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Celebrate Character Day

Sign up and join the global movement on Wednesday, September 26th, to celebrate the fifth annual Character Day! Last year there were more than 133,000 events in 150 countries. Thousands of schools, companies, museums, libraries and homes—anywhere people already gather—screen films on the science of character development from different perspectives, dive into free printed discussion materials catered to different ages, and join an online global Q&A conversation. Prominent positive psychologists and education experts will discuss the importance of developing character strengths (resilience, grit, empathy, courage, kindness)—all rooted in evidence-based research. Character Day is one day. The resources are available year-round. Please watch this 1 minute trailer and sign up today!
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Rediscover Your Joy with Live Happy’s Latest Issue

Who doesn’t want to stay forever young? Live Happy’s new issue cover story “Happy for Life” explains how building positive habits like eating right, staying active, sleeping well and training your brain to be mindful and calm are the keys to a long and joyful life. Yet even more important? Having close, meaningful relationships. “People who live a long time have a lot of positive emotion,” says George Vaillant of the Harvard Study of Adult Development. “And that means being part of a community. It’s hard to have positive emotion on a deserted island; you need other people.” Well-being researcher and Blue Zones author Dan Buettner backs that up. “Making sure you have happy friends affects how long you live, because that’s contagious. And focusing on your immediate social network is more important than either diet or exercise programs when it comes to living a long, happy, healthy life. Happiness adds about eight years to your life expectancy; it’s almost as good for you as quitting smoking.” Live Happy’s issue No. 26 is on newsstands this week. A larger format “bookazine”—it’s both a book and a magazine!—includes five chapters of well-being tips and resources, plus pullout posters and postcards. In this issue, we share scientifically proven methods to boost your happiness so you can increase your health. Readers will learn to practice: Gratitude to refocus the brain to start looking for what’s good in life. Compassion to counter the habit of dwelling on personal needs and challenges. Savoring to increase appreciation for what’s right in the moment. Optimism to lower stress response, which leads to better overall health and happiness. Mindfulness to stay present and limit anxiety from worrying about the future. Giving Back to boost well-being for all involved and to strengthen community bonds. “This issue is unlike any we’ve ever done before,” says Deborah K. Heisz, Live Happy’s CEO, co-founder and editorial director. “It shares the key lessons of positive psychology research—as well as the latest tips, ‘how-tos’ and emerging science—in our largest, most comprehensive issue yet. The ‘bookazine’ format includes chapters relevant to every part of your life including happiness, health, resilience and happiness at work, school and at home.” Also in this issue: Stronger Every Day: Maria Shriver’s four guideposts to positivity from her new book, I’ve Been Thinking…Reflections, Prayers, and Meditations for a Meaningful Life. Plus can’t-miss interviews with TV celebs Annie Potts, Mario Lopez and Denise Austin. Finding Joy Again: Three powerful stories of how to recover from loss and live happier now. With five steps from Rick Hanson, Ph.D., to start the healing process. Putting the ‘Om’ in Home: Author Rebecca West shares how rethinking home design can deliver joy and comfort. Plus seven keys to healthy family relationships from licensed psychotherapist Stacy Kaiser. The issue is available at store.livehappy.com or at major retailers throughout North America including Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Million, Chapters Bookstores (Canada), Indigo Books, Safeway, Raley’s Supermarkets, SavOn Foods, Walmart and Hy-Vee Foods.
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3 Ways to Gain Perspective

Think of a person in your life who you consider to be wise. Now, imagine talking with that person about a problem you are having. Go ahead, think of a real problem. Tell the wise person about your problem—give him or her the details, the struggles and how you’ve handled it so far. Ask for ideas and advice. Pause and listen for the response. Imagine this as a back-and-forth conversation. Believe it or not, scientists have found that this activity can boost your wisdom. What’s even more stunning is that an imagined conversation with a wise person is equal (in terms of a wisdom boost) to having a real-life conversation with a wise person! Wisdom is found in all of us, not only the sages, gurus, spiritual masters and philosophers. Sure, we learn from the wise actions of Mohandas K. Gandhi, Mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela. Yet you have more wisdom, or perspective strength, than you realize. The cliché of “look inward for the answers” happens to be true. But, our wisdom is squashed or covered over by our daily routines, multitasking busyness and smart-phone distractions, not to mention our self-doubt and self-criticism. We don’t realize how much we know that we could apply. All the knowledge we have gathered, the insights we have learned and the life experiences we have shared are just below the surface, waiting for us to tap into and ignite the flame. Ready to boost your strength of perspective or wisdom? If you find yourself getting lost or disturbed by the latest news, such as political double talk and biased blaming and negativism, step away. Take a news fast from your TV and apps. This allows you to escape from the weeds and find solid ground. When you’re ready, slowly return to the news, starting with one source, and observe its effect on you. If you find yourself getting overwhelmed by stress, use your perspective strength to see the big picture. It’s easy for pressures to build up and for stress to take over. Your perspective is an antidote to see both the forest and the trees. If you find yourself in an argument with a loved one, try a science-backed strategy called perspective-taking. Just as you can try on a hat from a rival sports team, try on the viewpoint of your loved one. What is their argument? What’s their point of view? Their thoughts and feelings? Appreciate not just your side, but their side, too. So, pause, take a deep breath and rediscover your inner wisdom!
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9 Ways to Improve Your Emotional Regulation Skills

