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Becoming Heart-Minded With Sarah Blondin

Are you living in your heart, or living in your head? If you’re spending more time in your head than in your heart, this week’s episode is perfect for you. Sarah Blondin is an author and podcast host whose work has been translated into several languages and is in use in prison, recovery, and wellness programs. Her new book, HEART MINDED: How to Hold Yourself and Others in Love, tells us how we can get out of our heads and into our hearts to find our true selves and learn how to discover – and attain — what we truly need. In this episode, you'll learn: What it means to become heart-minded. How practicing “soul-itude” can help you find your heart center. Why solitude can be challenging and how to practice it anyway. Links and Resources Instagram: @sarahfinds Website: https://www.sarahblondin.com/ Don't miss an episode! Live Happy Now is available at the following places:           
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What If It Were Easy?

When it comes to work, you might be considering finding a new job that really energizes you and creates more meaning in your life. Maybe you’re thinking it’s time to be compensated for what you are worth and ask your boss for a raise. Or maybe you’re contemplating going back to school to advance or switch careers. Regardless of what you’re seeking, if you are like many of the clients we coach, you are probably thinking, “This is going to be really hard.” Yet one of our favorite questions to ask our clients is, “What if it were easy?” “But it’s not easy,” one client, Rosa, said in an exasperated tone. “I know it’s not,” Margaret replied to Rosa’s idea of returning to school at age 35 to become a licensed therapist. “I went back to school at age 46. I know how hard it is, but what if it were easy? Let’s play with that idea a little. Where would you start?” These simple ideas—what if it were easy and let’s play a little—got Rosa to shift her perspective and begin breaking down the steps she needed to take. “OK, so I can’t quit my day job right now, but I could explore schools in my area and find out what kind of prerequisites I would need to apply.” “That’s a great start. What else could you do?” Margaret asked. For the next 30 minutes Rosa sketched out a plan and committed to making three small steps, including reaching out to a friend whose sister is a therapist. “I’ll ask if she would introduce us,” Rosa said.“I know I could learn a lot from her experience.” Stealing a line from actors Constantin Stanislavski originated the method by which actors emotionally embody their roles. One of his greatest contributions to acting is the magic “if.” Actors are encouraged to ask, “What if I were an 80-year-old grandmother?” or “What if my leg had been harmed in the war; how would I walk now?” And what if, just by asking yourself the question, you are more likely to take an action? Jonathan Levav of the Stanford Graduate School of Business and Gavan Fitzsimons of the Duke Fuqua School of Business uncovered a question-behavior link. Jonathan and Gavan found that merely asking people if they are going to do something, such as buying a car, made people more likely to buy cars compared with people who weren't asked such a question. So we, too, encourage you to ask yourself, “What if it were easy?” to see where it leads. Ask Yourself To shift to a “this is easy” mindset, here are a few other prompts to play with: 1. What if you had access to all of the resources you might need, what would you attempt right now? 2. What would your future self—you 20 years from now—advise you to do? 3. What would you do if you knew you couldn’t possibly fail?
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The Art of Acceptance With Scott Haas

Accepting the difficult events in our lives is a key part of our well-being. Acceptance allows us to cultivate a sense of calm that allows us to better deal with stress. As we deal with an increasingly uncertain world, how can learning more about acceptance help increase our happiness? This week, psychologist Scott Hass, author of Why Be Happy? The Japanese Way of Acceptance talks about how ukeireru, the Japanese principle of acceptance, can help each of us during troubled times. In this episode, you'll learn: How learning acceptance changes your response to situations. Ways to increase your practice of acceptance. How to practice acceptance as a family. Links and Resources Facebook: @ScottHaasWritesBooks Instagram: @scotthaaswritesbooks Twitter: @scotthaas27 Don't miss an episode! Live Happy Now is available at the following places:           
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Developing Empathy in Children With Lysa Heslov

