Actress Laura Prepon

Orange Is the New Black Character Writes Book

When Cleary Wolters received her prison sentence, she started looking for her purpose. “I didn’t want this to break me,” she explains. “It was such a tiny piece of my life that I didn’t want that to define who I was.” Not your typical drug smuggler In 2003, Cleary was sentenced to nearly six years in federal prison for smuggling drugs. She served her time and had resumed a low-key life in Cincinnati when, in 2013, she saw a commercial for the upcoming Netflix original series, “Orange is the New Black.” Based on the memoir by Piper Kerman, the story immediately looked familiar. And when the character of drug smuggler Alex Vause (Laura Prepon) appeared, Cleary dropped the remote. The name had been changed, but she recognized the character. It was herself. National exposure She hoped to remain anonymous–the name had been changed, after all–but within hours of the series’ release, Cleary’s mugshot, name and other personal information were posted online. But instead of shame and disdain, Cleary found a public that was welcoming and interested in the person behind the character they saw on the screen. Before long, she was contacted by a literary agent. In an ironic twist that did not escape her notice, being outed as a former criminal allowed her to achieve her lifelong dream of becoming a published writer. A fearless retelling “I had to be absolutely fearless [when writing] about what I did,” says Cleary, whose book Out of Orange was released in May. The book details the missteps that led her to prison, then chronicles Cleary’s choices to better her life, beginning with teaching computer classes behind bars to help women leave prison with marketable skills. The book also illustrates how the warehousing of prisoners instead of providing rehabilitation is harming society as a whole. It is alternately heartbreaking and hilarious, but most of all, it is honest and human. Opportunity and responsibility Cleary believes she has an opportunity as well as a responsibility to use her writing talent to increase understanding about the need for greater humanity inside the prison walls – and toward people who are trying to better themselves. “Human beings have a capacity for unbelievable stupidity,” she says, noting that many are forced to continue paying for their crimes long after they have served their sentence. After a fall, a rebirth “But we can reinvent ourselves. You can absolutely rebuild yourself from the ground up. I’m proof of that. I feel as though I’ve taken my life back, and now I’m doing exactly what I’ve always wanted to do. It’s a wonderful gift.”
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Scott Foley exposes his passions.

Scott Foley’s Passion

Scott Foley is having a very good day.Only hours before, his wife, Marika Dominczyk, had delivered their third child—a 9-pound baby boy named Konrad.Family man“I am elated,” he says. “I am just over the moon. I knew how tired I was going to be and how tough it is with a new kid—but man, I saw that kid and all that melted away. Am I psyched! I am just so thrilled.”Those are not the first words you’d expect from Scott, aka Jake Ballard, dreamy lover and spy guy to Kerry Washington’s Olivia Pope on TV’s popular Scandal television series. In fact, those are not the first words you’d expect from most Hollywood hotties thrust into a world that puts power and sex appeal above most everything else.Parallel universeBut this, as it turns out, isn’t the world inhabited by Scott Foley. Despite his on-screen charisma and success, he lives in a parallel universe defined by play dates and baby monitors, bedtime stories and breakfast cereal.“At this stage of my life, what makes me happy is my passion,” he says. “That sounds so generic and broad, but I love to act, I love to tell stories, and that is my passion.I love my family—my family makes me happier than anything else. They are my passion."I’m passionate about spending time with my family, watching them grow and making them laugh. Those are the two passions in my life: family and work.”
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Hector and the Search for Happiness