When was the last time you lost your cool? Maybe a tough day at work took you down to your last nerve and your child couldn’t stop whining. If you find yourself raising your voice or saying something snappish when you’re under stress, you’ve come face-to-face with the challenges of emotion regulation. If you have a difficult time exercising restraint when you are angry or frustrated, emotion regulation is a skill you can build up with practice. You’re angry. Picture a fork in the road. Do you take the road of reactionary ranting or do you take the serene one where you carefully choose your response? Recognizing that you always have a choice in how you respond—no matter how you feel—is at the heart of mastering emotion regulation. Responding appropriately is not about acting fake—it’s just keeping it together when you actually feel the opposite. We all deploy these strategies every day—whether we are aware of them or not. Healthy regulation might show up as leaving something unsaid, walking away or choosing a neutral response. A lack of regulation can include road rage, verbal or physical aggression, or to a lesser degree, saying things you regret as soon as they leave your mouth. “Emotion regulation means practicing something known as impulse control,” says Kris Lee, Ed.D., a professor at Northeastern University, behavioral science expert and author of Mentalligence: A New Psychology of Thinking: Learn What it Takes to be More Agile, Mindful and Connected in Today’s World. “When something happens, our brain’s automatic response is to be reactive. When our amygdala, the small part of our brain that regulates fight or flight is set off, we have to avoid taking the bait of our raw emotional reactions that make us want to overreact,” Kris says. “When we buy time, we then have access to the frontal lobes of our brains, where we have access to reasoning, better problem solving and perspective. We never have to take the bait of primitive emotions,” she explains. Put another way, Dr. Kris says we can let the “first take” (the way we initially feel) pass us by and revisit triggers with a second take when we have our wits about us. “Staying cool in the heat of the moment can be a challenge for even the most patient among us,” Kris says. “We all have different triggers that bring us from zero to 60, so knowing in advance what types of things can set us off can help us mentally rehearse and prepare a reaction that isn’t something we might regret later.” For parents, it can be easy to lose your cool. “Think in advance of how to be able to step away and buy time before your words or behavior take on too harsh of a tone,” she suggests. “Have a go-to mantra like ‘it’s going to be OK’ or ‘this too shall pass’ to serve as reminders that your state of frustration won’t last.” You also can replay a past event where you lost your temper and decide on a better way to react next time. “Oftentimes parents get burned out or emotionally overwhelmed, leading us to be more reactive and impulsive,” Kris says. “One of the best strategies to reduce reactivity and promote emotional regulation is engaging in regular, deliberate self-care.” Here are nine ways to improve your emotional regulation skills: Choose your mantra. Decide what you will say to yourself the next time your frustration bubbles up to the surface. Have one or two short mantras ready. Talk with friends. Friends are support systems. A good talk can dissipate stress, make you feel understood and give you a good outlet to vent. “Find your tribe or community where you can share challenges, laughs and strategize on how to solve problems you have in common,” Kris says. Practice self-compassion. How often do you give yourself a soft place to land in your mind? Self-compassion is the practice of treating yourself as you would a best friend, and when you are kinder to yourself, you are kinder to others. Exercise and eat nutritiously. Take care of your body and your mind will follow. Write in a journal. Give your thoughts and feelings a safe place to come out. Practice mindfulness meditation. Practice a nonjudgmental stance to things you are confronting. Be a neutral observer to your thoughts instead of labeling them and making rash decisions, Kris recommends. Seek therapy. Ask for help. “Anger is often a sign of underlying anxiety and trouble with the skills of on-the-spot coping,” Kris explains. Speak with a professional to resolve old issues that are triggers. Sleep. Monkey brain goes up when hours of sleep go down. Get adequate sleep—about eight hours a night. The power of a good night’s sleep is underestimated. Build up your emotional repertoire. “Research shows we are capable of building a positive emotional repertoire and redirecting our energies to help us from being stuck in negative emotional states,” Kris explains. Practice positive communication skills. Rehearse desired reactions according to your unique stressors and triggers. “We all have different thresholds for coping and are dealing with different degrees of stressors and seasons of life. We can continually grow and improve our capacity for coping and reacting productively and positively,” she says. Bottom line? “A more well-rested, exercised, nourished and emotionally connected person will have a greater sense of resilience and their brain will be less apt to be impulsively driven,” Kris says.
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15 Happy Quotes to Get You Through Today

