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10 Tips to Do a Disney Vacation Right

I love taking my family to Disney World (and Disneyland, and Disney cruises….) But it isn’t the Happiest Place on Earth when someone is having a meltdown. Listen to your kids (and your spouse) when they aren’t excited about the next ride or show and start saying things like, “I don’t want to meet Minnie Mouse; I want to go to the pool!” That means it’s time for a break. Head back to the hotel for a while or find a play area in the park. Mixing the high-intensity fun of rides and shows with a little relaxation is the key to a truly magical time at the Magic Kingdom. Happiness research tells us that some of the pleasure in taking a vacation comes from planning it and thinking about it ahead of time. Let your kids participate in decision-making (when possible). Watch videos and look at websites together to get excited about the parks. To savor the trip even more, take photos while you’re there, get them printed and get together to compile them into an album when you are back home—thus reliving the fun over again. Here are 10 more tips to make the most of your visit: 1. Do a little research Don’t arrive and think you are going to do the Magic Kingdom in the morning, Epcot at lunch and then try to tackle Animal Kingdom all in one day. Be realistic about what you can accomplish. Check these websites (many of which are written and maintained by Disney obsessives—and that’s a good thing) for itineraries, tips and short-cuts, and consider buying a book, if you want to be able to carry something with you. Check the Disney websites for ticket deals and special tours happening when you plan to be there. If you want to go the Full Mickey, with a guide to spirit you past lines and into every ride and show, check out Disney’s VIP Tour Services. 2. Set priorities When planning your trip, ask family members what are the one or two things they don’t want to miss, such as meeting Tinker Bell or riding Space Mountain. Then build a schedule, making sure to include those things, and if you miss some lower-priority items, it’s OK. 3. Prepare a budget Before you go, research and find out what it will cost for room, food, transportation, souvenirs, etc. Choose what you can afford. You don’t want to be surprised by the costs, or be so far over budget that your vacation becomes a financial albatross. Make sure to leave room for little splurges that will make everyone happy, like Mickey ice cream bars, T-shirts or other souvenirs. 4. Get the apps Disney has gone high-tech—and we’re not talking about the Main Street Electrical Parade. Download some important apps before you go: The Disney Wait Times app is available in both Apple and Android. In addition, Disneyland and Disney World both have their own proprietary apps that let you know which characters will be where, when (essential!), FastPass return times (see below), restaurant menus and other handy items. 5. Get the Pass Disney offers a FastPass that is free to everyone. Learn about it and use it! It will save you hours and hours of standing in line for rides. 6. Come early If the newest ride has a four-hour line, don’t stand in it. While it may be the best 2:15-minute ride in the world, it’s unlikely your 8-year-old will appreciate it enough to overcome the inconvenience of the wait. If your child simply has to go on a certain popular ride, get to the park first thing in the morning before it opens and head straight to your ride. You should be able to get on within a half-hour, and enjoy the rest of the park afterward. 7. Look around you Enjoy the scenery. Disney parks aren’t just about the rides. Everything from the landscaping to the logo design, the details of the architecture to the smells of the food, can take you to another world. 8. Take an animal break When you want to slow down a bit, go to Animal Kingdom. The rides and shows are great, but there are actual animals there, and they are worth your time. Kids love the underwater views of fish swimming idly by. 9. Take advantage of together time When standing in line (and you will be standing in line), don’t just look at devices to check email or play games—talk to one another! Don’t think of it as killing time as you wait to get on the “Pirates of the Caribbean” ride, think of it as a rare opportunity to spend quality time with your family. Don’t waste it. 10. Remember why you’re there This is a vacation—not a competition or task to accomplish. Sleep in if you want to. Go back to the hotel to nap or play in the pool if you need to. The important thing is not to visit each ride or each park, but to have the best time with your family. Read more: 8 Secrets to a Happy Family Road Trip Deborah K. Heisz is the CEO and Editorial Director of Live Happy.