In recent years, we’ve learned a lot about the profound transformative effect that empathy can have on us. For more than a decade, this week’s guest has been on a mission to help bring those powerful lessons to children. Lysa Heslov is founder of Children Mending Hearts, an organization that combats bullying and intolerance by inspiring empathy in children using art and other programs. Her Los Angeles based program has now grown into a national movement, and she tells us how it works, why it matters and what all of us can do to get more empathy in our lives. In this episode, you'll learn: Why empathy is so important during these uncertain times. How empathy can help reduce bullying. The long-term effects of teaching children about empathy. Links and Resources Facebook: @childrenmendinghearts Instagram: @childrenmendinghearts Twitter: @ChildrenMending Don't miss an episode! Live Happy Now is available at the following places:           
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Welcome to Season 6 With Deborah K. Heisz

It’s a brand new month and it’s also a brand new season of Live Happy Now. As we kick off this new season, Live Happy CEO Deborah Heisz and Paula Felps talk about how things changed for all of us last season, and what we can expect to see in the coming weeks and months. In this episode, you'll learn: What we'll be talking about this season. Where you can get the Live Happy Daily Happiness Briefing. How to tell us what you'd like to hear on the show. Links and Resources Facebook: @livehappy Instagram: @mylivehappy Twitter: @livehappy Don't miss an episode! Live Happy Now is available at the following places:           
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Embracing Anxiety with Karla McLaren

Anxiety is something that many of us are familiar with—particularly now. But have you considered embracing it? This week’s guest, Karla McLaren, makes the case for delving into this emotion and using it as a force of energy. Her book, Embracing Anxiety: How to Access the Genius of This Vital Emotion, takes a completely new look at how anxiety can benefit us. This week, she talks about how important it is to recognize what anxiety can do for us and learn how to use it for positive effect. In this episode, you'll learn: How anxiety can help us prepare for the future. Why procrastination is actually considered a form of anxiety. The difference between panic and anxiety. Links and Resources Facebook: @KarlaMcLarenAuthor Twitter: @karlamclaren Website: https://karlamclaren.com/ Don't miss an episode!Live Happy Nowis available at the following places:
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Cooling Down in Anxious Times With Dr. Lise Van Susteren

Even before the coronavirus pandemic, Dr. Lise Van Susteren was noticing a new phenomenon: patients were often plagued by worry, disturbing and intrusive thoughts, sleep disruptions, grief and more. She identified this trend as a condition she calls emotional inflammation, and along with health writer Stacey Colino wrote a book by the same name. As it turns out, Emotional Inflammation: Discover Your Triggers and Reclaim Your Equilibrium During Anxious Times is exactly the book we need for our current situation. This week, she talks about how the pandemic has only heightened our emotional inflammation — and what we can do about it. In this episode, you'll learn: What is emotional inflammation and what does it do to us? How does controlling the flow of information in your life help cool emotional inflammation — and how do you do that? What is the difference between being a bystander and an upstander? Links and Resources LinkedIn: @lise-van-susteren-84b3b33 Don't miss an episode! Live Happy Now is available at the following places:           
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Are Negative People Deeper Than You?