Hollywood Takes on the Pursuit of Happiness

Searching for a lost cell phone or set of keys makes sense. But when you’ve misplaced what the French call joie de vivre—a hearty joy of living—searching will only lead you astray. Happiness happens not through a hunt, says film director Peter Chelsom, but by happenstance.“True authentic happiness,” he says, “is a byproduct of full immersion in something else—communicating, teaching, learning, giving, dancing, singing.” Or as the happiness researcher in Peter’s new comedy-drama, Hector and the Search for Happiness, puts it, “We should concern ourselves not so much with the pursuit of happiness, but with the happiness of pursuit.”Trapped by routineBased on a best-selling French novel by François Lelord, the movie follows the around-the-world journey of Hector, played by British actor Simon Pegg(Shaun of the Dead), as he seeks the secret to happiness. A successful psychiatrist with a tricked-out London flat and a beautiful, smart and solicitous girlfriend, Hector is feeling trapped by the cautious routine of his life and infuriated by his patients, what with their depression and never-ending laments about their marital woes.Searching high and lowAfter he finds himself ranting at a hapless patient, Hector sets out on a quest, backpack and journal in tow. His travels take him to China, Africa, a monastery in Tibet and Los Angeles, where he reunites with an old girlfriend. Along the way, he comes close to getting killed more than once; falls for a woman who turns out to be a prostitute; and fills his journal with aphorisms like “Listening is loving,” “Happiness means being loved for who you are,” and “Avoiding unhappiness is not the road to happiness.”Peter admits, “These are the kinds of things you might find in fortune cookies,” but that he found power in the simple fable. “I felt transformed by making this movie,” he says. “It filled me with such a sense of gratitude”—and a new understanding of what comprises happiness.Your brain lights up like the aurora borealisHe says he talked to happiness researchers to make sure that a final scene of the movie, which has a neuroscientist mapping Hector’s brain waves, was accurate. “I was so gratified when researchers told me we got the details right,” says Peter, who co-wrote the script. “When you’re truly happy, your brain lights up like the aurora borealis. Happiness is not one color or one experience; it’s embracing the dark along with the light, the good with the bad.”So, where does Hector eventually find happiness? Let’s just say—spoiler alert—you don’t need a plane ticket to get there.
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Eric Hutchinson saves up on happiness

Note to Self

In Eric Hutchinson’s business, there are lots of ups and downs. One minute you are all the rage, and the next…no one is interested. His ability to stay grateful for everything he has achieved keeps the singer-songwriter balanced in the volatile world of being a musician. This refreshing perspective and his love affair with writing and performing music, inspires his creativity and allows him to push his art into new places. Pop that's catchy and sticks around “I don’t really subscribe to the idea that you have to be miserable to make great music. At least for me, it’s actually the opposite,” Eric says. “When I’m not happy, the last thing I want to do is pick up the guitar and start playing. I find that my music sounds best when it comes from a place, if not [of] being happy, then at least [of] being curious, trying to analyze why I felt a certain way.” His sound is often described as soulful pop that’s catchy and sticks around. On his first two albums, Sounds Like This and Moving Up Living Down, Eric says he was making music as therapy and using it to work through some issues in his life. But with his latest album, Pure Fiction, he took a different approach and decided to celebrate the good things. The cynical optimist A self-described “cynical optimist,” Eric works at focusing on the positive things going on around him. Over the last few years, he says, he has kept a running log of all the good days, and even a few good hours he has experienced, so he can remind himself of them whenever he is feeling down or lonely. He credits this exercise with helping him become aware of when that good moment is happening so he can maximize the feeling he gets and make it just a little better. However, it’s not always easy, and, he admits, there are days when it’s hard to find the right melody or to face shows without much of a crowd. As he has gotten older, though, he tries not to beat himself up too much over the disappointments. He compares the process to fishing, and by sticking to it, he manages to catch the right sound and everything falls into place. Music that makes you feel better “I spend a lot of time working to cultivate and appreciate the good stuff because it’s kind of my natural tendencyto skip over some of that,” he says. “That’s what my music is about…reminding me about all the things there are to be happy about. I think a lot of my listeners gravitate toward music that makes you feel better.” And if you are having a good time listening to his music, that just adds fuel to his desire to keep doing what he’s doing. His resilient attitude toward his passion keeps him penning head-bopping pop hits like “OK, It’s Alright with Me”; “Rock & Roll”; and his newest single, “Tell the World.” Celebrate the music “At my shows, I pick up on the fact that it’s something fun for the fans and it’s actually something fun you can share with someone else,” Eric says. “I make sure everyone is having a good time, singing, dancing and celebrating the music.” The payoff for Eric is singing in front of sold-out crowds and listening to everyone sing back his songs; soaking up that feel-good reverb and feeding off of the electricity. When he is in that moment, he’s sure to take a “mental snapshot” and save it for a time when he needs to shine.
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6 Best Break-Up Movies of All Time