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#HappyFacts: Smart Phone, Stupid People

Each week, Live Happy Radio presents #HappyFacts designed to enlighten, educate and entertain you. Here’s a look at what we’re talking about this week: The best part of waking up… Waking up and smelling the coffee apparently puts a little extra spring in your step—or at least adds some positivity to your social media. Researchers at Cornell University studied Twitter feeds and found that tweets made earlier in the morning reflected greater promise and optimism than those made later in the day. The research also found that moods dippedduring the day—presumably while the subjects were at work or school—but then became more positive late at night. Moods also appeared to be more positive on the weekends than on the weekdays, hinting at a possible link between our moods and the effects of work and commuting. Hmm, it may be time to find ways to spark more joy at work! Explore 7 science-backed tips for a happier morning. Ride your bike, change your life If you want to keep that positive morning momentum going, maybe riding a bike to work is the answer. Recent findings show that people who ride their bikes to work show lower levels of stress and improved work performance, paving the way for a great day. Cycling also requires you to stay in the moment by keeping you focused on what’s happening around you, instead of letting your mind wander to what needs to be done at work or the disagreement you’re having with your teenager or spouse. Plus, there’s the added benefit that being in nature—versus being in a car, bus or train—is a natural stress reliever. Still need a reason to switch to pedal power? You’ll cut the cost of your commute while cutting your risk of heart disease, cancer and early death. Find out how one nonprofit is biking for a change. Smartphone got your brain? If you’re having trouble thinking clearly, your smartphone might be to blame. At least that’s what researchers from the University of Texas at Austin found when they measured how well study participants completed tasks when their phones were nearby. What makes this most interesting is that just having the smartphones in the same room negatively affected the people’s ability to concentrate—even when the phones were turned off. The study concluded that even when we’re not able to use the phone, the mere fact that it’s in our line of sight gets our conscious mind thinking about not using it—which creates brain drain. Putting the phone in a drawer, bag or another room resulted in significant improvements in cognition and concentration. So, next time you want to get some work done, maybe you should give your smartphone the day off. Can't get away from your phone? Check out Amy Blankson'stech survival kit.
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Healthy Brain, Happy Life

What does a woman of science do when she realizes she is missing out on everything but science? That’s the question Wendy Suzuki, a professor of neural science at New York University, asked herself—and which prompted her to write, Healthy Brain, Happy Life: A Personal Program to Activate Your Brain and Do Everything Better. In an effort to cultivate a world outside of work, Wendy turned her life into a case study, exploring how to activate the brain and use the power of the mind-body connection to increase happiness. Make exercise intentional Everything good you do for your body changes your mind for the better. Make exercise both aerobic and mental. Wendy calls this “intentional exercise,” and you can create it by pairing positive affirmations with a workout you enjoy. The next time you go for a run, tell yourself “I am strong,” or repeat “I am powerful” during your strength trainingclass. Release oxytocin to beat stress Alleviate stress by hugging or kissing someone you love. This could be an adult, a child, a baby or a pet. Feeling the love can immediately combat even the most serious of stressful situations, according to Wendy. Break out of old, inefficient patterns Take a new approach to a familiar routine: For example, stop to think of two new ideas to make your workday more efficient. Consider rearranging your desk or how your office is decorated. “Or try changing the order in which you tackle tasks, starting with what you usually do in the middle of the day,” Wendy writes. “Let this new order of activities or events create new neural patterns.” Listen to our podcast: This Is Your Brain on Happiness With Wendy Suzuki Sandra Bilbray is a contributing editor to Livehappy.com and the founder and CEO of themediaconcierge.net.
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Let Me Out Helps Unlock Your Creativity

Author Peter Himmelman offers science-based techniques to unlock your creative potential in the book Let Me Out: Unlock Your Creative Mind and Bring Your Ideas to Life. In the book, the award-winning musician and founder of the website Big Muse explains how to use both left- and right-brained thinking to take action on your goals. Knowing who you are and what you stand for gives you strength of purpose, he writes. Take three minutes Set a timer for three minutes and ask: What is my purpose? Or if you prefer: What makes me get up in the morning? Your answer to these big life questions are what Peter calls your “Why you?” statement. Now you can reduce your fear of failure and take immediate action toward the fulfillment of your dreams. Write a let-go letter “Clear the logjam,” Peter writes. Give yourself 10 minutes to write a letter to yourself describing all the things you need to let go of that aren’t serving a positive purpose in your life. This practice can help you get out of a rut and make you feel more energized and inspired. Think like a kid “Young children don’t think about the consequences of playing, they just play,” Peter writes. Accessing this kid-thinking state of mind curbs the fear and judgment that get in your way. Give yourself permission to think like a kid and entertain wild ideas. This process can help you in numerous ways, like thinking of a name for a product or service or coming up with a new idea for your business. Find Let Me Out: Unlock Your Creative Mind and Bring Your Ideas to Life at Amazon and wherever books are sold. Sandra Bilbray is a contributing editor to Live Happy, and CEO and Founder of themediaconcierge.com.
