.
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Events

Live Happy NowLive Happy Now is a weekly audio series created to engage and inspire by bringing you the best of positive psychology through powerful insights, relatable stories and expert advice. Live Happy Now will help you discover your own authentic happiness, in life, at work and at home.Live Happy Now will feature a different expert in the field of positive psychology, best-selling authors and happiness gurus from all over the world. Learn how to better understand the science of happiness and how to use it to create a positive emotional benefit for yourself and increase it in the lives of others. This audio series offers such variety of expertise on optimizing the happiness in your life – all at no cost to you!One-time registrationwill get you access to the Live Happy Now weekly audio series, updates on upcoming speakers, and other special bonuses!International Day of HappinessEvery year, on March 20, the world sets aside one day to celebrate and recognize the importance of happiness in our lives. Learn more about our year-round #HappyActscampaign and how you can help make the world a happier place.Get happy news, tips and things that make you smiledelivered to your inbox.
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Minecraft

Mining for Happiness

Legos were once the ultimate building blocks of our imaginations. Hand me a kit meant for making a castle, and I’d find a way to turn it into a spaceship. I was limited only by my own creativity and the number of blocks I owned. If I’d had access to a digital world-building game like Minecraft at my fingertips when I was a kid, I would never have run out of blocks (or left my room, for that matter).Now kids have access to fully realized sandbox games (also called free roam and open world). Sandbox games are essentially digital playgrounds that allow users to manipulate and alter the world they play in. In the case of Minecraft, it is a sort of timeless primal landscape made up of 3-D world rocks, lakes, and mountains, and populated by animals.Playing in the giant sandboxMinecraft is one of the most popular games in this genre. With more than 100 million registered players, there’s no shortage of builders getting lost in a world of their own creation. There are four modes to choose from: creative, survival, hard-core and adventure. Creative is purely about building your own universe (I’ve seen everything from the Mona Lisa to a scale model X-Wing), whereas survival mode involves hoarding meat and crafting yourself a little house (a house that won’t last long once your little sister decides that dynamite would look really nice next to it). Minecraft discussions now dominate elementary school playgrounds, with pig-tailed girls discussing the fastest way to make a diamond sword (the pinnacle of pixilated weaponry in the game).Parents, meanwhile, are conflicted. On the one hand, this actually seems like a creative, interesting game that utilizes your whole imagination. And yet it seems to have swallowed our children; the game is downright addictive. Why is it so popular? One reason may be that creativity is a defining factor in happiness. When we are creatively engaged, it helps us to achieve a state of “flow,” which psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi describes as “an almost automatic, effortless, yet highly focused state of consciousness.” This state may or may not be accompanied by dilated pupils and complete lack of attention to everything outside the screen.Ruler of my domainIn addition, kids normally toil under adult rules, in a world devised and controlled by adults. In Minecraft, kids can create their own world, with their own rules. At the same time, they are driven to rack up more points, mine more ore, get to the next level and beat their peers—it all just makes you want to play longer and score higher. This intoxicating sense of autonomy and mastery (of the mines, of the score, of the game) packs a psychological wallop. No wonder we literally can’t put it down. It’s amazing to think that Minecraft was only released in 2011, and it’s now a global phenomenon.The building blocks of creativityMinecraft is not the only sandbox game that uses creation tools to stimulate curious minds. And Legos themselves are, paradoxically, as popular as ever. Nothing can replace the hands-on feel of building something with physical blocks. But kids will continue to enthusiastically inhabit Minecraft, where they can actualize their imaginations and create an entire universe for all to see. The game is even being used for some real-world applications, such as an app in Sweden that lets school kids design their own block, and something called the Block by Block initiative run by UN Habitat, which allows young people to use Minecraft to design real-world environments.Whether working together to build a grand city or fighting over fragments of iron, Minecraft and sandbox games in general give kids the opportunity to imagine and explore—to experience mastery and flow, and to write their own rules—all in the safe confines of a game. Later, maybe they will take some of those experiences and apply them to the outside world.
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