Breaking up is hard to do. Side effects may include heartache, Facebook stalking and large swaths of uninterrupted free time. Whether you want to laugh, cry or simply be distracted, movies are a great way to fill the void and—if well-chosen—lift your spirits.Below are films that can pick you up, dust you off and restore your faith in romance, and possibly the human race.Films of Friendship1.Thelma and LouiseInvite some friends over and remind yourself of the power of female bonding courtesy ofThelma and Louise. The men in your life may come and go, but best friends are forever. Thelma and Louise embark on a road trip in a classic convertible car—an often-told American tale, and yet this film was groundbreaking in that it marked the first time the open road was hit by women instead of men. It showed us that women also have the capacity to break free, make mistakes, and have adventures, where nothing is off limits (including a fling with a younger, gorgeous man—a practically juvenile Brad Pitt). Watching Gina Davis and Susan Sarandon, who have amazing chemistry together, will remind you that you don’t need to be with a romantic partner to have fun. Just don’t shoot anyone along the way, and everything might turn out OK.2.The HeatIn this hilarious twist on the buddy-cop film, Sandra Bullock and Melissa McCarthy star as Ashburn and Mullins, respectively. Ashburn is an uptight, proper, by-the-book cop; Mullins is more of a crude, casual anything-goes kind of gal. These two characters at first seem like they have nothing in common, but it turns out that each makes the other better. It is hard not to giggle watching Ashburn try to explain the benefits of Spanx or keep a straight face when she encounters Mullins’ family of Boston-Irish lunatics and tries to explain that she’s not a “nahk” (narc).[video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1O3iRdiplB0 width:525 height:394 align:center autoplay:0]Romantic Comedies3. The Princess BrideIf you want to lose yourself in a romantic comedy that contends true love does in fact exist, The Princess Bride will do just fine. Director Rob Reiner does a deft job of transferring William Goldman’s popular book to the screen, keeping both the comedy and the romance intact. The eponymous Princess is played by a dewy, gorgeous Robin Wright—and Cary Elwes is not bad either as her paramour, Westley. Mandy Patinkin turns in an epic performance as the heroic Inigo Montoya, and Billy Crystal and Carol Kane chip in for comic relief.4.Bridget Jones’s DiaryA romantic comedy for the modern girl (it’s hard to say woman when Bridget is such a flibbertigibbet), Bridget Jones’s Diary is a hilarious look at the dating life of the young, shallow and British. Also adapted from a book (the bestseller by Helen Fielding), Bridget Jones follows our plucky heroine on her adventures through dating and romance. Renee Zelwegger is at the top of her game as Bridget, and the casting of Colin Firth (the “real” Darcy from the BBC’s Pride and Prejudice) as the earnest Mark Darcy is a brilliant touch. Bridget is not just a girl on the prowl, she’s also easily relatable as she gets blotto with her best friends, gives disastrous dinner parties and chronicles it all for the rest of us to watch and enjoy.[video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DQdy98B1nf0 width:525 height:394 align:center autoplay:0]His Take5.High FidelityBridget Jones gave the female perspective on dating. In High Fidelity, Rob Gordon (John Cusack) gives viewers the male take. Rob re-examines his past relationships and breakups in order to have a successful relationship in the present. The film, based on Nick Hornby’s book, is filled with phenomenal music and an all-star cast (this was Jack Black’s breakout role). John Cusack has made a career out of playing the everyday man that both men and women can root for. His explorations of past relationships help us realize that not all romances are meant to last forever—and that can be a good thing. 6.SwingersApparently Jon Favreau wrote this road trip/bromance in just two weeks, and yet its quotable lines are burned into our brains forever. Released in 1996, Swingers became a star-making vehicle for leads—Jon Favreau and Vince Vaughn. Manic, sexy Trent (Vince) wants to help his buddy Mike (Jon) get out of his funk, in which he forever obsesses about his ex-girlfriend. A jaunt to Las Vegas and much hilarity—and cool swing dancing—ensues, and by the end of the movie, Jon has come out of his depression/obsession and is ready to pursue other fish—maybe even Heather Graham, as a swing-dancing hottie. Possibly the funniest scene is when, instead of having relations with a sexy young woman in Vegas, Jon ends up crying on her shoulder as she plies him with tissues. (That was before he realized he was so money.)[video:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SoNOlh_zCf8 width:525 height:394 align:center autoplay:0]
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The Iron Throne