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5 Awe-Inspiring Travel Destinations

Escaping to far-flung corners of the world inspires the soul, enlightens the mind and creates wondrous moments of joy. If you’re seeking inspiration for your next adventure, these awe-inspiring destinations will leave you longing to explore. The Maasai Mara Ecosystem, Kenya With one of the densest populations of wildlife on earth, the Maasai Mara ecosystem in Kenya’s southwest is a once-in-a-lifetime destination. From hippos to giraffes, herds of creatures intermingle across expanses of prairie grass that disappear along the horizon in all directions. While on safari, you’ll witness the spectacle of unique species you’ve probably never heard of, in addition to the well-known Big Five: the African elephant, leopard, African lion, Cape buffalo and the black rhinoceros. Even if you go on two game drives per day, each experience is unique. Overnighting at a safari lodge, animal calls through the night will lull you to sleep while curious monkeys scamper across your doorstep and an elephant towers over your tent (the surprise encounters are both thrilling and intimidating). Columbia River Gorge, Oregon Beams of sunlight spill through a canopy of old-growth trees as you hike the verdant trails through the Columbia River Gorge, 62 miles north of Oregon's quirky city of Portland. Spanning 292,500 acres, the National Scenic Area was once inhabited by Native Americans and traversed by early pioneers, including Lewis and Clark. Within the region, Punchbowl Falls (featured) is an inspiring setting for a refreshing, albeit frigid, post-trek swim along the banks of Eagle Creek where hikers usually park for a picnic before exploring onward. It’s a breath of fresh air. Nantucket Island, Massachusetts Steeped in American history and the charm of New England, Nantucket Island exemplifies the power of travel to transport you back in time. Beyond shores defined by dune fences and beach grass, its colonial-era buildings and cobblestone streets pay homage to early English settlements. Known as The Little Gray Lady of the Sea for its misty morning fog, the island 30 miles off the coast of Massachusetts will inspire travelers in pursuit of those “only person on Earth” moments. A four-wheel-drive adventure to Great Point Light on the northeastern point of Nantucket provides a view one might describe as “ahh-inspiring.” Dead Sea, Israel Expanding across the barren Negev Desert, Israel’s Dead Sea would make anyone feel full of life. It’s one of the most idyllic places to watch the world wake up as the sun rises over the rose-colored Moab mountains and paints the earth with golden light. During a refreshing swim in the smoldering heat, the water’s high-salinity concentration makes the body stay curiously afloat on the surface. Scores flock to the area to take selfies while floating, reading a newspaper and donning a mineral-rich mud mask sourced from the murky depths of the sea. It’s also worth taking a meditative walk along its banks where the dry, salt-caked earth crunches under your shoes. At 1,360 feet below sea level, the Dead Sea is also one of the lowest points on Earth, which is worth visiting if only for the bragging rights. Ubud, Bali Travelers lured to Bali’s Eat, Pray, Love town in pursuit of tropical love affairs and yoga surely won’t be disappointed. The jungle town’s natural beauty and rich culture thrill the senses and inspire the imagination. In Ubud, fragrant plumes of incense drift from temples on nearly every corner where processions of locals float in and out wearing brightly colored sarongs. An air of reverence makes you feel like you’re part of something greater than yourself, while endless festivals and ceremonies surprise and delight. Feeling adventurous? Start the day with a sunrise hike up Mount Batur—an active volcano—and close the day with a self-guided meditation looking out upon endless fields of glowing green rice paddies. Listen to our podcast: The Happy Traveler With Jamie Kurtz Read more: Embracing Awe Read more: 5 Reasons You Need a Vacation and Happy 100th Birthday National Parks Megan Snedden is a travel writer and photographer whose work has appeared on the BBC, in National Geographic Traveler, USA Today and in many other publications. Find her at megansnedden.com.
