The Happiness We Find in Helping Others
When Amar Khanderia left Toronto for India in 2003, he thought he was embarking on a short spiritual retreat. Fresh out of university, he planned to spend time with his spiritual teacher, deepen his meditation practice, do some self-reflection, and then return to Canada to begin his career. Instead, he stayed in India for 17 years.
What happened during those years would not only reshape his own life, it would eventually inspire a growing movement of service and connection back home.
“I just thought I would see my spiritual mentor and then come back to start the real world,” Amar recalls. “But things flipped on that trip.”
While in India, he became immersed in a global community centered on personal growth through service. The group identified needs in underserved communities and built clean water systems, created computer training centers for children, and established vocational programs that gave women the skills and confidence to earn an income.
[caption id="attachment_22609" align="alignleft" width="300"] Amar Khanderia, founder of Toronto Joy.[/caption]
Amar became addicted to the way serving others transformed his own way of thinking.
“Making a difference in the community was fulfilling,” Amar says. “But what really left a mark was seeing the impact it had on my own heart and mind.”
Over time, he noticed something was missing in the conversation about wellness. While meditation, gratitude, and mindfulness helped him become more self-aware, service seemed to unlock something deeper.
When his attention shifted away from his own worries and toward the needs of others, his stress softened, his perspective changed, and his life felt bigger.
“There’s so much focus on ourselves, our problems, our challenges, what's going right and what's going wrong,” he says. “But when your focus moves beyond yourself and you're genuinely helping someone else, something beautiful begins to emerge.”
Amar basked in that beauty for nearly two decades. Then everything changed.
Coming Home
When COVID hit in 2020, Amar returned to Toronto to help his parents. The adjustment was harder than he anticipated.
Toronto had always been home, but it no longer felt familiar. People seemed busy, overextended, and disconnected. Technology made it possible to communicate constantly, but there still seemed to be a lack of meaningful connection.
“One thing I found was that people wanted a sense of belonging,” Amar says. “People were feeling lonely.”
Amar joined an online personal development group and eventually decided to create a fellowship of his own. The idea terrified him.
“I remember I was shivering. I was sweating,” he says. “One day went by, two days went by, nobody showed, nobody signed up.”
Then five people registered, then 10, 20, 50.
[caption id="attachment_22611" align="alignright" width="300"] Toronto Joy is a thriving community that brings others together through acts of service.[/caption]
Today, that simple act of courage has grown into Toronto Joy, a thriving community of nearly 500 people that brings others together through volunteer service, meaningful conversations, and shared purpose. The organization partners with local nonprofits and creates opportunities for members to come together while filling community needs.
The community also hosts an online gathering called The Journey Home, where participants from around the world come together every Saturday morning to discuss topics ranging from authenticity and relationships to leadership and personal growth.
A Different Path to Well-Being
While many wellness practices focus on self-improvement, Amar believes service deserves a larger place in the conversation.
Not because meditation or gratitude are unimportant, but because serving others offers something those practices alone cannot.
“When you're serving, you create a space for that ego, that identity to soften,” he says. “I don't think service is talked about enough as a tool for personal transformation.”
He’s seen that transformation firsthand with members of Toronto Joy.
He remembers a woman who arrived withdrawn and struggling emotionally. After spending a few hours volunteering and connecting with others, her entire demeanor changed.
“Her face was beaming afterward,” he says. “And then she wanted to come back to the next event.”
Those moments remind him of what he learned years ago in India. Happiness isn't always found by looking inward.
The Joy of Making a Difference
The lesson that continues to shape Amar’s life is remarkably simple: We need each other. And when we show up for others, we often discover something we were searching for all along.
“What I've seen over and over again,” Amar says, “is that when you make a positive impact in someone's life, it changes the way you see your own.”
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Read About Amar's Journey
To learn more about the experiences that shaped Amar's path from Toronto to India and back again, check out his book, Walking With Shakti.
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