Are negative people deeper and more evolved than positive people? There’s a cultural myth that the darker a person is, the deeper and more thoughtful he or she must be. But actually, modern research proves that wrong. Seeing the negative is actually done using our brain's most primitive part, which is in charge of responding to threats. The rest of the brain, which evolved around that primitive part, is the area that lets you scan the world for meaning and gratitude. So people stuck in brooding states are in fact not more evolved, they are using the most ancient parts of their minds. In today’s information-saturated world, it’s common to get caught in this trap. Negative noise is everywhere in our society and in the news, and the effect on us can clearly be measured. A study on the effects of media shows that people who watch local news see their city as significantly more dangerous than it actually is in terms of anticipated amounts of crime or likelihood of disaster. Letting this kind of noise into our minds can create a picture of the world that is full of danger, mistrust and gloom. As our brain works to make sense of the world, we feel compelled to first process the threats, and only after that can we turn our attention to the positive, meaningful parts of life. From a neuroscience perspective therefore, the deepest, most evolved people are the ones who can control and sift through the noise and fear to perceive the beauty and meaning in this world. Decreasing the amount of noise has huge advantages, as it has been connected with an increase in optimism and creativity. Some of the most respected thinkers from history stepped away from the noise —including their own noisy thoughts—and that led to incredible breakthroughs. In 1905, a frustrated Albert Einstein, who had been wrestling with inconsistencies with Newtonian physics, decided to give up thinking about it. On his way home one day on a streetcar in Bern, Switzerland, he looked up at the clock tower, and one of the most important ideas in history hit him: Time is not the same everywhere in the universe. This thought that changed everything we know about how the universe works flourished in the midst of a quiet mind. Canceling the noise was the first step. Seeing the world through a positive lens is not just important for our minds, it can save us from the damaging effects of negativity and stress on our bodies. Beyond the effects we often hear about, researchers from the University of California have now also found that anxiety and stress destroy the proteins, called telomeres, at the end of our chromosomes. The change dramatically speeds the aging process. And there is also new research to show that work exhaustion and worry can speed aging as well. It makes us think twice about the information we consciously allow to enter our brain. In Before Happiness, one of us (Shawn) looks at how to decrease the negative and extraneous noise using a strategy called Noise Canceling. Much like noise-canceling headphones, using this technique helps you cut out useless information to find the signal. In most cases, the signal we are all searching for is one that points to a life filled with hopefulness, meaning and happiness. This month, we invite you to try out a noise-canceling experiment in your life. Cut 5 percent of the noise you’re typically exposed to during the day. For instance, try decreasing the information flow just a little bit in your day by turning down the radio for the first five minutes of your commute, muting the commercials during one TV show, or taking two minutes to meditate in the middle of your workday. These very small changes create a leverage point where your brain can find the positive signal. Once you have canceled some noise, a great way to activate the evolved parts of your brain is to take a few minutes to engage in a positive habit that has been shown in our research to raise levels of happiness and wellbeing. For instance, try emailing yourself five things you feel positive about—your children, your values, your faith. Researchers at the University of Chicago found that when people wrote about their positive feelings for a few minutes they significantly lowered their levels of worry and pessimism. And not only did it decrease anxiety, it raised performance on tests of memory and critical skills by 10 to 15 percent. A simple activity such as writing down your gratitude or journaling for two minutes each day about a positive memory helps you see more of the meaning in your life. And since you’ve cut out some of the negativity and noise, you have more brain resources to devote to the positive side of life. We can’t promise noise canceling will help you come up with an idea as life-changing as Einstein’s, but it should help you make more room for the parts of your life that make it worth living...and that can be life-changing in itself. This article originally appeared in the April 2015 edition of Live Happy magazine.
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Regulating Emotions With Dr. Shauna Shapiro

If you’ve ever had a sudden feeling of distress that triggers your fight or flight response, then you know what it’s like to have your emotions hijacked. And if that’s something you’ve experienced recently, you’re not alone. This week, clinical psychologist and mindfulness expert Dr. Shauna Shapiro returns to talk about how current times might be affecting your emotions and what practices you can use — both individually and as a family — to regulate them. In this episode, you'll learn: What an “amygdala hijack” is and how to manage it. Why identifying your emotions can help bring calm to your life. Simple practices to help regulate your emotions. Links and Resources Facebook: @DrShaunaShapiro Listen to her TED Talk on the Power of Mindfulness Don't miss an episode! Live Happy Now is available at the following places:           
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Managing Loss During the Pandemic With Erin Wiley

All of us have lost something this year, and that’s affecting us whether we realize it or not. This week, we’re joined by Erin Wiley, a clinical psychotherapist and executive of The Willow Center, a counseling practice in Toledo, Ohio. She’s here to talk about the many ways our losses could be affecting us and our loved ones, and to give us tips on processing grief and coping with the changes brought by the pandemic. In this episode, you'll learn: Why it’s important to feel your grief as it arises. Tips for coping with grief and loss. How to discuss and manage loss as a family. Links and Resources Facebook: @erinwileytherapy Facebook: @ManageYourSHIfT Website: https://erin-wiley.com/ Join her daily Manage Your Shift complimentary morning motivational group sessions here. Don't miss an episode! Live Happy Now is available at the following places:           
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