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Embracing Awe

Growing up in a small farming community in the foothills of Mount Rainier in Washington, Melanie Rudd couldn’t explain the sense of reverence she felt every time she gazed up at the imposing peaks. “I grew up hiking and camping, and when I was in the outdoors it changed the way I felt. But I didn’t really know what that was or have a good label for it,” Melanie says. She found a name for those powerful emotions when she began studying awe while pursuing her Ph.D. at Stanford University. Today, as assistant professor of marketing at Bauer College of Business at the University of Houston, her areas of research include time perception, emotions, mood and prosocial behavior—all of which are linked to feelings of awe. “There are several emotions we don’t see a lot of research about and don’t talk much about,” she says. “Awe has been one of those; it’s something that our culture has only [recently] decided is important to talk about.” Awe in action Historically, awe has been largely overlooked by science, even though it is something all of us experience (and benefit from) throughout our lives. It wasn’t until 2003, when Dacher Keltner, Ph.D., of the University of California, Berkeley and Jonathan Haidt, Ph.D., then at the University of Virginia, turned their attention to the study of awe that modern psychology began to see it as a viable emotion worth examining. Since then, it has gradually gained steam and research attention, with a growing body of evidence pointing to its physiological and emotional benefits. One of the researchers presently leading the conversation is Michelle “Lani” Shiota, Ph.D., who heads up the Shiota Psychophysiology Laboratory for Affective Testing (SPLAT Lab) at Arizona State University. As a psychology student with a performing arts background pursuing her graduate degree at University of California, Berkeley, she knew that awe “had been a profound and satisfying part of my life.” She was shocked to learn how little research had been done on it. “Outside the field of psychology, people think of awe as a luxury,” she says. “I call it the Gucci handbag of emotions—people think it’s great if you have one, but it’s not something you really need. The truth is that’s not how emotions work. We have those responses for a reason.” Lani’s mission has been to find out why we’re built to experience awe, what it does to our brains and how it affects us physiologically. While it is known to be an emotional response to stimuli, its benefits have been less simple to pin down. Dacher and Jonathan’s pivotal 2003 research on awe defines it as “the feeling of being in the presence of something vast and greater than the self, that exceeds current knowledge structures.” More simply put, awe is that feeling you get when you witness a stunning sunset, listen to a stirring piece of music or observe a powerful work of art. It can be triggered by a religious or spiritual experience, or caused by a powerful personal experience such as the birth of a child. That results in an intense emotional response that can overlap with such states as wonder, curiosity or even fear. “Awe occurs when you are presented with an experience that is so much bigger than your understanding of the world,” Lani says. “It’s different from other positive emotions, and it has a suite of effects on our physiology, behavior and cognition. It’s this massive intake of information that doesn’t fit with your current world.” That requires a process that Dacher and Jonathan referred to as “accommodating,” in which your thought process must expand in order to understand, or accommodate, what you’ve just experienced. Such a process is one more way that awe and its effects differ from other positive emotions, according to Lani. “Most positive emotions feel activating, they make you want to move,” she says. “Awe slows us down physiologically. It actually reduces our fight-or-flight response and is physically soothing. Awe makes you focus on one thing, in a broad way, and put your attention fully on the experience.” In that way, it is similar to mindfulness and shares some of the same emotional and physiological benefits. It can hit the pause button on our automatic behavior and thought processes and change our emotional states. It even has been found to help correct negative health behaviors such as smoking a cigarette or eating food that you know isn’t good for you. “We now have seen that even a brief dose of awe can help put a brake on us” and redirect our actions, according to Lani. Listen to our podcast with Lani Shiota: Expanding awe Tricia Schers spent much of her young adult life traveling; she has gone whale watching in Hawaii, seen the sea turtles nesting in Suriname and trekked through Thailand. But when she took a marketing job for Frontiers North, an adventure tourism company based in Churchill, Manitoba, Canada, she says her level of awe increased exponentially. “I was three days into the job when they sent me to Churchill to experience one of their tours,” she recalls. “I got to see beluga whales in the wild, nine polar bears—including a mother nursing a cub—and the northern lights. I was blown away.” Even today, she feels that same sense of humbled reverence every time she encounters the