Why Audiences Love Game of Thrones

Spoiler Alert: If you haven't watched through the end of season 4, there are spoilers ahead.Here’s a little quiz. What’s your ideal fairy tale: Two people fall in love and live happily ever after?A plucky hero outwits an evil mastermind and saves the day?Or a hero kills his father on the loo and escapes onto a fleeing ship to avoid execution?If you selected c, you’re probably already a fan ofHBO’s Game of Thrones, which is based on George R.R. Martin’s insatiably popular book series Song of Ice and Fire.The HBO series turns the typical fantasy story upside-down, spins it around a few times and then throws it out the window before collecting the pieces and assembling a freakishly interesting journey into the land of Westeros, where the smart live longer than the brave.I have a realistic grasp of my own strengths and weaknesses. My mind is my weapon. My brother has his sword, King Robert has his warhammer, and I have my mind." —Tyrion LannisterWhat makes us care about the tribulations in Westeros? Perhaps it has something to do with just how grim life is there, and how deeply ambivalent the characters. It’s easier to identify with a struggling character than it is with a perfect hero. Game of Thrones offers up plenty of flawed characters for us to root for, as well as embodiments of pure evil whom we can root against.But, you may be wondering, what do beheadings and gut-wrenching battles have to do with happiness? Aside from a strong whiff of escapism, Game of Thrones offers us some first-rate catharsis. Watching a show that connects to us on a deeper emotional level leaves us feeling better about our own lives. It’s terrifying to watch a character pop someone’s head like a balloon, but some part of us can appreciate the fact that at least it isn’t happening to us, as well as the fact as we know it’ll be over soon. Shows end, and life goes on, but in watching we’ve connected the drama and trials to ourselves and we’ve lived through it.If you’re still wondering how a show that had 169 on-screen deaths this season could possibly have any redeeming positivity, look no further than a brief moment of happiness as one of the main characters, Arya Stark, sails off into the sunset. If you know what this character has been through, (spoiler: she's lost her home, her family, and her friends) and this one moment represents new hope in every possible way. Arya's brief happiness comes as a reward for her incredible toughness and resilience, which makes the scene that much more powerful.Game of Thrones is a series that will come and go, but by pushing the boundaries of love and lust and violence and cruelty (and nudity, and disembowelment), it pushes our imaginations and our emotions onward to the next level.
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Amusement Park at Night

Are We Having Fun Yet?