What does real happiness look like and how do we get there? Explore science-based answers and tools in the book, Live Happy: Ten Practices for Choosing Joy by Deborah K. Heisz and the editors of Live Happy magazine. It includes practical tips, wisdom and stories of everyday happiness. Enjoy the following quotes from the book to get you through today. “Every job is so much bigger than the task you do; remembering that, every day, changes the way you approach it.” —Mary Miller, Jancoa CEO Sometimes there are things in life you just have to own and move forward from. They don’t have to define or own you; they’re just a small part of you. Once you realize that, you can look forward to the possibilities of a new day.” —Hoda Kotb “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” —Lao Tzu “Love of spouse can easily be replaced by love of work. We love the work we do, and it can be all-consuming, so we have to make sure that we take time for each other.” —Shawn Achor As happiness grows, person by person, so does the hope for joy—and peace—in the world.” —Jeff Olson, Live Happy founder “Relationships matter because people don’t show up to work because they have to—but because they want to be with their friends, their tribe. And they matter because people tend to go above and beyond when they share mutual respect and trust.” —Jenn Lim “People who have a sense of meaning in life also report feeling more happy, more satisfied with their lives, less depressed and anxious, and more satisfied with their jobs.” —Michael Steger, Ph.D. “The goal is to put something in the world that feels meaningful.” —Alastair Moock “I feel blessed that learning about the emerging work of brilliant positive psychologists is part of my daily work—and that I’m able to fulfill a key part of my life’s purpose by sharing exciting research and uplifting stories with you.” —Deborah K. Heisz, Live Happy CEO, co-founder and editorial director Creating is the act of paying attention to our experiences and connecting the dots, so we can learn more about ourselves and the world around us.” —Brené Brown, Ph.D. “Gratitude is many things to many people. It is wondering; it is appreciation; it is looking at the bright side of a setback; it is fathoming abundance; it is thanking someone in your life; it is thanking God; it is ‘counting blessings.’” —Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D. “You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment.” —Henry David Thoreau “You’d think mindfulness would be so easy—just hang out with yourself all day. But it’s the great challenge of our lives, and everything else flows from it.” —Gretchen Rubin There’s a version of happiness that is a oneness with what is. It’s a quality of peace. If our egos are going to chase anything, that would be the lovely thing to chase.” —Alanis Morissette “You know, all that really matters is that the people you love are happy and healthy. Everything else is just sprinkles on the sundae.” —Paul Walker
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Midlife Moxie With Jonathan Rauch

Have you ever wondered if you are having a midlife crisis or can’t figure out why you’re more worried or down than you were just a few years ago? Journalist Jonathan Rauch explains why that disheartened feeling in your 40s and 50s is not a crisis but instead a normal part of the aging process. His book, The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50, delivers hope for plenty of happiness in midlife and beyond. While we can’t always skip over the low points, Jonathan provides great tips and guidance to help fend off and triumph over those negative feelings. Things you’ll learn in this episode: All other things equal, aging makes you happier, not sadder. A midlife downturn can be literally about nothing. The difference between intellect and wisdom, and why the latter makes you happier. Tips for coping with a midlife slump. Also in this episode, Science Editor Paula Felps talks to Rebekah Rinehart, co-founder of The Kind Way, who talks about The Kind Mural. Links and resources: For more, go to Jonathan’s website at jonathanrauch.com Or, follow him on Twitter: @jon_rauch
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2 Simple Steps for Back-to-School Sleep