rugged, frozen paradise. “There’s a reason people use the word ‘majestic’ when they describe seeing polar bears in their natural environment,” Tricia says. “I can sit and watch the landscape and become completely mesmerized. Somehow you feel the interconnection of the ecosystems; the landscape is rugged, yet you can sense the fragility of it. “It is simply awe-inspiring.” While the use of the word “awe” may have worn down its true significance (just note the overuse of “awesome!” in daily conversation), the fact is that true awe is a deeply felt emotion with powerful implications. The feelings it generates tap into the sense of vastness that help de ne awe, and it’s connected to what researchers call “the overview effect.” The phrase was originally coined by space philosopher and writer Frank White, Ph.M., in 1987 to describe the cognitive shift that occurs in astronauts when they view Earth from space. Viewing Earth from such a perspective was shown to trigger a profound sense of awe and a sense of connectedness with their universe among space travelers. Frank found that many astronauts felt the experience so transformative that they returned to Earth with a renewed sense of purpose. The good news, for those of us who don’t have access to a spaceship, is that similar reactions can be derived from viewing images from space. Awe also can be cultivated, as Melanie and Tricia found, by experiencing nature. “A lot of it has to do with an increased sense of connectedness in the moment,” explains David Yaden, a research fellow at the University of Pennsylvania in the Positive Psychology Center and co-author of the paper, “The Overview Effect: Awe and Self-Transcendent Experience in Space Flight,” published last year in the journal Psychology of Consciousness: Theory, Research, and Practice. His research looks at the overview effect as a way to better understand awe and self-transcendence, or the ability to lose ourselves and feel connected to “a bigger picture.” “Most of our worries and concerns are derived from a hyperfocus on our self,” he points out. “When that focus on our self is reduced, so, too, are many of our concerns. And when you feel you are less of a center for concern, you feel more connected to people.” Experiencing a sense of awe, he says, immediately removes the focus from self and resets our thinking to see our surroundings differently. “Evidence shows that awe might be an important part of the mental health diet,” he says. “It’s associated with well-being and with pro-social behavior. So if you care about increasing your overall well-being, awe is one way to do that. We still don’t know exactly how or why, but it’s safe to say that awe forms a pathway to well-being.” He says the last decade has seen interest in awe increase as more research has been released to show its causes as well as its effects. Each study adds to its credibility while at the same time raising new questions that can be explored, such as whether certain traits make us more open to experience awe and how long its impact lasts. David is currently working with Dacher to help build “a more robust scale” for measuring awe’s benefits. “Sometimes the value of these experiences is hard to pin down,” he says. “But if you ask someone about their most awe-inspiring moment, they will see it as something that was profoundly meaningful.” Slowing the clock As awe gains more traction as a research topic, more aspects and benefits are being examined. Among the more interesting outcomes, Melanie has found in her ongoing research at the University of Houston that awe can be useful in changing our perception of time. “This could be particularly useful because today people feel increasingly pressed for time,” she says. “When you look at what time pressure and time famine are doing to us, it’s not healthy.” When we’re pressed for time, we tend to eat on the run (and make poorer food choices), have lower levels of life satisfaction and will postpone self-care, such as doctor and dental appointments. We’re also more likely to over-purchase goods, even though we may not need them. While most of us feeling the crunch of the clock wish for just a few more hours in the day, perhaps what we really need is just a little more awe in our lives. “Rather than try to change the amount of time people have, we look at how to change their perception of that time,” Melanie says. Her studies reinforce Lani’s work showing that awe requires you to be in the moment. “When you are in the experience of awe, it really sucks you in,” she explains. “You can’t wander into the past or the future. You are in the present, and you’re taking in all the sights and sounds and smells of that moment.” As your brain works to process and encode these changes in the environment and your emotions, “time feels more expansive, more full and rich.” Because you crammed so much information into this time, the perception is that time slows down. And along with that sense of having extra time comes less irritability and a greater tendency to give others the gift of your time. “[In our studies] when people looked at the diary of what they had experienced, it really did look like they had more time,” Melanie says. “They were more inclined to volunteer, which had additional benefits by giving them that ‘helper’s high.’ No matter how much money you make, the common thread between us is that everyone is pressed for time. Maybe if we find ways to alleviate the time stress, we’ll start to make better decisions for our well-being.” Incorporating awe If awe is one pathway to well-being, it is a pathway with many entry points. Researchers often use pictures or virtual reality in the laboratory setting to create a sense of awe in their subjects. For those of us who aren’t being studied, it’s much easier. It doesn’t require a trip to the Grand Canyon or to see the northern lights; you can find awe in your own home, your backyard or with friends. “You have to know what has a better chance of eliciting an awe response for you, personally,” Melanie advises. “It can be nature or music or art or even other people’s accomplishments. Think about what inspires you.” She suggests seeking out new experiences. Whether that’s visiting a park you haven’t been to before, taking an exotic trip or just getting out and meeting new people, a new experience “increases the odds that you’ll find something awe-inspiring,” Melanie says. And, when you do find it, collect it. Save pictures or videos in a computer folder to look at when you’re feeling like you need a boost; you might be surprised how much good it does you. “By the time we hit adulthood, we’re on autopilot; we kind of have to be,” Lani adds. “We store knowledge and do the same thing day after day, and that’s good, because that’s what expertise is. But it doesn’t necessarily feel great. “Practicing awe breaks us out of autopilot. And it feels nice to break out and be aware of what’s around us in the world.” Read more: 5 Awe-Inspiring Destinations Paula Felps is the Science Editor for Live Happy magazine.
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The Brink of Midnight with John Brenkus

After producing and hosting over 1500 segments of ESPN Sport Science, 6 times Emmy Award-winning host and The New York Times best-selling author, John Brenkus, recognized that “high achievers” tend to share a similar story of attaining success. Through The Brink of Midnight podcast, John explores the moments that guests credit with changing their lives forever. Those moments that pushed them in an unexpected direction, shaping the experiences that followed and molding them into the people who they are today. What you'll learn in this podcast: The inspiration behind The Brink of Midnight podcast What goes into creating life-changing moments Inspirational stories from sports figures, celebrities and more Links and resources mentioned in this episode: Download The Brink of Midnight podcast on iTunes or learn more on the website Follow John on Twitter Follow The Brink of Midnight on Twitter
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#HappyFacts: Sync and Swing

Each week, Live Happy Radio presents #HappyFacts designed to enlighten, educate and entertain you. Here’s a look at what we’re talking about this week: Paying your bills makes you happy OK, well, maybe it’s not the actual bill-paying part that puts some extra spring in your step and brings a smile to your face, but the effects of paying those bills are enormous. A study from Purdue University found that being in debt lowers your level of subjective well-being, or how you experience the quality of your life. While many studies have looked at how much money it takes to reach a state of well-being, few have looked at how the debt-to-income ratio affects us. And, it turns out, debt is a huge detractor from our happiness, regardless of how much we make, accounting for about 40 percent of our life satisfaction. What still needs to be studied is how different types of debt affect us – say, paying a mortgage for a home you love vs. paying a hospital bill – but until then, it appears that paring down your debt is good for your soul as well as your credit score. Find out if money really makes people happier Sync and swing Do you want your kids to get along better? Next time they’re fighting, try sending them to the swing set instead of to their rooms. According to a study published online in the Journal of Experimental Child Psychology, the synchronous movement found while swinging can help children once they leave the playground by teaching them to be more collaborative. That’s because the synchronous movement that occurs while swinging requires the children to pay attention to one another and they begin engaging each other to maintain the same rhythm. (Similar outcomes are found when children march or make music together.) So if you want to teach your kids more about cooperation, maybe it’s time to head to the playground! Learn why grown-ups need recess, too Get a blast from the past Thinking about the good old days can actually make you feel better about the here and now. That’s the conclusion of a study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. According to their findings, thinking fondly about the past can create psychological comfort and combat feelings of loneliness. Those warm memories help raise our self-esteem and overall feelings of well-being which, in turn, generates more optimism about the future. So next time you’re feeling a little blue, step back in time for a few moments and see what it can do for your mood! Explore happiness rituals from ancient times