Last weekend I took my children to Disney World, the self-described “Happiest Place on Earth.” If that is true, then I may be in trouble. Don’t get me wrong. My kids loved the experience. But even my 6-year-old son began to bridle after a while at all that contrived “fun.” Waiting in long lines and battling crowds in the heat prompted his mocking refrain, “Have a magical day.” It is the phrase that all Disney employees are apparently required to utter whenever they interact with the clientele. They are professionals, and they sell it well. But both as a promise and as a measure of our expectations, magical fun tells us something about just where we are in history. Let the fun begin Those who could afford the luxury have been paying for entertainment since ancient times. Yet the rise of places like Disney—amusement parks whose sole purpose is to amuse, providing ordinary people with “fun”—is a much more recent development. We can trace the origins by tracing the word. “Fun” came into English usage in the late 17th century, likely as a derivation of the medieval fonne or fool, a nod to the court jesters whose job it was to entertain the king. But “fun” was also likely related to the Renaissance verb fon, meaning to hoax or cheat, and it retained that connotation for some time. Francis Grose’s Classical Dictionary of the Vulgar Tongue in 1785 included the example, “Do you think to fun [cheat] me out of it?” And of course we still use the phrase “to make fun of” in a way that suggests this older usage. Yet by that point, in the Age of Enlightenment, in Western Europe and its colonies in the New World, to have “fun” was increasingly thought of as innocent amusement. Whereas men and women in previous ages had often looked at pleasure as a slippery slope to sin, those in the expanding “middling” classes in the 18th century set about proclaiming pleasure’s virtues, treating gaiety as an end in itself. To dance, sing, enjoy our food, revel in our bodies and the company of others—in short, to delight in a world of our own making—was not to defy God’s will but to live as nature intended. And to be happy, as the English poet Alexander Pope put it in a celebrated line, was “our being’s end and aim!” Early pleasure gardens Given this new sensibility, it’s not at all surprising that the 18th century gave rise to the world’s first amusement parks or “pleasure gardens,” as they were known, places where men and women went simply to enjoy themselves and to be amused. In Paris at the Palais Royal, in Vienna at the Prater, at Vauxhall or the Ranelagh Gardens near London, or at the former's namesake, the VauxhallGardens in the Bowery in New York, ordinary men and women gathered for no other reason than to have fun. Flush with the disposable income of expanding commercial economies, they would while away an afternoon or evening promenading, drinking coffee and tea, wine and beer, or eating ice cream and sweets. There were music, costumes, fancy dress, and entertainers of all sorts—jugglers, actors, puppeteers and mimes. These pleasure gardens attracted crowds with unusual and sometimes exotic attractions, such as a Chinese Pavilion at the Ranelagh Gardens in London. Many other pleasures were at hand. The Palais Royal—which still stands, a stone’s throw from the Louvre—boasted countless shops, cafés, and restaurants—themselves new-fangled innovations where one could “restore oneself (restaurer) in order to go have more fun. (Not all pleasures were innocent in Paris, however. Prostitution and gambling were also rife at the Palais Royal.) The road to Disney These founding pleasure gardens were the ancestors of the great circuses and amusements parks of the 19th century: Tivoli Gardens, Blackpool, Coney Island, Barnum & Baileyand other mass attractions that offered a bounty of pleasure, amusement and entertainment. These places were not meant just for the upper or middling classes, but for workers and day laborers, who flocked to the penny arcades to have their bit of fun. And these attractions in turn laid the foundations of the sprawling entertainment industry of the present day. Today, one need not go to a specific “place” to have fun. We have our smartphones, tablets, and “entertainment centers” right in our homes that allow us to enjoy music, film, video games and other sedentary amusements. But people are wired to gather and enjoy things in a communal setting. Instead of Vauxhall Gardens, we promenade in the mall or on a popular shopping street. Locales specifically dedicated to fun have proliferated and morphed into fun parks, such as Busch Gardens, Dollywood, Six Flags and of course Disneyland and Disney World. They may not always be the happiest places on earth—especially when they leave you sunburned and standing in line, placating a tired toddler. But in their aspiration to deliver total entertainment—and in the expectation they foster that we are entitled to such entertainment—they are legacies of a long-standing vision of happiness and having fun.
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Recapture the Holiday Spirit