After a summer of late nights playing in the park, hanging with friends and laid-back mornings, it’s time to get back on a school schedule. I can hear the sigh of relief for some moms and feel the rising tension for others. Today, we place a lot of pressure on ourselves to be the perfect parent, especially when school starts up again. We scroll through Pinterest to find the newest and cutest ways to pack lunches, dress the kids for fall and load them up on school supplies. How many glue sticks and tissues again? Yet, we never think of sleep. Why is that? What if I told you there are two simple actionable steps you can implement tonight to make morning wake-ups for school easier and bedtimes a breeze. Tech smarter The first step is to use technology properly! I know, I know. You’re thinking, “Wait Carolina, technology is bad for sleep.” Yes, you are correct. Technology that emits blue light is known to suppress your melatonin levels (sleep hormone) drastically. So why do I still recommend it? It’s simple. During the summer, our kids get hooked on tech. They might fall asleep with the TV or other devices on or maybe watch cartoons during dinner before bedtime. So, when school is approaching, you can use tech as your advantage when using it properly. There are some remarkable apps on the market that include meditations, sleep stories and simple calming sounds for the bedtime routine. I use the sleep stories and the meditation from the app Calm, and my kids and my private clients love the app Moshi Twilight. Sleep stories are becoming more popular, especially with toddler kids who love to stall at bedtime. Turning on the story and placing the screen facing down and by the door (out of sight of the child), is a great way to have the body begin to unwind and prepare to go to sleep. Creating a relaxing environment with dim lights and an ambient sound or story time will assist the natural sleep process. Baby steps The second step is to readjust bedtime gradually. You can begin by adjusting bedtime approximately 15 minutes earlier every one to two days. This means that if bedtime currently is 9 p.m., start with an 8:45 p.m. goal, and in one to two days ease that back by another 15 minutes. And so on. If you don’t have a couple of weeks to prepare, no worries. Implement an early bedtime for one to two weeks until you start to notice that morning wake-ups are easier (less crankiness) and bedtime becomes more of a breeze. Without healthy sleep, there is no health, and that is the foundation for everything else. Wishing you a dreamy new school year. More tips for tackling the ZZZs 1. Promote quiet time in the late afternoon with soft music to help the body unwind. Sound plays an important role in sleep. Experiment with a white noise machine that plays calming sounds like water flowing. A “relax box” or calming jar is also a good option. Fill the box with activities such as puzzles, blocks or coloring materials. 2. Maintain hydration throughout the day. Follow your pediatrician’s recommendation based on their age and weight. 3. Set up blackout curtains in a child’s room to block any outside light that may suppress melatonin (the sleep hormone). 4. Get a pre-sleep routine in place by setting an age appropriate bedtime that is in sync with the child’s natural sleep rhythms. 5. Keep a consistent schedule, even on weekends.
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Get Mentally Fit With Grit

Welcome, Happy Activists! A Happy Activist is someone who, through kind words and intentional positive actions, strives to make the world a better place. Live Happy invites you to join our #HappyActs movement! On the 20th of each month, we encourage everyone to incorporate kindness into your daily lives by participating in each month’s planned activity. The more who join the #HappyActs movement, the more positive impact we'll all have on our homes, workplaces and communities. What you think and do matters! September’s theme is resilience. The ability to bounce back after a setback through grit and determination can help us achieve our goals. This sense of accomplishment can increase joy, connection and well-being. It’s important to understand the “why” of goal setting for it to be successful, says strategist Jan Stanley. “The thing that encourages us to set goals is that we see some gap in our lives,” Jan says. The first key is making sure your goals and values align and then to make step-by-step implementation of that goal part of your daily routine. Following that advice, our September 20 Happy Act is to set a positive goal for yourself, whether it’s preparing for a 5K race or half-marathon, taking on a new challenge at work or finishing that house project that’s been dragging on for months. Meet our Happy Activist of the month, Chris Libby, Live Happy’s magazine and digital editor. “Realizing that the power to achieve is within my control is empowering, something I hope you will realize as well as you set out on your own goal-setting journey,” Chris says. 3 Habits to Boost Resilience According to authors Michaela Haas (Bouncing Forward: Transforming Bad Breaks into Breakthroughs) and Jim Rendon (Upside: The New Science of Post-Traumatic Growth), these three daily habits can help you cultivate courage and resilience in the face of adversity. Meditate Spend 12 minutes every morning and every eveningmeditating. Meditation, Michaela says, trains us in regulating stress and calming fear, the very skills we need to confront and recover from adversity. Appreciate Cultivate apractice of gratitudeand appreciation. Every day, write down three things you are grateful for; jot down the first three things that come to mind. If your default position is to focus on the gifts in your life, you’ll find it easier to keep your spirits uplifted and move on to what needs to be done. Connect Research shows thatconnection with other peopleis a key predictor of growth after a traumatic event, Jim says. Even online communities help trauma survivors of all kinds feel more optimistic, confident and empowered. Additional Resources: Angela Duckworth GoodThink Tom Rath Caroline Adams Miller, MAPP Greater Good Science Center Plasticity Labs
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The Value and Importance of Negative Emotions