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Rock ’n’ Roll Preschool

Every week for a year, Tal-Chen Rabinowitch, Ph.D., brought children together to play and make music. This was more than your average scheduled playtime, however; the researcher was adding to a growing body of evidence that making music together can have a lasting effect on the way children interact. “I’m a musician and have always worked with kids and music,” says Tal-Chen, who conducted the study from 2009 until 2010 with 8- to 11-year-old children while at the University of Cambridge’s Centre for Music and Science. “It’s so easy to see how music bonds people together because of its communicative nature.” Tal-Chen, now a postdoctoral fellow in the Institute for Learning and Brain Sciences at the University of Washington, wanted to see if that bonding continued after the music ends. “Developing empathy is something that I am interested in,” she says, adding that creating music teaches skills that are learned more easily with another person. This includes such things as working to understand what the other person wants to accomplish, which researchers refer to as “shared intentionality.” “Making music can give you some cognitive advantages, but also it teaches social skills,” Tal-Chen says. “If you practice communication skills in music, that will carry into other areas of your life.” In sync In adults, research has found that singing together can help increase feelings of connectedness, social flow and release the neuropeptide oxytocin, which also is called the “love hormone.” Making music together affects us on multiple levels; we connect through the rhythm as we move to the same beat and we are engaged as we watch one another’s expressions and movements. But what researchers find most significant is how music involves synchrony. Synchrony plays an important role in part because it causes us to bond together through imitating or mirroring one another. That is important for children, according to Tal-Chen, because “these are the same mechanisms used to empathize. When children are practicing music together, and it’s fun and engaging and inviting, they are developing a set of skills they’ll use naturally in other areas of their lives.” That means that while they are honing musical skills, they also are learning to “read” and pick up other information from people, which is crucial in empathy. Tal-Chen says that playing and making music together could help reconnect children who are becoming increasingly disconnected in today’s digital world. “The reason [children] have less social skills today is because we don’t experience each other in a live context,” she says, noting the prevalence of texting and social media as preferred forms of communication, which eliminates the ability to take cues from someone’s expressions or vocal tones. Elements at play A 2010 study led by Sebastian Kirschner of the Department of Developmental and Comparative Psychology at Germany’s Max Planck Institute for Evolutionary Anthropology found that making music together “increases subsequent spontaneous cooperative and helpful behavior” among preschool children. Inspired by that study, Sara Beck, a Ph.D. student in psychology and human development at Vanderbilt University in Nashville, Tennessee, is studying how music making can shape prosocial behavior among 4- and 5-year-olds. “I was doing work on kids’ singing in general, and I wanted to look at what mechanisms might be in play when children begin making music together,” Sara says. “Research has found that with children as young as 4 and 5—and in some cases just 14 months to 24 months—that engaging in the kind of synchronized movement that happens when you make music together can increase feelings of cooperation and cooperative behavior. I wanted to look at what drives that.” The 5 factors Sara says five factors influence children: rhythm, synchronization, engagement, shared goals and lyrics. Rhythm encourages them to move together, and engagement occurs because they watch each other’s faces and expressions when singing together. Making music together creates a sense that “we’re in it together,” while lyrics can help present positive messages. Sara’s research implemented traditional childhood development assessments into a musical setting to measure how they responded to helping and sharing after singing together. She found greater cooperation between children after singing, but says this is just the beginning of what we can learn about how music affects children and the way they interact. “One thing that we know happens is collective effervescence, and that results in an increase in positive feelings,” she says. Collective effervescence occurs when a group communicates the same thought or participates in the same activity. “We do know that when kids believe they are doing something together, they are more likely to help the children with whom they’ve been working. We want to find out, ‘If we have a shared goal, to what extent can music activate that feeling of helping each other?’ There are a lot of things we don’t know yet.” Listen to our podcast, Inspiring Children Through Music With Laurie Berkner Paula Felps is the Science Editor for Live Happy.
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