The holidays are a great time to gather with family and friends and rejoice in each other’s company. If hustle and bustle of the season is keeping you from doing much relaxing and rejoicing, challenge yourself to take a deep breath and recapture that holiday spirit. Watching a good holiday movie is a perfect way to infuse that good cheer. Here is a list of films that are sure to help you meet the challenge of recapturing joy and love this holiday season.​Love Actually"Love is...actually all around.” Love Actually shares the stories of multiple people falling in, and a few out, of love during te holiday season. The various story-lines demonstrate the true meaning of love, both the good and the bad. Take the time this holiday season to tell the special people in your life that you love them.Miracle on 34th StreetKris, a jolly, good-hearted man, claims to be Santa Claus and spends his time reminding people the true meaning of Christmas despite the rampant commercialism all around him. Most think he is delusional and a danger to the kids, but Kris has convinced a few to believe. Miracle on 34th Street is about belief, a belief in Santa Claus, a belief that represents hope and joy.A Christmas CarolThere’s a good chance the most have read, watched or even acted in some variation of A Christmas Carol. The story follows Ebenezer Scrooge, (Bah, humbug!), a man who thinks of nothing but money and doesn’t care about the people around him. That is until one night, when he is visited by three ghosts that teach him life-changing lessons. The most important lesson to gain from this story is that you should always be grateful for what you have, no matter how little or how much.The Polar ExpressThe Polar Express is a modern classic children’s book adapted into a movie in 2004 by Robert Zemeckis. Ayoung boy boards a special train on Christmas Eve that takes him on a magicaladventure showinghim the wonder of life will never fade if you always believe. Just like the lesson from Miracle on 34th Street, believing can open your eyes to the many wonderful things and opportunities you can have in life.White ChristmasIrving Berlin’s White Christmas follows two army buddies turned entertainers who fall for a sister-act post-WWII. However, this isn’t just a love story. The selfless acts performed by the characters Wallace and Davis (played by Bing Crosby and Danny Kaye) for their ex-general is the best part. So, take a note from White Christmas and do something selfless this holiday season. You will be surprised at how much joy even the simplest of acts will bring you.Meet Me in St. LouisThis isn’t a typical Christmas movie but it has a moving Christmas scene where Judy Garland sings “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas.” The beautiful thing about this movie is the togetherness of the family. Although they have their problems, they work through them together.It’s a Wonderful LifeThis classic Christmas film is a must-see! A guardian angel helps a compassionate but depressed and frustrated businessman by showing him what life would have been like if he never existed. Author and inspirational speaker Bob Welch wrote the book, 52 Little Lessons from It’s a Wonderful Life. One of my favorite quotes is from George, who says that “No man is a failure if he has friends.” Definitely food for thought that should keep you motivated all year round.The Bishop’s WifeThis is another classic film that everyone should see at least once. An angel (played by Cary Grant) arrives to help a Bishop and his wife realize what is truly important in life. Dudley the angel brings happiness and good will to anyone who needs him. Give this a watch and take a lesson from Dudley and put your family first this holiday season.Die HardMost people don’t think of this as a Christmas movie, but it most definitely is. It is a mix of a variety of films including The Grinch Who Stole Christmas, Miracle on 34th Street and A Christmas Carol. With so many Christmas themes packed into one film and all wrapped up in a big shiny Hollywood box of explosions and action how could you want anything more?We hope you get to cuddle up with your loved ones and watch at least one of these movies this season. We are sure you will see an increase in your holiday spirit and overall happiness.Mariana Lenox is half of the husband/wife movie review team at the blog Reel and Unscripted. Her love of movies began young with all things Disney but has since been expanded to include allgenres, as proven by her now 4,000 strong movie collection fondly known asthe "movie wall". You be the judge on whether or not this represents anobsession or a just a hobby!
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Josh Radnor Talks About His Directing Philosophy

Excerpt from Josh Radnor interview (original full story):I watch some of these movie previews and I think, “My God, kids are watching this!” So I really consider what characters I want to bring to life. I’m obsessed with content and what we put out into the collective consciousness, so I have really strict standards about what I’ll do. Ultimately, the only real power I have is to say no. So I’m very proud of my résumé. But I love giving my film characters a real tangle and then watching how they manage to triumph. I write for actors. I write really juicy parts.I’ve learned a lot about real life from directing movies. For instance, I’ve learned about leadership. At the base of it is love—love for the project and a deep gratitude to the people involved in bringing it to life, but I’ve learned that sometimes sternness is also required. I also learned a lot from some wonderful mentors early on who let me believe I could do something that felt impossible at the time... be a professional actor. When you achieve something like that, suddenly all things seem possible.Somehow I knew that in order for me to keep my sanity as an actor, I needed to confront my mind and create a new relationship with it, so I’ve been meditating for nine years. It helps me to have a practice where I can watch my thoughts and learn not to react or identify with them. I call it serene self-observation; it’s a lifelong process—serene being the key word here. I should add that I fail at this regularly. But there’s a place beneath the madness that is calm, alert and awakened. This is the place I try to access and act from. It’s our natural state, our “Being.” I find it so useful to check in with myself and ask questions.“What am I being in this moment? What am I contributing? Am I asleep or am I awake?” Each of us—in every moment—is making a contribution to the world by our thoughts, words and actions. I think we underestimate how much power we have. Whatever qualities we wish the world to embody, we have to embody in ourselves. I believe that’s how we change the world. Not by hoping or wishing or delegating, but by being that change. I’m working hard to embody that change through the movies I make by offering a more inspiring, uplifting point of view. Too many people are already calling attention to the dark and dysfunctional.Pat Lavin is a Certified Hypnotherapist and Life Coach. Her inspirational and insightful articles, essays and interviews have appeared in publications throughout the country.
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