Take a glimpse into the world of positive psychology withThe Flourishing CenterPodcast. Each episode is divided into three sections giving you insights into living an authentic happy and flourishing life. What you'll learn in this podcast: Science Says—According to a study in the journal Emotion, overvaluing happiness is linked to increased rumination over setbacks and failures. LifeHack—How to move negative emotions through your body. Practitioner’s Corner—Meet Seph Fontane Pennock, co-founder of PositivePsychologyProgram.com and the Positive Psychology Toolkit. Learn more aboutThe Flourishing Center
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What Motivates You?

The University of Pennsylvania’s Behavior for Change Initiative (BCFG) recently joined forces with the nationwide exercise outfit 24 Hour Fitness for a first-of-its-kind research study on what motivates us to make good, lasting habits. Launched in April of this year, StepUp is a 28-day online program designed by a team of the brightest minds in science, including two Noble laureates, to understand how we can make better, longer-lasting choices that would improve life outcomes. To get those answers, BCFG has set an ambitious goal of enrolling more than 200,000 participants. Led by Katherine Milkman, associate professor at the Wharton School and fellow co-founder Angela Duckworth, Ph.D., professor of psychology in the Penn School of Arts and author of Grit, the study hopes to gain insight on how we maintain good habits not just in exercise, but finances and education as well. “We thought that there was a lack of science that was addressing how to create long-term sustained behavior change in people’s lives that would improve outcomes for them,” Katherine says. “Specifically, we founded with the goal of looking for ways to help people create positive outcomes on their health, their education and savings decisions.” A Path to Success When 24 Hour Fitness members sign up for the free web app, they will be assigned one of the 57 exercise paths derived from multiple disciplines of study, social sciences, computer sciences, economics and neuroscience. Each member would get a different experience depending on which path is assigned. The web app is full of infographics, questions, video incentives and various other motivating factors to get you to the gym. During that 28-day period, scientists will have a keen eye on what motivates humans to make good choices that lead to good habits; it’s also a way for people to become healthier in the process. Katherine explains that one of the reasons BCFG wanted to team up with 24 Hour Fitness is becuase of the rich data that can be extrapolated from the gym’s diverse membership. Lashaun Dale, vice president of content and programming for 24 Hour Fitness, says her company was more than eager to participate in the partnership because of its four-color philosophy that combines exercise with mindset, nourishment and regeneration. Instead of a one-size-fits-all workout program, Lashaun says having real data, real science and results across different demographics will give 24 Hour Fitness a better understanding of how to curate new and effective workouts for all of its members. “It’s one of those things that is so appealing to us, this isn’t just looking at one angle of what motivates someone so you don’t get this formulaic answer that isn’t true,” she says. “What motivates one person may be very different for another person. What we love is that this study is really unpacking the behavioral changes to the nuances that are true about human beings.” Get Moving With only 21 percent of the U.S. population exercising at least the 150-minute minimum per week to stay healthy as recommended by the CDC, Lashaun says 24 Hour Fitness is motivated to spark a conversation within the industry on better ways to get more people moving. “The more we understand what the obstacles are and the things that get in the way of a habit they already said they want to do and they know it’s in their best interest, then we can solve for that,” she says, “There is no limit to the types of workouts, the types of programs and the solutions we can create.” Katherine says one of the challenges to getting more people to exercise is that it is not always appealing, even though people know they should. It is much more instantly gratifying to watch TV or hang out with friends. One of the reasons for creating the program was to close the gap between instant gratification and doing what is right. “One of the premises of this work is we are hoping to make these healthy behaviors more automatic and habitual instead of having to think hard about it at the end of the day and make that deliberate choice to do the thing that doesn’t feel instantly gratifying,” she says. Once we get ourselves into a pattern of behavior, she says, such as knowing what time to go to the gym or having our gym bag packed, then we have helped remove the emotional barriers and have started to make the decision easier. “Like every fitness program done well,” Lashaun adds, “it is appropriate to the individual, their goals, their life and everything that surrounds those choices and why they want to make those changes.” To join the study or learn more go to StepUpFitness.org.
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